The Mark Groves Podcast

Welcome to this short stream of consciousness. No guest, Just me sharing some thoughts on awareness that have been living in me lately. We must turn into the truth and build compassion for ourselves as a basis for building compassion for others. The audio quality on this isn’t great but in the spirit of letting things flow I knew I couldn’t re-record. I hope this episode finds you well. ~  Discover: What will you do with the truths inside of you? What happens when you believe you are the beautiful advisor of your life? What is better? Uncomfortable truths or comfortable lies? The beautiful invitation back to ourselves, kindness, grace and love Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

When people ask what I’ve studied, I immediately think of my dear friend, Louis Alloro. Louis is an incredible person who teaches, leads and trains others in positive psychology and change management. In this episode Louis helps us breakdown some of the fundamentals of positive psychology and change. What is it about change that is so difficult for us as humans? Why do we find change so confronting and disruptive? How can we make space for joy amidst uncertainty and confusion? As Louis says “Live your life with the knowing that at least one of the pillars of your major belief systems—most likely the one you cling to the most fiercely—is dead wrong.” ~ Discover What is so challenging about change? The 5 core pillars of our belief system Why we should never cling to one thing When you stay open to the way you see the world, you're free Well being is ______ How can we create positive change? We are not automatrons. Find your rituals. Find out more about Louis and his work here https://louisalloro.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Money is one of the top reasons for conflict in relationships and that is why the amazing Selina Gray is back this week. Selina is here to help us unpack our money story. That is, the beliefs we hold about money that shape the way we feel about ourselves. So many of us have unhealthy patterns with money, it could be overspending, or not feeling worthy of spending, or relying on money for a sense of self. While most of us understand that money can be a stressor and reason for conflict, few of us will have the chance to understand our money wounds and work to heal them. I hope this episode helps you begin on this journey. And if you want to go further you can join Selina and I, in our new deep dive money course 'Relationship To Money'. Find it at createthemoola.com! ~  Discover: Our relationship to money is directly connected with sense of self As soon as it feels hard and scary, roll up your sleeves What do we actually want with money? Family wiring around money and wealth Money just amplifies who we really are Wealth is a state of being Having courage and belief in yourself pays off No-name labels, luxury brands, shame, and the masks we wear Addiction, money, and proving yourself for worth As you change things, everything changes Join the Richness Revolution (formerly Money Boss) Facebook here! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

This week in a special episode I wanted to discuss a few issues that live below the surface of our relationships and lives. First, why do we only have “crazy chemistry” with people that aren’t good for us? And why, when we start setting boundaries do we sometimes start to lose that “spark” we once felt? We go deeper in this by discussing a question about how to end a trauma bond, if you haven’t heard about trauma bonding then this question is for you. We also discuss how to begin to set healthy boundaries in a relationship where there is a lack of trust or lack of emotional safety. And finally, the difficult question of whether to stay or go. These are some of the most important questions that so many of us struggle with, join me! ~  Discover Can we feel love if we feel whole and don't need anyone? Why do we find ourselves less attractive to our partners once we've done the work? Choosing ourselves and holding space for something new Men who stand up and what it means to women How to end a trauma bond Why are we obsessed with people who need to be fixed? Enabling and discovering the reward in patterns we choose Why we shrink in our relationships How do we know to stay or go? Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I am so excited to bring a double dose of Mark this week as I welcome best selling author Mark Manson. Mark Manson has been an influential figure in my life and I’m sure many of you are also followers of his work — I mean who hasn’t read his book “The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck”? Mark and I jam on some common challenges we both saw in our relationship coaching work. We also reflect on the idea of “doing the work” and how this can really become a sticking point for people in opening up to change. So often, the challenges we face and the things that we get stuck on are the same. We are all living different experiences, but so many of our biggest problems are the same. If you haven't already seen his work you will want to check it out https://markmanson.net/   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

This episode is especially vulnerable for me. I recognize that we are all coping with an incredibly difficult time in different ways right now. There is so much fear, uncertainty and distress that makes compassion and connection so much more difficult. Today I ask if you can hold space too? Holding space does not mean we must agree or arrive at a consensus, it means we still have compassion even when we feel differently than one another. So I ask not how are we different, but how we are similar? ~  Discover: When you're open to the way you see the world, you're free Can you hold space for other people's beliefs? What if you just stayed open? Why we should agree to the right to see things differently How to create harmony within yourself during challenging times What life is here to teach us Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I’m so excited to bring you Professor of Management and Organizational Psychologist Payal Sharma to the podcast. Payal is an expert on politics and power in the workplace and today she takes us on a journey through her incredible work in understanding how power relations impact us at work. We get into the tricky business of how gender intersects with power at work, and nerd out on the research around what makes a good leader. We also dive into her research around music video models. If you have ever wanted to understand more about leadership and power, do not miss this episode! Find out more about Payal’s work at http://power.faculty.unlv.edu/     Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

I’m so excited to bring you the story of my friend, author and chef Yoda Olinyk. Yoda walks us through the story of her past. How food and her love for cooking saved her from the most dark and trying moments. How suffering opened up a new world of wisdom for her. How a unaligned relationship slowly turned into a cycle of emotional abuse and how she ultimately rose from the ashes, finding her love and commitment to herself and her cooking again.    Find her online at https://instagram.com/yodaswords?igshid=2kwq76b3l10c Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

When we are facing disconnection in our relationships, we often perceive major barriers blocking us from communicating. Often, we preempt the other person's negative response. We assume the other person is unable or unwilling to hear us, and as a result, we become defensive, withdrawn or over-express ourselves. What if instead, we trusted that other people have the capacity to really listen? What if we communicated our needs without preempting their response? What if we claimed our voice and used it regardless of anyone else’s ability to show up. What if we showed up for ourselves first?  ~  Discover: How to know when you have unhealthy programs running What beliefs are still lingering that keep you in your old story? What is the most important quality in relationship? Why we need to stop subcontracting our healing  The victory is always in the process not the outcome Speaking your truth, having courage, and being everything you want Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Join me as I bring you a grounding meditation. This is all about getting in touch with the anchors and the ground that forms the foundation below our feet. In times of crisis or upheaval, it's natural that we feel like we lose touch with the ground. This week's episode is all about getting us back in touch with the ground. Back into flow state and authenticity. It's so difficult to do right now, but it's so important that we take the time to do this. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands