Fatherhood Field Notes

Thomas Pfanner lives in Oregon with his three children and wife Megan. He has over 15 years of experience coaching and teaching at the middle, high school, and collegiate levels. His drive to help dads, young men & women succeed is what inspired this project. His experience as an educator gives him a unique perspective on how schools are missing the mark in preparing kids to win in the game of life. He is the Founder and Director of Dads Who Lead and this week's episode is full of wisdom from a dad on a mission to help guide other dads lead their families to greatness. He found a need to help encourage young men by teaching them the skills they aren't being taught in school. He shares how the example we set for our children is everything. It sets the tone in how they listen to us and learn from us.   We dive deep into how ceilings we set for ourselves are limiting to our children and how we set up our beliefs have a huge impact on how well they are able to grow. He shares a story about how this impacted how he learned to swim as a child.  He shares the importance of how taking action as the leader in your marriage allows for adventure within your relationship with your wife.We discuss the expectations of boys and girls to follow rules and how the necessity for kids to show up and do the assignment doesn't allow space for them to check in with themselves as a leader. This conversation is rich with wisdom from a man who is set out to help dads lead greatly and make immense impact along the way.  Where to find more about Thomas Pfanner:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dads.who.lead/Website: https://dadswholead.com/Download his free guide - Simplify Your Leadership in 5 Days: https://dadswholead.com/freeguide Books referenced in this episode:The Road Less Traveled: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/347852.The_Road_Less_TraveledThe Way of the Superior Man: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/79424.The_Way_of_the_Superior_Man----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood.Follow us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/rebelandcreateYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/rebelandcreate/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

Today we're talking about an "Aha!" moment I had when talking with my mentor.  I share about facing the realities of our children growing up and not being able to roll back the clock to spend time with the younger version of our kids. Check-in with yourself: What would your future self tell your younger self to focus on more? Take the answers and act on them in this current moment. Don't miss out on today. ----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood.Follow us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/rebelandcreateYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/rebelandcreate/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

This episode with Mike Ayala is so impactful. He is truly a man that enjoys being a father. An extrovert, he loves being with people and has prioritized spending time with those he loves. When the world is constantly telling us "me time" is important, he's cultivated a true joy for spending time with others. And his children are no exception. He shares practical tips on how he's accomplished this by saying "yes" to his family more. Mike Ayala is an investor, speaker, podcaster, and founder of Investing for Freedom. Mike helps busy professionals and business owners find true freedom to live their best life. He’s also co-founder of Four Peaks Capital Partners, LLC. His scope includes operations, management teams, development, and chief people officer. He also co-directs the overall investment strategy along with Andrew Lanoie. Mike has over 22 years of experience in finding freedom by building teams and streamlining operations.Above all, he knows his role as "dad" is the most important. He reminds us that our role is not to be everything for our children - it is impossible.  Instead, our role is to affirm their identity.  To be a support to our children. To help them find their greatness. To help them find their passions. To be a safe place for them. To give them guidance when needed. We discuss being an empty nester and how fatherhood is a long game. And how cultivating stability within his home (and family) is the key to connection. His adult children need him now more than ever.  He shares what he hopes his legacy will look like decades from now and how it goes beyond just his kids. He and his wife realized the opportunity they had to impact their kids' friends too. Mike is an intentional, present dad who loves what he does and this conversation is rich with wisdom.  You can find Mike here:Online: https://www.michaelayala.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themikeayala/Podcast: https://investingforfreedom.co/----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood.Follow us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/rebelandcreateYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/rebelandcreate/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

In this week's episode, I talk about discipline. No matter where you fall - extremely disciplined OR maybe just coasting along striving for more - I realize how discipline can affect us being present in the moment.  For example, you may be driving your kid to practice but are not fully engaged because you're thinking of the meeting you have in the afternoon. I recognize this in myself and am sharing a practice I'm putting in place lately to help me be more mindful of being present throughout my day.  ----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood.Follow us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/rebelandcreateYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/rebelandcreate/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

This week's conversation with Yves Bright, actor, pro surfer, and photographer, is full of wisdom from a dad who confidently knows the focus that he's placed on being a father now will have an impact for generations to come.  We discuss the idea of trying to control our kids. He shares the realization of how it's more important to relinquish that control in the name of growth and raising independent young adults. He reminds us how vital it is to foster an environment where our children can think for themselves. He talks about how Surfline helped him as a new dad and a reminder to not lose our identity and passions as fathers. Our children are our priority but it is important to remember that we have our own identity as a father too. Yves shares how he's rebelling against the stress of our world and is striving to create an environment without fear and stress. He's creating freedom for his children by encouraging them to think for themselves as we can all so easily lose our individuality by falling into the need to belong. When talking about raising teens, he shares his realization that they are going to learn one way or another - from us parents or from their friends, social media, etc. Don't relinquish the opportunity to teach your kids about the important stuff to outside sources. Take that great responsibility to educate them ourselves.  This is a great listen for all dads, especially those raising teens in the chaos of today's world. Your presence matters and he shares what he's put in practice to ensure he's present for his children.   Where to find Yves:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yvesbright/?hl=enHis photography on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/photos_x_yves/?hl=enCheck out his photography online here: https://www.photosxyves.com/----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood.Follow us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/rebelandcreateYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/rebelandcreate/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

In this week's episode of the Craft of Fatherhood, I share a moment of being vulnerable with my wife.  I challenge you to do the same with your spouse and your kids and see their responses.  Be open to receiving the answer and see how you can incorporate that insight into your days. ----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood.Follow us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/rebelandcreateYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/rebelandcreate/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

Father to six, grandfather to 11 and a married to his wife for 28 years. We discuss all he's learned as a dedicated father and husband for the past three decades.  He shares his how a recent 75 day physical challenge has also challenged him mentally. Overall, he's focused on maintaining an athletic mindset and shares how this has carried over to making an impact on his kids and grandkids. He shares a habit of meditation and goal tracking keep him moving in the right direction or know when he needs to course correct and refocus. Jason dives deep into when he embraced being a father and again as a grandfather. Being a young father and an widow early on. He shares how not being raised by his father affected him moving into fatherhood at a young age. We talk about the importance of having a strong foundation in conflict resolution and how its solidified a strong marriage in his home. ----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood.Follow us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/rebelandcreateYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/rebelandcreate/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

On this week's episode we discuss how each of us have core values - the things most core to our heart that we value in life....these are easy to live by when we are happy and feel good about ourselves, but how often do we sacrifice our core values based on an emotion or a mood we are in?----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood.Follow us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/rebelandcreateYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/rebelandcreate/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

Father to six, Ben Anderson, shares his wisdom on how he's overcome fears about not being a good dad.  He shares how growing up with an absent dad and an abusive stepfather, led him to know he was going to change the generational legacy of his family despite his fears. And he is doing it.  His desire to make sure his children feel loved and know as they grow is HUGE and he shares actionable tips on how he's prioritizing it. He talks about the ripple effect in our families - how the tiny things make up the big impact on our children's future.  He shares his daily habits and how goal tracking and boundary setting keep him focused on what's important.  I've even put some of these tips into action since our talk. This is a great conversation with a father who knows the impact he's leaving on future generations. ----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood.Follow us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/rebelandcreateYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/rebelandcreate/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

On this week's episode we talk about my daughter recently overcoming fear and how we can help our children walk through fear.  I also share a quick lesson learned about the impact our time in the car can make with our kiddos. ----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood.Follow us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/rebelandcreateYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/rebelandcreate/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate