

The Powerful Man Show
Tim Matthews & Doug Holt
The Powerful Man is a show for married businessmen looking to improve their relationships, their health, their businesses, and themselves. Your hosts, Doug Holt and Tim Matthews have decades of experience helping married businessmen step into their power, live up to their potential, and live a life they love. The Powerful Man Show tackles conversations and topics designed to help men become better fathers, lovers, husbands, and leaders in their communities. If this sounds like you, we encourage you to subscribe and also head over to thepowerfulman.com for more information.
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Jun 13, 2024 • 20min
Revisit: Juggling Act: Mastering Work-life Balance As A Married Business Owner
Episode #835 Imagine you only had six months to live—how would you live differently? This thought-provoking episode encourages you to reflect on your priorities and make impactful changes. In this episode, Tim shares insights from the inner circle, a high-level mastermind group where men invest significantly to achieve peak performance in business, marriage, and health. The discussion centers around the importance of organizing the five territories of life: self, health, relationships, wealth, and business. Through guided exercises, you'll learn how to handle life's "shit tests" with grace and maintain a playful, loving approach even in challenging times. The episode also emphasizes the power of living with intention and creating lasting memories with loved ones. Join the conversation, take massive action, and shift from a "deer" to a "wolf" mindset—wise, open, loving, and fierce. Don't just passively listen; engage, reflect, and transform your life today. Remember, life is too short for average. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jun 11, 2024 • 26min
The Nice Guy Evolution: Balancing Kindness and Assertiveness
Episode #834 Welcome to another episode of The TPM Show, where we dive deep into the complex world of relationships and personal growth for men. In this episode, "The Nice Guy Evolution: Balancing Kindness and Assertiveness," Doug Holt and special guest, coach Andy Torr, tackle the delicate balance between being a nice guy and maintaining assertiveness in relationships. Many men fall into the "nice guy" trap, believing that appeasing their partner will lead to a happy marriage. Doug and Andy explore why this approach often backfires, pushing partners away instead of bringing them closer. They discuss the common pitfalls of "nice guy syndrome," such as people-pleasing and suppressing one's own needs, and offer practical advice on how to break free from this cycle. Drawing from personal experiences and the transformational journeys of men in the Activation Method, they provide insights on how to be genuinely kind without falling into the trap of seeking validation. Learn how to navigate the fine line between kindness and assertiveness, ensuring that your actions are aligned with your values and not driven by a need for approval. Join us as we delve into the heart of what it means to be a powerful, authentic man in today's world. Whether you're struggling with being too nice or swinging too far in the other direction, this episode offers actionable steps to help you find the balance that works for you and your relationship. Tune in and take the first step towards evolving into the best version of yourself, both in your marriage and beyond. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jun 6, 2024 • 20min
Emotional Savvy: Unlocking Your Inner Potential
Episode #832 Join Doug Holt and Andy Torr in this enlightening episode of "The Powerful Man Podcast" as they dive deep into the heart of emotional intelligence. Discover how understanding and managing your emotions can lead to stronger relationships, greater self-awareness, and a more fulfilling life. In this episode, Doug and Andy explore the concept of emotional intelligence, shedding light on how emotions like anger and vulnerability play pivotal roles in our lives. They discuss practical strategies for recognizing and addressing underlying emotions, enhancing your ability to connect with others genuinely. Listen as Andy shares his insights on developing the muscle of vulnerability and the power of emotional attunement, while Doug emphasizes the importance of balancing emotional expression with maintaining a sense of safety and stability in relationships. This candid conversation also touches on the cultural misconceptions around stoicism and the critical difference between being stoic and being emotionally numb. Whether you're navigating personal challenges or seeking to improve your relationships, this episode provides valuable tools and perspectives to help you become emotionally savvy and unlock your inner potential. Tune in and take the first step towards a more emotionally intelligent and fulfilling life. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jun 4, 2024 • 22min
Nice Guy Habits That Make Her Leave
Episode #831 In this episode, Doug Holt is joined by Brad Holt, our CEO and trusted advisor. Together, they dive deep into a critical topic affecting many men: the habits of being a "nice guy" that can unintentionally drive your wife away. Doug and Brad discuss how many well-meaning men, often successful business leaders and dedicated husbands, fall into patterns of behavior that they believe will make their wives happy, only to find it has the opposite effect. These behaviors, rooted in the desire to please and avoid conflict, can actually lead to a loss of attraction and respect in a relationship. Key Takeaways: Understanding "Nice Guy Syndrome": Discover what it is and how it manifests in everyday actions. Common Nice Guy Habits: Learn about the specific habits that repel rather than attract, including being overly accommodating, avoiding conflict, and lacking decisiveness. Impact on Relationships: Understand how these behaviors affect the dynamic between you and your spouse, pushing her into a more dominant role. Actionable Advice: Get practical tips on how to reclaim your leadership in the relationship, make decisive choices, and create a more balanced and fulfilling partnership. Join Doug and Brad as they share personal stories, client experiences, and actionable strategies to help you avoid the pitfalls of the "nice guy" persona and build a stronger, more passionate relationship with your wife. Tune in and learn how to transform your nice guy habits into traits that truly attract and sustain a loving, respectful, and exciting marriage. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

Jun 1, 2024 • 27min
What Is Engaged Indifference?
Episode #830 In this episode, Doug Holt and Brad Holt dive into the concept of "engaged indifference." Learn how staying emotionally grounded while remaining present can transform your relationship. Doug shares personal stories and practical strategies for becoming the unwavering lighthouse in your marriage, ensuring your wife feels emotionally safe, even during conflicts. Join us as we explore how to break free from defensive reactions and create a space where genuine communication and connection can flourish. Whether you're facing frequent disagreements or simply want to deepen your bond, this episode offers valuable insights to help you lead with confidence and compassion. Tune in to discover how you can practice engaged indifference to foster a resilient and loving marriage. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man. Date Night Questions PDF: https://www.thepowerfulman.com/datenight/

May 30, 2024 • 33min
It's Not Just About Your Marriage
Episode #829 In this episode, Doug Holt and Brad Holt dive deep into the multifaceted world of men's growth, exploring the essential five territories: Self, Health, Wealth, Relationships, and Business. Discover how balancing these areas is crucial for a fulfilling life, both personally and professionally. Doug and Brad discuss real-life success stories, revealing how men who thought their primary goal was to save their marriage found that the journey led to a complete life overhaul. From rekindling passion in the bedroom to landing major business deals, the episode underscores the interconnectedness of our personal and professional lives. You'll learn actionable strategies to protect and nurture each of the five territories, ensuring that when one area flourishes, it elevates the others. Whether you're struggling with relationship woes, business burnout, or personal stagnation, this episode offers valuable insights to help you reclaim control and live powerfully. Highlights: Understanding the Five Territories and their impact on your life Real-life stories of transformation in relationships and business Practical steps to apply these principles and see immediate results The importance of community and support in personal growth How to manage anxiety and excitement to fuel your success Join us for a conversation beyond saving your marriage and setting the stage for holistic growth. Don’t miss out on the chance to take massive action towards becoming the powerful man you are meant to be. Tune in now and start your journey to a more balanced and empowered life. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 28, 2024 • 30min
Woman's POV: Unlocking Desire-What Women Really Find Sexy in Men
Episode #828 In this episode, Doug Holt dives deep into the female perspective on what truly ignites desire in women. Joined by relationship expert Tim Matthews, they explore the often-overlooked aspects of male attractiveness that go beyond physical appearance. Discover the secrets to rekindling passion, building deeper connections, and understanding the subtle cues that make a man irresistible. Listeners will gain valuable insights into: The psychological triggers of female desire. How to communicate in ways that foster intimacy and trust. Practical steps men can take to become more attractive to their partners. Real-life stories and expert advice on improving your relationship. Whether you're looking to reignite the spark in your marriage or simply understand what makes women tick, this episode is packed with actionable advice and heartfelt discussions. Tune in to learn how to transform your relationship and become the man your partner truly desires. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 25, 2024 • 29min
Redefining Legacy: Leaving a Lasting Impact Beyond Wealth
Episode #827 In this episode of the TPM Show, hosts Doug Holt and Brad Holt dive deep into the concept of legacy. What does it truly mean to leave a legacy, and how can you ensure it's one of choice rather than circumstance? The Holts discuss the importance of living authentically and intentionally, demonstrating how you can provide for your family not just financially, but also through actions that speak louder than words. From the "rocking chair test" to envisioning your ultimate legacy, this episode is packed with actionable advice. Learn why it's crucial to plan your life and legacy proactively, challenging the belief systems handed down through generations. Whether it's through personal development, maintaining strong relationships, or setting an example for your children, Doug and Brad emphasize that legacy is built through everyday actions and choices. Tune in to discover how you can leave a legacy of love, compassion, and authenticity. This episode is not just about making money or achieving success—it's about creating a meaningful and lasting impact on those you care about most. Key Takeaways: The true meaning of legacy and how to define it for yourself. Practical exercises like the "rocking chair test" to help you envision your desired legacy. The importance of authenticity and intentional living. How to leave a legacy that reflects your values and beliefs. Real-life examples and stories of individuals who have successfully redefined their legacies. Join us as we explore how to leave a legacy that goes beyond wealth, ensuring your impact is both profound and lasting. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 23, 2024 • 30min
Truth or Consequences: Navigating Lies and Broken Promises in Relationships
Episode #826 In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt and his brother Brad delve into the complexities of honesty in relationships. Join them as they explore how secrets and lies can build invisible walls, causing distance and mistrust between partners. They discuss the importance of integrity, the emotional toll of hiding the truth, and how coming clean can lead to personal freedom and deeper connections. Learn how men can navigate the fear of being honest, the potential backlash from their partners, and the path to building stronger, more authentic relationships. Through heartfelt anecdotes and practical advice, Doug and Brad offer insights on how to move from a place of shame and guilt to one of courage and integrity. Whether you're dealing with hidden financial decisions, past infidelities, or just the little white lies that accumulate over time, this episode provides the tools you need to face the truth and foster a healthier, more transparent relationship. Highlights: The impact of secrets on personal integrity and relationship dynamics Practical steps to approach difficult conversations with your partner Real-life examples of men who transformed their relationships through honesty The concept of the "stickman" and the "I Am" – identifying your true self versus your defensive self How to use the "Clean Slate Method" to take responsibility and rebuild trust Tune in to discover why honesty truly is the best policy and how you can navigate the difficult terrain of lies and broken promises to build a stronger, more loving relationship. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.

May 21, 2024 • 20min
Beyond the Affair: How to Move Forward When She Can't Forget
Episode #825 Has a mistake from the past come back to haunt you in your marriage, something like an affair or a breaking of trust? Is it overshadowing the love and respect you’re trying to rebuild with your wife? In this episode, we dive deep into what happens when the ghost of an affair keeps resurfacing, creating a rift between you and your spouse. We share three powerful strategies you can use today to help mend your relationship and move forward without constantly looking back. Discover why understanding the pain your partner feels is crucial, how establishing transparency can rebuild trust and the importance of creating a safe space for open communication. Join us as we unpacks real-life examples, including a moving story of a man who turned his marriage around after a decade-old affair kept coming back to haunt them. Learn how to truly empathize with your partner’s pain, maintain consistent transparency, and foster an environment where your spouse feels safe to express their emotions without fear of judgment or reaction. If you're struggling with past mistakes and want to rebuild a loving, trusting relationship, this episode is for you. Tune in and take the first step towards healing and creating a marriage filled with love, respect, and passion once again. __________ Hungry for more? Head over to our Bonus page for special access to some of the deeper tactics and techniques we've developed at The Powerful Man.