We Can Do Hard Things

Glennon shares what her recovery – leaving something you can’t live without – feels like: Almost impossible. She explains how she views recovery as an invitation to a great quest that improves life for every person who accepts it. If you haven’t listened to Glennon’s latest episode about her recovery journey and embodiment, check it out here: Episode 194 Glennon Finds Her Healing Partner. If talk about eating disorders and mental illness helps: Listen today.If it triggers: Skip today.CW: eating disordersIf you have an eating disorder, you may find the National Alliance for Eating Disorders a helpful resource: https://www.allianceforeatingdisorders.com/

Julia Louis-Dreyfus joins us to dive deep into: going to therapy with her 87-year-old mom, how to love adult kids well, the metaphor that got her through breast cancer, and why we should all be excited about getting older. About Julia: Julia Louis-Dreyfus is one of Hollywood’s most influential, iconic actors and producers. She starred in and executive produced HBO’s hit series Veep, she was Elaine Benes in Seinfeld and Christine Campbell in The New Adventures of Old Christine. She has received 11 Emmys with 26 nominations; she broke records for the most Emmys won. She was recently honored with the White House’s National Medal of Arts, the highest award given to artists who advance the arts in the United States.  On April 11, she released her new podcast, “Wiser Than Me,” a 10-part series of candid, witty conversations with women over 70. And her fantastic new film You Hurt My Feelings is being released in May.  TW: @OfficialJLDIG: @officialjld

How to end a relationship lovingly, how to love an addict, and how to keep surprising yourself in midlife (buy the tap dancing shoes). Plus, why Cheryl decided to cut down her drinking. For our past episodes with Cheryl, listen to Episode 118 Cheryl Strayed: Don’t Let Your Dreams Ruin Your Life and Episode 119 It’s Okay to Want What You Want: Cheryl Strayed as Dear Sugar.For the Amanda episode Cheryl mentioned, listen to Episode 177 How to Face Your Biggest Fears with Amanda Doyle.About Cheryl:Cheryl Strayed is the author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail, which has sold more than 4 million copies worldwide and was made into an Oscar-nominated film. Her bestselling collection of Dear Sugar columns, Tiny Beautiful Things, was adapted for a Hulu television show that will be released in April. In 2016, the book was adapted as a play that continues to be staged in theaters around the world. Strayed is also the author of the critically acclaimed novel, Torch, and the bestselling collection Brave Enough. She lives in Portland, Oregon.TW: @CherylStrayedIG: @cherylstrayed

1. How to finally discover what turns us on, how to discuss turn-offs – and how to create “sex menus” with our partners.2. The real reason so many of us don’t feel like having sex. 3. How to ask for more sex – and how to turn it down without hurting your partner. 4. Orgasm – why it’s not the whole shebang – and what to do if we’ve been faking it. 5. Glennon and Abby engage in an exercise to practice talking dirty. (Glennon has not recovered.)For the first part of our conversation with Vanessa, check out Episode 195: Sex Talk & That Night in Miami: Sex Therapy with Vanessa Marin.And to hear our original “Silent Sex Queen” episode, go way back and check out: Episode 14: SILENT SEX QUEEN: Why aren’t we talking about sex more?About Vanessa: Vanessa Marin is a sex therapist and instant New York Times Best Selling author of Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, co-written with her husband and partner-in-crime, Xander Marin.Vanessa is here to help you kick shame out of the bedroom so you can start feeling the connection, pleasure, and joy you deserve!Vanessa has been featured in various major publications and has written for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker.TW: @VMTherapyIG: @vanessaandxander

Two silent sex queens & Abby invite sex therapist Vanessa Marin onto the pod and into their bedrooms to discuss: 1. Practical, concrete tips for how to get over your discomfort and talk about sex with your partner – and how Vanessa’s advice is currently working for Glennon and Abby.  2. Why women tend to struggle receiving during sex – and how hustle culture shows up in the bedroom.3. How to activate desire instead of shame when asking for more frequent or different sex.4. A great tip for how to “post-game” about what you like and appreciate after sex. For the first “Silent Sex Queen” conversation, go way back and check out: Episode 14: SILENT SEX QUEEN: Why aren’t we talking about sex more?About Vanessa: Vanessa Marin is a sex therapist and instant New York Times Best Selling author of Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, co-written with her husband and partner-in-crime, Xander Marin.Vanessa is here to help you kick shame out of the bedroom so you can start feeling the connection, pleasure, and joy you deserve!Vanessa has been featured in various major publications and has written for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker.TW: @VMTherapyIG: @vanessaandxander

Glennon takes us along on her “exile walk” to share how recovery’s going and some new found wisdom that will help us all including: 1. How to shut off the mind and stop over-intellectualizing to allow space for other parts and memories to rise up.2. Acknowledging that nobody’s “fine” – and we’re all either transforming or transmitting our pain. 3. Glennon's interaction with a young surfer that offended them both (in very different ways). 4. How to start to let go of the prize of privilege in order to receive the treasures of being fully human. If you haven’t listened to Glennon’s last recovery episode, check it out here: Ep 182 Glennon Update: Lessons from Therapy.If talk about eating disorders and mental illness helps: Listen today.If it triggers: Skip today.CW: eating disordersIf you have an eating disorder, you may find the National Alliance for Eating Disorders a helpful resource: https://www.allianceforeatingdisorders.com/

MICHELLE OBAMA!1. How to develop the one tool that has sustained Mrs. Obama throughout her entire life.2. How to identify whether you’re deeply satisfied or deeply stuck – and how to reach for the goal of living “comfortably afraid.”3. What we never knew about Mrs. Obama’s incredible father, Fraser C. Robinson III, and how he shaped her life. 4. How to avoid what Mrs. Obama calls, “Getting lost in the battle of explaining yourself.”5. How to finally live in your own Enoughness. Read Mrs. Obama’s glorious new book THE LIGHT WE CARRY.  TW: @MichelleObamaIG: @MichelleObama

Pioneering sports journalist – the brilliant, hilarious, badass Sarah Spain – joins us to reflect on:1. One of our most popular episodes – Episode 147: The Episode That Wasn’t – when we ended an interview after the guest was disrespectful to our team member;2. The constant indignities and inequities in male-dominated fields;3. To report or not to report harassment – and what actually happens when you do report?; and4. How to help ourselves – and come together to help each other – secure safer and more just work spaces.  CW: sexual harassment About Sarah: Sarah Spain is an Emmy and Peabody Award-winning sports journalist. In her 12+ years at ESPN she has worked as a radio and podcast host, writer and TV analyst. She's a minority owner of the Chicago Red Stars of the NWSL, a co-founder of “Hear The Cheers,” which provides hearing aids and equipment to kids so they can continue participating in sports, and is on the board of Embarc, a program that provides community-driven experiences and learning opportunities to low-income Chicago high school students. TW: @SarahSpainIG:@spain2323

1. When is it too late to cancel on someone?2. How do we split the bill?3. Text messages: What NOT to do, and is there time-induced amnesty?4. Phone calls in public: Hell no, or do what you wish?5. Once and for all: Can we agree on how we all get off the plane? Today, Abby – whose mom sent her to etiquette school to learn to be a “lady” – and Glennon and Amanda – whose mom did not – discuss the New Rules for being human while surrounded by humans; the thin line between manners meant to offer consideration vs. manners meant to signal superiority; how we are all inadvertently insulting each other; and where we go from here.

In Part 2 of this Abby conversation, Abby shared the greatest gift she’s ever received. In this Part 3, we dive into: exactly what happened that magical morning from Abby, Glennon, and Amanda’s perspective; Craig’s reaction; and why it was that singular moment that Abby finally felt fully loved and chosen.If you haven’t listened to Part 1, check it out here: Episode 188 Abby Wambach: Will I Ever Be Truly Loved? If you didn’t catch Part 2, listen here: Episode 189 Abby for the 1st Time On Divorce & Her Unrequited Love.