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Tim Matthews & Doug Holt
The Powerful Man is a show for married businessmen looking to improve their relationships, their health, their businesses, and themselves. Your hosts, Doug Holt and Tim Matthews have decades of experience helping married businessmen step into their power, live up to their potential, and live a life they love. The Powerful Man Show tackles conversations and topics designed to help men become better fathers, lovers, husbands, and leaders in their communities. If this sounds like you, we encourage you to subscribe and also head over to thepowerfulman.com for more information.
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Dec 16, 2025 • 18min
Navigating Comparisons in Marriage: Finding Connection and Growth
Episode #1071 If you've ever wondered whether your wife is comparing you to other men, coworkers, friends' husbands, or even her dad, you're not crazy. She probably is. And while it's uncomfortable to think about, it doesn't mean she's a bad partner. It usually means she's hurting, disconnected, or missing something that used to be there. In this episode, Doug and Erin break down exactly why these comparisons happen, what they actually mean, and how to shift the dynamic without playing the blame game. Erin shares the raw truth about how women experience disconnection and why bitterness and criticism are often just cover-ups for sadness and longing. Doug opens up about the patterns he's seen in men who unknowingly slip into the nice guy trap, and what it takes to rebuild trust, respect, and attraction without begging or forcing conversations that go nowhere. If you're feeling like something's off but can't quite name it, this episode will help you see it clearly. Sometimes the issue isn't that she's changed, it's that you've lost connection with yourself. And when that happens, she feels it. Your energy matters more than you think, and when you're checked out, she checks out too. The good news is, there's a way to turn this around that doesn't involve chasing or convincing her to talk. Want a proven way to start leading in your marriage again without long talks or therapy? Get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales It's simple, actionable, and gets straight to the point. No fluff. Just a clear path forward.

Dec 13, 2025 • 35min
A Woman's Perspective: Bridging Disconnection in Marriage
Episode #1070 If your marriage feels more like a business arrangement than a real partnership, you're not imagining it and you're definitely not alone. In this episode, Doug sits down with his wife Erin to unpack what disconnection looks and feels like from a woman's perspective. They get real about how so many couples slowly drift apart, even when everything looks fine on the outside. Erin shares what's happening under the surface when a woman pulls away, why she might seem cold, distant, or buried in her phone, and what she's actually craving instead. This isn't theory. It's not a lecture. It's two people sharing what it's really like when the spark fades, and what can help bring it back. They talk about the quiet resentment that builds over time, how to spot the signs that things are slipping, and how to approach your partner in a way that opens the door to real connection again, not more conflict or shutdown. If you're feeling stuck, or you just know you're capable of more than a "meh" marriage, this is your starting point. You'll hear the small things that make a big difference, like how your energy impacts her more than your words. They also talk about what most men miss during postpartum and perimenopause that can quietly break the bond. It's honest, raw, and grounded in real experience, not fluff or surface-level tips. There's no sugarcoating, just clarity on what it takes to shift from surviving to actually enjoying your relationship again. And if you're tired of guessing or walking on eggshells, this episode gives you a clearer way forward. Want to fix the disconnection without long talks or dragging her to therapy? Get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales It's practical, direct, and gives you real steps to shift things now, no waiting around.

Dec 11, 2025 • 39min
Revisit: A Balanced Approach to Health: Fitness, Business, and Lifestyle
Episode #1069 In this revisit episode, Doug sits down with former gym owner and coach David Sherban to talk about what actually works when it comes to building a healthy lifestyle, especially for busy business owners and dads who've let fitness slide. This isn't about hacks or crash diets. It's about taking small, doable steps that actually stick. David shares how to make health and fitness a part of your life without giving up the things you enjoy. They cover simple strategies for building momentum, getting out of pain, managing stress, and making food choices that feel normal, not restrictive. If your back hurts, your energy's low, or you've just lost that drive you used to have, this episode will help you get back on track without overcomplicating it. You'll hear why trying to go hard out of the gate usually backfires and how building a solid foundation, just like in business, is the real key. Doug and David also unpack how things like sleep, inflammation, and even peptides play into your overall vitality. It's a laid-back but focused conversation for guys who want results without needing to overhaul their whole life overnight. If you want to feel strong, clear-headed, and like yourself again, this one's worth a listen. If your marriage has taken a backseat while you've been working on everything else, check out the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It walks you through exactly how to spot what's off and how to start turning things around without needing to talk everything to death.

Dec 9, 2025 • 28min
Trust, Betrayal, and Rebuilding: Navigating Relationship Challenges
Episode #1068 If you've been cheated on or you're the one who broke the trust, this episode breaks down what to actually do next. Doug and Chris get real about what betrayal looks like inside a marriage, the shame that often comes with it, and how most men either shut down or avoid dealing with it head-on. They talk through how to stop sweeping things under the rug, the exact first steps to take when trust has been broken, and why just moving on doesn't work. You'll hear about the Clean Slate Method, why taking ownership (even when it feels unfair) is key, and what micro-commitments actually look like in real life. If your wife feels distant, if you're walking on eggshells, or if you're the one carrying guilt, this episode will help you see the path forward and it starts with showing up differently than you have before. You'll learn why consistency matters more than big promises. The truth is, most guys try to fix the problem the wrong way and it only pushes her further. Doug and Chris explain what rebuilding trust really looks like day-to-day. They also break down the difference between being needed and being wanted by your partner. And you'll hear why her testing you isn't a bad sign, it's actually your window of opportunity. Want a simple step-by-step breakdown on how to fix what's broken in your marriage? Watch the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It'll walk you through exactly how to get clarity and start turning things around.

Dec 6, 2025 • 24min
Avoiding the Divorce Trap: Insights and Strategies for Men
Episode #1067 Divorce doesn't usually come out of nowhere. Most guys just don't see the signs until it's too late. In this episode, Doug and Chris talk honestly about what really leads to divorce and why so many men are blindsided by it, especially after the holidays. There's a reason January is known as "divorce season." While you're focused on work or coasting through the holidays, your wife may already be checking out or meeting with a lawyer. This conversation unpacks how good men end up in bad spots, and what to do now if your relationship feels off. Doug shares what emotional safety actually means, how to tell if your wife's already on her way out, and why most divorces that start "amicable" don't stay that way. They also get into why nice guys who avoid conflict often miss the biggest warning signs. If you've ever thought "she'd never leave," this is one you need to hear. The truth is, women usually leave emotionally long before they file papers. And by the time most men realize it, they're in cleanup mode. That doesn't have to be you. If your marriage feels stuck or your wife seems distant, now's the time to act. Not after she's already made up her mind. Want to stop the slow drift before it turns into divorce? Get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales You'll get the exact steps thousands of men have used to turn things around. No pressure. No fluff. Just a clear place to start.

Dec 4, 2025 • 39min
The Art of Being You: How Authenticity Leads to Success
Episode #1066 Ever feel like you're switching hats all day? One minute you're the leader at work, the next you're the dad, then the husband, then the problem-solver. And somewhere in all that, you start to lose track of who you really are. In this episode, Doug and Chris talk about something most men never admit: how trying to show up differently in every area of life is draining you. Not just physically, but emotionally too. And the worst part? Most of us think we're doing it for the people we love. This conversation cuts through the noise and gets real about why so many men feel disconnected, anxious, or just plain off. You'll hear practical ways to stay grounded, reset your mindset between roles, and stop hiding behind the story that "this is just what it takes." If you've ever told yourself "I'm doing this for my family" but know deep down you're running on empty, listen in. There's a better way to lead without losing yourself in the process. Want to learn how to lead at home the same way you lead at work—without sacrificing your sanity? Get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales It's real, it's practical, and it's where a lot of men start.

Dec 2, 2025 • 31min
Revisit: Breaking Patterns: Real Talk on Trauma and Personal Growth
Episode #1065 If you've ever felt like you're repeating the same arguments, blowing up or shutting down in your relationship, or avoiding the real conversations that need to happen, this episode will hit home. Doug and Coach Chris talk honestly about how trauma from your past shapes how you show up today. Not in a therapy-session kind of way, but in the real-life stuff—how you react when you're triggered, how you protect yourself, and how easy it is to blame everything on your wife or your situation. They share personal stories about the patterns that used to run their lives and how they started doing the work to shift them. It's not about being perfect or "fixing" yourself—it's about taking responsibility and learning to lead. This is a real conversation about emotional armor, getting triggered, and why most men wait until it's too late. If you're tired of surface-level advice, this is where you start getting honest. If you're ready to stop spinning in circles and start leading at home, go get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales It's straightforward, actionable, and where a lot of men begin.

Nov 29, 2025 • 31min
Revisit: Finding Light in the Darkness: Confronting Male Suicide
Episode #1064 In this powerful and deeply honest revisit, the men open up about a topic that often goes unspoken—suicide. This isn't theory. It's personal. They've been there. Some have stood on the edge. Some have lost people they love. And they're here to talk about what really goes on in those dark moments most men never share out loud. They break down the real weight of shame, isolation, and the pressure to keep it all together. They share what helped them turn things around and why most guys don't reach out until it's almost too late. If you've ever felt like you're supposed to be the strong one, but deep down you're struggling, this episode is for you. It's not polished. It's not perfect. But it's real. And that might just be what someone needs to hear right now. If you're ready to start shifting things—even just one step—get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. You're not alone, and there's a way forward.

Nov 27, 2025 • 33min
Revisit: 50 Shades of Integration: Harmonizing Masculine and Feminine Energies
Episode #1063 In this episode, we revisit a raw and honest conversation about what happens when masculine and feminine energies get out of sync in a relationship. This isn't about old-school gender roles. It's about energy, leadership, trust, and polarity — and what happens when those things go missing. Doug and Coach Chris unpack why so many men are stuck trying to be the "nice guy" and how that often leaves their partner feeling more like a caretaker than a lover. They dive into what women actually want: leadership, decisiveness, and safety. Most men have stepped back from this role without realizing it. They talk through what it looks like to lead from the heart, how to rebuild polarity, and small moves that shift the energy fast. If your relationship feels flat or disconnected, this conversation will hit home. Want to learn how to lead without trying to fix everything? Get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales and take the first step toward real change.

Nov 25, 2025 • 26min
Revisit: Unmasking Authenticity: The Journey to Your True Self
Episode #1062 We're revisiting one of our most talked-about conversations — and it's still just as relevant today. Most men think they're showing up as their real selves. But the truth? We all wear masks. Whether it's to protect ourselves, gain approval, or just keep the peace, those masks slowly become part of who we think we are. In this episode, we get honest about why the masks go on in the first place, how they show up in everyday life, and what it really takes to start peeling them off. You'll hear stories from our own journeys and learn the steps we took to start showing up with more truth, more clarity, and more confidence. If you're feeling disconnected, lost, or like something's just off — this is worth a listen. Want help figuring out what mask you've been wearing and how to let it go? Get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales and start the shift today.


