Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Q: How do you deal with trust issues, when they seem to come up again and again? In today’s show, I talk to Latoya, who finds herself struggling with trust issues with her soon-to-be-husband. Little by little, we find out how her past is influencing the feelings she’s having, and I give her practical steps to help her overcome the grip that the past is having on her life. If you’ve ever struggled with issues from your past having an impact on your present relationships – then this episode is for you. We talk through these trust issues today, and how to identify if the problem is coming from within you — or if the problem points to something happening in the relationship. Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Imperfect Foods Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“I never imagined I’d be single in my 30’s”… Today’s caller is looking for some encouragement and trying to assess whether or not she should continue to hold on to hope when she finds herself single in her late 30s — something she never imagined. What does it look like to hold on to hope when life’s timeline doesn’t look like what you expected? No matter what age you are, I believe this favorite episode is going to encourage you to take the next steps. Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Everlywell, ABIDE, and Olive + June Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: Hey Debra, you always say that what you believe about yourself determines the kind of relationships you believe you deserve…how do I help my kids begin to establish a healthy identity? So much of our identity is formed and shaped in our childhood years — and what we do, and say, and teach as parents matters. How do you begin to help your kids see themselves as God sees them? Fight off the cultural lies? Feel confident in who they are? Build a healthy identity? Today, my good friend and amazing podcaster, Jamie Ivey — joins me for this important conversation. Jamie is a mother of four amazing kids, in the thick of their teen years. I loved chatting with her about this concept, and even if you don’t have kids, I think this important conversation will get you thinking about your own childhood and the things that shaped your healthy identity along the way. Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: ZocDoc & Trade Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: What is your best advice for a couple considering marriage? Marriage is a big decision. I think we can all agree to that. But what sets apart marriages that succeed from marriages that don’t?  Today, I’m joined by Pastor Cal, one of the spiritual advisors and coaches from the reality TV show called Married At First Sight. On this show, they literally match up two potential candidates for marriage based on a series of psychological tests — and then they meet and marry on their wedding day.  Let me just say, it’s a crazy premise – but if nothing else, it’s a fascinating look into some of the stages of a relationship: the honeymoon stage, followed by conflict and tension, followed by learning resolution, forgiveness, and reconciliation.  Today, we talk a little bit about the show, and then dive into some key areas that make a marriage work, and things to be on the lookout for as you’re considering marriage! Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Girlfriend Collective & Nutrafol Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: How can singles restore a healthy view of sex when they’ve been hurt by purity culture? Friends – we’re talking about sex! And the sex series continues with this important question!!! Over the course of the next few weeks, in honor of our new book Married Sex: A Christian Couple’s Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life (CLICK TO PRE-ORDER TODAY!!!!), we’re taking all your questions about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this final episode of this series: The Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX! Today’s question comes from a couple a man who wants to know how to restore a healthy view of sex, after he’s been hurt by some of the messages from the purity culture.  So how do you strike a balance between taking the good — and leaving the harmful when it comes to some of the messages of the purity culture? Gary and I tag-team this question on today’s episode of the Sex Series! So tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Everlywell & Abide FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Are you ready to take your sex life to the next level! Order Married Sex Today!! ATTN MARRIED COUPLES: check out the upcoming Married Sex Online Conference! 25+ seminars about sex, 12 months to stream, plus a FREE copy of our book Married Sex! Register Today!! And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: What do you do when one of you wants oral sex, but the other doesn’t like it? Friends – we’re talking about sex! And the sex series continues with this important question!!! Over the course of the next few weeks, in honor of our new book Married Sex: A Christian Couple’s Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life (CLICK TO PRE-ORDER TODAY!!!!), we’re taking all your questions about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX! Today’s question comes from a couple who has different preferences when it comes to oral sex.  So how do you strike a balance of differences in sexual preferences when there are two people to respect in the marriage? Especially with a sensitive issue like oral sex. Gary and I tag-team this question on today’s episode of the Sex Series! So tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Trade & ZocDoc FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Are you ready to take your sex life to the next level! Pre-Order Married Sex Today and Get The Couple’s Guide To Talking About Sex, as well as the first few Audiobook Chapters FREE that you can start listening to, TODAY! ATTN MARRIED COUPLES: check out the upcoming Married Sex Online Conference! 25+ seminars about sex, 12 months to stream, plus a FREE copy of our book Married Sex! Register Today!! And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: How do I help my wife get turned on? Friends – we’re talking about sex! And the sex series continues with this important question!!! Over the course of the next few weeks, leading up to the book launch of Married Sex: A Christian Couple’s Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life (CLICK TO PRE-ORDER TODAY!!!!), we’re taking all your questions about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX! Today’s question comes from a man who wants to do his part in helping his wife get turned on during sex. So how do you arouse your wife and get her turned on? We’re covering tips, advice, and suggestions to focusing in on the wife on today’s episode of the Sex Series! So tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Everlywell & ABIDE FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Are you ready to take your sex life to the next level! Pre-Order Married Sex Today and Get The Couple’s Guide To Talking About Sex, as well as the first few Audiobook Chapters FREE that you can start listening to, TODAY! ATTN MARRIED COUPLES: check out the upcoming Married Sex Online Conference! 25+ seminars about sex, 12 months to stream, plus a FREE copy of our book Married Sex! Register Today!! And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Quickie Sex or Not So Quickie? That’s today’s topic! Q: Sometimes I’d enjoy something spontaneous, but my wife prefers to wait until the end of the night so she can unwind. How can we honor each other’s preferences? Friends – we’re talking about sex! And the sex series continues with this important question!!! Over the course of the next few weeks, in celebration of the new book launch of Married Sex: A Christian Couple’s Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life (It’s officially available TODAY!!!! CLICK HERE TO ORDER!!!!), we’re taking all your questions about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX! Today’s question comes from a man who would like sex to be spontaneous every once in a while with quickie sex, but his wife prefers to wait until the end of the evening so she can wind down (and after the kids are in bed!) and enjoy not-so-quickie sex. So what’s the balance of meeting the different needs and preferences that come up with sex? How do you honor each other when you have different desires? Is there any way to meet in the middle?  Gary and I tag-team this question and talk about some practical ways to honor your spouse even when you have different preferences between quick and spontaneous sex, vs. scheduled or longer sexual experiences. I also include a couple practical suggestions for those in the life stage of keeping your sex life alive even when you’ve got little kids at home (…because I can speak from experience!!!) Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: ABIDE & Everlywell FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Are you ready to take your sex life to the next level? Order Married Sex AVAILABLE Today!!!! ATTN MARRIED COUPLES: check out the Married Sex Online Conference! 25+ seminars about sex, 12 months to stream, plus a FREE copy of our book Married Sex! Register Today!! And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: Any advice to keeping sex fun when you’re trying to get pregnant? Friends – we’re talking about sex! And the sex series continues with this important question!!! Over the course of the next few weeks, leading up to the book launch of Married Sex: A Christian Couple’s Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life (CLICK TO PRE-ORDER TODAY!!!!), we’re taking all your questions about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX! Today’s question comes from a couple who is struggling with fertility issues and trying to get pregnant. Sex can often seem like more of a chore, and lose it’s fun and excitement when you’re trying desperately to get pregnant. The pressure of getting pregnant can oftentimes outweigh the joy of intimacy. So how do you strike a balance, navigate fertility issues, and keep your sex life healthy during those seasons?  Gary and I tag-team this question and talk about keeping sex fun when you’re trying to get pregnant on today’s episode of the Sex Series! So tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Trade & ZocDoc FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Are you ready to take your sex life to the next level! Pre-Order Married Sex Today and Get The Couple’s Guide To Talking About Sex, as well as the first few Audiobook Chapters FREE that you can start listening to, TODAY! ATTN MARRIED COUPLES: check out the upcoming Married Sex Online Conference! 25+ seminars about sex, 12 months to stream, plus a FREE copy of our book Married Sex! Register Today!! And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: Is it wrong to want to try something I’ve seen in porn, even though I know that porn itself is wrong? Friends – we’re talking about sex! And the sex series continues with this courageous question!!! Over the course of the next few weeks, leading up to the book launch of Married Sex: A Christian Couple’s Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life (CLICK TO PRE-ORDER TODAY!!!!), we’re taking all your questions about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX! Today’s question comes from a man who is curious if it’s okay to try something he’s seen in porn, even though he knows porn is wrong. Something I’ve Seen in Porn? This is an important question, because pornography impacts many people and many couples. It’s a question a lot of people might be thinking, but aren’t asking. That’s why we need to talk about it!! This episode is straight-forward, honest, and probably not totally what you expect.  So tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Girlfriend Collective & BlueLand FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO Are you ready to take your sex life to the next level! Pre-Order Married Sex Today and Get The Couple’s Guide To Talking About Sex, as well as the first few Audiobook Chapters FREE that you can start listening to, TODAY! ATTN MARRIED COUPLES: check out the upcoming Married Sex Online Conference! 25+ seminars about sex, 12 months to stream, plus a FREE copy of our book Married Sex! Register Today!! And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices