Make Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Russ Watts.Russ has been on the podcast several times and I continue to be so grateful for his willingness to jump into conversation whenever I say, hey, we should talk about that on the podcast! This conversation today is special is so many ways.  First of all, for context, if you haven’t listened to Episode 4 where Russ shares stories of two mountaineering accidents he was in, you will want to go back and listen – either before or after listening to this one.  Today’s reflections are around the 2nd story Russ told on Episode 4 of getting crushed in a collapsed snow cave and nearly losing his life.A few weeks ago, Russ shared that he’d had a chance to spend time with his friend Dave, who was a key player in saving Russ’s life after the collapse of the snow cave, and who is also in the midst of his own difficult season of sickness.  There had been a retelling of the story at the request of Russ’s son, and the reflections around the story as well as the experience of hearing/telling the story again were all so magnificent, so I said to Russ: Hey, would you be open to sharing this on the podcast?  And, per usual, he said yes. This conversation has sparked many new and beautiful insights into my own stories, the other people involved, their own stories about the same events, and more.Russ, thank you so much for your willingness to again jump into a beautiful conversation and into the magical transformational world of storytelling.  Thank you for inviting us into the intimate space of your summer visit with Dave and your family – this is a gift and treasure that is beyond the description of words.  I hope it will also be a gift back to you the winds of change continue to blow across our lives and the lives of our loved ones. Make Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is Julie Perkins.Julie is the founder of Wyseminds, a company that works alongside female entrepreneurs to them be at their best, feel challenged and good enough to be there.  Julie has decades of experience building brands, growing businesses, and going through some difficult transitions along the way.  In our conversation she shares her wisdom of lessons learned and how she now helps female founders stay focused on their purpose and passion while sorting through the challenges of being a founder and entrepreneur.I really enjoyed this conversation with Julie.  She and I didn’t know each other before connecting for the podcast and it was easy connection and conversation from the beginning.Julie, thank you for sharing these pieces of your story and journey.  You share with authenticity, and passionate energy; with a wisdom that comes from walking the difficult parts of the path, choosing intentionally, and creating the ultimate trail for your purpose and passion. I know these stories are only a glimpse into your many stories and experiences, and I look forward to learning more about you and from you in future conversations.If you’d like to connect with Julie, there are links in the show notes.Connect with Julie:  Wyseminds websiteFree ResourcesLinkedInMake Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is Michelle Hervy.Michelle is a Menopause Awareness Speaker and Midlife Coach.  After having her own less than perfect entry into the world of menopause, Michelle is dedicated to guiding individual and businesses through the transformative midlife stage.  Her work emphasizes self-care, lifestyle assessment, and the profound impact of mental and physical health on work and family life.  Michelle is a staunch advocate for gender equality in the workplace and society, actively promoting women’s empowerment.  Her expertise extends to being a Menopause Wellbeing Practitioner and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Coaching for Performance and Success, but first and foremost, years of managing a family, a career, moving countries, and a major hormone imbalance!Michelle and I met through a book club here in Colombo, Sri Lanka, where we both live because of our spouse’s work.Michelle’s energy and enthusiasm is bright and delightful.  Her sense of humor always keeps me laughing!Michelle’s work with menopause awareness and education meets a tremendous need in our societies.  I’m appreciative of her practical and understandable explanations of things and wisdom of questions to ask health care professionals, as well as recommendations of what to pay more attention to in the journey of menopause and midlife.Michelle, thank you so much for the work you do.  Thank you for sharing about menopause and midlife, normalizing the challenges associated with this season of life, and helping other women know they are not alone!Connect with Michelle:LinkedIn Make Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is John Tilstra.John is, as some of you know, my husband.  He and I have talked about doing a podcast conversation together for all of the two years that I’ve been doing the Make Life Less Difficult podcast and we finally did it!  You’ll get to hear the story behind the delay in our conversation so I won’t spoil that here.In our conversation today, we share pieces of our own journey, being in relationship with each other.  While some couples find each other and experience smooth relational sailing for the majority of their time together, John and I have experienced fairly rough seas that have at times battered the proverbial relationship sailboat.We have found that being real about those struggles has been part of our strategy for making it work.  And we’ve also been helped by others who are willing to be real with us, helping us know we aren’t alone…. It doesn’t fix all the issues, but it does make the difficult times less difficult.I’m really grateful to have found a deep friendship that underlies every part of our connection and relationship.  Having been through some extremely difficult times before meeting John, that has impacted our relationship and made it more difficult many times.We also choose to live a life with a great many stressors.  We’ve now been married for 12 years, lived in the US, the Philippines, Saudi Arabia, the Netherlands, been apart for a year as John worked in Iraq and I lived in France, and as of this recording, we are just finishing up 3 years in Sri Lanka and getting ready to move back to the US for the first time since 2012.  We’ve travelled the globe, climbed a lot of literal and metaphorical mountains, been struck by lightning in the Alps, almost died on our honeymoon, lived on a sailboat, camped in snow, hiked through swamps, and are currently training to do the “rim to rim to rim” at the Grand Canyon.  For those of you who know us, you know we both seem driven toward the difficult.  So, a conversation about making life less difficult is extremely apt!John, thank you for your steady friendship.  Thank you for the conversation here, for your willingness to dig in and share authentically.  Thank you for being a great partner in life and adventure, and for helping me become a better person along the way.Make Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is Sandene Chetwynd.Sandene is a Leadership and wellbeing coach based out of Melbourne, Australia.Sandene has a passion for supporting leaders to identify the combination of skills, behaviours and habits that will make them be better and feel better at work – to be able to have a career that is both rewarding and sustainable.Sandene partners with her clients to help them grow in their self-awareness and other-awareness, improve their communication for more effective and impactful conversations, and develop trust-filled relationships to support self and others in mental health, collaborating, and networking.Sandene and I met through mutual work events, first of which were online and have since moved to in-person.  From our first moments working together there was synergy and connection and that has grown delightfully as we get to know each other more and more.Today in our conversation Sandene shares reflections on pieces of her life and journey that are personal and impactful – growing up with a father who had bipolar.  She shares glimpses into what it has taken to absorb, process, reflect and rewrite part of her story as an adult so that she can have the best possible relationships in her life now.  There’s so much wisdom in Sandene’s sharing and it’s a beautiful gift to see how she has taken her life experiences and challenges and has come away with a passion for supporting and helping others find wellbeing. Sandene, thank you so much for sharing these pieces of your journey and story.  Thank you for demonstrating the courage you help others find for themselves.  I’m truly honored to host this conversation today. One final note before getting into our conversation.  Our connectivity during our recording had some challenges.  We worked through them and I’m grateful for Sandene’s patience and resilience through it all.  But just in case you hear a glitch or two, you’ll know what it was.Connect with Sandene:WebsiteLinkedInMake Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is Kenza Barrada.Kenza is a returning guest and if you haven’t listened to our first two conversation together, I highly recommend them (episodes 113 and 119).Today’s conversation happened in response to the earthquake that happened in Morocco just last week.  So you might guess that this conversation has some heaviness to it and we felt the heaviness of our hearts.Late on Friday night September 8, and extending into the early morning hours of September 9, a 6.8 magnitude earthquake struck Morocco, with an epicenter just south of Marrakech.I reached out to check in with Kenza, as she and her family have a farm and homestay there.  I was glad to hear they were safe and yet the devastation for many is intense.  Kenza and her community were first responders to nearby villages, and they continue to put together relief efforts now alongside the military and international aid groups who are present and assisting.Kenza offered to share her experience and some stories of what has happened in the first days post-earthquake here on the podcast and we recorded this on September 14, 2023, just 6 days after the earthquake hit.  At this point in time almost 3000 people are known to have died, tens of thousands are without homes, and many are still missing.In the midst of the tragedy, Kenza shares stories of dignity, generosity, solidarity, hospitality.  Humans helping humans, coming together as communities and neighbors.Please note, the stories shared are intense and if you feel like you may not be in a place to listen or absorb them, please take care of yourself first and foremost, even if that means not listening to this podcast.  I’ll also let you know that our audio quality may not be the best, as we had some internet connectivity issues, but fortunately we were still able to have and record this conversation.Kenza, thank you.  Thank you for sharing about your family, your community, your neighbors, your country.  Your willingness and ability to reflect on this experience in the first week after it has happened is remarkable and helps us see into hearts and communities in a special and unique way.There are many ways to support relief efforts and we talk through the various options at international, national, and the local levels.  There are also links below in case you want to donate or support in some way.Ways to donate:Internationally: Red Cross Relief Fund | Global GivingNationally:  Bank Al Magrib Relief FundLocally: please contact Kenza via LinkedIn or InstaGram - Razala HomeMake Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

In today's episode, I shares reflections and ideas on strategies for giving feedback.  This topic comes up a lot in my work as a coach and facilitator.Looking at several different models of giving feedback will hopefully provide new perspectives, ideas for skills to develop, and considerations on how to adjust the style of feedback for the situation and individual.  I believe these ideas and skills can be practical and beneficial both in professional and personal settings!I'd love to hear what you think.Make Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

A few minutes of reflections as I take a small break and have a few weeks without new episodes released.  As my life enters quite a few major transitions, I want to continue this podcast in a way that will be sustainable.  It looks like this means there may be some inconsistency in releases along the way, and I'm processing how that will impact me, as I really love having these conversations and sharing them.Thank you so much for listening!  I look forward to continuing the journey together, whatever shape it takes!Make Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is Amy Achata.Amy is a clinical mental health counselor.  She believes meaningful connection changes people – and this is what the therapeutic process is all about.  Amy is passionate about encouraging growth and restoration for those questioning their purpose or identity and searching for meaning.  Amy works with people facing grief and loss, generational trauma, religious trauma, anxiety and identity questions and more.Amy has multiple degrees, including two bachelors degrees in addition to her masters.  She spent a number of years focusing on raising her two children as her family moved all over the United States.  Now they reside in the Chattanooga, TN, area.Amy likes to knit, read, practice yoga, sip coffee, and having deep, meaningful conversations and connection. Her favorite place on earth is the beach.Amy and have known each other from a distance for many years through her husband, David, who has been a guest on my podcast.  It’s been an absolute pleasure to connect more with Amy and learn more about her journey and story and I’m honored to host this conversation with her here today.Amy, thank you so much for your willingness to connect, for your authenticity and exploration of life, emotions, growth, and deep connections.  I look forward to more conversation with you both on the podcast and hopefully over coffee as well!If you are in the Chattanooga area and looking for a counselor, Amy is practicing at Scout Counseling and is currently taking in-person clients.  Her contact information is here:Email: aachata@scoutcounseling.comWebsite: https://www.scoutcounseling.com/amy-achataMake Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is… well, me.  Which sounds a little strange to say! Today’s conversation is a little different as it is hosted by Russ Watts who has been a guest on the podcast several times, after being my very first guest on episode 4.  It was with some trepidation that I stepped into this idea of being the guest for a conversation and see where the conversation would go.  I am a firm believer in continuing to stretch and challenge myself and this is one of those ways that I’m living into that.  It’s surprising to me how nervous I felt to be on the other side of the conversation, even though I’ve enjoyed being a guest on other podcasts quite a few times.  And it really gives me so much gratitude for my guests, for their willingness to talk with me, share their stories, and explore life’s varied pathways.Russ, many thanks to you for graciously hosting this conversation and holding a space for exploration and meandering through some of my own stories and reflections.  Let’s do it again sometime! Make Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra