

The Powerful Man Show
Tim Matthews & Doug Holt
The Powerful Man is a show for married businessmen looking to improve their relationships, their health, their businesses, and themselves. Your hosts, Doug Holt and Tim Matthews have decades of experience helping married businessmen step into their power, live up to their potential, and live a life they love. The Powerful Man Show tackles conversations and topics designed to help men become better fathers, lovers, husbands, and leaders in their communities. If this sounds like you, we encourage you to subscribe and also head over to thepowerfulman.com for more information.
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Jun 5, 2025 • 34min
Empowering Change: The Magic of Yes, No, and Personal Growth
Episode #988 What if the reason you're burned out, disconnected, or stuck isn't because you're doing too much—but because you're saying yes to all the wrong things? Most high-achieving men are secretly overwhelmed. They've built successful businesses, provided for their families, and checked all the boxes… yet deep down, something feels off. In this episode, you'll hear how one man's struggle to say "no" led to decades of hidden pain, poor decisions, and relationships that never quite fit. In this episode, you'll hear a raw and powerful conversation between Tim Matthews, Mark Smith, and David Mason as they explore what happens when you stop hiding behind productivity and finally start honoring what you really want. They unpack how unresolved childhood trauma shows up in your "yes," how saying no can feel dangerous when you were never taught it was safe—and how learning to say "yes" without a "but" can radically shift your business, marriage, and life. You'll also hear how David went from working 90-hour weeks to taking 3-day weekends—without losing momentum. And the surprising shift that made his business more successful while he finally felt at peace, connected, and fully alive. If you're ready to stop chasing validation and start leading with purpose, this is your episode. Listen now. Your "yes" might be waiting. Feel like you're doing everything right but still drifting from your wife? This free book will show you how to reconnect—without long talks or therapy. 📘 Get your copy here (just cover shipping): https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/freebook Think you're showing up—but not sure it's enough? Take the free Hidden Motions in Marriage assessment to find out where you're really at. ⚖️ Start here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jun 3, 2025 • 31min
The Journey of Self-Discovery: Unveiling the Power of Love
Episode #987 What if the key to stronger connection isn't about trying harder—but simply remembering who you are? Fresh off The Rising, Tim Matthews sits down with Mark Smith and Chris Cameron—aka "The Love Power"—to unpack some of the biggest personal breakthroughs that came from shutting out the noise and tuning in to what really matters. They dive into the messy, beautiful process of self-discovery, and what happens when you finally stop running from your own patterns. You'll hear how something as simple as saying "I love you" can completely shift a relationship—even in the middle of a heated disagreement. In this episode, they talk about how knowing yourself can expose hidden triggers, like emotional eating, and how those subtle shifts can create massive change. They reflect on why real connection often gets lost in the day-to-day grind—and how men can reclaim it by owning their truth and leading from love. This is one of those conversations that reminds you: the work isn't about being perfect—it's about being honest. With yourself first. Then with the people who matter most. 👉 Feeling disconnected in your marriage? Watch this free training to learn what's really missing—and how to lead with love, clarity, and confidence. 🎯 https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 31, 2025 • 20min
Revisit: Beyond the Affair: How to Move Forward When She Can't Forget
Episode #986 You're trying to move forward. You've apologized. You've changed. But the past keeps showing up in your marriage like it just happened yesterday. Every time things start to feel good again, she brings up the affair, the betrayal, or whatever broke the trust—and it knocks the wind out of both of you. In this episode, Doug walks through exactly why that keeps happening and what you can do about it. Not with quick fixes or guilt trips, but with real tools that help her feel safe again. You'll learn how to create the kind of emotional safety that allows her to finally exhale—and how to stay grounded when the past gets brought up, again. This isn't about defending yourself. It's about leading the relationship forward, even if you're the one who caused the pain. If you're serious about rebuilding connection, this conversation is where you start. Want to rebuild trust and stop living in the shadow of the past? Grab the free book and learn how to fix your marriage—starting with emotional safety and real connection. 👉 https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/freebook __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 29, 2025 • 28min
Rising to the Challenge: Navigating Fatherhood and Personal Growth
Episode #985 What does it really mean to be present for your kids—not just physically, but emotionally and mentally? And how do you balance that presence with the pressure you put on yourself to be a better man, husband, and leader? In this episode, one father opens up about the raw and honest journey of leveling up—not just as a dad, but as a man. You'll hear how stepping into deeper accountability led to a powerful realization: the standards we hold ourselves to can also become silent contracts that impact our relationships. We dive into what happens when you stop trying to fix others and start leading with understanding. The conversation explores how to break patterns of judgment, how to truly connect with your children (especially daughters), and why being the "lighthouse" for your family sometimes means taking time to recharge your own bulb. You'll also hear about the surprising shifts that come from doing men's work—not just once, but consistently—and how doing this work together brings clarity, confidence, and a deeper connection to purpose. No fluff. Just real stories from real men doing the work—together. Feel like you're doing everything right but still drifting from your wife? This free book will show you how to reconnect—without long talks or therapy. 📘 Get your copy here (just cover shipping): https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/freebook Think you're showing up—but not sure it's enough? Take the free Hidden Motions in Marriage assessment to find out where you're really at. ⚖️ Start here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 27, 2025 • 24min
The Path to True Happiness: Embracing Personal Growth
Episode #984 Do you ever feel like it's your job to make sure everyone else is happy—your wife, your kids, your team—and somehow, it never quite works? You're not alone. In this episode, we dive deep into a common (and exhausting) trap many high-achieving men fall into: trying to take responsibility for other people's emotions. It feels noble at first—like you're being a great husband, father, or leader. But at what cost? You'll hear personal stories and hard-won lessons about how this pattern often stems from childhood conditioning, religious or cultural expectations, and the desire to create peace and safety. And more importantly, you'll learn what to do about it. This one's a real conversation—unscripted, honest, and revealing. No fluff. Just the stuff that gets in your way and how to get past it. Tired of carrying everyone's happiness but losing your own? Watch the free training at fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales to learn why that's happening—and how to turn it around so your wife looks at you like her man again. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 24, 2025 • 26min
The Power of Gratitude: Transforming Your Life and Relationships
Episode #983 Ever find yourself holding back appreciation from your wife because you're not feeling seen yourself? Yeah, I've been there too. In this episode, Andrew and I dive deep into how something as simple as daily gratitude can completely shift your energy—and change the way you show up in your marriage, business, and life. We talk about what happens when you stop looking for what's missing and start appreciating what's already there. This isn't some fluffy gratitude journal talk. We're talking about real, practical ways to use gratitude—even when things feel hard. Like when you're trying to co-parent with your ex. Or when you're waking up at 2 AM with stress. Or when you're biting your tongue in a tough conversation and trying not to blow up. You'll also hear a personal story I've never shared before—the moment I snapped out of a downward spiral thanks to a random triathlon on TV and a guy running without legs. It changed everything for me. In this episode, we unpack how to keep your gratitude practice real (not forced), how it helps you lead better conversations, and why most guys totally overlook the power of being grateful for yourself. Because the truth is, you can't lead your family or your business if you're constantly running on fumes and resentment. Gratitude flips that. Whether your marriage is struggling or you just want to reconnect with your purpose as a man—this is where you start. Feel like you've tried everything to fix your marriage—but nothing's landing? You don't need another long talk. You need a new approach. Grab A Man's Guide to Saving His Marriage Without Talking About It on Amazon and learn the exact steps to lead your relationship back to connection, respect, and passion—without forcing awkward conversations. 👉 Get the book on Amazon now Ready to shift the energy in your marriage—without another heavy conversation? Start with gratitude. Grab your free copy of A Man's Guide to Saving His Marriage Without Talking About It and take the first step toward reconnecting with your wife and leading your home with confidence. 👉 Click here to get the book – just cover shipping __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 22, 2025 • 43min
Unbreakable: Finding Strength and Identity Through Transformation
Episode #982 What happens when you do everything "right" in your marriage… and it still falls apart? In this episode, Andrew opens up about the painful unraveling of his relationship and how it forced him to face the one person he'd been avoiding—himself. Like a lot of men, he came into the work hoping to fix his marriage. What he ended up doing was far more powerful: he found himself. This isn't just a story of divorce. It's a story of identity, ownership, and the kind of growth most men never allow themselves to experience. Andrew talks openly about the moment he realized his marriage couldn't be saved—and how that loss became the catalyst for becoming a better man, father, and leader. In this episode, you'll hear how suppressing emotions kept him stuck, how real transformation came when he stopped blaming and started owning his part, and how doing "the work" gave him clarity—not just in relationships, but in who he is as a man. Andrew doesn't just share his wins—he shares his breaking point, the uncomfortable truths, and the exact shifts that helped him go from reactive to grounded. You'll also hear why women are so drawn to men who do this work, and how showing up with no agenda is the real game changer in love and leadership. If you've ever felt lost in your role as a husband, father, or businessman—or like you're succeeding everywhere except at home—this conversation will hit home. Don't just listen to this one. Let it challenge you. Feel like you've lost yourself trying to fix your marriage? Get the clarity and tools that helped Andrew—and so many others—lead with purpose, not pressure. 👉 Watch the free training now at fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales It's not about fixing her. It's about becoming the man who leads with strength—no matter what. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 20, 2025 • 42min
Unlocking Limitless Potential: Personal Growth and Transformation
Episode #981 Ever found yourself wondering, "Shouldn't I be further along by now?" You've done the work. You've read the books. Maybe you've even joined a few programs. And yet... there's still something missing. In this episode, I sit down with Arthur Magruniti—one of our lead coaches and a guy who's not just talked about growth, but actually lived it. We have a real, honest conversation about what it actually looks like to keep growing year after year—without burning out or chasing the next shiny thing. We talk about how most men only think they know what they want—and how the real breakthroughs happen when you realize what you actually need. Whether you're dealing with struggles in your marriage, stuck in your business, or just feeling disconnected from who you really are, there's something in here for you. You'll also hear why so many guys who've already "done the work" keep coming back, and what separates the ones who just consume information from the ones who actually transform. This isn't about perfection or chasing some big life overhaul. It's about getting honest with yourself, taking the next right step, and finding out what's truly possible when you stop trying to figure it all out alone. If you're ready to stop circling the same mountain and finally move forward—this is where you start. Struggling in your marriage? If the stress is piling up and the connection with your wife is fading, I've got something for you. I want to buy you a copy of my book, A Man's Guide to Saving Your Marriage Without Talking About It. No fluff. Just real, proven steps to bring back the love and respect. You cover shipping—I'll cover the book. Ready to see where you're really at? If you're tired of guessing and want a clear snapshot of what's working—and what's not—take the free assessment we mentioned in the episode. It only takes a couple of minutes and gives you instant clarity on where you need to focus. 👉 Click here to take the assessment and find out what your next step should be. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 17, 2025 • 17min
Revisit: What To Do When She Doesn't Want to Be Married Anymore
Episode #980 What do you do when your wife says the words you never thought you'd hear—"I don't want to be married anymore"? If you're hearing that now, chances are she's been thinking it for years. This isn't sudden for her. It's a breaking point. In this REVISIT episode, we're going back to one of the most crucial conversations a married man can have—how to respond when your wife emotionally checks out, or worse, tells you she's done. This is a moment where most men panic, try to fix things fast, or shut down completely. But there's another way. You'll learn why women often plan their exit quietly over months or even years, and how your default reactions—defensiveness, excuses, or shutting down—only push her further away. We'll talk through what creates emotional safety, how to respond calmly without losing your ground, and why your self-care might be the key to getting her back. This isn't about manipulating her. It's about becoming the man who can truly hold space, hear her pain, and give the relationship a fighting chance. 👉 Your wife pulled away—now what? Start by getting real about where your marriage stands. Take the free 2-minute Marriage Scale Assessment to find out what's really going on—before it's too late. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 15, 2025 • 19min
Revisit: Did You Marry The Wrong Woman-Or Is It Just A Phase?
Episode #979 At some point, almost every married man asks himself the same question: Did I marry the wrong woman? Maybe she doesn't laugh at your jokes anymore. She's not interested in your stories. She seems distant, disconnected—and truth be told, you're starting to wonder if life would be easier with someone else. In this REVISIT episode, we're bringing back a powerful and timely conversation for any man who feels stuck in a marriage that's lost its spark. The truth is, most guys were never taught how to actually make marriage work. We weren't handed the tools to handle resentment, missed expectations, or emotional distance. So when things start to fall apart, we assume we chose the wrong partner—when in reality, we might just be missing the right approach. This episode breaks down why those thoughts of doubt creep in, how resentment quietly builds, and what you can do to clean the slate and reconnect. We'll cover the Triad of Connection—a framework to rebuild emotional safety, get real connection back, and spark the passion you thought was gone for good. You might not need a new wife. You might just need a new strategy. Still wondering if she's the wrong woman—or if something deeper's going on? Take the free 2-minute Marriage Scale Assessment to get the clarity you need—before it's too late. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.


