ON BOYS Podcast

Which ON BOYS episodes were the Best of 2022? Some of our favorites!5. Raising LGBTQ AlliesChris Tompkins, author of Raising LGBTQ Allies: A Parent’s Guide to Changing the Messages from the Playground, recognized the power of unspoken messages when his then 6-year-old nephew asked him — an openly gay man — if the female friend with him was his girlfriend. In that moment, Chris realized that his nephew didn’t know he was gay. In conversations with adult family members the next day, Chris learned that most believed that his nephew wasn’t “old enough to understand.”4. How Microschools & Black Moms May End the School to Prison PipelineWhen they realized that schools wouldn’t change quickly enough to meet their kids’ needs, members of the Black Mothers Forum opened microschools, with an eye toward ending the school to prison pipeline.Existing school leaders and educators “really did not understand how to create a safe and supportive learning environment for our Black children,” says Janelle Wood, President of The Black Mothers Forum, Inc.3.  Myths & Misconceptions About BoysHow many do you believe?“Boys are easier than girls.”“Boys are less emotional than girls.”“Boys leave their families when they grow up.”“With boys, you don’t have to fight over clothing choices.”“There’s less to worry about with a son than a daughter when they’re teenagers and dating.”2.  Picky Eaters, Family Meals, & Nutrition“I felt confident going into parenting!” says Rebecca Toutant, a registered dietician who began her career helping children with autism and sensory issues expand their palate. “I thought my boys would be these really wonderful, adventurous eaters and we’d sit down at the dinner table and have such peaceful family meals.”…Children are naturally “neo-phobic,” or hesitant to try new things, Rebecca says. That’s a protective instinct. So, our kids look to us to see how we’re interacting with and reacting to food — & many, many, MANY exposures to a food (as many as 10-20) for a child to accept it.1. Brain-Body ParentingIt’s time to “move from focusing on behaviors to focusing on how each child perceives, understands, and interprets their world,” says Dr. Delahooke, a child psychologist and author of Brain-Body Parenting: How to Stop Managing Behavior and Start Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids and Beyond Behaviors: Using Brain Science and Compassion to Understand and Solve Children’s Behavioral Challenges.The autonomic nervous system is our “automatic nervous system,” she explains. It controls our bodies’ unconscious, non-voluntary reactions. Importantly, the triggers for each of us can be different.A few of our other 2022 favorites:Why are Video Games So Important to Boys?Sex Talks w TweensHelping Boys Develop Healthy Body ImageWhich were your favorite episodes of 2022?Need help with your boys?Subscribe to Jen’s newsletter, Building Boys BulletinJoin Janet Allison’s real-time, monthly group coaching program, Decoding Your Boy Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Linda Flanagan says youth sports are out of control.And she should know.Flanagan is a former youth athlete, cross country coach, mother of a young athletes, and the author of Take Back the Game: How Money and Mania are Ruining Kids' Sports - and Why It Matters.“If your goal is to cultivate a well-adjusted, responsible child who contributes to the family, then limiting T-ball, youth soccer & it’s ilk may be wisest," she says in her book. "Western parenting customs that put the child at the center - usually with the goal of engendering happiness among the young – also fragment families and erode self-sufficiency.”That's quite a different point of view than the traditional "sports teaches kids teamwork and builds character" POV. But while sports can teach teamwork and build character, so do other activities, such as working together as a family. And youth sports in the 21st century often include significant downsides, including massive investments of time and money, over-emphasis on children's achievements, and risk of over-use injuries.In this episode, Jen, Janet, & Linda discuss:How youth sports have changed since you were a childThe high price of youth sportsHow over-emphasis on sport hurts kids, families, and communitiesPractical guidelines for integrating sports and family timeSetting boundariesHealthy sports parentingLinks we mentioned (or should have) in this episode:Take Back the Game: How Money and Mania are Ruining Youth Sports - and Why It Matters, by Linda Flanaganlindaflanaganauthor.com -- Linda's websiteCoaches Speak About Youth Sports -- ON BOYS episodeSports & Masculinity -- ON BOYS episodeHealthy Sports Parenting -- ON BOYS episodeHunt Gather Parent with Michaeleen Ducleff -- ON BOYS episodeNeed help with your boys?Subscribe to Jen’s newsletter, Building Boys BulletinJoin Janet Allison’s real-time, monthly group coaching program, Decoding Your Boy Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Want to know how to motivate boys?Toss out your outdated beliefs about boys and men, says Maggie Dent, Australia's "boy champion" and author of From Boys to Men: Guiding Our Teen Boys to Grow Into Healthy, Happy Men. "Our boys aren't these tough, unfeeling humans," she says. "They've got incredibly tender hearts, and with appropriate guidance they can grow to shine."Boys Don't Want to FailBoys don't want to disappoint their parents. Or themselves. They don't want failing grades, lost homework, and dozens of uncompleted assignments. It may seem that way -- otherwise, they'd just do their work, right? But the reality is young, tween, and teen boys are still growing; they are still developing their organization and time management skills and sometimes (Ok, often), they fall behind. Nagging and browbeating them is not helpful. ("Of course that's not going to bring out the best in our boys," Maggie says.)"We've got to be careful that we don't treat our boys harshly," Maggie says. Instead, "we really need to build understanding so we can support them and help them navigate the world." Yet in many places, shame and punishment are still the primary tools used to "motivate" boys.Motivating BoysThe neurobiological changes of male puberty can actually affect boys' motivation -- and explaining that fact to young boys may prevent some negative self-talk that could otherwise further thwart their motivation.Helping boys understand that relevance of school assignments and house rules to their lives can also increase their motivation. A boy who knows why something is important to his life (and how it will help him with things that matter to him) is more likely to follow through than a boy who doesn't understand why you want him to do something that seems absolutely irrelevant to him.Boys may also need adult assistance to break down overwhelming, seemingly insurmountable tasks into smaller bits. Instead of telling a boy with failing grades to "bring up your grades," work with him to identify one subject to focus on. Together, develop a plan to pull up his grades in that one class. Support and encourage his efforts, and celebrate his achievements. His successes will fuel his sense of competence, which will lead to increased confidence."There's nothing better for confidence and motivation than small doses of success," Maggie says.In this episode, Jen, Janet, & Maggie discuss:Why it’s essential to laugh w boysGiving boys time to growHow shame impedes boys’ motivationWhy so many boys struggle in middle school & high schoolPace of male developmentHelping boys with failing gradesResponding to boys’ “crazy plans” (Pro tip: The phrase “give it some thought” is your friend!)Empowering boys’ inner compassGaming & digital technologyThe power of positive noticingLinks we mentioned (or should have) in this episode:MaggieDent.com — Maggie’s website (LOTS of good stuff here, including a link to her podcast, Parental as Anything, and links to her courses & books)From Boys to Men: Guiding Our Teen Boys to Grow Into Healthy, Happy Men, by Maggie DentGender Equality, Boys & Men — ON BOYS conversation w Richard V. Reeves (mentioned by Maggie)Maggie Dent: What Teenage Boys Really Need — 2020 ON BOYS episodeMaggie Dent on Mothering Boys (Part 1) — ON BOYS episodeMaggie Dent on Mothering Boys (Part 2) — ON BOYS episodeunpluggedpsychologist.com — website of Brad Marshall, the “unplugged psychologist” mentioned by MaggieNeed help with your boys?Subscribe to Jen’s newsletter, Building Boys BulletinJoin Janet Allison’s real-time, monthly group coaching program, Decoding Your Boy Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Andrew Reiner says it’s essential to spend time nurturing boys’ mental health & resiliency.As a college professor, Reiner sees what happens when boys aren’t taught resiliency and don’t develop the skills they need to support mental wellness. “I started noticing a chasm between the effort that my male students was putting forward and the effort my female students were putting forward,” says Reiner, a professor in the English department at Towson University. The boys in his class were just as intelligent and capable as their female counterparts, but weren’t consistently completing assignments — or showing up to class. Many were also experiencing mental health challenges, including depression, anxiety, and burnout.Why College-Age Boys Struggle When Girls Don’tContrary to popular belief, nagging your son to complete and hand in homework (and study for tests) in middle school and high school will not necessarily prepare him for success in college. In many cases, parental pressure (& hovering) leads to chronic stress, and when parents (and teachers and society) focus more attention on academics than the development of coping skills, resiliency, and stress reduction techniques, boys may arrive at adulthood without the skills they need to protect and preserve their mental health.Because our culture expects boys and men to be strong and self-sufficient, many males lack support systems — and that’s a big part of why college-aged guys are struggling more than college-aged women.“There is positively no safety net,” Reiner says. “There is nothing.” Boys who have internalized the cultural imperative of self-sufficiency feel like they are “failing” as men when they struggle. And that sense of failure and the resulting shame makes it extremely difficult for boys to seek help and support.Build Relationships with Boys Instead of Pushing AcademicsBrowbeating boys about academics does not spur their to greater learning or achievement. Instead, in most cases, it fuels deep feelings of shame and failure, while weakening the connection between the boy and those who care about him.Shame and belittling lead to “repressed feelings of anxiety, depression, and hostility,” says Reiner, author of Better Boys, Better Men: The New Masculinity that Creates Greater Courage and Emotional Resiliency. “All it does is make boys feel like failures.”Focus instead on building and strengthening your relationship with your son. “Research says boys do better in relationships,” Reiner says. “Boys do better — and they thrive — when they are in relationships with adults who mean something do them.” Boys, he says, “want to know that they are liked and they are accepted.“We need to let them know that, regardless of their flaws, we love them and appreciate who they are becoming as young men.”In this episode, Jen, Janet, & Andrew discuss:Common mental health challenges for male college studentsHow (& why) a gap year can help college-aged menHow cultural expectations of masculinity hinder boys’ coping abilitiesThe corrosive effects of parental nagging about academicsBuilding meaningful relationships with boysTeaching boys what independence means & looks likeModeling & normalizing emotional languageLeading with empathy & curiosity instead of judgementThe 2 things boys need before they’ll open up to youWhy we must LISTEN to boysReconnecting with college-age boysFostering boys’ friendshipsLinks we mentioned (or should have) in this episode:andrewreinerauthor.com –– Andrew’s websiteCollege Crisis: Male Students are Struggling Emotionally. Here’s How to Help. – Baltimore Sun op-ed by AndrewBetter Boys, Better Men: The New Masculinity that Creates Greater Courage and Emotional Resiliency, by Andrew ReinerNeed help with your boys?Subscribe to Jen’s newsletter, Building Boys BulletinJoin Janet Allison’s real-time, monthly group coaching program, Decoding Your Boy Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Fostering gratitude in our boys can help them navigate the inevitable ups and downs of life.And despite what you may think, it is possible to foster an attitude of gratitude in apparently self-centered boys.Science has shown a strong link between kids’ developmental stages and gratitude. As children grow, they gradually learn that they are not the center of the universe, and they gradually — very gradually — learn that they must consider others’ feelings, desires, and needs as well. So, older teenagers are much more capable of feeling and expressing gratitude than younger children. In fact, according to a Harvard Health article, “gratitude is an attainment associated with emotional maturity.”In other words, your 7-year-old son is not supposed to be great at gratitude. He’s still developing the socioemotional skills that will allow him to perceive and appreciate all that others do for him.That said, there’s a lot you can do to nurture the development of gratitude in your sons.In this episode, Jen & Janet:The limits of role-modeling in teaching gratitudeHow emotional development affects gratitudeWhy boys w ADHD may struggle with gratitudeDevelopmentally appropriate expectationsGratitude’s benefitsCreating a culture of service and volunteeringDrawing kids’ attention to the many ways others hep themHow wonder & awe create appreciationConcrete steps you can take to teach boys gratitudeHow keeping a gratitude journal can help combat anxiety and depressionLinks we mentioned (or should have) in this episode:Teaching Boys Social Skills — ON BOYS episode featuring ADHD expert Ryan WexelblattParenting Boys with Maggie Dent (Part 1) — ON BOYS episode featuring Australia’s “boy champion”In Praise of Gratitude — Harvard Health articleSeven Ways to Foster Gratitude in Kids — Greater Good magazine articleNeed help with your boys?Subscribe to Jen’s newsletter, Building Boys BulletinJoin Janet Allison’s real-time, monthly group coaching program, Decoding Your Boy Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Parenting teenage boys is a challenge. And an opportunity.In some ways, says child and adolescent psychologist Lee Bare, parenting a teenage boy is like parenting a newborn. “You have to be prepared for anything and you never know what kind of mood they’re going to wake up in,” says Lee, who is also the mother of three teenage sons. The angst and worry that parents experience during the boys’ teenage years also recalls the frantic worries and sleepless nights of the newborn stage.Just as in parenting newborns, it can be helpful to put some of your own expectations to the side and focus instead of meeting your son “where he is,” Lee says.Dealing with Adolescent SeparationIt is completely normal for teen boys to pull way from their parents. Your son may not talk to you (or want to hang out with you) as much when he’s a teen as he did when he’s younger. That’s OK and developmentally appropriate.It’s also OK for parents to grieve the loss of closeness with their sons. But instead of focusing your energy on what you’ve lost, concentrate on the kind of relationship you’d like to have with your son when he’s older. Work on building that relationship. “I want them to want to spend time with me when they’re adults,” Lee says. (Pro tip: Nagging your son about the time he spends with his friends or alone in his room won’t likely lead to that desired result.)Adapting Your Parenting for Teenage BoysYour parenting has to evolve and grow as your boys do. When your son starts pushing back on things like bedtime and curfew, it may be time to revisit (and renegotiate) your expectations. Boys crave more control over their lives as they get older, and they need opportunities to manage their own time and make independent choices (and mistakes).During your boys’ teen years, you can adapt traditional parenting practices to your family’s needs. You may not be able to have dinner together every night — or even most nights. “We have kind of an open, revolving door dinner,” Lee says. “Dinner is ready and then people kind of rotate in and out.” Where and what you eat doesn’t matter; what’s powerful about “family dinner” is communication, and you can maintain communication in all sorts of non-traditional ways.When you are concerned about your son’s behavior, ask yourself if it’s a big deal in the bigger picture. (Long term, does it really matter if he doesn’t turn in his math homework?) “Look at what’s important for your family to place value on, and what’s OK to let go,” Lee says, “because you don’t have time to respond to every single thing.”It’s also helpful to try to put yourself in your son’s shoes. Think about what matters to him, what he likes, and what makes him feel safe and loved. (Hint: it might not be a big hug or kiss from mom)“Teenage boys want connection,” Lee says. “They just don’t necessarily connect the same way we do.”In this episode, Jen, Janet, & Lee discuss:How parenting teenage boys is like parenting a newbornDealing with adolescent separationFinding time for family dinners when your boys have busy extra curricular schedulesMaintaining connection with teen boysDifferentiating normal vs. “not normal” (or concerning) teen boy behavior (Hint: look at past behavior)Letting goTeen boys & schoolSupporting parents of teensCoping with our feelings of isolation and shame when our boys do something dumb or damagingBoys who “don’t want to do anything”Helping teen boys navigate friendshipsHow to support teenage boysSelf-care for parents of teensAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dads matter. Men matter. To become their best, boys need involved dads and male teachers, coaches, & mentors. But when Marion Hill began working in early childhood education in Phoenix, he “noticed there weren’t a lot of fathers around,” he says. Recognizing dads’ importance to kids’ social, emotional, and cognitive development, Marion devoted his effort to engaging dads. He co-founded of M.A.N. C.A.V.E (Men All Need to be Caring Actively-Engaged, and Encouraged), a fatherhood program designed to encourage fathers/male role models to be actively engaged in their child’s growth and development through training, monthly meetings and father-child activities. “When fathers are involved, children are more successful in school and life,” Marion says. “When fathers are not engaged, we see a 269% increase in the likelihood of a child being arrested for drug dealing or firearms possession, and the child is twice as likely to drop out of high school and seven times more likely to become a parent as a teen.” To thrive, children need both paternal nurturance and maternal nurturance. Paternal nurturance is “all about doing,” Marion says. Maternal nurturance is about empathy and interpersonal relations. Moms and dads “do things differently and it benefits the child,” he says. Most men want to be involved parents. But they need to be invited in by educational institutions, healthcare providers, and other parents. Bringing fathers into schools and healthcare settings would help kids, parents, teachers, and healthcare providers – and show boys (and girls) that males have a role to play in education, health, and childcare.“We need to get rid of this perception that there is no use for fathers,” Marion says. Each of us has a role to play in supporting father involvement.In this episode, Jen, Janet, & Marion discuss:Benefits of father involvementFinding father figures or male mentorsDad-style parentingDifferences between paternal nurturance and maternal nurturanceObstacles to father involvementInviting & supporting dad engagementEncouraging boys & men to consider nurturing professionsUnconscious bias that affects father involvementLinks we mentioned (or should have) in this episode:M.A.N C.A.V.E Fatherhood ProgramMichael Gurian on Raising Boys – ON BOYS episodeDads, Boys, & Masculinity – ON BOYS episodeGender Equality, Boys and Men – ON BOYS episode featuring Richard V. ReevesNeed help with your boys?Subscribe to Jen’s newsletter, Building Boys BulletinJoin Janet Allison’s real-time, monthly group coaching program, Decoding Your Boy  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Reading and literacy are important life skills. But many boys struggle with reading and writing -- and resist parents' and teachers' well-intended efforts to help them.Lots of boys are reluctant readers.Many hate writing.Teaching boys to read Middle School literacy instructional coach Todd Feltman says, "reading has to be taught in increments," especially for young boys who typically come into schools with a developmentally appropriate preference for play and movement.Boys, he says, "shouldn't be forced to learn how to read. It should be a gradual process" that started with phonemic awareness and includes frequent exposure to high interest, culturally relevant books that align with boys' pre-existing interests.To help middle school boys, teachers and parents must first understand boys' lived experience, including their previous experiences with reading and writing. "We have to help find reading material that will interest our boys - and model what pleasurable reading looks like," Feltman says.Audiobooks and podcasts can also support boys' literacy development. "Audiobooks and podcasts are wonderful because they give boys a chance to visualize," Feltman says. "They can also help boys develop fluency." (Another plus: Boys can be active while developing their vocabulary & comprehension skills!)Also helpful: book clubs for boys. (Wanna know more? Check out How & Why to Start a Boys' Book Club.)Supporting boys as they learn to read will also aid in the development of boys' writing skills. "Weak readers tend to be weak writers," Feltman says. Letting boys draw and discuss their ideas before asking (or requiring) them to write a story or report is helpful. You can also encourage boys to use to voice-to-text apps to dictate stories if handwriting or keyboarding is difficult for them.With minimal effort, you can build boys reading and literacy skills AND have fun.In this episode, Jen, Janet, & Todd discuss:Whether expecting 5 and 6-yr old boys to read is developmentally appropriateReading as a multi-faceted experienceThe role of role-modeling in literacy developmentHow parents can build boys' literacy skills while buffering school expectationsIncorporating movement & literacyUsing audiobooks, podcasts, & book clubs to support boys' literacy developmentSupporting boys' writing developmentEasy ways to build boys reading and literacy skillsHow to find boy-friendly booksThe value of family reading timeLinks we mentioned (or should have) in this episode:toddfeltman.com -- Todd's websiteHow (& Why) to Start a Boys' Book Club -- ON BOYS episodeSecret Saturdays, by Torrey Maldonado -- great book for boys, recommended by Todd at 16:18Diper Overlode (Diary of a Wimpy Kid Book 17), by Jeff Kinney -- great book for boys, recommended by Todd at 16:58The Invention of Hugo Cabret, by Brian Selznick -- great (big!) book for reluctant readers (includes lots of engaging illustrations)Wonder, by R.J. Palacio -- another great book for boysWhite Bird, by R.J Palacio -- graphic novel that's great for boysPony -- another excellent R.J. Palacio bookMore books boys like to read -- list compiled by ToddGuysRead.com -- great site for finding boy-friendly literatureLeVar Burton Reads -- podcast featuring the original host of Reading Rainbow - now reading stories for adults!Mentoring My Elementary- and Middle-School Students to Become Powerful Navigators of Success, by Todd FeltmanNeed help with your boys? Subscribe to Jen’s newsletter, Building Boys BulletinJoin Janet Allison’s real-time, monthly group coaching program, Decoding Your Boy Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What does Janet's 8-month-old grandson have in common with a bunch of guys throwing darts at each other in a dark basement? A fascination with objects moving through space -- a nearly universal male tendency that Janet is witnessing in real-time as her grandson delights in pushing, pulling, and moving objects that are bigger than he is.You can learn so much about boys by simply observing them.It's not always easy to take (or make) time to do so -- especially when you're in the thick of parenting -- but those moments of observation help you understand the boy in front of you. They help you connect, and may even help calm your overwhelmed brain. Parenting (& child development) unfolds over time. "None of this happens over a moment or in a day," Jen says. You don't have to address every problem or issue immediately. Sometimes, Jen says, "the best thing you can do is go to bed." The problem will still be there in the morning, and you'll likely have a bit more energy and perspective.Remember that your son's actions are not a reflection of your parenting skills.Being a "good parent" doesn't mean that your son will never misbehave or make ill-advised choices. It means consistently loving, supporting, and nurturing your son through it all.In this episode, Jen & Janet discuss:GrandparentingBoys' interest in movementSurviving parentingResisting consumer culturePatience & parentingWhat educators don't know about boysJen & Janet's recent adventuresLinks we mentioned (or should have) in this episode:Michael Gurian on Raising Boys -- ON BOYS episodeParenting, Privilege, & Building a Just World -- ON BOYS episode featuring Sarah JaffeHolding the Calm with Hesha Abrams -- ON BOYS episode (mentioned at 18:37)Gender Equality, Boys, & Men -- ON BOYS episode featuring Richard V. ReevesBuilding Boys: Raising Great Guys in a World that Misunderstands Males -- Jen's 2nd book! Need help with your boys? Subscribe to Jen’s newsletter, Building Boys Bulletin andJoin Janet Allison’s real-time, monthly group coaching program, Decoding Your Boy: Less Yelling, More Connecting Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Why do boys....? Bringing up boys brings up all kinds of questions! Jen & Janet have answers. Photo by Pixabay Tamara asks: Why do boys communicate through physical touch/aggression and use sarcasm for communication rather than regular conversation? Katrina worries that her son may be alienating himself from his friends -- and missing out on social opportunities -- because he's so dedicated to his sport. She says: I'm afraid he's distancing himself from his friends and will one day find himself without them. How do I bring it up without seeming like a nag?? Elena wants help answering her son's question: My older son complained that, “all the girls wear ‘girl power’ shirts… why don’t they have ‘boy power’-type shirts?” and says: My son wants to feel powerful and able to say it without being considered a pompous ass. But… how? Are there any “boy power” slogans and tees that don’t undermine others or make him look like our family doesn’t respect the accomplishments of all types of people?? Jessy asks: Will raising a strong-willed boy be too challenging for elder and sick parents to handle when he reaches teenage age? In this episode, Jen & Janet discuss: Boy communication Sarcasm vs. disrespect Roughhousing & aggression Whether parents should push boys to socialize Helping boys navigate girl power Raising strong-willed boys Parenting when you're not physically or emotionally well Intergenerational friendships Asking for help Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode: Teacher Tom Talks About Boys, Emotion, & Play -- ON BOYS episode (mentioned at 14:37) The Art of Roughhousing (w Dr. Lawrence Cohen) -- ON BOYS episode (mentioned at 15:48) Boys Get Eating Disorders Too -- ON BOYS episode featuring Oona Hanson (mentioned at 20:56) Helping Boys Develop Healthy Body Image -- ON BOYS episode Gender Equality, Boys, & Men -- ON BOYS episode featuring Richard V. Reeves (mentioned at 25:34) This Boy Can Tshirts -- super awesome shirts that'll make boys feel great! My Boy Can with Sassy Harvey -- ON BOYS podcast (mentioned at 30:03) Parenting Through Health Challenges -- ON BOYS podcast featuring Jen Singer (mentioned at 33:31) Need help with your boys? Subscribe to Jen’s newsletter, Building Boys Bulletin Join Janet Allison’s real-time, monthly group coaching program, Decoding Your Boy Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy