Play Therapy Podcast: A Master-Class in Child-Centered Play Therapy

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I address a significant question from Tammy in rural British Columbia and I received a similar question from listener Katarina. Both inquire about how to respond when children express love or seek hugs during therapy sessions. Exploring this, I highlight the therapist's personality and comfort with touch, stressing the importance of considering alternatives if physical touch isn't within one's comfort zone. I delve into the ethics surrounding physical affection, discussing how personal boundaries and professionalism play a role. I emphasize the significance of intention behind the child's actions, underscoring the need to understand why they seek affection. Responding to these expressions of love, I share insights into potential responses, considering the child's needs and the therapeutic relationship. Ultimately, the goal remains understanding and meeting the child's needs in a child-centered approach.   Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapypodcast.com Play Therapy Training HQ: https://www.playtherapynow.com APT Approved Play Therapy CE courses: https://childcenteredtraining.com Email me: brenna@thekidcounselor.com Follow me on Twitter: @thekidcounselor   https://twitter.com/thekidcounselor   References: Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley. VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press. Landreth, G. L. (2002). Play therapy: The art of the relationship (2nd ed.). Brunner-Routledge. Bratton, S. C., Landreth, G. L., Kellam, T., & Blackard, S. R. (2006). Child parent relationship therapy (CPRT) treatment manual: A 10-session filial therapy model for training parents. Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group. Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, we begin the final category of themes—exploration and mastery. It's been incredible to witness your enthusiasm for understanding and applying these themes in your work with children and families. Today, we delve into the exploratory theme, observing how children investigate toys in the playroom, asking questions, and exploring the unknown. This exploration is common in early sessions, as the playroom and toys are new to the child. But it can also surface later, serving as an emotional break when the child needs space from intense play. Recognizing and documenting these themes aid in understanding a child's progress and emotional shifts.   Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapypodcast.com Play Therapy Training HQ: https://www.playtherapynow.com APT Approved Play Therapy CE courses: https://childcenteredtraining.com Email me: brenna@thekidcounselor.com Follow me on Twitter: @thekidcounselor   https://twitter.com/thekidcounselor   References: Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley. VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press. Landreth, G. L. (2002). Play therapy: The art of the relationship (2nd ed.). Brunner-Routledge. Bratton, S. C., Landreth, G. L., Kellam, T., & Blackard, S. R. (2006). Child parent relationship therapy (CPRT) treatment manual: A 10-session filial therapy model for training parents. Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group. Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.

In this episode, I answered questions raised by two listeners, Meredith and Katarina, about the role of cleaning up toys at the end of a play therapy session. Both wondered about the child-centered approach regarding this aspect. I highlighted my approach, established from the very first session, that it's the child's job to play and mine to tidy up. I emphasized that the child isn't expected to clean, giving them choices and observing their responses to this instruction, which often reveals emotional cues. I underlined why we follow this approach: it's a crucial part of the therapeutic process, showing the child that we hold their feelings and needs safely even when the session ends. By not making them clean up, we maintain the connection and trust established during the session. I discussed various scenarios of messy playrooms and clarified that the child never cleans up due to the importance of sustaining the therapeutic bond.   Addressing the concern about parents seeing the messy room, I stressed the need for clear communication with parents from the outset, explaining the therapeutic reasoning behind not expecting the child to clean up. A story from a recent challenging session highlighted the occupational hazards and emphasized the power of the child-centered model. Despite bruises and challenges during the session, the trust and connection built through unconditional acceptance and firm but compassionate boundaries were evident. Ultimately, it's about providing a safe space for children to express themselves, knowing that they're unconditionally accepted and supported. Despite the physical and emotional challenges, the positive outcomes of building trust and facilitating a child's emotional growth underscore the significance of the child-centered model in play therapy.   Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapypodcast.com Play Therapy Training HQ: https://www.playtherapynow.com APT Approved Play Therapy CE courses: https://childcenteredtraining.com Email me: brenna@thekidcounselor.com Follow me on Twitter: @thekidcounselor   https://twitter.com/thekidcounselor   References: Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley. VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press. Landreth, G. L. (2002). Play therapy: The art of the relationship (2nd ed.). Brunner-Routledge. Bratton, S. C., Landreth, G. L., Kellam, T., & Blackard, S. R. (2006). Child parent relationship therapy (CPRT) treatment manual: A 10-session filial therapy model for training parents. Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group. Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.

In this episode, we delve into the fifth theme within the safety play category: Escape Play. This particular theme marks a shift from the previous ones – containing, protection, danger, and rescue. Here, the focus is on a character, often the child themselves, managing to escape a hazardous situation without external rescue. I talk through some implications and potential meanings behind this form of play. Children might be demonstrating their need for self-rescue due to feelings of self-reliance or a lack of trust in others. Alternatively, it could signify their newfound sense of empowerment and belief in their own abilities.   Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapypodcast.com Play Therapy Training HQ: https://www.playtherapynow.com APT Approved Play Therapy CE courses: https://childcenteredtraining.com Email me: brenna@thekidcounselor.com Follow me on Twitter: @thekidcounselor   https://twitter.com/thekidcounselor   References: Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley. VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press. Landreth, G. L. (2002). Play therapy: The art of the relationship (2nd ed.). Brunner-Routledge. Bratton, S. C., Landreth, G. L., Kellam, T., & Blackard, S. R. (2006). Child parent relationship therapy (CPRT) treatment manual: A 10-session filial therapy model for training parents. Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group. Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.

In this episode, I address a crucial question from Bethany in Mississippi about how to handle corporal punishment in her community where it's still prevalent. Although it's not directly linked to the playroom, it involves supporting parents—a critical aspect of our role as child-centered play therapists. I emphasize the significance of not solely focusing on the child but also engaging and supporting parents as part of the therapeutic process. Parental involvement significantly impacts the success of child-centered play therapy. I highlight three fundamental considerations to navigate this delicate situation: fostering trust with parents, building relationships, and conveying genuine concern for the child's well-being. Additionally, I discuss practical approaches: addressing parents' unfamiliarity with alternative parenting methods, educating them on effective tools, and presenting factual insights on corporal punishment's impacts. It's crucial to nurture a trusting relationship with parents to initiate challenging conversations effectively. Our role extends beyond the playroom to empower parents with new tools and perspectives, ensuring a positive impact on the child's overall well-being. Thank you, Bethany, for this essential question, underscoring the importance of working with parents, and to all listeners for being part of the Play Therapy Podcast family.   Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapypodcast.com Play Therapy Training HQ: https://www.playtherapynow.com APT Approved Play Therapy CE courses: https://childcenteredtraining.com Email me: brenna@thekidcounselor.com Follow me on Twitter: @thekidcounselor   https://twitter.com/thekidcounselor   References: Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley. VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press. Landreth, G. L. (2002). Play therapy: The art of the relationship (2nd ed.). Brunner-Routledge. Bratton, S. C., Landreth, G. L., Kellam, T., & Blackard, S. R. (2006). Child parent relationship therapy (CPRT) treatment manual: A 10-session filial therapy model for training parents. Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group. Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.

In this week's episode, I delved into rescue play, which happens to be the fourth of the five safety play themes. Rescue play is often intertwined with the danger theme, providing a powerful means for children to address and resolve negative scenarios. When a child engages in rescue play, it's a significant indicator of healing and growth. By taking on the role of the problem solver, they rewrite their narrative, creating different endings and scenarios, thus gaining the tools to handle real-life situations. Sometimes, the child may feel they're in danger or distress, seeking rescue within their play, or they may signify the therapist as their rescuer, showcasing the impact of your support in their healing journey. However, if a rescue isn't completed in their play, it might indicate feelings of hopelessness or the lack of internal capacity to resolve issues. Nevertheless, this signals the need for more time and skill development. It's a remarkable insight into how children process and overcome challenges through play.   Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapypodcast.com Play Therapy Training HQ: https://www.playtherapynow.com APT Approved Play Therapy CE courses: https://childcenteredtraining.com Email me: brenna@thekidcounselor.com Follow me on Twitter: @thekidcounselor   https://twitter.com/thekidcounselor   References: Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley. VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press. Landreth, G. L. (2002). Play therapy: The art of the relationship (2nd ed.). Brunner-Routledge. Bratton, S. C., Landreth, G. L., Kellam, T., & Blackard, S. R. (2006). Child parent relationship therapy (CPRT) treatment manual: A 10-session filial therapy model for training parents. Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group. Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I discuss a question by Emma in Georgia about managing messy play in therapy sessions. Emma describes a child who engages in a flurry of activities, making a mess and moving rapidly from one thing to another, leaving play unattended. First, it's crucial to understand that this behavior often mirrors a child's internal state. Frantic and chaotic play reflects their feelings, and messy play aligns their environment with those emotions. Rather than setting limits, recognize that this behavior is a form of communication; the child is showing where they are internally. Teasing apart whether it's true messy play or just chaotic behavior is essential. As for limits, ensure that safety is maintained, and toys aren't intentionally broken. Ask yourself, "Is this limit necessary? Can I accept this behavior and still accept the child? Can I consistently enforce this limit?" Remember, child-centered therapy respects the child's lead. Trust the process; eventually, they'll naturally find their balance. If you've had or will have a child like this, it's part of the journey. Keep exploring, trust yourself, and remember, patience is key.   Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapypodcast.com Play Therapy Training HQ: https://www.playtherapynow.com Email me: brenna@thekidcounselor.com Follow me on Twitter: @thekidcounselor   https://twitter.com/thekidcounselor   References: Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley. VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press. Landreth, G. L. (2002). Play therapy: The art of the relationship (2nd ed.). Brunner-Routledge. Bratton, S. C., Landreth, G. L., Kellam, T., & Blackard, S. R. (2006). Child parent relationship therapy (CPRT) treatment manual: A 10-session filial therapy model for training parents. Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group. Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, we explore the concept of danger as a safety play theme in the playroom. So we will dive into the nuances of this theme, clarifying that despite its name, danger play falls under the safety category. I talk about how children manifest danger play, whether through dangerous characters, fantastical figures, risky locations, dangerous animals, or characters in jeopardy. I also explain the potential meanings behind danger play, highlighting how it can reflect a child's perception of the world as unsafe or stem from past experiences of legitimate danger. Additionally, I touch on how danger play can sometimes serve as a subtle plea for help. Understanding these themes is crucial as danger play often evolves or runs concurrently with other play themes, providing insight into a child's inner world.   Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapypodcast.com Play Therapy Training HQ: https://www.playtherapynow.com Email me: brenna@thekidcounselor.com Follow me on Twitter: @thekidcounselor   https://twitter.com/thekidcounselor   References: Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley. VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press. Landreth, G. L. (2002). Play therapy: The art of the relationship (2nd ed.). Brunner-Routledge. Bratton, S. C., Landreth, G. L., Kellam, T., & Blackard, S. R. (2006). Child parent relationship therapy (CPRT) treatment manual: A 10-session filial therapy model for training parents. Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group. Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.

Dr. Garry Landreth doesn't do "interviews" anymore, but I had the opportunity to speak with him on the phone for a whole hour last month. Of course, the conversation turned to Play Therapy, and all the wonderful history and outlook for the future of our field. I think Dr. Landreth just can't help himself talking about Play Therapy!   I pulled three highlights from my conversation with him and I wanted to share it with you, my podcast audience. We talked about his path to play therapy, whether we should "do more", and why the relationship matters so much.   I hope you enjoy my relaying of this conversation to you as much as I enjoyed speaking with Dr. Landreth!   Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapypodcast.com APT approved CE Training: https://childcenteredtraining.com Play Therapy Coaching HQ: https://www.playtherapynow.com Email me: brenna@thekidcounselor.com Follow me on Twitter: @thekidcounselor   https://twitter.com/thekidcounselor

In this episode, we're delving into the theme of Protection Play, the second segment within the safety play themes. It's crucial to distinguish Protection Play from Containing Play, ensuring a clear understanding. Protection Play is about safeguarding something or someone from danger, whereas Containing Play focuses on keeping something contained.   In Protection Play, the child might build barriers, hide characters, or request the therapist's close presence to ensure safety. Understanding the different forms this play can take is essential. It could represent the child's need for safety due to feeling unsafe in their life, taking on unnecessary responsibility to protect others, or rehearsing self-protection due to anxiety or past traumatic experiences.   Next week, we'll explore Danger Play, moving forward in our exploration of safety themes. Join me next week as we continue our journey through these vital play therapy themes. For any questions or feedback, reach out to me at brenna@thekidcounselor.com.   Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapypodcast.com Play Therapy Training HQ: https://www.playtherapynow.com Email me: brenna@thekidcounselor.com Follow me on Twitter: @thekidcounselor   https://twitter.com/thekidcounselor   References: Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley. VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press. Landreth, G. L. (2002). Play therapy: The art of the relationship (2nd ed.). Brunner-Routledge. Bratton, S. C., Landreth, G. L., Kellam, T., & Blackard, S. R. (2006). Child parent relationship therapy (CPRT) treatment manual: A 10-session filial therapy model for training parents. Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group. Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.