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On Monday, August 23, Jeffrey R Holland, an apostle of the church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, spoke to the faculty at Brigham Young University in a speech entitled “The Second Half of the Second Century” where Elder Holland expressed love for the University and emphasized the importance of aligning the teachings at BYU and those of the church. He addressed the topic of marriage as a union of a man and a woman, sexual orientation, and avoiding divisiveness instead of being a “house divided.” His talk stirred up a lot of controversy on social media among many members of our church. I too felt many emotions as I first read the talk, and then listened to it twice, all while observing many heated discussions online.And while I think much of the controversy online was stirred up by those who took certain lines out of Elder Holland’s talk out of context and cut-and-pasted certain phrases that without the supporting and surrounding context were very different than the intended message, I also wanted to understand better why so many were expressing feelings of hurt, anger and sadness over this speech.I called my mom wanting her input, and she said she had just finished talking to her friend Melinda, whose experience as a life coach, desire to be “all in” the church, and a mother of two sons who are gay, was the kind of perspective we were both seeking.Immediately after talking to my mom, I reached out to Melinda to see if she could squeeze in an interview for my podcast to talk about this sensitive topic and she graciously agreed. Melinda Welch is a certified life coach, an active member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and a mother of five children. She also has two gay sons, a lesbian sister, many bi, gay and lesbian cousins and transgender friends. Melinda describes herself as “all-in with [her] family and the church.” She is married to her high school sweetheart Wayne (who currently serves as a singles ward bishop), and she says their “black-and-white thinking has been replaced with a sea of rainbows since two of their five kids have come out as gay.”I’m extremely grateful for the chance I had to talk to Melinda about this topic and for her advice and perspective. Melinda said to me before we started talking, “I don’t know if I’m going to say what you want me to say.” And I told her that was exactly why I wanted her to come on the podcast, to offer exactly her thoughts and feelings whether they were similar or totally different than mine. So, although we had some differences in how we feel about or understand some of the complexities of this situation, I deeply respect, admire and appreciate Melinda and the advice she offered to me in this chat. I hope you feel uplifted and enlightened after listening to this episode and that it’s as helpful for you as it was for me. Time Stamps:[02:42] - Melinda recalls the first experience of dealing with her son coming out.[17:41] - How can we show love to the LGBTQ+ community while still being strong in our faith?[21:44] - Melinda describes what curiosity looks like and sounds like when approached in a genuine way.[30:27] - Melinda shares her view on the relation between faith and private institutions, namely BYU.[35:08] - How do we defend our faith?[37:16] - Questions and hard conversations are to develop ourselves, not opportunities to argue with one another.[41:15] - Between the experiences of her children coming out, what advice does Melinda give to others in this situation?[43:04] - Melinda feels that the power of love will be the greatest grace in dealing with life. Supporting Resources: “The Second Half of the Second Century of Brigham Young University” Talk by Jeffrey R. Holland  Melinda Welch Instagram @melindawelchcoachingSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you have kids, and especially if you have kids who are nearing double digit age (like us!) then you’ve probably asked yourself, “When DO we want to give our kids a phone? When is the best time?” Well even though Neil and I would like to stick with “never,” we know it’s an inevitable crossroad, so today I’m sitting down with Bill Brady, CEO and founder Troomi Wireless, to talk alllll about the nitty gritty of giving kids phones and most importantly, how to do it safely. We check off all my questions, including when it’s necessary and how to make sure you’re doing it safely. I also grill Bill pretty hard on just how safe his phone is, whether it’s hackable, what the workarounds are that kids might discover, and I don’t hold back on some differing opinions about devices, social media, and impact on kids. I think you’re really going to enjoy this episode and if you do find yourself convinced you’ll want a Troomi phone for your kids (now or down the road), Bill was nice enough to give us the discount code mintarrow for $50 off any of their phones. Time Stamps:[01:40] - We’re talking about safely giving your kids a phone by speaking with the CEO of Troomi Wireless, Bill Brady.[03:21] - Brady shares a friend’s story of how giving a young person a phone took a difficult turn. [05:31] - There’s a lot of emotion, influence, and access that comes with cell phones that parents may not be fully aware of.[07:30] - When is it appropriate to give a kid a phone?[09:23] - Brady suggests that parents use a gradual approach to exposing pre-teens to personal devices.[10:57] - For a starting point, Brady advises parents to put emphasis on responsibility within limited features.[13:18] - What is the difference between a Troomi cell phone and a Gizmo watch?[15:31] - Prepare your kids to have a healthy management style of technology before they enter the real world.[17:38] - Troomi contains these helpful, real-time features to monitor kids.[19:35] - Brady describes what makes Troomi different from similar options in the same field.[22:38] - How does Brady feel about games on phones?[25:10] - Brady explains how Troomi ended up accepting games on their cell phone. He then talks about the flexibility Troomi gives to varying parenting styles.[27:54] - Phones can be a benefit for the safety of kids and can help keep communication open in times of need.[29:55] - Brady speaks about how kids are figuring out how to hack average cell phones. How does Troomi solve this concern?[32:33] - Troomi also combats the loopholes of the open web and domains.[34:53] - Why does Troomi allow games and not social media?[36:51] - For dealing with social media, the major point comes down to: “Where do you get your validation?”[39:37] - As you make decisions about your kids and technology, stay intentional. Supporting Resources:Troomi website Facebook Instagram @troomiwireless Go to troomi.com and enter in promo code mintarrow to get $50 off a troomi phone.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I love to read, and one of the books I started reading this year (after hearing many business people rave about it) was Radical Candor. This book has some GREAT lessons and takeaways, and in trying to implement the number one takeaway in the book, I felt like I really failed. Today I’m sharing what I think I did right, but mostly where I went wrong, who helped me to see the situation more clearly and most importantly, how to do better next time. Time Stamps:[00:31] - Being honest can help keep others safe and can avoid worse situations in the future.[03:18] - I talk about a time I challenged life with radical candor. Despite going through with it, I did feel a bit awkward.[06:00] - My father has a great ability of giving honest feedback. When I told him about the situation, he gave this tip about feedback.[07:40] - What is Neil’s view of the situation? He speaks on awkward moments in relationships and why not communicating doesn’t make things better.[10:07] - Honest communication in hard situations is all about the delivery of that communication.[12:51] - Sometimes it’s best to involve people in the process of the solution or criticism. I share what happened when I used this approach in parenting.[15:34] - Neil describes the importance of counsel and fostering clear communication.[17:43] - Retelling religious text, I give background to the story of the counsel and the decision before the creation of the Earth. [20:37] - We’re allowed to choose. It’s up to us to decide what we’d like to follow.[22:34] - Neil and I share the way we talked to our kids about healthy and constructive methods to handle feelings.[25:19] - Neil mentions the change in how our children manage conflict and feelings now.[26:46] - Neil and I discuss how amazing a great communicator navigates a tough position by referencing a biblical story.[28:20] - Communication is absent of shaming and berating. [31:10] - What are the attributes of properly using authority?[33:07] - Frustration is natural, but sometimes it doesn’t do good to project that onto others.[35:07] - Here’s the verdict on “radical candor vs. counsel together”.[36:37] - Neil gives the practical side of communication to remember when things don’t go as expected. Corrine suggests the one plan that always works.[39:31] - Take these tips for the next time you need to give feedback to someone. Supporting Resources: “Family Councils” Talk by M. Russell Ballard “Christlike Communications” Talk by L. Lionel KendrickSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Kristin Andrus is a mom to 6, exercise maniac, lover and creator of healthy recipes, married to the owner of Traeger Grills, Jeremy Andrus, and a total inspiration to me of what it REALLY means to serve, mentor, and love people in your community. Kristin has a passion for philanthropy, but in today's podcast she shares her strong feelings about how money is the actual most insignificant part of philanthropic work and that it's your TIME and attention that will really create long-lasting relationships and opportunities to grow and help others thrive. She gives really helpful takeaways for those interested in mentoring, along with some great mom advice, marriage advice, and life advice in general. Time Stamps:[00:49] - Kristin Andrus introduces herself, her family, and her philanthropic work.[02:27] - What sparked Kristin’s passion for philanthropy and advocating for others?[05:15] - Kristin shares tips for choosing opportunities that are close to her heart.[08:02] - Kristin tells a story of giving lasting holiday cheer to a group of refugee women she worked closely with.[10:30] - What’s the different impact between going to fundraiser events and connecting with the community in person?[11:53] - Kristin talks about giving her children exposure to philanthropy work and how to engage the kids in the impact. [14:31] - Kristin describes the strength of the women and children she supports through philanthropy work.[17:24] - What does Kristin suggest to build real connections with the community and individual people that could benefit from relationships?[19:00] - Trust is a major step in creating connections in philanthropy with the community. Kristin gives personal examples of gradually building trust with refugees.[21:32] - Kristin encourages everyone to check on the needs in their own neighborhoods.[23:47] - Making the call to discover needs is an actionable step to figuring out the needed impact.[25:00] - Why is it important to share philanthropy options and social impact?[26:52] - Kristin says that people should focus on creating balance rather than “finding” balance. She uses the context of motherhood to explain her approach.[29:46] - In marriage, Kristin advises to lean towards having realistic expectations of a spouse. What is the best compliment Kristin received from her spouse?[31:38] - Here is Kristin's viewpoint on her marriage and the dynamics in their relationships. Kristin emphasizes the importance of clear communication.[34:28] - Kristin speaks about showcasing your authentic skills.[37:27] - Kristina uses conversation, curiosity, and consistency to bring more impact into her life.[40:05] - Philanthropy honestly does require thoughtfulness to follow through with the actions supporting social impact and connections.[42:02] - What is Kristin’s advice to make sure the people in need don’t feel like a project?[43:34] - Here is the ONE message Kristin wants everyone to take away from the conversation. Supporting Resources:“Baskets and Bottles” Talk by Chieko Okazaki https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/1996/04/baskets-and-bottles?lang=eng     Instagram @kristinandrus https://www.instagram.com/kristinandrus/?hl=enSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Think back to the last time that you had something go TOTALLY differently than you had pictured it in your mind. What were your feelings when things went this way? Were you disappointed? Frustrated? Resentful? Today Neil and I are talking about expectations and why Neil says they’re “resentments in the making,” and what we try to do instead to offset these results and find more happiness in life. Time Stamps:[00:29] - Neil and I talk about expectations, resentments, and how our lives unfolded.[03:05] - How can expectations turn into resentment?[05:54] - I explain a saying that can help people to see when something is no longer for them.[08:37] - Sometimes we hold ideas that never come into being. Other times, we need to discern if the idea is aligned with how we are being called.[11:11] - Neil and I share our expectations of marriage versus what we know now.[13:49] - Neil says he thought someone in a relationship would change his faults.[15:34] - I share that I imagined being super unified as a couple, but I realized that we needed a bit of autonomy.[17:04] - Neil and I share our different understandings of a famous image.[19:29] - When we prioritize our individual spiritual health, we are able to show up for each other. [21:24] - Life can be beautiful and blissful, but the reality is that those moments come and go.[23:12] - Why is it so easy to have expectations of others?[25:49] - I talk about removing selfishness to take away the expectations.[27:22] - Neil shares a point about embracing acceptance in our life.[28:51] - I reminisce on what I learned about having expectations of another person’s behavior, and being patient in understanding others.[30:36] - Sometimes life is like a trust fall, like a test of our faith.[32:31] - Here is the one expectation people CAN have. Supporting Resources:“Life is Like an Old Time Rail-Journey” Quote referenced in “A Conversation with Single Adults” Talk by Gordon B. Hinckley https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ensign/1997/03/a-conversation-with-single-adults?lang=eng   “Alcoholics Anonymous: The Big Book” https://amzn.to/3BOtMij    “But If Not” Talk by Dennis E. Simmons https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2004/04/but-if-not?lang=engSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

