Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

We’re in the middle a series through the month of February called Couples Therapy! I’ve invited four courageous couples to join me on the podcast for an on-air counseling session. We’re going behind the curtain of marriage, and giving you a sneak peek of all the things married couples are actually going through behind the scenes. Because marriage takes work, and it’s important to understand that — but it’s also important to have the tools you need to do that work, and the hope you need to see that it’s always worth it in the end. Today’s couple, Ben and Kelsey, have been married for almost 9 years. They’re finding themselves stuck in the area of sexual intimacy, but could there be more going on underneath the surface? In our counseling sessions, Kelsey reveals that she has a past history of abuse from childhood. She also shares that she’s had two emotional affairs that have really set them back in their marriage. They both deeply love the Lord and one another — so how is it that they got to this place? Is there hope for their marriage moving forward? What does it look like to get to the roots of what might be going on in their marriage? That’s what we’re going to talk about today. I know many of you will relate to this couple, and the fact that sometimes what’s going on in TODAY is really a reflection of hurts that happened in the PAST that haven’t been fully dealt with. We have to get to the roots if we want true freedom. And friends — this series has been such a huge hit so far. My podcast was in the top 100 of ALL religion and spirituality podcasts last week, so thank you for listening, sharing, and leaving your review because it helps get the word out about this important series. And now, tune in this powerful episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens and GetFaithful Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out these Bestselling books mentioned today. Also mentioned on today’s episode: The Married Sex Conference! Use Code Debra15 for 15% off and sign up for the conference today! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Exploring the complexities of marriage through the story of Ben and Kelsey, who are struggling with sexual intimacy due to past trauma and emotional affairs. The podcast delves into the importance of addressing past hurts to find healing and freedom in a marriage.

We’re in the middle a four part series through the month of February called Couples Therapy! I’ve invited four courageous couples to join me on the podcast for an on-air counseling session. We’re going behind the curtain of marriage, and giving you a sneak peek of all the things married couples are actually going through behind the scenes. Because marriage takes work, and it’s important to understand that — but it’s also important to have the tools you need to do that work, and the hope you need to see that it’s always worth it in the end. Today’s couple, Eric and Ashley, have been married for almost 2 years. But they’re both feeling like something is blocking their intimacy. As we dove into their situation, Eric identified that he feels like his sexual past is getting in the way of their ability to connect both emotionally and physically in the present. He has a significant sexual history, and when he became a Christian he thought his sexual past was gone for good…until it started coming back up in his new marriage. He’s haunted by his sexual past, and in need of hope to break free. I know many of you can relate to Eric’s journey — and I know this episode is going to inspire, challenge, and encourage you to deal with some of those hard things in your own life! Let me know what you think of this couples therapy series by leaving a review on your podcast app! And now, tune in this powerful episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: American Blossom Linens and Abide Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out these Bestselling books mentioned today. And sign up for our FREE EVENT: The Married Sex Book Club on February 16th! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re starting a four part series through the month of February called Couples Therapy! I’ve invited four courageous couples to join me on the podcast for an on-air counseling session. We’re going behind the curtain of marriage, and giving you a sneak peek of all the things married couples are actually going through behind the scenes. Because marriage takes work, and it’s important to understand that — but it’s also important to have the tools you need to do that work, and the hope you need to see that it’s always worth it in the end. Today’s couple, Justin and Tracy, have been married for 11 years and have two children. They find themselves stuck in an unhealthy pattern — she feels like he’s always pulling away, he feels like she’s always putting him down. It got so bad, at one point she was considering divorce. In this powerful conversation, we’re going to unpack the dynamic they’re struggling with in their marriage, get to the roots of why, and find solutions to help them move forward. But more than that, we’re going to help them find hope! I hope this session inspires and encourages you to do the work in your own life and relationship. Let me know!! Leave a review on your podcast app, and let us know how you’re enjoying this podcast and this series. And now, tune in this powerful episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Zoc Doc and Abide Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you physically healthy? Before you quickly answer, let me remind you that Physical health is not what you think. In my book Are You Really OK? I walk you through aspects of physical health: nutrition, diet, exercise, and how to set boundaries and avoid burnout. In today’s episode, we’re doing a deep dive into one of those areas — and I think it’s going to challenge your perspective on physical health. We’re in the middle of a four-part series where I’m asking YOU to answer the question: Are you really ok? We’re talking through emotional, mental, spiritual and physical health week by week– because there’s no better way to start the new year than by stopping to really take inventory of how you’re doing! At the end of the series, I’m hosting a ARE YOU REALLY OK? BOOK CLUB!!! It will be a two-hour zoom meeting where I’ll be taking all your questions, hearing your stories, and helping you process the things you’re learning in the book. To join the book club, all you need to do is listen to this four-part series, buy a copy of Are You Really OK? and commit to reading through it, and then sign up for our FREE BOOK CLUB January 26th!! I can’t wait to connect with you face to face and talk through all these things. But for now, tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens & American Blossom Linens Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you spiritually healthy? Before you quickly answer, let me remind you that Spiritual health is not what you think. In my book Are You Really OK? I walk you through three aspects of spiritual health: what you believe about God, what you believe about yourself, and what you can find out about your spiritual health from assessing your relationship with others. In today’s episode, we’re doing a deep dive into one of those areas — and I think it’s going to challenge your perspective on spiritual health. Because it has much less to do with what you’re doing, and so much more to do with what you believe about God. We’re in the middle of a four-part series where I’m asking YOU to answer the question: Are you really ok? We’re talking through emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical health week by week– because there’s no better way to start the new year than by stopping to really take inventory of how you’re doing! At the end of the series, I’m hosting a ARE YOU REALLY OK? BOOK CLUB!!! It will be a two-hour zoom meeting where I’ll be taking all your questions, hearing your stories, and helping you process the things you’re learning in the book. To join the book club, all you need to do is listen to this four-part series, buy a copy of Are You Really OK? and commit to reading through it, and then sign up for our FREE BOOK CLUB January 26th!! I can’t wait to connect with you face to face and talk through all these things. But for now, tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens & American Blossom Linens Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mental health involves three areas: Your thought life, your past experiences, your chemical makeup. In my book Are You Really OK? I discuss each of those in detail! But today we’re zooming in on your thought life, and how your thoughts impact your life. We’re in the middle of a four-part series on emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical health — because there’s no better way to start the new year than by stopping to really take inventory of how you’re doing! At the end of the series, I’m hosting a ARE YOU REALLY OK? BOOK CLUB!!! It will be a two-hour zoom meeting where I’ll be taking all your questions, hearing your stories, and helping you process the things you’re learning in the book. To join the book club, all you need to do is listen to this four-part series, buy a copy of Are You Really OK? and commit to reading through it, and then sign up for our FREE BOOK CLUB January 26th!! I can’t wait to connect with you face to face and talk through all these things. But for now, tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: American Blossom Linens & GetFaithful Counseling  Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emotional health. What is it? And how do you know if you are emotionally healthy? Before we jump into 2022….we’re going to take some time to stop and get healthy from the inside out. Today we’re starting a four part Are You Really OK? Series about getting healthy from the inside out. We’re focusing on emotional health, mental health, spiritual health, and physical health and helping you do a quick assessment of your own health and how to take next steps! Emotional Health In today’s episode we’re talking about the three parts to emotional health, and why sometimes your New Year’s Resolutions end up falling flat by the end of January. Because so much of why we do what we do stems deeper than our behaviors — and goes down to the roots of our emotional and mental health. This series is going to be so important, and we want everyone to tune in!! So at the end of this four-part series, we’re offering a FREE ARE YOU REALLY OK? BOOK CLUB!!! All you have to do to join the book club is listen to the four parts, order a copy of Are You Really OK? and commit to working through it! Then, grab a ticket to join our Book Club on January 26th where I’ll be taking your questions and hearing your personal stories and processing the book together with you! Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: American Blossom Linens & GetFaithful Counseling  Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“You should never have to convince someone that you’re worth loving.” (Tweet it!) That’s exactly what I told the caller on today’s episode of the show.  After getting burned by a lady he’s been getting to know, he finds himself wondering how on earth is a person supposed to read the opposite sex and find out whether or not someone is interested? Are there signs to be on the lookout for? Why, yes…yes there are. 10 different signs to be exact. But here’s the key: you have to be willing to recognize them, and then accept them.  And I’m going to talk through all this and more in today’s interesting show!! If you’ve ever been in a relationship where you wondered whether or not they felt the same way about you as you felt about them (whether dating or even in marriage) — then this episode is for you. Give this short episode (25 minutes) a quick listen, and then leave your 5-star rating and review on iTunes! It helps to get the word out and challenge others to move toward God’s best for relationships…because you should never have to convince someone that you’re worth investing in (tweet it).  Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: GetFaithful Counseling  Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Resources Mentioned: 10 Signs He/She Is Not That Into You Does He Like Me? 7 Clues He’s Interested Does She Like Me? 7 Clues She’s Interested Learn how to attract and keep a healthy dating relationships in True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life Find out choices you can make today, to build a better marriage for tomorrow in Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Good communication isn’t something you’re born with. It’s not even a gender thing. It’s something you have to learn (CLICK TO Tweet it!) I was on a talk show where I was talking about the importance of good communication in relationships. The host of the show stopped me to ask, “Debra, do you mean to tell me you expect men to be good communicators?” Why, yes. That is absolutely what I am saying. To be honest, I was really frustrated with that question. Because I rebel against the stereotype that men can’t be good communicators. I think it’s insulting, and unfair, and sets us up for less than God’s best in our relationships. We need to expect more, and teach both our sons and our daughters the importance of healthy communication… It has to be practiced. And even when you’re married and in love…you’ll still have communication issues to work through. Take me for example: a wife of 11 years, licensed counselor and relationship expert. But just recently my husband and I had one of those “communication mishaps” that we had to work through….(don’t worry, I’ll tell you aaaaaallllll about it!) because communication is something you have to practice. On this episode, I talk to a young man who is struggling to communicate well, and wants some suggestions on how to get to the next level with expressing himself, especially with his emotions. Because in order to express our feelings, we have to first acknowledge them. Good Communication Skills Are Up For Grabs In this podcast, we talk through some practical steps to good communication, and cover these important topics: Why communicating and expressing emotions isn’t a male/female thing. The four levels of communication and why they matter. How our family background and culture can influence our ability to communicate. Some suggestions in learning to acknowledge our emotions and feelings.  Why it takes practice to get to a better place with our communication. How to learn good communication even long before you’re in a romantic relationship. Learning to recognize the WALLS (barriers to good communication) that you have whether or not you realize it – because they’re keeping you from healthy communication. This concept has really changed my life and I write all about it in Choosing Marriage, but today I’m sharing it with you on the show! And of course, a few candid conversations about my relationship with John and some of our most recent communication mishaps! If you want some practical advice to mastering the art of communication, then episode is SO SO SO SO important for you to listen to! Because good communication isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you have to learn. (TWEET IT!) Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY –  iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: GetFaithful Counseling  Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices