

LOVERS by shan
LOVERS by shan
Lovers by Shan is an education-first space where listeners come to better understand their own intimate lives through the life lessons and expertise of others. Shan Boodram’s mission is to empower everyone to be their own intimacy expert in the bedroom and beyond by treating guests of the podcast as educators in their own right.
Past guest include Kelly Rowland who taught us about being a sensualist. Becky G who shared the importance of healthy love in an unhealthy body. Kerry Washington who warned about the dangers of keeping secrets. Kamie Crawford who taught us about the joys of breaking up. Jesse Reyez who reminded us that it's alright to admit you're the one who let a good one get away.
When we paused in 2023 we had 5.1 million listeners and 8 million YouTube views. Excited to see how many lives we can impact in 2025 with our fresh look and approach.
Past guest include Kelly Rowland who taught us about being a sensualist. Becky G who shared the importance of healthy love in an unhealthy body. Kerry Washington who warned about the dangers of keeping secrets. Kamie Crawford who taught us about the joys of breaking up. Jesse Reyez who reminded us that it's alright to admit you're the one who let a good one get away.
When we paused in 2023 we had 5.1 million listeners and 8 million YouTube views. Excited to see how many lives we can impact in 2025 with our fresh look and approach.
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Nov 29, 2023 • 56min
S1 Ep99: If You Haven’t Found Your Go To Position, Try These from the Kama Sutra feat. Seema Anand
Becoming a Pro: Master These Kama Sutra Sex Moves and Take Things to the Next Level. Spend some quality time with Seema Anand as she guides you through the Kama Sutra to discover the perfect positions for your pleasure even if the penis is too big, too small, or not experienced enough. From beginner-friendly poses to more advanced options, you'll learn something new no matter your level. So if you haven't found your go-to position yet, tune in now and explore with Seema!
Seema Anand is a London-based story-teller, mythologist, and narrative practitioner, known for her expertise in the field of ancient Asian narratives and their relevance in contemporary times. She is particularly well-recognized for her works in bringing to light the narratives surrounding female sexuality and empowerment that are deeply embedded in ancient texts, including the Kama Sutra.
She has also authored several books where she delves into narratives of love, desire, and female beauty from an Asian perspective, enabling a deeper understanding and appreciation of these age-old philosophies.
Seema holds a PhD in Narrative practices, positioning her as an authority in her field, which allows her to skillfully weave the ancient wisdom with modern narratives to foster understanding and empathy in today's society.
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Nov 22, 2023 • 58min
S1 Ep98: Tonight's Conversation vs Lovers and Friends: Orgasm Gap and Relationships Being Mid
Today, we're joined by renowned guests from the popular podcast "Tonight's Conversation Podcast" – Ace Metaphor, Kita Rose, and Just Mike The Poet. This podcast is renowned for bringing together social media personalities, relationship experts, and therapists to explore themes related to love, dating, and relationships. Our discussion today centers on the dynamics of relationships, specifically focusing on the contrasting preferences of men and women in intimate settings. Additionally, we'll delve into a provocative topic: the impact of masturbation on one's sexual desire towards their partner.
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Nov 15, 2023 • 1h 7min
S1 Ep97: Why Is ShxtsNGigs Dominating the Sex / Relationship Podcast Game?
This episode is where raw opinions and humor collide! In this series, I sit down with James and Fuhad, the dynamic duo behind the top 5 Spotify podcast, ShxtsNGigs. Known for their unapologetically honest and often hilarious takes, these best friends have become a sensation among Gen Z audiences in the UK. Today we talk about what makes them different in a world of podcast about Sex/Relationships.
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this show is sponsored by BetterHelp
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Nov 8, 2023 • 55min
S1 Ep96: I Love Older Men, but I Regret Dating Them in My Twenties feat. Anna Akana
Are you young and attracted to mature men? Many younger women are dating older men, but is it really worth it? Anna Akana was in her twenties when she had a public relationship with Ray Williams Johnson, and she's here to tell us why it was a huge mistake. Hear her story plus the joys of dating older men today. Learn why Anna thinks women younger than 25 should be warned about the possible repercussions before taking the plunge. Plus, find out why she's so happy now that she's dating a man in his sixties, another in his fifties, and even one woman in her forties! Dive into this episode now if you're interested in learning more about what it's like to date an older partner.
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Follow Shan
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@loversandfriends - YouTube

Nov 1, 2023 • 1h 13min
S1 Ep95: No, THAT’S Not Normal! How Hormones Could Be Impacting Your Sex Life and Health
Do you want to understand hormones better? Dr. Jolene Brighten is here to demystify the power of hormones and how they can affect fertility, sex drive, ADHD, how long it takes to orgasm, and period pain. Tune in as she explains what hormones are, their function and role in our bodies, plus how they can be managed for improved health and wellness. Learn from the experts! Don't miss out on this insightful educational experience with Dr. Jolene Brighten.
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Oct 25, 2023 • 1h 2min
S1 Ep94: Self Love: My Key to Not Being Blinded By Hurt and Constant Criticism
Are you struggling to understand what real self love looks like? Do you find yourself getting hurt or blinded by pain and not being able to move forward? In this special video, Shan Boodram will answer your questions on how to heal from hurt and cultivate a deeper sense of self love. Get ready for some never before heard revelations with some timeless gems - it’s time to discover the key to unlocking true peace and freedom. Tune in now and learn how real self love can free you from pain and hurt by embracing the nature of those very things.
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Oct 19, 2023 • 1h 3min
S1 Ep93: I Understand Jada Pinkett Smith and Will's Relationship because of This
Get an in-depth and candid look into the fascinating 40-year marriage of my parents, and see how their dynamic can shed light on the relationship of Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith. I'm interviewing my parents to ask the questions we all want answered when it comes to a long-term relationship going through myriad ups and downs inclduing breakups, dating others, and going through social shame for staying through it all. Why is it still worth fighting for? Jada Pinkett Smith talks about this question in her new memoir, Worthy.
Thanks to my parents for being apart of this episode follow my mom
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Books I suggested in this episode
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Oct 11, 2023 • 1h
S1 Ep92: I Never Stayed Past the Honeymoon Phase and Here’s Why feat. Brenden Durell
Are you struggling with the fear of commitment? Feeling like there’s something wrong with you because all of your relationships have ended shortly after the honeymoon phase? You're not alone! Join Brenden Durell as he talks about his own experiences with the fear of commitment and how he learned to address it. In this video, Brenden will be opening up about why he never stayed past the honeymoon phase and how to combat the fear of commitment. It's time to give love another chance!
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Oct 4, 2023 • 1h 11min
S1 Ep91: How I Stopped Searching for Love in Lost People feat. Leah Lamarr
How do we fix our desire for relationships with people that will inevitably become broken. And how do we stop ourselves from aligning healthy with boring? That’s what we’re talking about on this episode of Lovers and Friends.
Attraction, whether emotional, physical, or psychological, is a complex process. It can be influenced by numerous factors, from biology to personal history. If someone finds themselves repeatedly attracted to individuals with certain undesirable characteristics (like the makeup of a fuckboy: charismatic but not reliable, fun to be around but not fun to be apart from because communication is not stable or when out of sight they’re unpredictable, they make big plans but don’t consistently make the small actions to move towards that goal especially when it comes to you, etc…), understanding the underlying causes and taking conscious steps to modify patterns of attraction can be beneficial. Here's a scientific, step-by-step approach:
Self-awareness and reflection
Next, Examine past patterns
Understand the biology
Cognitive-behavioral techniques
Increase self-worth
Expand your social circle
Educate yourself
Avoid idealization
practice mindfulness
Follow Leah Lamarr
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Extras in this episode
The Art of Manipulation: Influence Human Behavior, Understand the Psychology of Manipulation, Effectively Manage People, and Get What You (Really) Want!
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Sep 27, 2023 • 1h 4min
S1 Ep90: Do Relationships Really Need To Be Hard Work? A Reality Check feat. Nina Westbrook
Therapist Nina Westbrook shares insights on relationships and addresses people who say her NBA All Star husband could do better than her. They discuss the complexity of modern relationships in the social media age, the importance of commitment in a marriage, determining good relationships and avoiding toxic ones, misconceptions about basketball wives, and the importance of confidence and meeting each other's needs.