The Mark Groves Podcast

I’m so excited to introduce you to Leah Brathwaite. She is a dear friend of mine and I have had the honour of watching her life transform as well as now seeing her write about her personal transformation in her new book. This week we breakdown what life transformation can feel like, from undoing old, traditional or religious scripts for life, to writing new ones based on our deepest truths. Leah’s story will resonate with so many of you, so I can’t wait for you to hear this. 1 min - Mark’s trip to Calgary and it’s serendipity of life. 3 mins - The life we “should” have had. 7 mins - The new ‘Create The Love’ course. 11 mins - Intro to Leah Brathwaite and her book. 15 mins - The “I’ll be happy when” life and how to reclaim your own true life. 20 mins - Peeling back the layers of your conditioning, Leah’s story, ‘performing’ for love. 25 mins - When you look around and don’t recognize your own life. 30 mins - Moments of awakening. 35 mins - When we wake up but just dig deeper. 50 mins - Are you a victim or living through choice? 64 mins - Getting confident with allowing life to move through you. Episode Links: Leah Brathwaite Instagram Leah’s book: A New Way of Life: A Guide for Transformation from Living a Lie to Freeing Your Soul My new Create The Love course! bit.ly/createthelove Leah Brathwaite Leah is a Soul Advisor, author of 'A New Way of Life: A Guide for Transformation from Living a Lie to Freeing Your Soul', speaker, and a woman who is deeply committed to helping others reach their full potential, live a meaningful life and make their dreams a reality. In short, Leah helps women connect to their soul so they can live the lives they dream of. Through her writing, workshops and group mentorship program, she offers guidance to better understand and live in alignment with who you really are, what you really want and what you're meant to do. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I am so excited to introduce an author whose work has impacted my work so significantly. Dr. Christopher Ryan wrote the epic book ‘Sex at Dawn’ in 2010, and he has gone on to continue researching and writing on human evolution. We discuss it all - human evolution, sex and connection, modernity, the agricultural revolution and how it shifted our sexual behaviour, the internet revolution today, and what all of it means for our lives and our happiness. His work is truly fascinating and I am so honoured that he has shared this work with us today. Episode Highlights: 7 mins - Introducing the book ‘Sex at Dawn’. 13 mins - Sex. What is it all about? How much are we doing it and WHY? 15 mins - The science and research behind ‘Sex at Dawn’. 19 mins - The intention and the truths behind the book. 22 mins - Monogamy and it’s challenges. 24 mins - Sex education around the world today. 28 mins - The modern world and our lack of connection, how does this compare to our evolution? 36 mins - The evolution of civilization from hunter-gathers to today's modern age. What went wrong? 39 mins - The age of the internet, what has social media done to us? 43 mins - The economic system - what has the modernity meant for humankind, what has the agricultural evolution done for us? 53 mins - The history of polygamy in earlier societies. 55 mins - Micro-biomes - what are they, how are they exchanged and how do they affect us. Episode Notes: Sex at Dawn - The Book Dr. Christopher Ryan’s Podcast What Makes This Thing Great Instagram Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Do you throw yourself into your career, or fitness, or diet - so that you can pretend that your relationships aren’t a problem? Do you feel like your always needing to resolve some problem? Today’s episode with Sheri Salata is for you. Sheri leads us in understanding that we are not problems waiting to be solved. We make the mistake of thinking we are broken and everyone else is living an ‘instagram life’. The fact is that we are all our own experts, none of us have it all ‘figured out’ but we all know the recipe to love ourselves home. Episode Highlights 5 min - Connection to self, consciousness of self, and Sheri’s new book. 8 min - Sheri’s role with Oprah Winfrey. 10 min - Finding alignment and when we get ‘distracted’ from true alignment. 14 mins - Loving yourself. Love yourself first. Love yourself most. And how does this relate to any relationship? 21 mins - Do you really want to live the life of your dreams, or do you want to continue to skip out? Do you seek from your wounds or from your light? 28 mins - love as both the path and the destination 31 mins - Its never too late to live the life of your dreams. 35 mins - Having your own back everyday. 41 mins - What is the ‘beautiful no?’ 44 mins - Not wasting time, how to not waste another day out of alignment. We are not too old and it is not too late. Episode Notes The Beautiful NO: And Other Tales of Trial, Transcendence, and Transformation by Sheri Salata Sheri Salata on Instagram Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Standing up for yourself with love. Terry Real is leading the revolution of breaking down the patriarchy one relationship at a time. He is an internationally recognized Family Therapist, Speaker and Author of four acclaimed books on relationships. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI) offering workshops for couples, individuals and parents around the country. Terry's approach is about 'Straight Talk to Difficult People', he has no time for the traditional heirarchical patraichal approach in relationships. He argues that through standing up for yourself with love, not only can relationships be saved, but society can also be transformed from patriarchy to loving equality. Episode Highlights 3 min - The gaps in traditional couple therapy approaches. 5 mins - The grandiosity and superior complex in relationship. 6 mins - Moving beyond patriarchy and traditional gender roles. 8 mins - The ‘Grey Divorce’ revolution - the end of women caretaking men. 11 mins - Men aren’t unhappy in marriage, women are. 12 mins - Connection, hierarchies and winning in relationship. 17 mins - The negating of women’s voices in couples therapy. 21 mins - The traditional and newer masculinities. 24 mins - The difference between personal empowerment and relational empowerment - breaking the back of patriarchy. Standing up for yourself with love. 27 mins - Terry's personal experience in confronting the power broker. 29 mins - The use of sex in place of connection. 42 mins - Your partners CNI - what is it and how to use it. 47 mins - We all marry our unfinished business. We are attracted to what needs to be healed. Episode Links Terry Real's Website The 20 Practices text: 202 517 2151 Terry's Books Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Traver Boehm is the leader of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement. He coaches, leads, writes, speaks and trains men in the art of connection to self. This week I was honoured to hear Traver’s personal story, how his life completely transformed when he lost his marriage, his business partnership and in the process almost his mind. But far from it, he has come to champion the revolution for men to connect to their most authentic self and redefine their inner masculinity. Episode Highlights 9 mins - The two ends of the masculinity continuum - The Marlboro Man versus the Nice Guy. 10 mins - Why do we stick it out with emotional robots? Everyone says they want a ‘conscious’ man, but are they actually ready? 14 mins - Integrating the masculine and feminine, boundaries, trust, sexuality and safety. 19 mins - When a woman can’t connect to her partner, when “she can’t feel you”. 30 mins - Therapy vs coaching, Traver’s first experience with couples therapy. 33 mins - Traver’s divorce and rockbottom breakthrough. 43 mins - Traver’s journey through the spiritual - The Year To Live Project. 55 mins - Breaking through to authenticity. 1hr 10mins - Traver's experience in hospices. Episode Notes Traver Boehm Instagram The UNcivilized Movement Make Pain Your Guru TED talk Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

In this episode I speak with physician, chef, and integrative medicine expert, Dr. Robert Graham. Nowadays, there is more interest and awareness of the link between what we eat and our overall mental and physical wellness. But what does it really mean? What does our gut health mean for our mental health? What are the most important factors driving our health? Is food the ultimate medicine, or is there more to it? This week I jam with my favourite physician and good friend, Dr. Robert Graham to break it all down! Episode Highlights: 8 mins - The relationship between nutrition and health. 12 mins - Evidence based medicine, what does it mean? 15 mins - The biggest medical crisis of our time? Holistic and integrative medicine? The role of the gut in overall health and wellbeing? 18 mins - The link between gut health and emotional health. How to high conflict relationships impact your overall health? 23 mins - Love and overall health. 28 mins - The most important factor in your health - who you surround yourself with. 32 mins - Fatigue - the most common illness seen today. 35 mins - The link between IBS and our mental wellness. 43 mins - Is food a kind of medicine? 5 mins - Vegetarian vs vegan. Episode Notes: Dr. Robert Graham is a Harvard trained physician, Board Certified in both Internal and Integrative Medicine and has over 15 years of clinical experience. Dr. Graham received his medical degree from the School of Medicine at Stony Brook University Medical Center, Stony Brook, NY and completed his residency in Internal Medicine at Lenox Hill Hospital in New York City, where he received the Community Service Award and subsequently the prestigious “Attending of the Year” award.   Dr. Graham received a Master’s of Public Health from the Harvard School of Public Health while completing three additional fellowships in General Internal Medicine and Complementary and Integrative Medical Therapies at Harvard Medical School as well as Medical Education at Mount Auburn Hospital in Cambridge, Massachusetts. He also completed course-work in Mind/Body Medicine, Positive Psychology, Lifestyle Medicine, Culinary Medicine, Botanical and Traditional Chinese Medicine.  In 2018, Dr. Graham became one of less than twenty doctor/chef’s worldwide, as he obtained his culinary degree from the Natural Gourmet Institute. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Raphael Cano is a love activist and warrior. He and I met very serendipitously in a coffee shop in NYC, and from that day onward our friendship has continued to evolve and expand. Raphael’s mission is to elevate humanity through universal truths and his own divine shine. Raphael’s friendship has been life-changing for me in so many ways, and in this episode I wanted to highlight how Raphael has supported me in having the space to understand how heteronormativity affects people in the LGBTQ+ community. Raphael walks us through his pathway to coming out, then later, to becoming a love warrior. His courage and energy is inspiring and I am so honoured that he shared his story with us for my podcast. Episode Highlights: 4 mins - How Raphael and Mark first connected - Raphael’s first breakup. 9 mins - Intuition, gut feelings and following your joy. Is it all just love and light? 16 mins - Raphael’s life story - his first kiss, his story of coming out and his upbringing. 26 mins - The HighSchool Bully - and the projection and rejection of being gay. 33 mins - Raphael’s years of denial of his sexuality and the stress of living out of alignment. 39 mins - Raphael’s stepping into alignment, his first boyfriend. 42 mins - Raphael’s family’s response and finding his voice and confidence - how ‘Prayers for Bobby’ impacted him. 50 mins - The Stages of Coming Out - trauma, acceptance and authenticity. 55 mins - Elevating and changing, how dating changes and the dating pool changes. 64 mins - The equality that occurs in a mind, body and soul connected relationship. 70 mins - Come out as your highest self - whatever that might mean for you. Episode links: Raphael Cano Podcast Raphael Cano Instagram Find LGBTQ+ resource centres here! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

This week Sheleana Aiyana and I talk about Rising Woman. What does it mean to be a rising woman? How did Sheleana’s life lead her to this work? How does one begin to transform pain and trauma into self-compassion and healing? How can we start stepping into our power? If you have ever been impacted by childhood wounds (all of us) then this episode is for you. Episode Highlights: 1min - Sheleana’s story - how did she come to do this work. 2.30mins - Denial as a coping mechanism and the wakeup call in betrayal and breakup. 4mins - Acceptance as the path toward healing. 6mins - Shea’s life path - the childhood wounds and traumas. 9mins - Transforming pain into healing. 11mins - What is shadow work? How does our shadow impact us and our relationships? 13mins - What are the most common coaching issues and patterns Sheleana sees? 17mins - How did trauma show up in Sheleana’s life? 23mins - When you are willing and ready to change, when are you sick of your own shit? 25mins - Victim mentality and letting go of it. 33mins - How do we start taking responsibility and stepping into our power? 37mins - Inner child work and self-soothing. 41mins - The difference between compassion and tolerance - the curse of the empath. 46mins - The process of healing, how does it work? Podcast links: Rising Woman Instagram Sheleana Aiyana More about Sheleana: Rising Woman is led by Sheleana and her co-founder Heather, who are trained facilitators and guides of shadow-work, conscious relationship, breathwork, and tantric practices. Their current offering is the Heal Your Relationships Program. An 8-Week Journey into the Heart of Your Relationship Patterns. Sheleana is also a trained Doula, having gone through multiple certification programs, including a full-spectrum training with midwife Molly Dutton-Kenney. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman is one of the world’s most preeminent relationship researchers. Along with her husband Dr. John Gottman, they run the Gottman Institute, who have conducted many of the world’s most extensive studies on marital stability. This week we delve straight into trauma, including Dr. Gottman’s previous trauma work, the trauma of infidelity, and the Gottman therapy related to this trauma. Lastly, we discuss their latest book - Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. What is it that makes a good relationship and how do good relationships benefit us? Podcast Highlights: 5mins - Julie’s background in trauma research and her journey to the Gottman Institute. 14mins - Trauma, what is it? What does it do to us? What does it feel like? 21mins - The healing power of connection. 25mins - The Gottman’s couples conflict resolution approach - what questions do you need to ask your partner? 32mins - Cheating, infidelity and the trauma in betrayal. 36mins - Therapy for infidelity, the three-stage process. 41mins - What often leads to infidelity? 50mins - Eight Dates, the Gottman’s newest book on dating and relationships in their initial phases. Podcast Details: The Gottman Institute Eight Dates - Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love The Gottman Institute Instagram Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Are you looking to change and grow? Or are you committed to repeating your patterns and limits in life? So often we say we want growth in life - and yet we don’t make the choices aligned with that. AND so often other people want to limit our growth! This week James Silvas and Mark discuss the ways we limit ourselves in love, career, life and everything in between. Why do we limit ourselves from growth and success - why do other people limit us - and how can we stop it? This week we unpack it all! Podcast Highlights: 8mins - Mark’s one night stand history! 10mins - Everything you want is in your discomfort/ stretch zone. 13mins - Self talk and when we self sabotage with our internal talk. 15mins - When Mark left the predictability of a ‘stable’ job and career path. 25mins - Are you accountable for your choices, or are you blocking yourself? 31mins - How we stay committed to our misery and stories of the past. 35mins - What makes people successful? - Getting past the boxes you have put yourself in. 45mins - How other people might want to limit us and how to look out for it. 51mins - Dealing with uncertainty in life, how we try to control. 57mins - Confronting pain and discomfort, why is it so hard? 60mins - How to change the way you think - how to change your patterns - how to change your life! Podcast details: James Silvas is a Peak Performance Coach and Mental Training Specialist with over 13,000 hours of training experience working with high performing teams at Nike, MGM & ADT. He has studied under 4x World Renowned Mental Performance Coach Dr. Mark Guadagnoli while attaining his degree in Kinesiology at UNLV. He has worked with over 6,000+ people on developing/strengthening the mindset that will take individuals/teams to the next level. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands