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Henry Ammar is a Human Behavior and Subconscious Reprogramming Expert who hosts the Podcast, “Making It Happen with Henry Ammar.” The podcast has ranked #1 in the Training Category and #6 in the Education Category on the iTunes Charts.As a keynote speaker and empowerment and transformation expert, he has positively impacted people across the globe, speaking to audiences as big as 35,000+ people at a time. Henry is also published in Forbes.In his professional career, Henry began in music and has performed on a Grammy Award-winning album and traveled the world sharing the stage with legends. He has also overseen the investment and management of over $2 billion dollars in real estate. Recently Henry gave a TEDx talk entitled What Porcupines Teach Us About Boundaries, and as a follow-up I asked him if he would be willing to come on my podcast and further expound on his thoughts on this topic and he graciously agreed. It was honestly so good that we ended up splitting the episode into 2 parts - the second part is a Q&A so watch for that coming soon! And I hope you enjoy this episode as thoroughly as I did. Time Stamps:[01:24] - How did Henry find his approach to boundaries?[03:56] - Henry explains the sweet spot of boundaries using the porcupine example. [05:27] - What is the difference between Love-based boundaries vs Fear-based boundaries? Why is it important to discern the two?[08:19] - Henry explains the loving version of self-awareness.[10:53] - Why is it important to understand and communicate your values? PART 1[13:24] - Why is it important to understand and communicate your values? PART 2[15:07] - Be intentional about who has access to your inner circle. You don’t have to let everyone in.[17:44] - “You can’t fully give or receive love if you don’t feel safe.”[20:42] - Henry talks about triggers, dysregulation, and confrontation when setting boundaries.[23:47] - Stay present enough to communicate your boundaries so you can protect your best self.[25:34] - Listen to your feelings to ask yourself better questions about your boundaries.[28:15] - Does visualizing and rehearsing your boundaries help? PART 1[30:05] - Does visualizing and rehearsing your boundaries help? PART 2[31:46] - Henry shares the usual reactions people have to new boundaries and how to work through the resistance when it’s worth it.[34:26] - Sometimes people test your boundaries to see if you’re serious.[36:55] - Here are 3 FUNDAMENTALS to help your personal growth and boundaries.[39:35] - Henry describes the loop that people find themselves in and tips to break onto a new path.[42:17] - “Whatever you choose, I will be okay because now I’m doing the work for me.”[44:12] - Compassion and boundaries go together.[46:38] - What boundaries need to be set?[49:26] - Sometimes you need to excuse yourself.[51:08] - When do you know it’s time to put people in an outer circle?[53:49] - How can we deal with loved ones who do not manage their past traumas well?[55:24] - Boundaries are flexible.[57:43] - “There is absolute hope.”[59:31] - Henry closes the show by appreciating and recognizing Corinne and Neil. Supporting Resources: Henry’s Ted Talk on boundariesHenry’s IG @henryammarWebsiteHenry’s podcast “Making it Happen with Henry Ammar”See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Kelsie Hancock is a photographer, travel blogger and resident of San Diego, CA and was commissioned as an officer in the United States Marine Corps in 2015. She was sent to a few different states, but ultimately found herself on Camp Pendleton in San Diego, CA. Kelsie was a communications officer and served on active duty for 4 years. While stationed on Pendelton, she reconnected with a guy she knew from college (Norwich University in Vermont) Nicholas Losapio, also a Captain in the Marine Corps, and an MV-22 Osprey pilot. Nick was the love of Kelsie's life. They dated for several months and then moved into their first apartment together in September 2020, and got engaged on January 16, 2021, in Mammoth Lakes, CA. Their wedding date was set for August 4, 2022 in San Diego.On June 8, 2022, Nick was flying a routine training flight near El Centro, CA with his co-pilot and 3 other crew members. It was a typical day at the office for him. A Weapons and Tactics Instructor (WTI), which can easily be described as the equivalent of Top Gun, and one of the most experienced and well-versed Osprey pilots on the West Coast, if not the entire Marine Corps, Nick’s plane went down due to reasons still under investigation. He and the 4 other Marines on the plane perished in the mishap.Kelsie's whole world was turned upside down as she lost her best friend and love of her life. Today Kelsie and I talk all about her story of meeting and falling in love with Nick, what happened on June 8 when Nick passed away, and what life has been like for her since. We also talk about the personal mission she feels called to be on to help other people who are in similar circumstances as she was when Nick passed, as a loved one but not yet a spouse of someone who passed away in active duty. Kelsie is working hard to keep her home and keep her life together, and her story really touched my heart. The gofundme that her friends created has been "the biggest blessing of all" since Nick's passing, and if you'd like to donate you can do that through the link in today's show notes.Time Stamps:[02:18] - Kelsie Hancock talks about growing up in Southern Maryland.[04:18] - How did Kelsie end up in San Diego?[06:54] - Kelsie recalls the camping trip where she bonded with Nick.[09:05] - Why does Kelsie say her date with Nick was the best date ever?[11:20] - Kelsie talks about starting a blog and other life milestones after fulfilling her service.[13:42] - What is it like to be in a relationship with someone who is deployed?[16:18] - What does Kelsie remember about her engagement to Nick?[18:48] - Did the engagement go as planned? Kelsie tells the story of tacos, guacamole, and a missing ring.[21:44] - Kelsie shares her memory of June 8, 2022.[24:43] - A partner who motivates you to be a better version of yourself. [26:47] - Does Kelsie blame God?[29:45] - God sees the big picture. Kelsie explains her thoughts on trusting the larger plan God has.[31:19] - Kelsie shares what sign she repeatedly sees that reminds her everything will be okay.[34:14] - Kelsie plans to start a foundation to support spouses of service members.[37:14] - Which resources would Kelsie like to offer at her future foundation?[39:15] - What are the immediate needs of grieving spouses?[42:14] - Don’t forget to spend quality time with the people you love. Supporting Resources: Instagram @its.kelsiemarieKelsie’s photography page  Donate to the Gofundme account setup for KelsieSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Carolyn Rubenstein, PhD is a licensed psychologist in private practice in Florida specializing in anxiety, burnout, perfectionism and trauma. She particularly enjoys helping anxious overachievers experience greater ease by finding worth in being, not just doing.Dr. Rubenstein is the Chief Wellness Adviser for Misfits Gaming Group, a global esports and entertainment leader, building thoughtfully tailored programs from the ground up for its competitive teams, its content creators, and all staff to boost productivity and strengthen the culture of the organization. She lives in South Florida with her husband and two young kids. I found Carolyn on Instagram earlier this year and have LOVED following along with all of her incredibly helpful content that not only really resonates with me and my very apt-to-burnout lifestyle, but I love that all of her posts give actionable takeaways that have honestly made my life better! She and I get to talk all about anxiety, burnout, perfectionism and building self-esteem today and I think you're going to absolutely LOVE this episode. Time Stamps:[00:59] - Dr. Carolyn Rubenstein’s passion to help people starts from her childhood. What happened?[03:12] - Dr. Rubenstein shares the two lessons she learned in college that transformed how she viewed the medical world.[05:41] - How can people recognize that they have anxiety?[07:15] - Dr. Rubenstein shares the first steps to address anxiety and create a little separation from the feeling.[10:10] - How can parents notice and speak about anxiety with their children?[13:04] - Dr. Rubenstein shares how kids can have conversations around intense or ambiguous feelings like anxiety.[15:13] - Return your focus to you and check in with yourself.[17:50] - These are signs that you may have burnout or be on the path to burnout.[20:15] - To move away from burnout, first identify what in your life is draining you.[22:58] - You can have routines and mini routines for when you need to regroup yourself.[25:01] - What does Dr. Rubenstein think about self-care?[27:11] - Create a self-care menu of activities that bring you peace.[29:53] - Corrine and Dr. Rubenstein share what’s part of their self-care menu.[31:52] - What are signs of perfectionism?[34:50] - Dr. Rubenstein talks about whether perfectionism comes from internal pressure or external pressure.[36:28] - How can someone build healthy confidence? How can this be done with children?[39:28] - Help children see themselves as the multifaceted person they are.[41:19] - Dr. Rubenstein encourages you to trust yourself and your ability to handle hard moments. Supporting Resources:Carolyn’s websiteCarolyn’s Instagram @carolynrubensteinphdSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

One of the most frequently asked questions in my DMs these days goes something like this: “So many of my friends or family are leaving the church. What do I do or how do I respond?” This really is a hard thing if you love your church as much as we do, but the way you respond is extremely important in doing exactly what we feel called to do as members of any church that worships God, which is to show love and kindness. Today we're going through a few key things that will help you navigate situations when people you love leave church, or leave their faith.Time Stamps:[00:40] - Corrine says she keeps seeing this question lately about friends and family leaving the church.[03:23] - We cannot force matters of the heart.[06:13] - Let people have their own agency.[08:49] - Do people who leave the church expect you to reach out? (Hint: Sometimes.)[11:29] - Neil brings up how we can show unconditional love towards our family and friends who leave the church.[14:05] - “Just listen.”[16:46] - Corrine talks about how we’re all in need of God equally.[18:21] - What do you do when your spouse is leaning away from the church?[19:51] - Neil says you don’t carry the burden of convincing people to come back.[21:48] - Always make people feel welcomed for whenever they decide to return.[24:48] - When it’s time, people will make a change on their own. Don’t be afraid to offer a simple invitation.[27:38] - “Is this the right time?”[30:28] - Our ability to extend a hand to others is powerful.[32:07] - “All of us are free to choose.” Supporting Resources: “Preparing the Heart” talk by H. Burke PetersonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Richard K. Hada graduated from the Arizona School of Dentistry and Oral Health where he excelled in general and special needs dentistry. His love of general dentistry has afforded him to further his career by studying the latest in Cosmetic Dentistry, Implantology (dental implants), and Endodontics (root canals). He not only happens to be our dentist but he also did an incredible job with veneers on my teeth a few years ago, and then on Neil's teeth just this past year.Dr. Hada and his wife have two girls and two boys. He is an active member of his church and community. In his free time, he loves to play sports, surf, and do woodworking projects. But what really impresses both Neil and me is the incredible company culture he's built in his dentistry practice at Hada Family Dental. His google and yelp reviews accurately reflect just how many raving fans he has here in south Orange County, but you can also really feel that whenever you walk into his practice. Everything is beautifully decorated, his office staff is extremely efficient and friendly, and he's somehow made even people who hate going to the dentist love visiting his office. Today Rich teaches us about how he created such a tight knit culture in his office and what he's done to create a radically unified team at Hada Family Dental and the exact practices you can apply to whatever work or leadership opportunities that you personally have too. Veneer Giveaway! Go to @doctor.hada or @corrinestokoe on Instagram for details on entering the giveaway. Time Stamps:[01:37] - Dr. Hada first chipped his tooth in third grade.[03:33] - Who convinced Dr. Hada to be a dentist?[05:06] - How is Dr. Hada so happy as a dentist? He talks about why his passion for dentistry feels fulfilling.[07:20] - Dr. Hada explains the philosophy of his work culture at the practice.[09:10] - Always deliver an exceptional experience and invest in your team.[11:44] - Dr. Hada’s warmth is the same no matter where he’s at.[14:08] - Dr. Hada creates an environment where people are happy to come to work. How does he build a work culture?[16:01] - Dr. Hada shares a team building exercise that he admires.[18:58] - This work culture habit is inspired by Dr. Hada’s wife.[21:47] - Here’s how you can get a free consultation with Dr. Hada.[24:00] - Dr. Hada treats his team to tacos for lunch. What’s the significance?[26:18] - Be a team player and have each other’s backs.[28:47] - Optimize and be scrappy.[31:22] - Dr. Hada talks about creating raving fans for the dentist practice. What’s the story behind it?[33:52] - Dr. Hada is grateful for all the people who rock the Hada Family Dental merch.[35:04] - Corrine mentions how Dr. Hada helped the dental journey of her and Neil.[36:41] - Why are veneers useful in dental health?[38:50] - There’s something that holds people back when they are not comfortable with their smile.[41:37] - “The more you give. The more you live.”[43:19] - Thank you Dr. Hada, and thank you for listening! Supporting Resources:Hada Family Dental websiteDr. Hada’s Instagram @doctor.hada Veneer Giveaway! Go to @doctor.hada or @corrinestokoe on Instagram for details on entering the giveaway.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this podcast, the hosts discuss whether it's right to marry an addict and share personal experiences. They explore the impact of addiction on a relationship and the importance of not enabling the addict. They also delve into the decision to marry an addict, highlighting the struggles and the role of prayer and introspection. The podcast emphasizes the importance of trusting intuition and divine guidance in relationships.

Have you ever caught yourself either invalidating your own suffering, saying something like “I shouldn't be complaining because so-and-so has it so much worse,” or thinking or even saying, “Oh yeah well, did you go through this? I didn't think so! I had it so much worse than you,” kind of like the classic fable of parents who walked home from school a mile in the snow with no shoes, and uphill both ways?! Well today we're going to talk about this idea of comparative suffering, that either you're bad because you're complaining when you haven't suffered enough to qualify to complain or feel sad, OR, you think someone else shouldn't complain because you've had it worse. Both lead to unhappiness, and both are destructive. So we’ll unpack this idea of comparative suffering and also provide 3 antidotes that will help you to overcome this kind of thinking and instead live in peace and joy and abundance, even through challenging times. Time Stamps:[01:02] - Corrine gives an update on her bed rest. She talks about a community she found.[03:43] - What happened after a community member compared her suffering to her friends?[05:27] - What is comparative suffering?[08:17] - Allow suffering to pass through.[10:05] - People aren’t thinking about you as much as you think.[12:54] - What other people think of you is none of your business.[14:23] - Even the smallest things need care and attention.[17:06] - Corrine explores how pride can show up in comparative suffering. [19:57] - Be careful not to fall into the trap of pride, ego, and entitlement. [21:50] - Neil talks about how suffering is relative to the person.[24:20] - It’s nice to have someone empathize with your suffering.[27:07] - Corrine shares how freeing it felt to move on from things that hurt her in the past.[28:56] - Suffering is part of divine design. Heavenly Father knows the nuance of what we go through. [31:03] - Neil talks about how prayer can bring relief in the midst of suffering.[33:20] - How can you use gratitude to give yourself a wider perspective?[36:15] - Each day is miraculous. Supporting Resources: “But for a Small Moment” Talk by Neal A. Maxwell “Beware of Pride” Talk by Ezra Taft BensonGratitude quote by Melody Beattie John 14:24-27 Scripture about the comforterAlma 7:11-12 Christ knows how to succor us in our infirmitiesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Heather Avis is the founder of The Lucky Few, a New York Times best-selling author, podcaster and a Down syndrome advocate, working to create a more inclusive world where everyone belongs. For more than a decade, she has led this effort by shouting worth, shifting narratives, and reimagining what it looks like when we embrace our differences. Heather just released her 3rd book called Everyone Belongs, a children’s book that teaches kids about being loving and inclusive especially to those who have disabilities. Heather patiently and graciously talked through all my questions about what it's like to be a mom of kids who have Down syndrome and gave beautiful advice on how we can teach our kids to be more inclusive and why she believes it starts with our kids. I learned so much from this interview and was left feeling so uplifted and I know you will too. Time Stamps:[00:59] - Heather Avis talks about The Lucky Few and where the phrase comes from.[02:22] - How can we tell a “truer story” about Down syndrome?[05:19] - Who is Heather’s “Scariest and Best Yes”?[07:04] - “You can’t know what you don’t know.”[09:27] - When speaking about people outside of our own community, we should get our cues from that community.[12:17] - Heather shares the spark she felt the moment she read this email from a social worker.[14:54] - What was it like to finally complete the adoption?[16:39] - How did Heather’s family react to the decision?[19:22] - Heather talks about dealing with society systems that try to put a limit on who her children are as people.[21:04] - Every person is already valuable, even when in pursuit of better.[24:02] - What made Heather decide to say “yes” to another baby diagnosed with Down syndrome?[26:50] - Parenting is one step at a time for every parent.[28:11] - Everyone belongs.[30:56] - Heather shares examples of how parents can have open conversations with their kids around disability and differences.[33:47] - You are equipped to handle your journey, and there is a community here to help you.[36:14] - “Exactly who you are is exactly who we pick.” Supporting Resources:Heather’s Website: Heatheravis.com“Everyone Belongs” Book by Heather AvisSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

A self-proclaimed lifelong cheerleader, Darcey Wilde cherishes relationships and works each day to help the world feel beautiful, one woman at a time. Darcey is co-owner and CEO of Shine Cosmetics, the positive voice in beauty. Committed to being the leader in removing the sexualization of women in the beauty industry, Shine Cosmetics is determined to help women recognize their true beauty, by creating high quality, easy to use products that highlight the very best features of the unique and bright women who wear them. Darcey believes that words matter and the Shine product line focuses on the positive qualities every woman possesses and serves to reaffirm them as she prepares for her day. Use code MAM15 for 15% off anything at shinecosmetics.com Time Stamps:[01:14] - Darcey Wilde says the idea for Shine Cosmetics came during a dance competition.[04:02] - Corrine and Darcey share their views on makeup and confidence. Makeup enhances what’s already beautiful about each of us.[05:59] - Darcey is very intentional about the names of the makeup products, so that they are empowering affirmations.[08:39] - Darcey is a serial entrepreneur who’s not afraid to tackle a problem when she sees one.[10:21] - Here are Darcey’s tips for dealing with imposter syndrome and forging your own path.[12:01] - The people who resonate with your brand are your people.[13:55] - Darcey encourages you to trust what you are being called to do.[15:28] - Darcey speaks on what she learned about self-talk and redefining her identity.[17:47] - “The loudest voice you hear every day is your own.”[19:54] - Darcey explains why it’s so important to talk to yourself with love and understanding.[22:26] - Corrine shares that thoughts aren’t always right, true, or real.[24:59] - It’s not silly to say good things about yourself. Words matter.[27:56] - Corrine explores the idea that imperfect parenting is by design.[29:35] - “What would you tell your 13-year-old self?”[32:00] - Darcey talks about when she gave herself a makeover in her 30s. What happened?[34:44] - Darcey says that you need to be the one to like what you see in the mirror.[36:22] - There are no rules to makeup since we are all unique.[38:47] - We all can have our own favorite when it comes to makeup.[40:21] - In every stage in your life, you are beautiful. Supporting Resources:shinecosmetics.comShine Cosmetics Instagram @shinecosmeticsDarcy’s Instagram @darceywildeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are you facing a really big challenge in life right now? If you are (and the chances are pretty high that you are, because most people are!) then today’s episode might be just for you. We're talking about choosing joy and having a positive perspective no matter your circumstances, a few of the ways to do that, and how it will impact your life. Time Stamps:[00:28] - Flip the script from sadness to joy. [02:43] - Corrine shares her pregnancy journey over the past months. What has she felt lately?[05:04] - Corrine talks about going to Disneyland during her pregnancy.[06:58] - Bonus: A reservation tip for your next Disneyland trip.[08:56] - What made Corrine nervous that she was experiencing a miscarriage?[11:25] - Corrine talks about an ultrasound that took an unusually long time. What was going on?[13:37] - Placenta previa is why Corrine was directed to be on bed rest.[16:36] - Joy is less about circumstances and more about what you focus on in life.[18:47] - Neil shares how he feels about this recent pregnancy journey and how he takes one day at a time.[20:30] - Corrine says that thinking of her “why” empowers her to see a bright future.[23:02] - Trust that what’s happening now is adding up to something greater.[26:00] - Challenging times can turn into blessings.[27:38] - How often do you remind yourself of the eternal perspective? It can make everything clear and remove the distractions.[29:49] - Corrine encourages you to see the micro and macro purpose of your current journey.[31:28] - Neil discusses decision-making based on an eternal perspective. What actually matters?[34:23] - Allow yourself to be happier. Your purpose is to have joy.[36:26] - Here are five things that keep life in the eternal perspective. Supporting Resources: “The Adventure of Mortality” Talk by Dieter F. UchtdorfThe Home Edit post on breast cancerSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.