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Jun 25, 2025 • 41min

How to Be in Love: Munroe Bergdorf: Transitioning is the biggest decision to love yourself

Rylan is joined by writer and activist Munroe Bergdorf. Growing up as a trans woman, Munroe never believed that love was possible. She speaks to Rylan about pushing the boundaries of her sexual identity and discusses how falling in love with a woman for the first time was the most unexpected, yet pivotal, moment in her own journey with love.How to Be in Love – Rylan has loved passionately, lost messily, and is now ready to rediscover what ‘love’ is. But does he need to look at love differently before he can find it again?Host: Rylan Assistant Producer: Ben Johns Producer: Katie Grant Production Manager: Francesca Bassett Executive Producers: Barnaby Coughlin and Arron Fellows Music: Miguel d'Oliveira Assistant Commissioner: Will Drysdale Commissioning Editor: Rhian Roberts A Mindhouse production for BBC Sounds
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Jun 18, 2025 • 42min

How to Be in Love: Philippa Perry: There is no such thing as ‘The One’

Does ‘The One’ exist? How does our childhood impact our romantic relationships? Rylan and psychotherapist Philippa Perry take a deep dive into what could be holding us back from finding long-lasting love. Philippa also shares how her husband of 33 years, the artist Grayson Perry, changed her understanding of what love could be.How to Be in Love – Rylan has loved passionately, lost messily, and is now ready to rediscover what ‘love’ is. But does he need to look at love differently before he can find it again?Host: Rylan Assistant Producer: Ben Johns Producer: Katie Grant Production Manager: Francesca Bassett Executive Producers: Barnaby Coughlin and Arron Fellows Music: Miguel d'Oliveira Assistant Commissioner: Will Drysdale Commissioning Editor: Rhian Roberts A Mindhouse production for BBC Sounds
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Jun 11, 2025 • 40min

How to Be in Love: Richard Coles: On losing the love of his life and casual roadside encounters

Rylan is joined by the writer and broadcaster Reverend Richard Coles who shares how his life, and his faith, have shaped his understanding of love.Richard discusses how he turned his back on the sex, drugs and rock and roll lifestyle and anonymous roadside romances, to follow the calling of Christ to become a vicar. He also speaks about finding the love of his life, in his late partner David, and how his experience of grief had him believe he would never want to love again. Richard opens up about how he navigated losing love, to rediscovering it once more with his current partner, and shares his belief on what he thinks love will look like in the afterlife.How to Be in Love – Rylan has loved passionately, lost messily, and is now ready to rediscover what ‘love’ is. But does he need to look at love differently before he can find it again?Host: Rylan Assistant Producer: Ben Johns Producer: Katie Grant Production Manager: Francesca Bassett Executive Producers: Arron Fellows Music: Miguel d'Oliveira Assistant Commissioner: Will Drysdale Commissioning Editor: Rhian Roberts A Mindhouse production for BBC Sounds
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Jun 4, 2025 • 39min

How to Be in Love: Self Esteem: On bisexuality, non-monogamy, and her ‘current male lover’

Rylan is joined by musician and actor Rebecca Lucy Taylor, better known as Self Esteem. Rebecca shares her experience of being in non-monogamous relationships and pushing back against societal norms. She also discusses being bisexual and how her relationship with her ‘current male lover’ has challenged her preconceived ideas of what she wanted love to be.How to Be in Love – Rylan has loved passionately, lost messily, and is now ready to rediscover what ‘love’ is. But does he need to look at love differently before he can find it again?Host: Rylan Assistant Producer: Ben Johns Producer: Katie Grant Production Manager: Francesca Bassett Executive Producers: Barnaby Coughlin and Arron Fellows Music: Miguel d'Oliveira Assistant Commissioner: Will Drysdale Commissioning Editor: Rhian Roberts A Mindhouse production for BBC Sounds
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Jun 4, 2025 • 41min

How to Be in Love: Stephen Fry: From 15 years of celibacy to finding love

Rylan sits down with actor, writer and President of Mind, Stephen Fry, who discusses how love has helped shaped his life. From the impossibly high standards set by his parents’ relationship, to the impact of living through the AIDS crisis, and a self-imposed 15-year stretch of celibacy. Plus, having recently celebrated 10 years of marriage, Stephen shares how being in an age-gap relationship has unexpectedly introduced him to the worlds of wrestling and rap. How to Be in Love – Rylan has loved passionately, lost messily, and is now ready to rediscover what ‘love’ is. But does he need to look at love differently before he can find it again?Host: Rylan Assistant Producer: Ben Johns Producer: Katie Grant Production Manager: Francesca Bassett Executive Producers: Barnaby Coughlin and Arron Fellows Music: Miguel d'Oliveira Assistant Commissioner: Will Drysdale Commissioning Editor: Rhian Roberts A Mindhouse production for BBC Sounds
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May 21, 2025 • 2min

How to Be in Love: Trailer

Rylan is embarking on a mission to find love. He's loved passionately, lost messily, and is now ready to find love once again. But what is love truly about? And how can we find it - and make it last? From a young age, we're taught that love is the ultimate fairytale - that finding 'the one' will finally complete us. But is it time to look at love differently? Over 12 episodes, Rylan's guests will help him rediscover what love is - what we should be looking for in a partner (or partners!) and attempting to find the secrets of a healthy, long-term relationship.
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Aug 20, 2024 • 38min

How to Be in the Spotlight: Francis Bourgeois – On viral fame and dealing with criticism

Rylan is joined by trainspotter Francis Bourgeois to discuss becoming an overnight internet sensation. Francis tells Rylan about his tricky teenage years and growing up as an outsider, confronting accusations that his train persona is “fake”, and trainspotting with Joe Jonas.Rylan explores the good, the bad and the ugly of being thrust into the spotlight - with those who've lived to tell the tale.Host: Rylan Assistant Producer: Satema Tarawally Edit Producer: Katie Grant Producer: Millie Chu Production Manager: Francesca Bassett Executive Producers: Barnaby Coughlin and Arron Fellows Music: Miguel d'Oliveira Assistant Commissioner: Will Drysdale Commissioning Editor: Rhian Roberts A Mindhouse production for BBC Sounds
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Aug 13, 2024 • 39min

How to Be in the Spotlight: Ekin-Su - Navigating fame and the personal impact of reality TV

Rylan is joined by Love Island winner Ekin-Su to discuss her mixed experiences in the spotlight. Ekin tells Rylan about her high-profile break-up with Love Island boyfriend Davide, her fall from grace after appearing on Celebrity Big Brother, and the psychological damage of reality TV.Rylan explores the good, the bad and the ugly of being thrust into the spotlight - with those who've lived to tell the tale.Host: Rylan Assistant Producer: Satema Tarawally Edit Producer: Katie Grant Producer: Millie Chu Production Manager: Francesca Bassett Executive Producers: Barnaby Coughlin and Arron Fellows Music: Miguel d'Oliveira Assistant Commissioner: Will Drysdale Commissioning Editor: Rhian Roberts A Mindhouse production for BBC Sounds
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Aug 6, 2024 • 39min

How to Be in the Spotlight: Will Young - Leaving Strictly and homophobia in the music industry

Rylan speaks to pop sensation Will Young about life in the spotlight. Will discusses facing homophobia in the music industry, his experience on Strictly and facing mental health struggles in the public eye.Rylan explores the good, the bad and the ugly of being thrust into the spotlight - with those who've lived to tell the tale.Host: Rylan Assistant Producer: Satema Tarawally Edit Producer: Katie Grant Producer: Millie Chu Production Manager: Francesca Bassett Executive Producers: Barnaby Coughlin and Arron Fellows Music: Miguel d'Oliveira Assistant Commissioner: Will Drysdale Commissioning Editor: Rhian Roberts A Mindhouse production for BBC Sounds
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Jul 30, 2024 • 34min

How to Be in the Spotlight: Big Zuu - On classism in TV and stealing delivery food

Rylan sits down with Big Zuu to talk about his unique rise to fame - from rapper extraordinaire to double BAFTA award-winning TV presenter. They discuss making grime mainstream alongside Stormzy, Dave and AJ Tracey, his viral BAFTA acceptance speech for 'Big Zuu's Big Eats' and dealing with classicism in the TV industry.Rylan explores the good, the bad and the ugly of being thrust into the spotlight - with those who've lived to tell the tale.Host: Rylan Assistant Producer: Satema Tarawally Edit Producer: Katie Grant Producer: Millie Chu Production Manager: Francesca Bassett Executive Producers: Barnaby Coughlin and Arron Fellows Music: Miguel d'Oliveira Assistant Commissioner: Will Drysdale Commissioning Editor: Rhian Roberts A Mindhouse production for BBC Sounds

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