LOVERS by shan

 A lot of us learn how to love, but we don’t necessarily learn how to cope with not loving everything about the person we love. This episode is all about the difference between disliking some things about your partner and/or disliking your partner. How do you know if something small and annoying can turn into something big and unbearable down the road? What should you do when you get to the place where the two of you just can't seem to get along?   Jazzmyne Jay is back in this episode to share why she moved in with her partner and then moved out once she found that they just couldn’t get along. And guess what -- they are still together to this day despite that storm. I am also joined by my husband Jared Brady and we discuss why we've never liked each other less than we do right now. Plus, we go through an exercise to try and understand this phase we’re currently in. I also answer some of your questions!   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody   Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join     Follow Jazzmyne Jay: http://instagram.com/jazzmynejay OR http://instagram.com/plussizefriendly/   Follow Jared on his podcast Enjoy the Podcast OR on Instagram http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady

Kevin Samuels, an image consultant and a well-known relationship commentator (especially within the black community), died on May 5, 2022. I wish peace to his family and friends who are grieving the loss on a personal level. As for those who have been impacted by Kevin’s work and words within the last couple of years as he rose to notoriety, I hope we can find peace by addressing the harm and help that his work caused. As a community, I hope we can discuss where we want to go next. This is why the only guests on this episode are you all.   Together, we assess who benefited from Kevin Samuels’s work and who was deeply harmed by it. Furthermore, we evaluate what his death means for the future of relationship and dating advice. Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join

When you search non-binary on YouTube, videos like “There Are Only Two Genders - Prove Me Wrong!” show up. In this episode, we bring the heated debate surrounding breaking the binary from a boil to something digestible and actionable. Here to help us unpack this topic is non-binary sexuality expert Ev'Yan Whitney and non-binary multi-dimensional artist Jordianna AKA Jordi.  In this episode we’re discussing: the difference between sex and gender, the goal of the non-binary movement, the dangers of ignorance, and why non-binary people want you to identify however the fuck you want to identify.  Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Ev'Yan Whitney: https://www.instagram.com/evyan.whitney Support Ev'Yan's book and podcast: https://www.evyanwhitney.com/ Support Jordianna's work: https://earthtojordi.com/ Learn more about Sorelle Amore: https://www.instagram.com/sorelleamore/

Does God really care about your sex life? And if so, does that also mean that God can help you have the best sex of your life? After more than a decade of Catholic school and Christain churches I was unclear about the Bible, God's actual will, sex, and the relationship between pleasure and sin. In an effort to gain clarity, I brought in some people to talk about it! This week's staring guest is Shameless Maya – A Christian YouTube star who was conflicted and confused while practicing celibacy. You'll also be hearing from theology expert Tara Teng, Christian influencer Brenda Marie Davies aka God is Grey, Jared Brady and his father Derrex Brady.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow Shameless Maya Instagram: www.instagram.com/mayasworld Follow Maya's Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/shamelessmaya Follow Maya and Max's YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MaxMayaLiving   Follow Derrex Brady https://www.instagram.com/derrexbrady Watch JOHNSON on Bounce TV   Follow Tara Teng https://www.instagram.com/misstarateng/ Preorder Brenda's books "Your Body is a Revolution: Healing Our Relationships with Our Bodies, Each Other and the Earth".  Available everywhere Spring 2023.   Follow Brenda "God is Grey" YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/GodisGrey   Follow Jared: http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady

Does finding the kind of relationship you want mean conforming to an ideal of what a romantic partner is “supposed to be”? What if you don’t want to conform? Does this mean you’re not cut out for love? To explore further, Shan sits down with both Mandii, from the “See, The Thing Is” and “WHOREible Decisions” Podcasts and Khleo Thomas from Disney’s “Holes”; two successful and fascinating individuals who have come to believe that they are undateable. Not because of any toxic traits, but because their version of life-long happiness is not in line with what society feeds us. Listen in on this conversation as Shan helps these guests figure out what’s broken.   Follow Shan Boodram on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Buy Shan’s Book “The Game of Desire: 5 Surprising Secrets to Dating with Dominance and Getting What You Want” wherever you buy your books or audiobooks   Follow Mandii B on Instagram: www.instagram.com/fullcourtpumps Listen to Mandii’s podcasts “Whoreible Decisions” and “So The Thing Is” wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Khleo on Instagram: www.instagram.com/khleothomas Check out Khleo on Twitch: www.twitch.tv/khleothomas

Are you familiar with the term “gaslighting?” Shan’s guest, Melissa Rivers, was a victim of it in her previous relationship - and she didn’t hesitate to share her experiences. In this episode, we learn about Melissa and Shan’s gaslighting experiences and the toxic impact it has had on them. Shan also brings in Dr. Barry Goldstein, a clinical psychologist, therapist, and consultant to reality-based production shows such as “Make Up or Break Up.” Dr. Barry provides clinical knowledge about gaslighting and tools to not only identify it; but challenge it as well.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow Melissa Rivers on Instagram: www.instagram.com/melissariversofficial Buy Melissa’s Latest Book: “Lies My Mother Told Me: Tall Tales from a Short Woman” Listen to the #GroupText Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast Visit Dr. Barry Goldstein’s Website to learn more about his services: www.realityshrink.net

Let’s talk about dating and why so many people are lost in the gap between what they’re getting and what they want out of love. To get up close and personal about it, Shan welcomes Harry Jowsey to the podcast, who you might recognize as the Australian heartthrob from the 2020 season of Netflix's "Too Hot to Handle". So how is it that a 6'5", successful, wealthy, gorgeous, and emotionally available man is having trouble finding "the one"? The answer surprised him, and may even surprise you too.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody    Get your copy of Shan's Book "The Game of Desire" on Amazon   Follow Harry Jowsey on Instagram: www.instagram.com/harryjowsey    Listen to "Tap in with Harry Jowsey" wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Los on Instagram: www.instagram.com/blamelos    Listen to Los and his 2 co-hosts every week on "Enjoy the Podcast" wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Chelsea on Instagram: www.instagram.com/chealseaprobably

How important is humor in love and dating? In that same vein how harmful can humor in the wrong way at the wrong time be in a romantic connection? To explore this question, Shan sits with the hilarious Hannah Berner of Giggly Squad and Berning in Hell podcasts and Bravo’s Summer House, and Hannah reveals all the fun parts of being in love with a comedian…and what happens when the joke goes too far. Shan also gets some expert insight from Dr. Helen Fisher, PhD, and finally, find out why Shan’s husband Jared never laughs at her jokes. Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody Keep up to date with Shan and casting calls for Lovers and Friends:  www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Hannah Berner on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/beingbernz Listen to the “Giggly Squad” and “Berning in Hell” podcasts wherever you are listening to this podcast Follow Jared Brady on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady Listen to Jared and his co-hosts week on “Enjoy the Podcast” wherever you are listening to this podcast Follow Lauren Morrison on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth

In this very intimate and vulnerable episode, Shan sits down with her husband, Jared, to discuss the real fears they have about the future of their marriage and intimacy now that baby #2 is on the way. Being in new territory, Shan tries to learn as much as she can about how others have navigated similar challenges including her audience, her mother, her sister, and Erica Dickerson and Milah Mapp from the podcast Good Moms, Bad Choices.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Keep up to date with Shan and upcoming Lovers and Friends casting calls: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow “Good Moms, Bad Choices” on Instagram: www.instagram.com/goodmoms_badchoices Listen to their podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Lauren Morrison on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth Follow Olivia Boodram on Instagram: www.instagram.com/yourtravelwitholivia

Let’s talk about sex! Specifically why are so many straight men so closed-minded and unadventurous when it comes to sex? And why aren’t we talking about this more? To cover this, Shan collects a wide variety of male perspectives from legendary sex educator, Dan Savage, the hosts of the Hard or Soft Podcast, and as a special treat, Shan’s husband, Jared, gets together with the closest men in his life to get their honest reflections on why straight men are more concerned with dominance and masculinity than pleasure and self expression in the bedroom.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with casting and more from Shan: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow the Hard or Soft Podcast on Instagram: www.instagram.com/hardorsoftpod Listen to Hard or Soft Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Dan Savage on Instagram: www.instagram.com/dansavage Listen to the Savage Love Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Jared Brady on Instagram: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady Follow Los on Instagram: www.instagram.com/blamelos Listen to Enjoy the Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast Follow Kray Brady on Instagram: www.instagram.com/datboikray