Rylan: How to Be... How to Be in Love: Philippa Perry: There is no such thing as ‘The One’
Jun 18, 2025
Philippa Perry, a psychotherapist and author known for her relationship insights, joins Rylan to explore the myth of 'The One' in love. They discuss how childhood shapes our romantic relationships and the transformative nature of love over time. Philippa shares personal anecdotes about her marriage to artist Grayson Perry, emphasizing the importance of shared values for deep connections. The conversation also touches on recognizing red flags in dating and the power of self-awareness in fostering lasting bonds.
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Coffee Spill Kindness
- Philippa Perry shares a key moment early in her relationship with Grayson when she spilled coffee and he kindly helped her without blame.
- This small act redefined her idea of love as kindness and support instead of criticism.
Childhood Shapes Relationship Blueprint
- Early family relationships form your blueprint for all future relationships.
- You carry this foundational influence lifelong, whether consciously or unconsciously.
Choose Kindness Over Drama
- Become aware of the patterns in your attraction and consciously choose a healthier type.
- Aim for kind, consistent partners rather than those who give intermittent praise.