

The Powerful Man Show
Tim Matthews & Doug Holt
The Powerful Man is a show for married businessmen looking to improve their relationships, their health, their businesses, and themselves. Your hosts, Doug Holt and Tim Matthews have decades of experience helping married businessmen step into their power, live up to their potential, and live a life they love. The Powerful Man Show tackles conversations and topics designed to help men become better fathers, lovers, husbands, and leaders in their communities. If this sounds like you, we encourage you to subscribe and also head over to thepowerfulman.com for more information.
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Jun 6, 2020 • 40min
Revisit: How To Navigate Relationship Problems
Episode #206 Something we have learned in working with hundreds of men is that most men don’t know who they are. They are not able to clearly define what a powerful man is for them and how a man should handle arguments in a relationship. A piece of advice we give our men when it comes to their relationships is DO NOT try to win in an argument…instead try to connect, try to make peace, and talk it out. When we turn to honest communication we will result in a loving and peaceful relationship. A few things most men do that we advise to NOT do: DO NOT punish your partner by giving her silent treatment or by giving her distance after an argument. This is an immature way to handle it. DO NOT push her away just because you are hurt. We tend to show cold treatment and distance because we want them to come running for us and to validate our feelings. In return, the distance between you will grow over time and it will eventually make you miles apart emotionally. If the argument is not communicated well, it can become cumulative. The fights will go deeper and you will argue more and more. Due to the resentment that was built up, triggers from the past can come up that have nothing to do with your relationship at all. Relationships are one of the most important areas in our lives. If you have unresolved arguments in your relationship it causes a disadvantage for you. It will affect ALL areas of your life. In this episode, we teach you how to deal with issues in your relationship in an efficient way that is effective and healthy. Clean up your side of the street first. Take a look at yourself and be the perfect version of yourself, the powerful man that your woman chose to marry. By doing this, you are encouraging your partner to do the same. ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jun 4, 2020 • 26min
Revisit: How to Fix A Fight When You've Gone Too Far
Episode #205 Have you ever been in a heated argument with your partner? In this episode, Doug and Tim discuss what to do after a heated argument with your partner and how to correct it. One important thing to do first is to find out what triggered that situation to happen, or what triggered you to overreact. In order to avoid overreacting, both parties must communicate clearly what they both want without feeling like a victim and without judgment. Communicate out of love and respect because if you let your emotions and ego drive you during that situation, you will just end up hurting each other. Take ownership & apologize for what happened and for overreacting. Tell your partner how you felt and what made you overreact and what you will do to rectify it. ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jun 2, 2020 • 28min
Revisit: The Guilt & Shame of Working So Much
Episode #204 As men, we tend to feel guilty when we have been missing out on moments with our loved ones due to working too much. We ALSO feel guilty when we don’t feel like we’ve hit the vision of what we think we SHOULD be doing, especially, if what we’re doing is not serving us. In this episode, we talk about how this feeling of guilt is caused by pressure from society. The demands that are placed on men by society turn them to work more and to be at work more. Men often fail to be present with their loved ones because they are working too much, resulting in a feeling of guilt and shame. In order to change this, you need to have a self-check. If this is you, you may feel like you have lost your way and have been missing a lot of important things in your life. Today, we teach you how to get back to what really matters to you and how to get rid of the things that aren’t serving you in order to clear yourself from guilt and shame. ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 30, 2020 • 42min
Revisit: She Won't Leave
Episode #203 Women nowadays don’t need a man to provide for them financially. They need someone who can provide for them emotionally, someone who is man enough for her to feel safe and secured. Someone who is present, who takes care of himself, and his health and knows how to step up. As a man, we become very confident that our wife will never leave us since we think that providing financially is enough to make them stay. We think that when we make more money, THAT is the time we will be able to enjoy life with our loved ones but we never feel like its enough, we always want to make more and as a result, we become slaves to our business. In this episode, we talk about how providing is more than just giving money, it is emotionally also. If you want to have deep intimacy in your relationship then you need to prioritize it and make your business serve your life, not the other way around. Women check out from the relationship because they feel that their partner left the relationship long before they do. Their husbands stopped becoming the man they married. The wife becomes a mother and the husband becomes a boy. To keep the relationship it is important to become the man you know you are capable of becoming. Improve yourself, learn how to switch off from work, and be present in the relationship. Spend quality time with your wife, have good communication and you will become closer to each other. ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 28, 2020 • 30min
Revisit: Are You Paying Attention to the Warning Signs?
Episode #202 Most men have the belief that to provide for his family is to provide “financially”. So as a result, he hustles and grinds every day to earn money but eventually loses himself in the process and doesn’t have anything more to give when he gets home. He’s physically there but emotionally absent. Women tend to notice immediately if their partner is not doing well in the relationship but men, most of the time, will only figure it out later. Men typically figure out there is an issue in the relationship AFTER he has already pushed his partner far away, has made many broken promises and the trust is gone. In this episode, we talk about how men should be proactive and pay attention to the warning signs so they can do something and make a change while it’s not too late. Be aware of what’s going on around you. If you are being tested by your partners and they are giving you the warning signs, be grateful because you now have the opportunity to make amends. Once you recognize the warning signs, take ownership of what you do as a man, and take massive action. If you ignore the warning signs, you will pay the price and will have an even tougher journey later on because you failed to make things right when you had the chance. ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 26, 2020 • 29min
Revisit: His Wife Was About To Cheat On Him
Episode #201 Oftentimes, we forget to detach and shut off from work. All of our energy and the best of us go to our work during the day….and our family only gets the leftovers when we get home. Pay attention to the warning signs. We get complacent and often don’t notice that we are not being the man that our wives married. And the thing is…the gap you created will grow over time and you will lose the connection in the relationship. The gap grows, intimacy shrinks and your wife will start looking somewhere else… In this episode, we talk about HOW to save your relationship and the steps to reconnecting with your spouse. How to take action for your relationship and get back to a place of being present and connected. ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 23, 2020 • 31min
The Real Cost of Divorce
Episode #200 How can you improve your marriage? Where do you need to practice to improve your game and deserve the success that you want? We spend so much time looking at the market, stocks, real estate, and thinking about financial investment and the financial side of things, that we often forget what our number one asset is. YOU are your number one asset so do not put your business first and your needs last. Make an investment in YOURSELF for your own growth and become a better man. You are the only thing that people can't take away from you. In this episode, we are going to dive deep into how you can improve your marriage by understanding that you are your number one asset. ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 21, 2020 • 31min
Tim's Routine of Flow [Part 2]
Episode #199 What is in your environment? Is your environment reinforcing where you are going and reinforcing the identity that you want for yourself? The path of power is a place of being full. It is being happy, fulfilled, and healthy. When you know how to take care of yourself and how you present yourself to other people, more money starts coming into your life, better things, better health, and better relationships. Things like this won't happen in a path of force. The things in your environment inspire you and remind you every day of where you are going and where you have been. In this episode, we continue talking about the path of power and the path of force and how important it is for you to find out what you need to have in your environment. ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 19, 2020 • 30min
Tim's Routine of Flow [Part 1]
Episode #198 Are you struggling in your relationship with your spouse and with your business? The struggle of pushing harder than others is an indicator that you are not working with passion. Waking up feeling like you're behind from the person you used to be, turns inspiration to desperation and you end up being busy + frustrated rather than productive and in your flow. In this episode, we are going to talk about what to do when you feel like you are being pushed or being pulled from your passion into your life and how to manage your energy and how to stay focused. ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 16, 2020 • 35min
How to Put Your Needs First Without Pissing Off Your Wife
Episode #197 How practical do you think it is to put your needs first when you have a wife, kids, and a business? In this episode, we are going to talk about the things to do in putting your needs first without hurting your wife and why it is important to put your desires and your needs first. Someone who is shallow and empty doesn't have the capacity to love somebody completely. It starts by loving and taking care of yourself FIRST. Putting your needs first gives yourself a chance to be you and show up FULLY. You only got one shot in this game called life. Reset and reclaim. ————- Hungry for more? Head over to our BONUS page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.