My parents, Grant and Si Foster (who is also known for her blog, a bountiful kitchen) just returned from an 18-month mission to Spain, Barcelona where they taught, led and counseled with and mentored young adults in our church. I really wanted to ask them in detail about their mission and what they learned and experienced and how they got through the pandemic while truly locked down inside their little apartment (which they called their piso) for 70 days, and were under restrictions almost their entire mission. Today we talk about the Lord’s timing, listening to His voice, answering the call when you feel you need to serve, how to really make the most of your mission, adjusting to mission life and then back to civilian life after the mission, and their advice for those thinking of serving as senior missionaries. Time Stamps:[00:54] - I welcome my parents to the show, and ask them to explain how they came to accept their missionary work.[03:44] - What were the lifestyle adjustments like for my parents as missionaries in a new environment? [06:06] - Si talks about the couple dynamics that shifted during the missionary work. [07:52] - What is Grant’s advice about doing missionary work with a spouse? How does the bond change during this time?[10:20] - Grant and Si explain that they kept a flexible schedule to keep themselves on track and active.[12:56] - Being proactive and defining the mission were huge factors in Grant and Si’s contribution to the missionary work.[15:20] - Si shares what she feels about the timing of the missionary work while going through the pandemic.[17:18] - From Si’s perspective, the junior missionaries were specially equipped to help the community through social media.[19:20] - From Grant’s perspective, every role and contribution offered a special contribution, even their age.[22:20] - Grant and Si talk about being amazed with the messages they recognize about how they were inspiring other people.[25:10] - Grant describes the location the mission was held within.[27:00] - What was the pandemic lockdown like during the missionary work in Spain?[29:55] - Grant and Si share that they kept a unique journal to keep a log of the journey.[31:51] - What did Grant and Si counsel the young missionaries about? What were the concerns of the young missionaries?[34:49] - Grant and Si recall when several missionaries went home at the beginning of the pandemic related to physical and mental health.[37:00] - In missionary work, service is the center of your perspective.[39:59] - Si talks about the baptisms that happened during the missionary work.[42:15] - Grant shares how aware and mindful they tried to be towards the young adults. He talks about the full circle moment between in person connection and the digital connections.[45:15] - How does Grant and Si feel about readjusting to life after coming back?[47:19] - Once coming back home, Si says she realized how easy it is to fill up life with being “busy”, and learning to apply lessons from missionary work to everyday life.[49:55] - Grant and Si explain that they had plans to do missionary work, but the opportunity presented itself naturally.[52:28] - Si emphasizes the benefits of missionary work for couples. Si talks about older couples giving grace to themselves to go on a mission.[55:01] - I share about why I am grateful my parents were able to fulfill their missionary work. Supporting Resources:“Adjusting to Missionary Life” Church of Jesus Christ Resource https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/resource-booklet-adjusting-to-missionary-life?lang=eng   “A Bountiful Kitchen” Si Foster’s food bloghttps://abountifulkitchen.com/Si’s Instagram @abountifulkitchen https://www.instagram.com/abountifulkitchen/?hl=enSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Last week we experienced what I believe to be miracles, as we watched our little two-year-old Millie go from being her happy self to being one very sick little kid who was in the hospital for 5 days. Many many people prayed for Millie and today we’re sharing the details of that story, where the little miracles happened, and why I’m calling them miracles. We also dive into how prayer played a part in all of this, whether we change the outcome ourselves by praying, or if it’s just up to God, and if it is - what the point is of praying, and whether it really works. Time Stamps:[00:42] - We planned a trip to Utah to meet with family, and our trip took a turn.[03:33] - Originally, no one could tell what was wrong with Millie.[06:22] - After the results came, I felt that there was something else wrong.[09:06] - Here are a few of the symptoms we saw when Millie was first sick.[11:28] - It threw us off to see our child be exhausted from a sickness, but we eventually developed the faith that things would work out.[14:02] - Neil and I experienced watching our child be sick slightly differently. I think it’s healthy that we are able to speak together about what we felt individually.[15:45] - Honestly, when we took Millie in for a second diagnosis, we were still trying to process what was going on.[18:02] - I shared Millie’s story on social media, and she had a miraculous shift in mood. The good energy from others around the world seemed to help, but there was more to come.[21:30] - I retell what it was like when Millie woke up out of her sleep screaming while we were at the hospital.[23:00] - I’m blown away that people took the time to send positive energy to Millie. [24:50] - What happens when the prayers seem to go unheard? How do we deal with the aftermath?[27:40] - It's not a healthy expectation to think God will take away everything unfortunate or unfavorable.[28:07] - How do we define a miracle?[30:58] - I feel Millie’s recovery defied all logic. She suddenly started getting better.[32:23] - Prayer is not to change God’s will. Prayer helps God’s will and our will to correspond and find a balance of dealing with the situations.[33:02] - Blessing and prayer include being active. “Faith without works is dead.”[35:26] - Have a willingness as acceptance of the outcome to really embrace faith and the miracles.[37:53] - I share a story of a miracle with finding a cell phone. The timing of miracles is not up to us.[39:48] - Neil realizes that his reaction to a prayer going “unanswered” is a reflection of the strength of his faith.[41:25] - I think we are given tests of our faith to help build each other up.[44:20] - We should share our moments of faith and make that connection between each other the focus.[46:12] - If you said one of those prayers for Millie, thank you. Supporting Resources:Mint Arrow Messages Mint Arrow Messages on InstagramMint Arrow Messages on PinterestMint Arrow Messages on Facebook Mint Arrow Messages on Twitter “Has the Day of Miracles Ceased” Talk by Donald L. Hallstrom  The Church of Jesus Christ Bible Dictionary Prayer Definition “Teachings of the Presidents of the Church: Spencer W. Kimball” “Prayer” talk by Henry B. Eyring “When Bad Things Happen to Good People” by Harold S. KushnerSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Okay be honest just for a second with yourself. Have you ever been in a situation when you’ve asked yourself, “Wait, what’s in it for me?” Or thought that to yourself? I think if we’re being honest we ALL have at one time or another. Today Neil and I are discussing selfishness and why it so easily plagues our lives, and the antithesis: selflessness. We share some of the examples we’ve had in our lives of selflessness along with some deeply inspiring stories of sacrifice that I’m almost certain will leave you wanting to be better. Time Stamps:[00:38] - The first spark of inspiration for our talk today is from a Neal A. Maxwell quote that made us understand selfishness differently.[02:51] - Following the first spark, another spark of inspiration came that reminds me of the 1989 movie Field of Dreams.[04:33] - We should all strive to be genuinely happy for others.[06:26] - Neil expresses how cheering for others is so counterintuitive to the myth of success society sells.[08:25] - Worldly possessions are simply objects; our view about the objects is what gives us peace or makes us feel miserable.[10:15] - I share a personal story about my childhood, a grand piano, and the selflessness of my parents.[13:12] - By choosing to be more selfless, we’re setting ourselves up to be more free.[15:35] - Neil gives credit to his admirable father who worked on personal growth over the years then reminisces about childhood.[17:28] - Neil tells the story of trying to hide a motorcycle ticket from his father. Was he able to keep the secret?[19:09] - I have such a strong memory of my grandpa’s transition into a new life that positively impacted my life when I was younger.[21:36] - We take a lesson of selflessness from history in a story of the pioneers who travelled to the West during the 1800s.[24:30] - Being selfless is a heroic act.[27:29] - In tough and uncomfortable moments, we have an opportunity to show up selflessly.[29:47] - Are we willing to move closer toward a more selfless life? Supporting Resources:“Repent of [Our] Selfishness” Talk by Neal A. Maxwell https://abn.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/1999/04/repent-of-our-selfishness-d-c-56-8?lang=eng Miss Nigeria’s Reaction to Miss Jamaica Winning Miss World Pageanthttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TlDjqF8YYLQ“What’s in it for Me?” Talk by James E. Faust https://abn.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2002/10/whats-in-it-for-me?lang=eng “Four B’s for Boys” Talk by Gordon B. Hinckley https://abn.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/1981/10/four-bs-for-boys?lang=engSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In 2020, Chris and Melissa Smith started the podcast and website Family Brand, to help families figure out what they want to stand for and be remembered by. Having a family brand is a way to strengthen your family. Since then, they’ve taken dozens of families through their training that helps families identify core values they want to create a family brand around, and how to make their family brand not just inspirational but transformational. Today, Chris and Melissa sit down with Neil and me to give us a crash course and a mini family brand session by asking questions you can use too to get your family brand started.In this episode, you will hear: Twelve years ago, Chris and Melissa almost got divorced. Then she read a statistic saying that 87% of couples considering divorce who decide to work it out are happy five years later. Since then, they focused on building back their marriage. Oftentimes as entrepreneurs and business owners, we are so much more intentional about the brand and the culture of our businesses and our personal brands than we are about the brand and the culture of our home. Families are the backbone of everything. It's no coincidence that the breaking down of a family directly coincides with all kinds of issues in society. So the world needs strong families. In getting started with creating a family brand, here are three questions you can ask yourself and the rest of the family: What do you stand for more than anything? (For us, it’s faith and love.) What do you want to be remembered for someday?  What makes your family unique?  Clarity is usually at the bottom of confrontation. If you're willing to work through confrontation, everything becomes clear.  Language is creation. The words you speak in your home create the culture in your home. One of the greatest indicators of a child's future well being and identity is how much they know about their family history and their ancestors. Having family values gives you opportunities to acknowledge whenever there are some things you haven't lived up to. You can live the life you want to live as a family and take a stand for your family. Supporting Resources:Family Brand Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/family-brand/id1536495798Website: Familybrand.com https://familybrand.com/Instagram @ourfamilybrand https://www.instagram.com/ourfamilybrand/?hl=enSubscribe and ReviewHave you subscribed to our podcast? We’d love for you to subscribe if you haven’t yet. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Episode CreditsProduced by Emerald City ProductionsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, I was asked to teach a lesson to the young women in my church congregation (ages 11-18) about pornography – specifically, “how can I resist pornography.” I knew that this topic could potentially impact so many of the teenage girls listening, and I felt a huge weight of responsibility to prepare well and most of all, plead with the Lord to have the spirit with me and that He would direct me in what to teach and how to teach this effectively. Today, I’m sharing what I taught in my lesson to these teenage girls about truth versus lies when it comes to pornography. Whether it’s “normal” or “a good place to learn,” – Spoiler alert: these are all lies Satan wants us to believe, and how to resist these temptations. We also talked about the best ways to arm ourselves against these temptations and if any of them find themselves struggling with an addiction to pornography, where to turn and how to find help. Neil joins me in this podcast episode as he adds his thoughts, advice and testimony of hope and healing from pornography addiction through the atonement of Jesus Christ.If you have a teenager that you need to talk to about pornography, or if you have a teenager that you want to pass this along to, or if you ever have a situation where you need to teach a group of youth about this or even just for yourself, it's hopefully going to be helpful information. In this episode, you will hear: There's a lot of truth out there and there are also a lot of lies. And Satan is the father of all lies. He's so tricky, sneaky and so good at what he does by confusing everything Heavenly Father wants for us. Your sexuality is a gift from Heavenly Father. The fact that you have attraction to other people, and you have curiosity and feelings within your body – these are all gifts from our Heavenly Father and it doesn't make you a bad person.  Every single person exists because two people were attracted to each other and had sex. But with every gift that Heavenly Father gives us, Satan loves to come up with a counterfeit. He loves to confuse the plan and the gifts that heavenly Father gives to us.  The “For the Strength of Youth” pamphlet contains a list of rules and guidelines that teach young children about relationships, friendships, the music they listen to, and all kinds of things. Everyone within our faith should be taking these standards seriously, including the guidelines on pornography.  Pornography, in all forms, is especially dangerous and addictive. What may begin as an unexpected exposure or a curious exploration can become a destructive habit. Based on science, pornography changes your brain and affects your brain like a drug. It will negatively impact love and intimacy, normalizes objectification and fuels sex trafficking. The internal filter is the best filter. Having that internal filter driven by the Spirit, because you're inviting the spirit into your life is the one that's going to work the very best.  Supporting Resources:“Place No More for the Enemy of My Soul” talk by Jeffrey R. Holland https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2010/04/place-no-more-for-the-enemy-of-my-soul?lang=eng“Protection from Pornography-a Christ Focused Home” Talk by Linda S. Reeves https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2014/04/protection-from-pornography-a-christ-focused-home?lang=engwww.fightthenewdrug.org Subscribe and ReviewHave you subscribed to our podcast? We’d love for you to subscribe if you haven’t yet. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.