Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children

Educator and author Terry Roberts, PhD, discusses his new book "The New Smart: How Nurturing Creativity Will Help Children Thrive," and shares his ideas surrounding the future of work, what the education model is getting wrong and why it needs to change, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m thrilled to welcome back two favorite podcast guests and just all-around wonderful humans, Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson. You might know them from their bestselling book The Self-Driven Child, which I often refer to on this show as one of the most important resources in my parenting life. Well, Bill and Ned have a new phenomenal resource that I can’t wait to share with you — a workbook based on their beloved book called The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child. Today’s episode features a rich and deep conversation about some of the concepts they support parents in navigating in their new workbook, like why fostering autonomy is key to motivation, emotional well-being, and long-term success, why connection matters more than control, how to support our kids without trying to change them, and ways we can create a home environment that builds confidence and trust. They also share practical strategies for effective communication, including how to guide our kids through challenges without adding pressure or anxiety.As parents, it is scary to let go of control and to trust our kids to navigate their own problems, but as you’ll hear in this conversation, this is exactly what they need to be motivated. We know we can’t change them, but we can support them in finding the reason to change for themselves. About William R. Stixrud, Ph.DWilliam R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist and founder of The Stixrud Group. He is a member of the teaching faculty at Children’s National Medical Center and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. Additionally, Dr. Stixrud is the author, with Ned Johnson, of the nationally bestselling book, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives, What Do You Say: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home, and The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child: A Workbook.About Ned JohnsonNed Johnson is president and “tutor-geek” of PrepMatters, an educational company providing academic tutoring and standardized test preparation. A battle-tested veteran of test prep, stress regulation and optimizing student performance, Ned has spent roughly 50,000 one-on-one hours helping students conquer an alphabet of standardized tests, learn to manage their anxiety, and develop their own motivation to succeed. Ned is the host of the The Self-Driven Child podcast. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Washington Post, NPR, The Guardian, Wall Street Journal, US News, Seventeen, and many others. Things you'll learn Why empowering children with autonomy fosters their development, motivation, and ability to navigate their own reality Why connection matters more than control, and parents should act as supportive guides rather than enforcers The role of self-reflection, an understanding of different temperaments, and a willingness to listen without pressure in effective parenting (guiding) How to cultivate respectful environments where children feel safe to explore, make decisions, and learn from their experience Why raising self-driven children leads to the best outcomes for their lives as self-determined and self-actualized adults  Resources mentioned The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child: A Workbook by Dr. William Stixrud & Ned Johnson Ned Johnson / Prep Matters What Do You Say? How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home by Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives by Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson Conquering the SAT: How Parents Can Help Teens Overcome the Pressure and Succeed by Ned Johnson and Emily Warner Eskelsen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Children's picture book author / illustrator Samantha Cotterill discusses her new book series, Little Senses, which highlights the experience of children with sensory issues or ASD, and also shares her own journey of growing up as a girl on the spectrum. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Lily Howard Scott, an educator and author of "The Words That Shape Us," dives into the transformative power of language in shaping children's self-perception and emotional well-being. She shares how small shifts in communication can vastly improve kids' confidence and resilience. Strategies like reframing mistakes and using metaphors help foster emotional intelligence. Lily emphasizes creating supportive environments at home and in classrooms, where children feel valued, known, and empowered to navigate their emotions and challenges.

Eileen Devine, a neurobehavioral therapist and support coach, discusses supporting children with brain-based neurodevelopmental challenges resulting from pre-natal exposure to drugs or alcohol, as well as the unique challenges for adoptive parents raising atypical children. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

