
Self-Helpless
Described as "an unfiltered thera-brunch with your best friends" where we can have "light conversations about heavy sh*t," Self-Helpless candidly explores the highs, lows, and in-betweens of personal growth—with a strong emphasis on everyday activism. Featuring a variety of specialists, public figures, and subscribers, the show garners millions of downloads, frequents the top Apple & Spotify charts, and has been featured on Conan and The Tonight Show. If you're interested in conscious consumption, holistic health, creativity, purpose—basically trying to figure out wtf we're all doing here and how to make the most of it, you'll be into Self-Helpless. Past guests include: Tan France, Michael Buble,' Rachel Rodgers, Pete Holmes, Dr. Ramani, Ed Winters, Kati Morton, Preacher Lawson, Kris Carr, Jessamyn Stanley, Freddie Prinze Jr., Rachel Ricketts, Nikki Glaser, Sonya Renee Taylor, Amie McNee, and more.Hosted by Delanie Fischer, Co-Author of MockTales, Creative Activist, and resident homebody, Self-Helpless has 400+ episodes to browse including a hot combo of long-form and minis ("Self-Helpless Snacks")—integrating guests, solo deep-dives, and even life hacks from extra cool and qualified people like Delanie's dad. New episode every Monday!
Latest episodes

Nov 6, 2024 • 6min
Self-Helpless Snack: What If You Did The Opposite Action Today? with Dr. Luana Marquez
Associate Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and former President of the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, Dr. Luana Marquez, shares the function of both our "emotional" and "critical" brain, why we should try to approach vs. avoid our anxiety, and how to apply your values to your weekly schedule.Full episode with Dr. Luana Marquez: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/1c7d47b0/is-it-anxiety-or-generalized-anxiety-disorder-with-dr-luana-marquezWhat topic should we cover next? Vote here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Nov 4, 2024 • 46min
Mysterious Symptoms (And Finally Getting Answers) with Sharon Okun
Delanie Fischer is joined by Sharon Okun, who shares about her experience with Lyme Disease and Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome— the symptoms she's experienced over the years, why it took so long to diagnose, and what's helped her feel better, manage daily responsibilities, and pursue passion projects. If you, or someone you love, is experiencing a chronic illness, this episode has so much to offer, and is part of our series, "Subscriber Stories."Plus:+ An Epic Toolbox of 50+ Tips And Resources+ The #1 Modality That Changed Everything+ A Move That Was 25 Years In The MakingMore episodes related to this topic:Living With A Chronic Illness (Type 1 Diabetes) with Walt Drennan: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/3588b4cf/living-with-a-chronic-illness-with-walt-drennanA Shocking Connection Between Trauma And Thyroid Health with Judith Gonzalez: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/22ae66d2/a-shocking-connection-between-trauma-and-thyroid-health-with-judith-gonzalezMy Dad Was Diagnosed With Lewy Body Dementia with Erika Martin: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/21b228bf/my-dad-was-diagnosed-with-lewy-body-dementia-with-erika-martinYou can submit and vote on episode topics here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oct 30, 2024 • 19min
Self-Helpless Snack: Why "Cancel Culture" Isn't Real with Sonya Renee Taylor
Social justice activist and founder of "The Body is Not An Apology" movement, Sonya Renee Taylor, shares the reality behind "cancel culture" and how we can all become more compassionate and empathetic towards each other while navigating harm. Full episode with Sonya Renee Taylor: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/327baacc/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd-with-licensed-therapist-nadirah-habeebullahSubmit and vote on episode topics here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oct 28, 2024 • 1h 9min
When You're A High Functioning Addict (And Modernizing The 12 Steps) with Dr. Samantha Harte
Delanie Fischer is joined by Dr. Samantha Harte, author of Breaking The Circuit: How to Rewire Your Mind for Hope, Resilience and Joy in the Face of Trauma, to discuss perfectionism, addiction, and recovery. Dr. Harte shares how her accomplishments masked her struggle with addiction (like getting accepted into a postdoctoral program the very same day she overdosed on cocaine), why her rock bottom actually happened 5 years into sobriety vs. at the height of her addiction, and why she had to reimagine and modernize the 12 steps in order to successfully apply them to her life.Plus:+ The Most Important Amends That Addicts Might Ignore+ Building A New Relationship With The Same Partner+ Healing From Betrayal (And An Analogy You Won't Forget)More episodes related to this topic:7 Shocking Truths About Codependency And Addiction with Heidi Rain: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/24c74079/7-shocking-truths-about-codependency-and-addiction-with-heidi-rainSex and Love Addiction with Sex Addiction Therapist, Alex Katehakis: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/316e9795/sex-and-love-addiction-with-sex-addiction-therapist-alex-katehakisExploring Perfectionism with Taylor Tomlinson, Kelsey Cook, and Delanie Fischer: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/d69d8eee/exploring-perfectionism-with-taylor-tomlinson-kelsey-cook-and-delanie-fischerWorking The 12 Steps with Amanda Hill: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/237b7862/working-the-12-steps-with-amanda-hillYou can submit and vote on episode topics here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oct 23, 2024 • 9min
Self-Helpless Snack: How To Approach Your Loved One About PTSD with Licensed Therapist, Nadirah Habeebullah
Licensed marriage and family therapist, Nadirah Habeebullah, provides an overview of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), a treatment that can help, and how we can talk to a loved one who is experiencing this disorder. Full episode with Licensed Therapist, Nadirah Habeebullah: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/327baacc/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd-with-licensed-therapist-nadirah-habeebullahSubmit and vote on episode topics here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oct 21, 2024 • 59min
Growing Up In "The Poor Family" with Ron Fischer (Delanie's Dad)
Delanie Fischer is joined by her dad, Ron Fischer, to chat about his experience growing up in "the poor family" in his community. He shares how this impacted his relationship with work and money, any fears around finances he experienced as he grew his career and started a business, and the mark it's made on his values around family and friendship. Whether you're fearful around finances, starting a business, or making lifestyle changes in mid-age, this episode has some "mammoth" words of wisdom.Plus:+ How Ron Realized His Family Didn't Have Much Money+ A Hot Mindset Hack For Business Owners And Entrepreneurs+ Remember When We All Played That Prank On My Dad?More episodes related to this topic:You Are A Bad Ass At Making Money by Jen Sincero: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/e2d97702/you-are-a-bad-ass-at-making-money-by-jen-sinceroThe Easiest Way To Organize Your Finances As A New Business Owner with Danielle Hayden: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/25478b3b/self-helpless-snack-the-easiest-way-to-organize-your-finances-as-a-new-business-owner-with-ceo-of-kickstart-accounting-danielle-haydenWe Should All Be Millionaires with Author, Rachel Rodgers: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/49826912/we-should-all-be-millionaires-with-author-rachel-rodgersHow To Build Wealth with Delyanne, The Money Coach: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/1f2d8edd/how-to-build-wealth-with-delyanne-the-money-coachTransform Your Finances with Certified Financial Planner, Hilary Hendershott: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/d8a76b01/transform-your-finances-with-certified-financial-planner-hilary-hendershottHow To Start And Scale A Business with Delanie Fischer: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/1d119951/how-to-start-and-scale-a-business-with-delanie-fischerStop Ignoring This 1 Thing In Your Business: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/22fa9040/self-helpless-snack-stop-ignoring-this-1-thing-in-your-businessHow To Navigate Entrepreneurial Dread: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/1fe1f5af/how-to-navigate-entrepreneurial-dreadSubmit and vote on episode topics here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oct 16, 2024 • 5min
Self-Helpless Snack: Pain During Sex, UTIs, and The Truth About Kegels with Dr. Rena Malik
Urologist and sexual health expert, Dr. Rena Malik, demystifies misconceptions around pelvic floor dysfunction, urinary tract infections, and Kegel exercises —including which tests to request from your doctor, surprising symptoms to be mindful of, and instances where Kegels do more harm than good.Full episode with Dr. Rena Malik: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/1c573a89/utis-interstitial-cystitis-and-pelvic-floor-dysfunction-with-dr-rena-malikYou can join our Patreon community here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oct 14, 2024 • 1h 9min
Guilt Trips, Criticism, Lies, And Healing From The Narcissistic Family System with Psychotherapists Katie McKenna and Helen Villiers
Delanie Fischer is joined by psychotherapists, Katie McKenna and Helen Villiers, to discuss the impact of being raised by a narcissistic parent, and how it affects the entire family system. Katie and Helen provide everyday examples of what these dynamics can look like, why it can be extremely challenging for a survivor of this type of abuse to acknowledge their own experience (and why there's no such thing as an "empath"), and what steps can be taken towards healing and unlearning unhealthy behaviors.Plus:+ How To Spot A Smear Campaign+ The 3 Types of Parentification+ Parenting with a NarcissistHelen and Katie's book:You're Not the Problem: The Impact of Narcissism and Emotional Abuse and How to Heal US: https://www.amazon.com/Youre-Not-Problem-Narcissism-Emotional/dp/0306833123. UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Youre-Not-Problem-Narcissism-Emotional/dp/1399719238More episodes related to this topic:How To Heal From Narcissistic Relationships with Dr. Ramani Durvasula: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/24bcbd24/how-to-heal-from-narcissistic-relationships-with-dr-ramani-durvasulaDiagnosed Narcissist (Lee Hammock) and Clinical Psychologist (Dr. Ramani) Offer Insights Into Manipulation And Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD): https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/241deda3/diagnosed-narcissist-lee-hammock-and-clinical-psychologist-dr-ramani-offer-insights-into-manipulation-and-narcissistic-personality-disorder-npdDemystifying Borderline Personality Disorder with Dr. Ramani Durvasula: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/42d15c8f/demystifying-borderline-personality-disorder-with-dr-ramani-durvasulaThe Psychological Impact of Gaslighting with Dr. Stephanie Sarkis: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2a31527c/the-psychological-impact-of-gaslighting-with-dr-stephanie-sarkisYou can join our Patreon community here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oct 9, 2024 • 8min
Self-Helpless Snack: 10 Ways To Reignite The Spark In A Sexual Dry Spell with Michaela Boehm
Intimacy expert and counselor, Michaela Boehm, shares a variety of simple ways to reconnect with a partner (and prevent future plateaus) when the demands of daily life get in the way of emotional and physical intimacy. Plus, one exercise that can help all of us get out of our head, and into our body, within minutes.Full episode with Michaela Boehm: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/3e3b253c/the-truth-about-tantric-sex-with-michaela-boehmYou can join our Patreon community here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oct 7, 2024 • 48min
My Dad Was Diagnosed With Lewy Body Dementia with Erika Martin
Delanie Fischer is joined by Erika Martin, who shares about her dad’s diagnosis with Lewy Body Dementia — how it’s impacting her family, resources and logistics for immediate and long-term care, and how she’s grieving and coping. If someone you love has been diagnosed with a terminal illness, this episode has so much to offer, and is part of our series, "Subscriber Stories."Plus:+ Finding The Right Support Group For You + Erika’s Favorite Quote For Tough Days + 3 Things Helping Erika In Her Day-To-DayMore episodes related to this topic:When A Family Member Has Dementia with Kelsey Cook: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/24621f0a/when-a-family-member-has-dementia-with-kelsey-cookRethinking the 5 Stages of Grief with Krista St-Germain: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2fc9f314/rethinking-the-5-stages-of-grief-with-krista-st-germainCaregiver Burnout: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/246fddd8/caregiver-burnoutCompounded Grief: Coping With Multiple Losses At Once with Stephanie Edwards: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/250aef7a/compounded-grief-coping-with-multiple-losses-at-once-with-stephanie-edwardsYou can join our Patreon community here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYour Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.