Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Healthy people = healthy relationships. And getting healthy is what today’s episode is all about. If you’ve been following TrueLoveDates.com, my Instagram or Facebook page, or my podcast for any amount of time, you’ve likely heard this coin phrase time and time again. If you want healthy relationships this year, you’ve got to start by becoming healthy standing alone. Today on the podcast, I’ve got my new friend, Destiny’s Child’s very own Michelle Williams, sharing her deeply authentic story of her personal struggle with mental health, finally hitting bottom and checking herself into a hospital– and her journey to becoming healthy from the inside out. Getting Healthy This episode will challenge you to really take inventory of how healthy you are, and how it’s reflected in your closest relationships. We’ll also talk about practical steps to get healthy. Speaking of getting healthy, this is the perfect episode to introduce you to my upcoming brand new book, “Are You Really OK?“. I mention it in today’s episode, and I wanted to give you a chance to pre-order your copy today!!! My heart for this book is to guide YOU on your own journey of getting healthy – emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and physically. I can’t wait until it’s officially released!! Tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below, and leave us your rating and review! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PODCASTS –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsor: Start the New Year by getting healthy!!! Get matched with a licensed counselor who is also a believer in 24 hours, and start your online counseling experience today: https://getfaithful.com/debra Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Some singles are just going for it. They’re living their life. They’re not waiting around to get married before they start doing the things God has put on their hearts… Bethany is one of those singles who is living her life. Her life and story are not only encouraging, but inspiring. She’s adopted 3 children, and is currently fostering a little infant…and her life tells a story of trusting God with her desires for marriage, and living her life in the meantime. I loved my conversation with her, and I know you will too!! Don’t let singleness stop you from living your life. Tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below, and leave us your rating and review! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PODCASTS –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsor: WHAT IF 21 DAYS COULD CHANGE YOUR RELATIONSHIP STATUS? REGISTER FOR 21 DAYS TO JUMPSTART YOUR LOVE LIFE (USE CODE LOVE TO RECEIVE YOUR 20% DISCOUNT!) Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: What do you do when you he breaks up with you by text? A: Friends, we are about to dive deep into the break up text. Today’s caller got dumped by text, and I have a whole lot to say about it. The social media culture is changing a lot about how we do relationships, but some things just shouldn’t be okay. And this is one of them, in my book. If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of a break up text, or maybe you were the one to send the break up text…here’s what you need to know. How Do You Respond To the Break Up Text? You don’t want to miss this one…tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below, and leave us your rating and review! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsor: Begin the journey of healing today, by getting matched up to a professional counselor http://getfaithful.com/debra (use this link for 20% off your first month!) Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered how porn impacts relationships? Porn has become a widespread epidemic in our culture today. And it’s reaping havoc on relationships. It messes with your heart, alters your brain brain, and changes how you see the world around you. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Today, I can’t even tell you how thrilled I am to have Jonathan Pokluda join me to discuss his personal journey: from PORN ADDICT to PASTOR….from being enslaved to a sex and porn addiction, to walking in freedom. Today’s episode is a deep-dive into pornography use, sexual addictions, and why there’s so much hope for gaining freedom in this area of your life. Porn impacts relationships in a remarkable way, but it doesn’t have to be this way. Porn Impacts Relationships In today’s episode, we’ll cover: The details of JP’s story, how deeply immersed he was in porn, and why becoming a Christian didn’t fix his addiction. How porn impacts relationships. What porn does to your brain and how you view others. Why you’ve probably tried and failed to break free. Steps to breaking free from porn for good. And so much more! I loved this episode so much, I pushed it to the very top of our release schedule! You don’t want to miss this one…tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below, and leave us your rating and review! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsor: Begin the journey of healing today, by getting matched up to a professional counselor http://getfaithful.com/debra (use this link for 20% off your first month!) Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

2020 has brought a lot of hard things…it’s increased pressure and conflict in relationships.  Today’s caller wants to know what do you do when you find yourself plunged into the season of FALL in a relationship? Fall is the season of conflict and communication – and it seems a lot of people are jumping right into it with all the stress and pressure this year has brought. Conflict in Relationships In this episode we cover: What happens when you feel like you’re all of a sudden navigating conflict in a relationship that wasn’t there before? How to see conflict as a positive part of the relationship. What are the signs that you’re in FALL in a relationship? What does it look like to “do the work” of the season of fall? Recognizing passivity in my conflict style. Recognizing past triggers vs. present problems. And so much more! So tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below, and leave us your rating and review! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsor: ISSUU.com/podcast Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we’re answering all your relationship questions in Part 2 of Q&A with Debra Fileta and Chad Johnson! A few weeks ago on my Instagram Page @TrueLoveDates (let’s be IG friends!!!), I asked you to submit any relationship questions you had for us to tackle in a rapid-response Q&A session. SO MANY GOOD QUESTIONS came in! My friend, and one of your favorite co-hosts, Chad Johnson is joining me for Part 2 to answer more of your AMAZING relationship questions from a his/her perspective!  So tune in for Part 2 of the Q&A episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! You might even hear YOUR question answered!!! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsor: Start praying for your future husband. Visit https://www.smaywilsonshop.com/ to get your copy of the Every Single Moment journal, and use code TRUELOVEDATES for 20% off your order.  Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we’re answering all your relationship questions! A few weeks ago on my Instagram Page @TrueLoveDates (let’s be IG friends!!!), I asked you to submit any relationship questions you had for us to tackle in a rapid-response Q&A session. My friend, and one of your favorite co-hosts, Chad Johnson is joining me today to answer your relationship questions from a his/her perspective!  So tune in for Part 1 of the Rapid Response Q&A episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! You might even hear YOUR question answered!!! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsor: Get started on your journey of healing with a licensed counselor, who is also a believer in Christ!! Online counseling from the comfort of your home! Get matched with a counselor by clicking https://getfaithful.com/debra Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s caller is waiting for sex and proud of it. The only problem: she wants to know WHEN to share that fact that she’s waiting for sex with the person she’s dating. Especially with today’s trend of online dating. Do you come out and tell them you’re waiting for sex on the very first date, or do you ease into it? And that’s exactly what we’re covering on the podcast today! So let’s just cut to the chase and talk through this. Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsor: ISSUU.com/podcast Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Am I too picky? Today’s caller is wondering if she’s too picky, or if she just has high standards? How can you tell the difference, especially when people are making comments that….maybe….you’re too picky. I invited my friend, Pastor Ben Stuart author of Single, Dating, Engaged, Married, to join me as a co-host for today’s episode as we talk through the difference between having high standards, and being too picky. Am I Too Picky? In today’s episode we cover: How do I know if I’m being too picky? What non-negotiables should I have on my list? What are the difference between needs and preferences? Majors and minors? What, if anything, does scripture tell us is criteria for a relationship? Are dating apps messing with our heads when it comes to choosing a relationship? Where does attraction fall into this? And so much more! Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsor: upperroom.org/welcome  Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When should you say I love you? Today’s caller was curious when is an appropriate time to tell someone you love them when you’ve been in a dating relationship. I know a lot of you have wondered the same thing, and questions in my inbox to prove it! So today we’re tackling this important question!!! We’re talking through some of the parameters behind When You Should Say I Love You, in today’s episode!  Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsors: upperroom.org/welcome and ISSUU.com/podcast Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices