The Powerful Man Show

Tim Matthews & Doug Holt
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Jan 20, 2026 • 21min

Creating a Vision: Planning for Family and Personal Success

Episode #1086 Most men create a vision for their business but rarely take the time to do the same for their marriage or family. In this episode, Doug and Chris unpack why that's a problem, and how to start creating a clear, shared vision at home. This isn't about long meetings or forcing your wife to sit on the couch and talk about feelings. It's about finding a way that works, walking, talking, asking the right questions and using that to get aligned. They share real examples from their own lives: how to include your kids, even if they're young or older, how to keep it light and fun, and how small conversations can lead to big shifts. You'll hear what worked, what didn't, and why this kind of planning can deepen connection without pressure. Chris also opens up about his own hesitation around doing this "the right way," and Doug offers simple tools and ideas to make it doable, not overwhelming. They also cover how to set a vision that's not just about logistics or calendars but about how you want your home life to feel. You'll learn how to plan in a way that brings energy, clarity, and direction into your relationship and your role as a father. It's not about getting it perfect it's about leading with intention and creating a future everyone's excited about. If your marriage or family life feels like it's drifting, this episode will help you reset and start fresh. Want help getting your marriage back on track? Grab the free training How to Fix Your Marriage Without Talking About It at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales and start taking action today.
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Jan 17, 2026 • 32min

Revisit: Surrounding Yourself with Success: Relationships and Growth

Episode #1085 *]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "request-6964fd3b-f46c-8323-8d04-fb698d1ad717-1" data-testid= "conversation-turn-6" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> This episode is a powerful revisit to one of the most important conversations for any man feeling stuck in his relationship or his personal growth. Doug and Chris break down a common trap: spending your time and money on everything but the things that really move the needle your relationships, your mindset, and your growth as a man. They get honest about how easy it is to drop cash on toys, tech, and distractions... while putting off the real work that could actually improve your marriage, deepen your connection with your kids, or help you become a man you're proud of. If you've ever said, "I don't have the time" or "I can't afford it" this one will challenge you to take a hard look at what you're prioritizing. They also dive into why surrounding yourself with men who push you to grow matters more than you think, and how to use your future self as a guide for the choices you make now. This is the kind of episode you'll want to listen to more than once because the questions they ask here can shift everything. If you're ready to stop waiting and start investing in what really matters, grab the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. No pressure. No hype. Just real tools to help you get back on track starting today.
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Jan 15, 2026 • 27min

The Masculine Dilemma: Abdication of Power in Relationships

Episode #1084 *]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "request-6964fd3b-f46c-8323-8d04-fb698d1ad717-0" data-testid= "conversation-turn-4" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> Ever feel like you've lost your edge at home or like you're walking on eggshells, waiting for your wife to tell you you're doing it right? In this episode, Doug and Chris dig into one of the most common (but rarely talked about) patterns they see in men: the quiet, often unconscious habit of giving up power in relationships. They unpack how this shows up in everyday life from needing permission to make decisions, to becoming another "child" in the household dynamic. Doug shares how even well-meaning guys slip into people-pleasing, indecision, and needing external validation from their partner, all while slowly eroding their leadership. You'll learn why being decisive (even if you're wrong) beats being passive, how routines can help you rebuild internal trust, and what it really takes to stop outsourcing your self-worth. This episode is a wake-up call for any man who's lost touch with his power and a practical guide to getting it back. If you're ready to stop giving your power away and want to lead with confidence again, get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It's a no-fluff, step-by-step approach to getting clarity, respect, and connection back in your marriage.
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Jan 13, 2026 • 41min

Navigating Long-Term Relationships: Beyond Expectations

Episode #1083 In this episode, Doug sits down with Andrew to unpack one of the biggest challenges men face in long-term relationships: staying consistent not just for a few weeks, but for the long haul. They get real about why short-term effort isn't enough, why so many guys slip when things start improving, and how old patterns (especially the ones from childhood) keep showing up in marriage. Doug shares a powerful story about a man trying to turn things around after years of being emotionally checked out and why "two and a half weeks of trying" doesn't undo a decade of disconnect. If you've ever felt frustrated because you're doing the work and not seeing results, this is for you. If you're showing up with expectations and getting burned, this is for you. And if you're ready to shift from surface-level fixes to real identity change this conversation cuts straight to it. You'll walk away with practical tools and insights to help you stop the pattern, drop the scorekeeping, and show up in a way that actually builds trust not just today, but consistently. Want the step-by-step roadmap to turn things around in your marriage? Get free access to the powerful training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. No fluff, just clear, actionable tools that actually work.
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Jan 10, 2026 • 17min

Revisit: Saving Your Marriage: Strategies for Rekindling Connection

Episode #1082 In this revisit episode, Doug answers real questions from men trying to figure out how to reconnect with their wives without coming across as needy or making things worse. If you're feeling stuck in a cycle of distance, scheduled sex, or surface-level conversations, this one is for you. He shares actionable tips on how to shift out of the roommate dynamic and start dating your wife again, even if things feel cold or awkward right now. You'll learn why emotional safety matters more than you think, what most men get wrong about communication, and how to stop showing up with needy energy. Doug also breaks down how to reignite passion without pressure, and why honest conversations with zero expectations can lead to the biggest breakthroughs. This isn't theory. It's the exact advice Doug gives coaching clients every week. If you're feeling stuck and don't know where to start, get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It walks you through what's really going wrong and gives you a proven path to turn things around.
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Jan 8, 2026 • 25min

Letting Go of Expectations: The Key to Relationship Magic

Episode #1081 A lot of guys are stuck in the same loop. You work hard, you provide, and you think you're doing everything right. But deep down, there's frustration. Maybe she's pulling away. Maybe you're walking on eggshells. Or maybe you're just not getting the connection, intimacy, or appreciation you thought you would. This episode is about why that happens and how expectations are often the silent killer behind it. Doug and coach Neil break down the difference between expectations and agreements, and why unspoken expectations build resentment fast. They walk through real examples of how everyday assumptions in marriage who takes out the trash, how often you should have sex, what love is supposed to look like lead to disconnection when they're not talked about. If you've ever thought, "I'm doing my part, why isn't she doing hers?" this conversation is for you. You'll learn how to recognize covert contracts you've probably been making without realizing it, and how to shift your mindset from expectation to possibility. They also share a practical exercise you can do today to start clearing the air and rebuilding real trust and connection. If your relationship feels off, this is where you start doing something about it. Want to fix the problem at the root instead of guessing your way through it? Watch the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It walks you through exactly what's going wrong and how to turn it around. No fluff, just clear next steps.
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Jan 6, 2026 • 39min

Coaching for Success: Why Every Man Needs Guidance

Episode #1080 Ever feel like you've checked all the boxes career, marriage, kids, success on paper but still wake up wondering, "Is this it?" In this episode, Doug sits down with master coach Neil to talk about why so many high-performing men hit a wall, and what to actually do when you feel stuck, numb, or just off track. They dive into what it really means to look in the mirror and not recognize the man staring back. You'll hear real talk about blind spots, why reading books and listening to podcasts won't cut it, and how coaching can help you finally let go of what's been holding you back. This isn't about hype. It's about truth, accountability, and learning how to lead your life, not just survive it. They'll cover what happens when you stop giving to get and finally drop the weight of expectations. You'll hear why men keep falling into the same patterns, and how to finally break out of them. Neil shares what happens when men step away from daily distractions and into a space where they can actually reset. Doug explains why even the most successful men have coaches, and why trying to do it alone almost never works. If you've been feeling like something's missing, this conversation is your sign to stop brushing it off. Want to finally feel clear, confident, and fully in control again? Get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It's straight-up tools you can use right now to start making real change.
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Jan 3, 2026 • 15min

The Trust Equation: Honesty, Consistency, and Accountability

Episode #1079 If your relationship is on the rocks, it's tempting to go big. A new car, a luxury trip, maybe even building the dream home. But here's the hard truth trust can't be bought. In this episode, Tim and Bruce break down why trying to buy your way out of broken trust never works, and what actually does. They get into the real building blocks of trust: honesty, consistency, and accountability. This isn't about doing grand gestures. It's about showing up every day the way you said you would and owning it when you don't. They also cover a hidden dynamic most men miss: "safety tests." These are moments when your partner is checking if it's safe to open up again, often disguised as conflict. How you respond matters more than you think. Rebuilding trust takes time, and if you're feeling frustrated by how slow it's going, this episode is for you. It's not about being perfect. It's about being steady. And if you've been reacting, getting defensive, or tying your worth to her mood, this is the reset you need. Start small. Pick one thing this week you can follow through on without fail. One consistent action to prove you're serious about showing up differently. If your marriage is in a tough spot, don't wait. Get free access to the training that shows you exactly how to rebuild trust and connection without long talks or therapy. Watch it here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales
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Jan 1, 2026 • 17min

Living Your Legacy: Impacting Now, Not Later

Episode #1078 Most men think of legacy as something they'll leave behind. But what if your legacy isn't about the future? What if it's about how you're showing up today? In this episode, Tim and Bruce dive into the real meaning of legacy. It's not about money, titles, or what people say when you're gone. It's about the emotional footprint you leave on the people closest to you, right now. They walk through three simple but powerful questions every man should ask himself. These are the kinds of questions that cut through the noise and get straight to the heart. You'll also get three micro actions you can take this week to live with more intention, presence, and impact. These aren't big moves that take hours. They're real-life shifts that take just a few minutes but build serious momentum. Think voice notes to your kids, one honest conversation, or a simple new family ritual. It's about consistently showing up, even when life is stressful or busy. Because who you are now is shaping what they'll remember later. If your marriage feels off, don't wait. Get free access to the training that's helped thousands of men reconnect with their wives without long talks or therapy. Watch it here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales
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Dec 30, 2025 • 26min

Unmasking Self-Sabotage: Navigating Chaos and Recovery

Episode #1077 *]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "request-WEB:80d55b9b-935b-4f9b-b02a-f68cc4d1bede-7" data-testid= "conversation-turn-12" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> Ever find yourself messing things up just when they're starting to go well? You're not alone. A lot of high-performing men struggle with self sabotage, especially when life starts to feel steady. In this episode, Tim and Bruce dig into the reasons behind it, whether it's a deep-rooted self worth issue, a nervous system that craves chaos, or an old identity that just doesn't fit anymore. They explore how some men unconsciously create problems just to feel a sense of purpose or control. From procrastination and emotional withdrawal to overcommitting and burnout, the patterns are often the same. The good news is, once you see it, you can change it. You'll hear what actually works to break the cycle and how to stop bouncing between highs and lows in your personal and professional life. If you've ever told yourself "I know what to do, I just don't do it," this episode is for you. You'll walk away with a clearer understanding of where self sabotage really comes from and how to start shifting out of it. We also break down the role of unconscious identity and why traditional willpower won't solve the problem. The goal here isn't perfection. It's progress with intention. If you're tired of repeating the same patterns and want a clear path forward, check out the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It'll help you understand what's not working at home and what to do about it.

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