​Today I’ve got a really interesting conversation for you about a relatively new instruction model that is designed to create learning environments that truly meet the needs of every student. It’s called the Modern Classroom Project, and my guest is Robert Barnett, is the co-founder of the model as well as the author of the new book that describes this approach called Meet Every Learner’s Needs: Redesigning Instruction So All Learners Can Succeed. Rob has spent years teaching across different subjects and age groups, and he’s passionate about transforming education to be more flexible, engaging, and student-centered.In this episode, you’ll hear Rob broke down the Modern Classroom instructional model, which gives students more agency over their learning by allowing them to move at their own pace and collaborate with each other to achieve mastery. He also explained why instructional videos can enhance accessibility, how mastery checks help confirm readiness before advancing to the next lesson, and how, ultimately, this model prioritizes the critical role of teacher-student relationships in fostering engagement and trust. Rob also shared insights into why traditional education systems often struggle to meet the needs of all the learners, as well as how parents can share the Modern classroom resources with their kids’ teachers or school administration.I love talking with people who are on a mission to shake up big systems, and this is definitely one of those inspirational conversations. I hope you enjoy this conversation with Rob Barnett. About Robert BarnettRobert Barnett co-founded the Modern Classrooms Project, which has empowered 80,000+ educators in 180+ countries to meet every learner’s needs. Before that he taught math, computer science, English, social studies, and law, from the middle-school to university levels, at public and private schools in the U.S. and abroad. He is the author of Meet Every Learner’s Needs: Redesigning Instruction So All Learners Can Succeed and he hopes his children will learn in Modern Classrooms someday! Things you'll learn from this episode How the Modern Classroom model supports flexibility, student agency, and individualized pacing for deeper learning Why instructional videos enhance engagement, comprehension, and accessibility, allowing students to learn at their own pace How mastery checks help confirm readiness before advancing, ensuring a strong foundation for continued learning Why building relationships with students fosters trust, engagement, and better behavior management in the classroom Why equity in education means adapting teaching methods to support all learners, and parents can advocate for modern approaches that benefit their children  Resources mentioned Meet Every Learner's Needs: Redesigning Instruction So All Students Can Succeed by Robert Barnett Meet Every Learner’s Needs book website Meet Every Learner’s Needs Substack Modern Classroom Project Book giveaway for listeners Khan Academy Universal Design for Learning (UDL) The Disengaged Teen: Helping Kids Learn Better, Feel Better, and Live Better by Rebecca Winthrop & Jenny Anderson The End of Average: Unlocking Our Potential By Embracing What Makes Us Different by Todd Rose   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Nutritionist Jess Sherman shares ideas for how parents can bring more nourishment into their children’s lives, including, or maybe especially those with food sensitivities, picky or aggressive behavior. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If your child has extreme food aversions, anxiety around eating, or struggles with a very limited diet, you won’t want to miss this conversation. Today we’re diving into ARFID — Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder — or as my guest calls it, “picky eating on steroids.” To talk about ARFID, I circled back to Zoë Bisbing, a licensed psychotherapist and the director of Body-Positive Therapy NYC who specializes in treating eating disorders and body image concerns with an affirming, neurodiversity-friendly approach. Zoë holds a Master of Social Work from New York University, a Bachelor of Arts from Smith College, and a certification in Family-Based Treatment from the Institute for Child and Adolescent Eating Disorders. Today, she’s sharing her expertise on the unique ways ARFID presents in neurodivergent children.In this fascinating conversation, Zoë broke down what ARFID is, how it differs from other eating disorders, and why she sees it as a form of neurodivergence in its own right. We talked about how sensory sensitivities, anxiety, and even trauma can contribute to restrictive eating, and how the pandemic exacerbated these challenges for many kids. Zoe also explains why traditional eating disorder treatments often don’t work for ARFID and why a child-centered, individualized approach is key to building a positive relationship with food.And a small ask before I play the episode — if you enjoy this episode, please hit the share episode button on your app and send it to a friend or post a link to it in a community of parents with neurodivergent children. I know that when families are struggling with complex challenges like ARFID, it can be difficult to find neurodiversity-affirming resources. About Zoë BisbingZoë Bisbing, MSW, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist, speaker, and content creator. She is the director of Body-Positive Therapy NYC, a group therapy practice, and Body-Positive Home, a learning and healing hub for parents and professionals who want to nurture a more embodied and inclusive next generation… and heal their own food and body stuff while they are at it. You can follow her on instagram @mybodypositivehome for bite-sized body-positive basics and body image healing and her forthcoming Substack, Body-Positive Home.Zoë holds a Master of Social Work from New York University, a Bachelor of Arts from Smith College, and a certification in Family-Based Treatment from the Institute for Child and Adolescent Eating Disorders. A native New Yorker, Zoë lives in a fiercely neurodivergent-affirming, body-positive home in Manhattan with her husband, three children, and two dogs. Things you'll learn from this episode Why Zoe believes ARFID can be seen as a form of neurodivergence, distinct from other eating disorders How the pandemic has worsened mental health issues, including the prevalence and severity of eating disorders like ARFID The different ways that ARFID can present in children, including sensory aversions, anxiety-driven restrictions, and extreme selective eating How to differentiate between ARFID from anorexia or bulimia is crucial, including not driven by body image concerns but by sensory and other factors Why effective ARFID treatment must be individualized and prioritize the child’s comfort, autonomy, and unique needs  Resources mentioned Body Positive website Body Positive Therapy (serving residents of NY, CT, and NJ) Body Positive on Substack Zoë Bisbing’s website Body Positive on Instagram Body Positive Parenting with Zoe Bisbing and Leslie Bloch (Tilt Parenting podcast) Noreen Hunani Dr. Megan Anna Neff and Dr. Debra Brause on the Complex Relationship Between Traditional Therapeutic Modalities and Neurodivergence (Tilt Parenting podcast) Feelings and Body Investigators (FBI) ARFID   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest this week is autism and neurodiversity support specialist Kristy Forbes of In Tune Pathways. Kristy is the parent of four autistic children, and has an abundance of emotional, practical, and lived experience both working with and raising children who are neurodivergent. She has an extensive background in early childhood education and psychology, and as you’ll hear from our conversation, is passionate about radical acceptance without the need or intention to fix, change or cure, particularly in regard to children.Kristy was diagnosed as autistic at age thirty-three herself, and has committed herself to working with children and adults on the autism spectrum, with a special interest on people who, like her, have a PDA expression. In this episode, we share a deep conversation about how parents can truly tune in to who their children are and show up for them in a way that reflects true respect for their children’s neurodivergence. We cover a lot of ground, including the PDA profile of autism, how parents can get clear about their intentions when exploring interventions for their children on the spectrum, how to support families through periods of intensity and very difficult behavior, and the trauma that can result when children are perpetually in fight, flight, freeze or fawn mode because they’re being forced to conform to a way of being that isn’t true to who they are. Kristy is a wise and genuine spirit who is doing healing work for so many families… I’m grateful to be able to share this conversation with you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Listen to an episode of Understood.org's podcast ADHD Aha!, a podcast about ADHD. Hear the unexpected and emotional ways ADHD symptoms surface for kids and adults, and the moments when it clicks that ADHD is real.Learn more here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices