Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Time is everything. In fact, it’s one of the most valuable things you have to give to the people around you…because it’s the only thing you can never get back. The past two episodes, we’ve been talking about how we protect our marriage. We started with talking about our emotions in episode 264, our interactions in episode 265, and today we’re talking about our time. Time is your most valuable commodity. But with the lures of social media, iPhones in every pocket, a dozen texts and emails to answer, and a stream of Netflix at your fingertips, it’s easy for your time to get away from you. But if you’re not careful, you can find that your time is going to the inanimate – instead of the intimate. TIME MATTERS One of the survey results I write about in Choosing Marriage, has to do with the amount of married people who report spending their time on separate hobbies and interests. There’s a lot of time getting lost on things that don’t really matter, and it’s having serious impact on our marriages. In this episode, we talk through some of the things we do in our marriage and how we prioritize our time for one another, because if you’re not intentional – it just won’t happen. Tune in now for today’s discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY – iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Boundaries with the opposite sex may not be something we’re comfortable talking about, but it’s a necessary conversation. It’s easy to say we should have boundaries in a marriage, but then actually talking through the specifics of what those boundaries look like is something most couples don’t actually sit down to do. A few years ago in the media, a political leader who talked about his boundaries with the opposite sex sparked a fury of heated conversations around the country. In fact, an article about this very topic on my blog sparked some additional controversy as well. It’s clear this is a topic people don’t always agree on. So what’s too much when it comes to boundaries, and what is not enough? Boundaries With the Opposite Sex What does it practically look like to protect your marriage by setting boundaries, specifically with your interactions with the opposite sex? Last week on the Love + Relationships Podcast we talked through the boundaries we set with our emotions, and today on the podcast we’re talking through the boundaries we set up with our interactions. The conversation you’re about to hear is about the things WE have chosen to do for our marriage. You may agree with some of it, and you may not…but let’s start by having the conversation, and getting comfortable talking through it. Tune in now for today’s discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY – iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: 5 Differences That Cause Stress in Marriage BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you protect your marriage?  What do you and your husband do to keep your marriage strong? What’s your secret sauce to marriage? Are there things you do to keep connected in your marriage?  Today on the podcast, we’re starting a new Marriage Series by discussing a topic that’s close to our hearts: How to PROTECT your marriage. PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE Specifically, we’re talking about the three intruders that are known to get in the way of a healthy marriage. These intruders are quiet, and sly, and sneaky – but if you aren’t careful, you’ll find them starting to creep in and separate your hearts and your lives from one another. Join John and me, and get a front-row look into our relationship and the things we do to be DELIBERATE and INTENTIONAL about protecting our love and drawing closer to one another. Tune in now for today’s discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY – iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: 5 Differences That Cause Stress in Marriage BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: In today’s episode, we’re addressing a question that was sent in by one of our listeners. The listener is seeking advice on how to maintain a positive perspective despite the difficulties they’re experiencing. To help us answer this question, we are excited to welcome Bewindi Jackson, LCSW, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, on today’s episode of our “Ask a Counselor” podcast series. Bewindi offers Christ-Centered counseling through cognitive behavioral therapy, solution-focused therapy, and motivational interviewing techniques to help individuals achieve positive change. Tune in now for today’s discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY – iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  BEWINDI JACKSON, LCSW– Bewindi Jackson is a licensed clinical social worker and is a part of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. Bewindi offers Christ-centered counseling through cognitive behavioral therapy, solution-focused therapy, and motivational interviewing techniques to help individuals achieve positive change. Book a session with Bewindi today! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: Today, we’re tackling a question from a listener who acknowledges that they have negative beliefs about themselves that come from childhood and is asking where to go from that. To help us answer this question, we are excited to welcome Larinda Horton, M.A., LPC, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, on today’s episode of our “Ask a Counselor” podcast series. Larinda is a licensed professional counselor with over ten years of experience in therapy and 20+ years in ministry.  Tune in now for today’s discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY – iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  LARINDA HORTON, M.A., LPC– Larinda Horton, is a licensed professional counselor with over ten years of experience in therapy and 20+ years in ministry. She is a woman who loves Jesus and out of this love desires to help bring a sense of hope and freedom to all she works with. A passionate therapist, mentor, and speaker Larinda enjoys combining her passions for mental health and ministry as an invitation into a deeper relationship with Jesus while developing healthier mindsets. She has an extensive history in providing therapy for all age groups and working with multiple diagnoses, providing spiritual guidance and mentorship, and providing teaching on mental health and spiritual topics. Her education includes a B.A. in Bible and Leadership Education, M.A. in Professional Counseling, and two years of courses towards a Ph.D. in Professional Counseling. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: Today, we’re tackling a question from a couple who is struggling with constant conflict and seeking guidance on how to navigate this season in their relationship. To help us answer this question, we are excited to welcome Allison Fisher, M.A., LPC, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, on today’s episode of our “Ask a Counselor” podcast series. Allison Fisher is a licensed professional counselor with over a decade of experience in the counseling field and nearly two decades of experience in ministry. Tune in now for today’s discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY – iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  ALLISON FISHER, M.A., LPC – Allison’s areas of specialty are marriage and family relationships, trauma, depression and anxiety, grief and loss, and spiritual hurt. She utilizes practical and evidence-based clinical interventions integrated with a Christ-centered perspective in her counseling approach. Allison holds a M.A. in Professional Counseling from Liberty University. She and her husband have been married for 23 years, and live in Alabama, where they have raised their two sons. Her family has recently gained a daughter, through their oldest son’s marriage. She is currently navigating life with her husband and their adult children. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: Today, we’re tackling a question from a listener who wants to establish healthy boundaries around unhealthy people in their life. We are excited to welcome Danielle Day, MSSW, LCSW, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, to help us answer this question on today’s episode of our “Ask a Counselor” podcast series. Dani is a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), and has a Master’s of Science in Social Work (MSSW) from Abilene Christian University. She also dually majored in counseling and criminal justice in her undergraduate school, Grace College and Theological Seminary.  Tune in now for today’s discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY – iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DANIELLE DAY, MSSW, LCSW – Dani is passionate about helping you gain the skills and knowledge you need to get unstuck. Some of the areas that Dani helps individuals address include boundaries, core beliefs, communication, healthy ways to manage emotions, overseas living, forgiveness and more. Dani is a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), and has a Master’s of Science in Social Work (MSSW) from Abilene Christian University. She also dually majored in counseling and criminal justice in her undergraduate school, Grace College and Theological Seminary. She has experience working in a wide variety of settings, but most recently has been worked with women requesting Bible-based Christian counseling.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: Today, we’re answering a question from a listener who asks if there is really one person out there for you to marry. In this episode, we are talking about The Myth of The One. We are thrilled to welcome John Perez, LMFT, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, to help us answer this question on today’s episode of our “Ask a Counselor” podcast series. John has been providing counseling for over 12 years. He is working with individuals and couples to foster change and heal past wounds. John has a bachelor’s degree in pastoral counseling and a master’s degree in marriage and family therapy from a Christian seminary. Tune in now for today’s discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY – iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  JOHN PEREZ, LMFT – If you are looking to change and help heal past wounds. You found the right person to join you in your healing journey. You can expect to feel heard and supported. John has been providing counseling for over 12 years. Working with individuals and couples to foster change and heal past wounds. John has his bachelors degree in pastoral counseling and his masters degree in marriage and family therapy from a Christian seminary. John invites the Holy Spirit to his counseling work and uses an integrative approach from different psychology models. John is bilingual (Spanish/English) DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: Today, we’re answering a question from a listener who asks how they can do a better job decluttering their home so that they can best take care of their mental health. To best answer that question, we are being joined by Julie Lundy, EdS, NCC, LPC, a counselor from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network, for today’s episode of our podcast series, “Ask a Counselor”. Julie encourages her clients to adopt an attitude of openness and curiosity toward their experience and spiritual journey with the aim of helping to develop greater self-compassion and self-acceptance. Both of which are important for emotional health and life satisfaction. Tune in now for today’s discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY – iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  JULIE LUNDY is a Licensed Professional Counselor who focuses on helping build an authentic, trusting, and connected relationship with her clients as they work toward their coaching goals. She encourages clients to adopt an attitude of openness and curiosity toward their experience and spiritual journey with the aim of helping to develop greater self-compassion and self-acceptance. Both of which are important for emotional health and life satisfaction. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: Today, we’re answering a question from a listener that brings up another wonderful question! Our caller today is interested in learning more about The Imposter Syndrome. She’s curious to know what it is, what it means for her, and how to define it. To best answer that question, we are being joined by Lesly Moreno, LCAT, ATR-BC, a counselor from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network, for today’s episode of our podcast series, “Ask a Counselor”. Lesly Moreno is a bilingual (Spanish/English) creative arts therapist. She is passionate about providing clients psychoeducation about mental health and is honored to create a safe space for others to process life’s demands, stressors, and trauma. Tune in now for today’s discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY – iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  Lesly Moreno, LCAT, ATR-BC  is a bilingual (Spanish/English) creative arts therapist. She is passionate about providing clients psychoeducation about mental health, and honored to create a safe space for others to process life’s demands, stressors, trauma and even celebrate milestones. She is also passionate about trauma informed care. Her strengths as a therapist include being an active listener, providing unconditional positive care, empathy, compassion, gentleness, resourcefulness. She loves to guide and lead orders to help them discover who God has created them to be and be their encouragement as they achieve their social emotional health goals. As a first generational Hispanic professional, she has a keen interest in advocating for migrant families and helping them navigate life transitions in a new world. Lesly believes in the power of a safe space that helps cultivate healthy singles in order for our communities to have healthy families, which lead to healthy churches and a healthy world. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices