Play Therapy Podcast

In this episode, we dive into the challenging topic of sexualized play themes in child-centered play therapy. I discuss how children may act out sexual activities using miniatures, dolls, or figures during play sessions. I emphasize the need for careful interpretation and understanding of potential meanings. Not all instances of sexualized play indicate abuse or trauma, as children may be mimicking what they've seen without comprehension. Therapists should observe and assess the situation over multiple sessions before jumping to conclusions or taking action, and use clinical judgment and patience. I also share my personal challenges with this theme.   Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapypodcast.com Play Therapy Training HQ: https://www.playtherapynow.com APT Approved Play Therapy CE courses: https://childcenteredtraining.com Email me: brenna@thekidcounselor.com Follow me on Twitter: @thekidcounselor   https://twitter.com/thekidcounselor   References: Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley. VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press. Landreth, G. L. (2002). Play therapy: The art of the relationship (2nd ed.). Brunner-Routledge. Bratton, S. C., Landreth, G. L., Kellam, T., & Blackard, S. R. (2006). Child parent relationship therapy (CPRT) treatment manual: A 10-session filial therapy model for training parents. Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group. Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.

In this episode, I respond to a question from Stacy in Colorado about children taking toys from the playroom. Stacy describes a situation where a girl repeatedly tries to take toys home, while her sister asks but respects the limit. I explain that children often want to take toys home because the playroom is a unique environment where they feel unconditionally loved and accepted. This desire is heightened for foster or adoptive children, for whom possessions represent safety and stability. Setting limits is key, using neutral language like "toys are for staying in the playroom" and offering choices like where to place the toy in the room. If a child refuses to return a toy, the focus shifts to gently reinforcing the limit and allowing them to choose to comply. While some toys may go missing unnoticed, maintaining a calm and child-centered approach is crucial. Thank you, Stacy, for your question, and I hope this helps others facing similar challenges.   Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapypodcast.com Play Therapy Training HQ: https://www.playtherapynow.com APT Approved Play Therapy CE courses: https://childcenteredtraining.com Email me: brenna@thekidcounselor.com Follow me on Twitter: @thekidcounselor   https://twitter.com/thekidcounselor   References: Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley. VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press. Landreth, G. L. (2002). Play therapy: The art of the relationship (2nd ed.). Brunner-Routledge. Bratton, S. C., Landreth, G. L., Kellam, T., & Blackard, S. R. (2006). Child parent relationship therapy (CPRT) treatment manual: A 10-session filial therapy model for training parents. Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group. Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, we explore the theme of failure in play therapy sessions. I dive into the nuances of failure play and how it differs from mastery play, which was discussed in a previous episode. Failure play can be linked to issues such as learned helplessness, where a child is used to others solving their problems, or to developmental challenges where a child may genuinely struggle due to their age or physical abilities. Additionally, failure play can stem from low self-esteem, where children may avoid activities they perceive as difficult to prevent feelings of failure. Understanding the root of the theme, such as low self-esteem, can help us effectively support the child in their play therapy journey.   Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapypodcast.com Play Therapy Training HQ: https://www.playtherapynow.com APT Approved Play Therapy CE courses: https://childcenteredtraining.com Email me: brenna@thekidcounselor.com Follow me on Twitter: @thekidcounselor   https://twitter.com/thekidcounselor   References: Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley. VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press. Landreth, G. L. (2002). Play therapy: The art of the relationship (2nd ed.). Brunner-Routledge. Bratton, S. C., Landreth, G. L., Kellam, T., & Blackard, S. R. (2006). Child parent relationship therapy (CPRT) treatment manual: A 10-session filial therapy model for training parents. Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group. Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.

In this episode, I respond to a question from Yanna in Massachusetts about how to handle a child who says play therapy is boring. Yanna also expressed feeling hurt when the client seemed excited that their next session was canceled after seven months of therapy for deep anxiety. I emphasize the importance of understanding that children's words might not always reflect their true feelings or needs. Instead of taking it personally, we should focus on understanding the root cause behind their statements. Children might express boredom as a form of avoidance or resistance when facing challenging themes in therapy. I highlight the need to respond with reflective and empathetic communication, acknowledging the child's feelings without judgment. Additionally, I mention that a child's statement about therapy being boring could also indicate readiness for termination if they have achieved their therapy goals.   Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapypodcast.com Play Therapy Training HQ: https://www.playtherapynow.com APT Approved Play Therapy CE courses: https://childcenteredtraining.com Email me: brenna@thekidcounselor.com Follow me on Twitter: @thekidcounselor   https://twitter.com/thekidcounselor   References: Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley. VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press. Landreth, G. L. (2002). Play therapy: The art of the relationship (2nd ed.). Brunner-Routledge. Bratton, S. C., Landreth, G. L., Kellam, T., & Blackard, S. R. (2006). Child parent relationship therapy (CPRT) treatment manual: A 10-session filial therapy model for training parents. Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group. Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.

In this episode, we're diving into the category of mastery and competence play by looking at Mastery Theme play. This is where kids engage in activities that require a sense of accomplishment. I discuss how these types of play, like building, stacking, or balancing, often occur in the category of creative and artistic toys. We also explore the potential meanings behind a child's engagement in mastery play, such as building self-esteem or proving capability, or even signaling readiness for therapy termination. I share insights into the significance of this play in a child's therapy journey, emphasizing its role in fostering confidence and self-belief. Additionally, I share a heartwarming story from one of our therapists, highlighting the transformative impact of play therapy. In closing, I extend wishes for the Christmas and Hanukkah season and invite you to consider joining our upcoming child-centered training.   Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapypodcast.com Play Therapy Training HQ: https://www.playtherapynow.com APT Approved Play Therapy CE courses: https://childcenteredtraining.com Email me: brenna@thekidcounselor.com Follow me on Twitter: @thekidcounselor   https://twitter.com/thekidcounselor   References: Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley. VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press. Landreth, G. L. (2002). Play therapy: The art of the relationship (2nd ed.). Brunner-Routledge. Bratton, S. C., Landreth, G. L., Kellam, T., & Blackard, S. R. (2006). Child parent relationship therapy (CPRT) treatment manual: A 10-session filial therapy model for training parents. Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group. Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I address a significant question from Tammy in rural British Columbia and I received a similar question from listener Katarina. Both inquire about how to respond when children express love or seek hugs during therapy sessions. Exploring this, I highlight the therapist's personality and comfort with touch, stressing the importance of considering alternatives if physical touch isn't within one's comfort zone. I delve into the ethics surrounding physical affection, discussing how personal boundaries and professionalism play a role. I emphasize the significance of intention behind the child's actions, underscoring the need to understand why they seek affection. Responding to these expressions of love, I share insights into potential responses, considering the child's needs and the therapeutic relationship. Ultimately, the goal remains understanding and meeting the child's needs in a child-centered approach.   Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapypodcast.com Play Therapy Training HQ: https://www.playtherapynow.com APT Approved Play Therapy CE courses: https://childcenteredtraining.com Email me: brenna@thekidcounselor.com Follow me on Twitter: @thekidcounselor   https://twitter.com/thekidcounselor   References: Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley. VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press. Landreth, G. L. (2002). Play therapy: The art of the relationship (2nd ed.). Brunner-Routledge. Bratton, S. C., Landreth, G. L., Kellam, T., & Blackard, S. R. (2006). Child parent relationship therapy (CPRT) treatment manual: A 10-session filial therapy model for training parents. Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group. Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, we begin the final category of themes—exploration and mastery. It's been incredible to witness your enthusiasm for understanding and applying these themes in your work with children and families. Today, we delve into the exploratory theme, observing how children investigate toys in the playroom, asking questions, and exploring the unknown. This exploration is common in early sessions, as the playroom and toys are new to the child. But it can also surface later, serving as an emotional break when the child needs space from intense play. Recognizing and documenting these themes aid in understanding a child's progress and emotional shifts.   Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapypodcast.com Play Therapy Training HQ: https://www.playtherapynow.com APT Approved Play Therapy CE courses: https://childcenteredtraining.com Email me: brenna@thekidcounselor.com Follow me on Twitter: @thekidcounselor   https://twitter.com/thekidcounselor   References: Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley. VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press. Landreth, G. L. (2002). Play therapy: The art of the relationship (2nd ed.). Brunner-Routledge. Bratton, S. C., Landreth, G. L., Kellam, T., & Blackard, S. R. (2006). Child parent relationship therapy (CPRT) treatment manual: A 10-session filial therapy model for training parents. Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group. Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.

In this episode, I answered questions raised by two listeners, Meredith and Katarina, about the role of cleaning up toys at the end of a play therapy session. Both wondered about the child-centered approach regarding this aspect. I highlighted my approach, established from the very first session, that it's the child's job to play and mine to tidy up. I emphasized that the child isn't expected to clean, giving them choices and observing their responses to this instruction, which often reveals emotional cues. I underlined why we follow this approach: it's a crucial part of the therapeutic process, showing the child that we hold their feelings and needs safely even when the session ends. By not making them clean up, we maintain the connection and trust established during the session. I discussed various scenarios of messy playrooms and clarified that the child never cleans up due to the importance of sustaining the therapeutic bond.   Addressing the concern about parents seeing the messy room, I stressed the need for clear communication with parents from the outset, explaining the therapeutic reasoning behind not expecting the child to clean up. A story from a recent challenging session highlighted the occupational hazards and emphasized the power of the child-centered model. Despite bruises and challenges during the session, the trust and connection built through unconditional acceptance and firm but compassionate boundaries were evident. Ultimately, it's about providing a safe space for children to express themselves, knowing that they're unconditionally accepted and supported. Despite the physical and emotional challenges, the positive outcomes of building trust and facilitating a child's emotional growth underscore the significance of the child-centered model in play therapy.   Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapypodcast.com Play Therapy Training HQ: https://www.playtherapynow.com APT Approved Play Therapy CE courses: https://childcenteredtraining.com Email me: brenna@thekidcounselor.com Follow me on Twitter: @thekidcounselor   https://twitter.com/thekidcounselor   References: Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley. VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press. Landreth, G. L. (2002). Play therapy: The art of the relationship (2nd ed.). Brunner-Routledge. Bratton, S. C., Landreth, G. L., Kellam, T., & Blackard, S. R. (2006). Child parent relationship therapy (CPRT) treatment manual: A 10-session filial therapy model for training parents. Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group. Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.

In this episode, we delve into the fifth theme within the safety play category: Escape Play. This particular theme marks a shift from the previous ones – containing, protection, danger, and rescue. Here, the focus is on a character, often the child themselves, managing to escape a hazardous situation without external rescue. I talk through some implications and potential meanings behind this form of play. Children might be demonstrating their need for self-rescue due to feelings of self-reliance or a lack of trust in others. Alternatively, it could signify their newfound sense of empowerment and belief in their own abilities.   Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapypodcast.com Play Therapy Training HQ: https://www.playtherapynow.com APT Approved Play Therapy CE courses: https://childcenteredtraining.com Email me: brenna@thekidcounselor.com Follow me on Twitter: @thekidcounselor   https://twitter.com/thekidcounselor   References: Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley. VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press. Landreth, G. L. (2002). Play therapy: The art of the relationship (2nd ed.). Brunner-Routledge. Bratton, S. C., Landreth, G. L., Kellam, T., & Blackard, S. R. (2006). Child parent relationship therapy (CPRT) treatment manual: A 10-session filial therapy model for training parents. Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group. Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.

In this episode, I address a crucial question from Bethany in Mississippi about how to handle corporal punishment in her community where it's still prevalent. Although it's not directly linked to the playroom, it involves supporting parents—a critical aspect of our role as child-centered play therapists. I emphasize the significance of not solely focusing on the child but also engaging and supporting parents as part of the therapeutic process. Parental involvement significantly impacts the success of child-centered play therapy. I highlight three fundamental considerations to navigate this delicate situation: fostering trust with parents, building relationships, and conveying genuine concern for the child's well-being. Additionally, I discuss practical approaches: addressing parents' unfamiliarity with alternative parenting methods, educating them on effective tools, and presenting factual insights on corporal punishment's impacts. It's crucial to nurture a trusting relationship with parents to initiate challenging conversations effectively. Our role extends beyond the playroom to empower parents with new tools and perspectives, ensuring a positive impact on the child's overall well-being. Thank you, Bethany, for this essential question, underscoring the importance of working with parents, and to all listeners for being part of the Play Therapy Podcast family.   Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapypodcast.com Play Therapy Training HQ: https://www.playtherapynow.com APT Approved Play Therapy CE courses: https://childcenteredtraining.com Email me: brenna@thekidcounselor.com Follow me on Twitter: @thekidcounselor   https://twitter.com/thekidcounselor   References: Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley. VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press. Landreth, G. L. (2002). Play therapy: The art of the relationship (2nd ed.). Brunner-Routledge. Bratton, S. C., Landreth, G. L., Kellam, T., & Blackard, S. R. (2006). Child parent relationship therapy (CPRT) treatment manual: A 10-session filial therapy model for training parents. Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group. Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.