

The Powerful Man Show
Tim Matthews & Doug Holt
The Powerful Man is a show for married businessmen looking to improve their relationships, their health, their businesses, and themselves. Your hosts, Doug Holt and Tim Matthews have decades of experience helping married businessmen step into their power, live up to their potential, and live a life they love. The Powerful Man Show tackles conversations and topics designed to help men become better fathers, lovers, husbands, and leaders in their communities. If this sounds like you, we encourage you to subscribe and also head over to thepowerfulman.com for more information.
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Nov 7, 2020 • 27min
Are You A 'DEER'?
Episode #272 Are you confident about your decisions? Are you insecure and worried about not getting approval from your wife? Unknowingly, men can become the beta in the relationship, especially when women start to make demands or test their partner. Men become more submissive. This is when the DEER appears: Defending, Excusing, Explaining, and Rationalizing. You only do that with someone you are subordinate to. If a man can effectively validate his wife, complaints will become a lot less frequent because she already feels seen and heard. There's no need for the DEER, just live your own passion, and follow your purpose. In this episode, you will learn how to get rid of the DEER in the relationship, and more about the importance of validation in lessening complaints from your wife. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Nov 5, 2020 • 22min
Revisit: Break The Rules!
Episode #271 Success does not always mean having material things, making a lot of money, and getting that feeling of significance and respect from other people. Many financially successful people are unhappy because they became exhausted hustling and working hard thinking that these things will make them happy. There are so many rules in place that are holding them back and that makes their life monotonous. The more money they make, the more they become unhappy because these rules take them farther away from the real essence of what it means to be a human being. This void cannot be filled with material things. Fill this void within by breaking the rules and giving yourself permission to experience spontaneous fun. People often feel the need to be busy all the time, thinking that having fun is a waste of time and money. They do not realize that sometimes, while having fun, more creative ideas pop up. If you bring fun and joy into more areas of your life, you will make a lot more progress. Do not allow your happiness to depend on anything or anyone. We don’t need anything else outside ourselves to experience joy. We have the joy and fun inside us, we just need to learn to generate it and radiate it. In this episode, you will learn the importance of allowing yourself to experience spontaneous fun and incorporating fun into more areas of your life. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Nov 3, 2020 • 31min
A Chat with Tim and Doug
Episode #270 Are you living in excess? Are you beating yourself up too much? Learn more about your body. Refuse to accept something you don't want to accept. Go and try different approaches. See shifts occur. Reading a book is great, but without application, it's useless. When we see other people achieving great things, it really speaks to something that is innate within all of us - the desire to be great, and the desire to leave something great behind. Take the risk, get out of your comfort zone, be the man, and take the lead. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Oct 31, 2020 • 20min
The Magic Cure
Episode #269 How is your wife doing? Are you watching out for warning signs? Do you have a methodology to fix problems in your relationship, or to cure your wife's "migraine"? Identify the pattern and the method, and do something about it. This "migraine" causes distance and separation in the relationship. Learn the triggers and find ways to remove them. Help your wife to be better, step up, and cure her by activating the man that she married and addressing her complaints. In this episode, you will learn how to identify and address the causes of your wife's "migraine" and how you can cure it. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Oct 29, 2020 • 24min
Revisit: Be A Man
Episode #268 Women want to be led by a man who knows what he is doing and knows where he is going. Part of this comes from feeling secure with the person who’s leading her. She needs to know that her partner is man enough to be a strong foundation for her and for their family. In order to become The Powerful Man that your wife needs, you should first recognize where you are now and know where you are going. You must define for yourself what it means to be a man and not rely on what society dictates to you. Know your potential and know what kind of man you are capable of becoming. Do not be afraid to step up and be a Powerful Man. Be a man who takes care of himself so that he can take care of his partner. To be a Powerful Man, you must be capable of leading your partner emotionally through your energy, time, attention, and strength. In order for you to lead, you must have a vision for your family. You should know what your desires are and where you want to go. If you have all of this, your partner will see you as a man and they can put their trust in you. They will feel more secure and loved. In this episode, learn what it means to be a Powerful Man, how to understand your potential, and how to lead your partner. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Oct 27, 2020 • 22min
How To Get A Temperature Check
Episode #267 How do you check-in? How do you stay connected? We should keep checking in regularly on people that are important to us because people change day by day. Are you growing as a man? When was the last time you checked on your wife? When you start to feel that you're not engaged or feel that it's meaningless to share anymore, that's a sign that she's starting to lose the connection. As a man, take control of the check-in. Ask your wife how her day is going, or how she's feeling about your relationship. Be in control, but make sure to engage her in making the best out of the day. Be very conversational. Be playful and excited, asking open-ended questions, and get into her world by asking about her magic moments. In this episode, we take a deeper dive into the importance of doing one simple thing that most of us ignore: Checking in with your wife and your loved ones. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Oct 24, 2020 • 26min
What To Do When Your Wife Is Always Wanting More
Episode #266 Is your wife adding too much to your plate? What do you do when your wife is asking you to do so much? When you feel like your capacity is full, you tend to react quickly and differently. In this kind of situation, it is important to be firm with your boundaries and stand your ground. This will ground her in her femininity and allow her to surrender to your masculinity. Start a conversation with a curious tone. Make her feel seen and respected. Avoid being reactive and strive to understand where she's coming from. Get to the root of the real issue. In this episode, you will learn the importance of having a conversation with your partner without being reactive, and how to make your partner feel respected during that conversation while getting to the heart of the issue. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Oct 22, 2020 • 21min
When Was The Last Time You Did Something For Yourself?
Episode #265 When was the last time you looked at the stars or walked in the park? When is the last time you did something for yourself? Often guys feel guilty when they take time for themselves to fill their cup. They don't acknowledge the fact that letting themselves become empty makes them weak, and that's why they don't see the need for it. You must first honor the truth that you're weak and empty, and then do something about it. Fill your cup. Find opportunities to improve yourself, start simple. Go out and have some fun. Make an effort for the most important person in your life...yourself. If you do this often, everything from money to relationships becomes easier. Most importantly, you can bring your best self to every interaction you have. In this episode, let's reflect on ourselves. If you haven't done something for yourself in a few months, or years already, NOW is the time to give yourself a reward. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Oct 20, 2020 • 19min
Finding Other Men Who Are Doing The Work
Episode #264 Are you having a hard time finding and connecting with men who are doing the work, like you? What conversations are you starting with people? If you're growing secretly or growing behind closed doors, obviously you will not meet anybody. They will not recognize you. There are tons of guys out there who are doing the work, you just have to show up and let them know that you exist. Exercise courage and take action. Stop complaining and just do what you know you know you should be doing. Show up and start the conversation. In this episode, find out more about how you can find men with the same interests and values as you and help yourself grow. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Oct 17, 2020 • 23min
Divorce Day
Episode #263 Are things not going well in your relationship? What's your wife's primary complaint about you and the relationship? What actions have you taken to address this? Women often drop clues as they move through the marriage, you just have to notice them. Listen to her, and be a man to her, before it's too late. You need the proper tools to help you in the process of maintaining a healthy marriage. Relationships need courage; the courage to hear and know the truth. You may not like what you hear, but it's important to know where you stand in the relationship...and how to improve that standing. Build a connection with your wife, show affection and admiration. Develop the courage to take massive and necessary action. In this episode, we implore you to take the time to check yourself within your marriage, within your relationship. Save your marriage before it's too late. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.