Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Today’s question comes from a young man who has too many women in his life — what?! Talk about a problem. He’s got more female friends than male friends….maybe some of you can relate? Maybe you have more opposite sex friendships vs. same sex friendships. He’s wondering if the amount of ladies he’s friends with might end up causing a problem in the end, because none of them seem to fit the pattern of the type of woman he wants to marry.  We also take some time to explore family of origin issues, and how that might be at play with your comfort level or lack there of with the opposite sex – so this conversation is an interesting one! Opposite Sex Friendships If you’ve ever wondered if maybe your comfort or LACK of comfort with opposite sex friendships is rooted in something deeper — than this episode is for you! Don’t miss this new episode! Subscribe on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts, and then tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationship Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PODCASTS –  iHEART RADIO Debra’s New Book COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: Loving after hurt…is it even possible? How do you love again after you’ve been really hurt? Today’s caller wants to know how he can open his heart to love again after he’s been hurt in a past relationship. You may be wondering the same thing. Maybe you’re dealing with some residual wounds from a past relationship that let you down, blind-sided you, or broke your heart. How do you open your heart to love again? We’re going to give you some practical steps on loving after hurt. Today, my friend- pastor Adam Weber – joins me to discuss what it means to love and trust again after you’ve been jaded and disappointed in a friendship or in a relationship. Loving After Hurt Don’t miss this new episode! Subscribe on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts, and then tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationship Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PODCASTS –  iHEART RADIO Debra’s New Book COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When it comes to sharing about your past relationships…how much is too much? Today’s question comes from Kristen from Indiana, who wants to know: what is important, or even healthy to share, with a boyfriend/girlfriend or fiancé about your past relationship? I start off by putting the answer to sharing about your past into two different categories, because I think what you share with a boyfriend or girlfriend is going to look different than a fiancé. “The level of sharing in a relationship has to coincide with the level of trust.” Don’t miss this new episode! Subscribe on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts, and then tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationship Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PODCASTS –  iHEART RADIO Connect with our sponsor: https://curtsyapp.com/ BOOKS BY DEBRA Debra’s New Book COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sexting, Sex Appeal, and The hook up culture. In a culture where women are praised for flaunting their bodies — as women (and men!), how do we balance caring about our appearance, but not catering to a culture that focuses SO much on physical looks and sex appeal?  Today’s question comes from Maggie from Pennsylvania…and it sparks an entire conversation about sex appeal, sexting, the hook up culture, and so much more.  How to handle sexting? What do you do when he/she starts sexting or asking for/sending sexy pictures? What do you say when the conversation starts to get more heated than you’re comfortable with?  What happens when your physical boundaries start getting crossed in a relationship?  Today we’re covering sexting, sex appeal, and ALL things hook up culture and I’m thrilled to be tag-teaming this question with Kristen Clark from Girl Defined!  Don’t miss this new episode! Subscribe on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts, and then tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationship Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PODCASTS –  iHEART RADIO Connect with our sponsor: shesbirdie.com/love BOOKS BY DEBRA Debra’s New Book COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today!   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you avoid Valentines Day Disappointment? You know, that terrible let down feeling when the day just doesn’t go how you hoped it would to go? It doesn’t matter if you’re single, dating, or married — because we’re all susceptible to disappointment when that day rolls around. People approach Valentines Day with a range of love/hate feelings for this occasion to celebrate love.  How To Avoid Valentines Day Disappointment (Don’t Do What I DID!!) In today’s episode, I want to talk to you about three ways you can avoid Valentines Day disappointment whether you’re single, dating, or married. I promise you, these tips are going to help and encourage you to make the absolute most of this week! I’m starting the episode with telling you about my WORST Valentines Day ever, and how I did the exact opposite of the advice I’m about to give you today about Valentines Day disappointment. You live and learn! I can’t wait to share this episode with you, and I hope it encourages and instills you with new perspective as you approach Valentines Day this week. PS. ATTENTION ALL SINGLES OUT THERE…I want to invite you to join us February 26th for Singles Night Out!!! Click here or the photo below for details…we only have a few tickets left, so register today! A practical way to avoid Valentines Day disappointment! Subscribe on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts, and then tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationship Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PODCASTS –  iHEART RADIO Connect with our sponsor: Start the New Year by getting healthy!!! Get matched with a licensed counselor who is also a believer in 24 hours, and start your online counseling experience today: https://getfaithful.com/debra Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY BOOKS BY DEBRA Debra’s New Book COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s caller is asking a question about long distance relationships. She’s trying to get to know her boyfriend, who lives across the country, and she’s wondering how much is too much when it comes to getting to know one another, specifically — spending time on the phone talking. Her boyfriend’s roommates seem to think they talk “too much” — and she’s not so sure. So who is right in this situation? And how do you gauge it? Long Distance Relationships Check out today’s conversation about long distance relationships and how much is too much when it comes to spending time talking and getting to know one another! Tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below, and leave us your rating and review! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PODCASTS –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsor: Start the New Year by getting healthy!!! Get matched with a licensed counselor who is also a believer in 24 hours, and start your online counseling experience today: https://getfaithful.com/debra Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY BOOKS BY DEBRA Debra’s New Book COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you recognize a toxic relationship? What do you do if you find yourself in one? What does it look like if you’re dating someone toxic? What about if you’re married to someone toxic? Today, I talk with Chrystal Hurst Evans about how to identify a toxic relationship, as well as steps to take to move yourself away from them. Whether single, married, dating, or somewhere in between — there’s a lesson for you in this episode! Tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below, and leave us your rating and review! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PODCASTS –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsor: Start the New Year by getting healthy!!! Get matched with a licensed counselor who is also a believer in 24 hours, and start your online counseling experience today: https://getfaithful.com/debra Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY BOOKS BY DEBRA Debra’s New Book COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you turn someone down in a respectful way?  Today’s listener wants to know how to say “no thanks, I’m not interested” – in a way that speaks kindness and respect. We’re talking through some healthy and appropriate ways to turn someone down — as well as some things NOT TO DO or say in today’s episode of the podcast. Tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below, and leave us your rating and review! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PODCASTS –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsor: Start the New Year by getting healthy!!! Get matched with a licensed counselor who is also a believer in 24 hours, and start your online counseling experience today: https://getfaithful.com/debra Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life, Are You Really OK?: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters (2021). COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Long distance relationships can be hard to navigate because you don’t always get an up close look at the relationship. So, what are some long distance red flags to look for when you’re in a long distance relationship? We’re digging into this listener’s question today on the podcast! Tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below, and leave us your rating and review! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PODCASTS –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsor: Start the New Year by getting healthy!!! Get matched with a licensed counselor who is also a believer in 24 hours, and start your online counseling experience today: https://getfaithful.com/debra Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life, Are You Really OK?: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters (2021). COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Spiritual intimacy in a dating relationship is something that often gets overlooked.  We set boundaries with regard to our physical connection — but what about our spiritual connection? Today’s caller wants to know what it looks like to have healthy boundaries in spiritual intimacy with regard to praying, doing devotions, and having spiritual conversations. Tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below, and leave us your rating and review! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PODCASTS –  iHEART RADIO Connect with today’s sponsor: Start the New Year by getting healthy!!! Get matched with a licensed counselor who is also a believer in 24 hours, and start your online counseling experience today: https://getfaithful.com/debra Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life, Are You Really OK?: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters (2021). COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices