ADHD reWired

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A!  Listen to this episode uninterrupted by ads when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more by going to adhdrewired.com/Patreon!  Questions & Topics in this Episode: [00:03:16] A listener asks about helping college students with rigid thinking and flexibility [00:10:40] “Time management, project management, time-blindness and distractions are weak spots in my daily work.  Where would you feel is the best place to try and put my efforts in preparation for a return to the office?”  [00:16:59] A listener who is starting their ADHD journey asks about being self-employed and getting themselves to work.   [00:29:48] “I would like to hear from the panel about how adults with ADHD can manage/heal the grief and trauma associated with the lifelong losses incurred by the previously unmanaged condition.”  [00:38:42] What are some ideas to make kitchen cleaning more fun and exciting? [00:49:52] Differential diagnosis for adults: Are there mental health or neurological conditions/combinations of conditions that causes an adult to display the entire range of EF (executive function) challenges in adults?  How can impaired adults advocate for a diagnosis and get support in the case nobody in their life noticed symptoms in their childhood?  [00:55:17] “What are the helpful visual cues to help keep track of time?” [01:01:24] A moment of dad & plenty of laughs Resources & Honorable Mentions: Time Timer   Time Tracker® Mini   App (iOS): It’s Almost Time for iOS    Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens

Today, Eric is joined by Ian Siegel, who has been doing test prep and college consulting for a decade.  In that time, he has delivered some of the highest improvements on SATs and ACTs in the country, and has helped over 90% of the students he worked with get into their top-choice colleges.  Ian is also the author of “School Sucks, Your Child Doesn’t: The Secret to Unlocking Your Child’s Untapped Potential” where he details his philosophy and illustrates the overlooked reality that every leader, thinker, and doer has had an expert tutor or mentor.  In this episode, you’ll hear Eric and Ian talk about adult learners, why having a high IQ doesn’t necessarily make it easier for someone to learn, emotional intelligence, how stress impedes our learning states, why self-judgment prevents learning and the importance of self-acceptance.  Learn More about Ian: Get in touch at ian-siegel.com   Check out his book: School Sucks, Your Child Doesn’t: The Secret to Unlocking Your Child’s Untapped Potential by Ian Siegel   Website: streamlinelearning.com   Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode: [00:02:07] “Brilliance comes with baggage.” [00:04:17] Ian shares his learning journey and an early experience as a new tutor with an ESL student [00:13:41] “The people who have the most EQ are the ones who have the best capacity to think from other people’s perspectives.” [00:22:20] Giftedness and reverse stigma  [00:23:25] How do we help people who have different learning styles actually learn, especially dealing with the years of school trauma?  [00:30:09] Two archetypes that come out of ADHD and anxiety  [00:31:05] Schismogenesis, how we fail to learn from each other, and lack of self-acceptance [00:32:10] What do we do about defensiveness?  [00:34:46] “Learning with neurodivergent brains depends on our ability to hold space for uncertainty, ambiguity, and being able to stay curious.”  [00:43:34] What is the impact of a stressed brain on learning?  [00:46:50] Feelings are not facts, and intuiting vs. projecting  [00:48:21] When working with students, how much time does Ian spend working on emotional self regulation?  [00:51:50] Closing thoughts & learning more about Ian Resources & Honorable Mentions: Book: The Dawn of Everything: A New History of Humanity “Learning comes not when you’re stressed or under the gun, but when you unconditionally accept yourself.” - Ian Siegel  “Feelings are not facts.” - Eric Tivers   Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens ⭐️ Registration for our spring season is happening now! Learn more about our award-winning intensive online coaching and accountability groups at coachingrewired.com!  If you’re ready to get your ADHD reWired, that’s coachingrewired.com to start your pre-registration process so you can join us for our next spring 2023 registration event on Thursday, March 9th at 12pm Pacific / 3pm Eastern.

Today, Eric is joined by Morgan Hancock who was diagnosed with ADHD at 31.  She is a commercial real-estate agent, entrepreneur, U.S. Army veteran, mother of 2, a passionate advocate of the arts, and the founder of Bourbon With Heart Inc., the world’s first and only arts-focused bourbon charity! In this episode, you’ll hear about the different paths Morgan took - including becoming a young mother, joining the army, law school, making insect repellent, and continuing to act on her big ambitions.  You’ll also hear about her life as a self-professed trouble-maker, hyperfocus and risk-taking, all-or-nothing thinking, what led up to her ADHD diagnosis, and how her fearlessness and resilience led to founding her bourbon-based non-profit organization. Learn More about Bourbon With Heart: Website: bourbonwithheart.org   Instagram: @bourbonwithheart   Facebook: BourbonWithHeart   Get in Touch with Morgan:  Instagram: @americasbestie   Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode: [00:01:13] Introducing Morgan [00:02:16] Life in school and the challenges Morgan faced [00:05:36] Morgan shares her optimism and desire to do big things “...even though my surroundings did not reflect that as a probability.”  [00:07:54] Joining the army at 18, how did Morgan navigate as a mother of a then 2-year-old son?  [00:09:00] What was life like for Morgan in her early 20s?  [00:11:16] What drove Morgan to go to law school?  [00:19:56] Eric asks Morgan about the catalyst that led up to her ADHD diagnosis [00:22:31] Morgan shares the positive effects that ADHD medication had on her life [00:23:56] Morgan tells us about Bourbon With Heart and Kentucky’s rich and vibrant arts culture [00:25:14] What’s the big “why” behind starting Bourbon With Heart?  [00:33:56] Eric asks Morgan about what happened during the break with an event she planned that sold out in a day.  [00:35:28] How did Morgan communicate her idea to others to get them on board, believe in her mission, and raise money to kick off Bourbon With Heart?  [00:44:10] How listeners can get in touch with Morgan, learn more about Bourbon with Heart, and closing words…  Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens Registration for the Spring Season of ADHD reWired's Coaching & Accountability Groups is happening now!  Learn more about our award-winning intensive online coaching and accountability groups at coachingrewired.com!  If you’re ready to get your ADHD reWired, that’s coachingrewired.com to start your pre-registration process so you can join us for our next spring 2023 registration event on Thursday, March 2nd at 5pm Pacific / 8pm Eastern!

In part 2 of this conversation, Eric is joined by ADHD reWired Coaches Kat Hoyer and Kristin Marts!  Janelle Augustin, who is also an ADHD reWired Coaching group Alumni member, also joins all of the ADHD reWired Coaches in the hot seat to figure out actionable items to keep track of multi-step tasks and not lose steam while tackling unfinished projects.  ⭐ If you missed Part 1 of this conversation, go back to episode 469 to listen in from the beginning!  Janelle was born in Jamaica but grew up in South Florida and joins us in this episode from Tampa!  As a mom who enjoys gardening and has a love for cooking, Janelle is also an entrepreneur with her business called Nelly’s Fried Creamery, specializing in deep-fried ice cream.   Not long after being diagnosed with ADHD at age 32, Janelle joined ADHD reWired’s Coaching & Accountability Groups and continued her support with the Alumni community.  Through the coaching groups, she developed the self-awareness she needed to learn to advocate for herself and learned what she needed for that self-advocacy.  Questions/Topics in this Episode: [00:02:13] “Do you think everything needs to be finished?” [00:05:07] Kat talks about borrowing from previous successes  [00:07:20] “What do you tell your child about making mistakes?” [00:08:32] Different ways to think about “done”   [00:17:19] More tool suggestions for writing / creating processes [00:20:42] What did ChatGPT spit out?  [00:23:37] A helpful acronym [00:34:02] Kristin talks about POPs - the Point-of-Performance [00:34:41] Janelle shares her action steps, commitments, & wrapping up Other Coaching Questions from today’s episode:  Would you be able to prioritize the things you want/need to finish vs. the things that “would be nice” to finish?  If you were to say, “What’s the TOP thing right now, in your life, that you want to get to ‘done’ to earn the right to work on the next thing?” Then, “What would be that next thing?” What did you say to yourself when something didn’t go right?  What lessons did you learn from that?  Other Resources & Honorable Mentions: Tool: Process.st   Tool: Chat GPT   Tool: Jasper.ai   Website: Fiverr   Book: E-Myth Mastery - The Seven Essential Disciplines for Building a World-Class Company   Book: The E-Myth Revisited   Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens

In this two-part conversation, Eric is joined by ADHD reWired Coaches Kat Hoyer and Kristin Marts!  Janelle Augustin, who is also an ADHD reWired Coaching group Alumni member, also joins all of the ADHD reWired Coaches in the hot seat to figure out action steps to creating and finishing processes.  Not only will you be able to listen in on the process of the Mastermind, you’ll also hear suggestions for managing multiple steps and tasks, reframing “done”, cues to be reminded to return to unfinished projects, and more.  About Janelle:  Janelle was born in Jamaica but grew up in South Florida and joins us in this episode from Tampa!  As a mom who enjoys gardening and has a love for cooking, Janelle is also an entrepreneur with her business called Nelly’s Fried Creamery, specializing in deep-fried ice cream.   Not long after being diagnosed with ADHD at age 32, Janelle joined ADHD reWired’s Coaching & Accountability Groups and continued her support with the Alumni community.  Through the coaching groups, she developed the self-awareness she needed to learn to advocate for herself and learned what she needed for that self-advocacy.  - - - Curious about our coaching groups? Ready to get your ADHD reWired? Go to coachingrewired.com to learn more, to add your name to our interest list, and to find the most up-to-date information about our upcoming seasons of coaching groups!  Questions/Topics in this Episode: [00:01:40] Introducing Janelle [00:04:45] What is a Mastermind?  [00:05:22] Summarizing the ADHD-related issue in the hot-seat  [00:08:10] Overall themes, encountering the “unfinished”, and picking a life domain [00:14:59] Janelle goes in depth about her previous processes of creating manuals and the ideas of “done” [00:17:58] Questions about master lists, time-management, and getting stuck [00:20:43] Suggestions on starting a process and avoiding procrasti-planning [00:23:32] Delegating, and how to find the “who” [00:30:22] Writing manuals, facing resistance, and the stories we tell ourselves [00:32:28] “What if it’s not good enough?” [00:35:27] “I’ve never been a first-draft kind of gal.”  [00:38:65] Janelle spit-fires a round of processes to be created  [00:41:56] “Where do I dump everything and how do I remember to go back to look at it and organize it?” [00:43:36] “It doesn’t have to be boring!” and other ways to create documentation [00:46:14] Managing task lists  Other Coaching Questions from today’s episode:  What is the smallest domino? Meaning, what is the thing you can do first that will help knock down some of the other barriers and hurdles you may be experiencing that may not seem related, but may actually be related?  A project might turn into a system. How do you visualize that before getting started?  Do you have a master list of what you’d like to accomplish, start-to-finish?  How do you manage your time while working on a project? What are other ways to capture information, other than writing? Do you edit while you write? Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A!  If you want to join us every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register so you can jump in live on zoom to ask your ADHD-related questions and interact with other listeners!   Hear all the questions in the full ad-free version of this episode when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more by going to adhdrewired.com/Patreon   Questions & Topics in this Episode: [00:01:11] An ADHD moment and introductions [00:03:54] A listener who was recently diagnosed asks about medication.  [00:12:14] “When a life catastrophe occurs, sometimes there is a ‘fixer’ mode - other times, there is an ‘overwhelm’ mode resulting in complete shut-down of all life-events and routines.  How does one get past the hyper-emotional devastation and back into regularity without too much loss or damage, too?”  [00:20:25] “How to deal with gloomy days in winter? My motivation is non-existent!” [00:27:40] A listener asks the panelists about their morning routines  [00:28:06] Will’s morning routine [00:29:38] Kat’s morning party [00:31:05] Eric’s a.m. variations  [00:32:26] Kristin’s “love” for mornings [00:38:28] Eric shares a funny morning story with his son [00:45:13] A listener, who has an executive function group for students, asks about accountability.  [00:53:34] “Please explain [...] how to get rid of ‘doom’ piles and/or boxes.” [01:03:49] A moment of dad…      Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens

Marina Piscolish joins Eric on the podcast this week to talk about leveraging strengths and owning the challenges.  Marina is the president and founder of Mapping Change LLC, a small consulting business born of her passion for harnessing the transformative power of conflict to create positive changes for individuals, teams, and organizations. Being born in rural Pennsylvania as a coal-miner’s daughter and a grandchild of immigrants  provided helpful preparation for her work, especially in Hawaii and the broader pacific.  As she continues developing ways of working with culture, identities, sense-of-place, history, and trauma, her early struggle with her own undiagnosed ADHD was a defining influence on her career and life. Now, Marina focuses on making creative accommodations for her ‘limitations’ and leverages  her neurodivergence as an asset for her business, her clients, and the people close to her.   Learn more about Marina:  Website: Mappingchange.com Email:   Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode: [00:03:16] Marina shares her story about how she found ADHD reWired, her experience in the coaching groups, and her life growing up in a small town with a large family, all with similar challenges.  [00:05:36] “Emotional pain is the distance between [...] your expectations [and] reality.”  [00:07:59] Marina talks about the build up of shame and being unwilling to share or get help.  [00:09:22] A relatable moment of overwhelm and avoiding the ‘pain of success.’  [00:11:29] What’s the difference between acceptance and embracing ADHD? [00:14:39] “That may be true, and I’m afraid that may be true, but what do I do about where I am?”  [00:22:15] Eric and Marina have a discussion about “administrivia.”  [00:23:19] Marina shares how she became curious about her ADHD and exploring how neurodivergence is the cause of her success.  [00:26:01] Joy through acceptance and seeking support and assistance.  [00:26:26] Eric asks Marina about what she communicated when going through the process of hiring an assistant.  [00:30:59] Maria gives an insight that was shared with her. [00:41:15] A discussion about hiring and trading services in the midst of the pandemic.  [00:48:04] What are a couple of ideas/tips/strategies Marina has for folks with ADHD who have a tendency to be conflict-avoidant?  [00:52:46] Marina leaves us with her final thoughts… Resources & Honorable Mentions: Go to coachingrewired.com to learn more about ADHD reWired’s Coaching & Accountability Groups!  Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens

⭐️ Registration for the Spring Season of Coaching & Accountability Groups is happening now!  Go to coachingrewired.com to get your name added to our spring interest list and start your preregistration process!  Our next registration event is on Thursday, February 2nd at 12pm Pacific / 3pm Eastern.  That's coachingrewired.com to get started!  - - -  In this episode, Eric is joined by Jamie Walsh. Jamie is a husband, father of 4, and business owner with ADHD.  Before coaching, he worked in higher education for 16 years, he earned his B.A. from Providence College and a Masters of Science degree from Boston College.  Jamie also completed a certification program for coaching teens and college students with ADHD from JST Coaching and Training.  With over 20 years of experience in various school environments, consulting for organizations, as well as his own personal journey, Jamie is passionate about making a difference in the lives of struggling learners and wants to empower clients to believe in themselves.  You’ll hear Eric and Jamie talk about shame, resilience, and adulting. Then, you will also hear them engage in a coaching session about impulsivity, emotional regulation, the importance of exercise, rejection sensitivity, and creating routines.  Learn more about Jamie:  Instagram: @anchor_coaching Website: AnchorADHD.com Jamie’s Linktree for more:   Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode: [00:02:13] Jamie shares his story about the impact ADHD had on his life before receiving a diagnosis.  [00:04:60] “I changed jobs about every two years.” [00:06:25] Jamie recounts his experience while getting through an ADHD evaluation. [00:08:04] “(ADHD) has nothing to do with your intelligence.”  [00:08:24] Eric and Jamie dive into Jamie’s family history of mental health issues and addiction and how it impacted receiving information about ADHD. [00:18:52] Eric and Jamie talk about “making lemons from lemonade” and the power of resilience.  [00:20:37] “Being an adult is like trying to fold a fitted sheet” and having a fixed-mindset vs. a growth-mindset.  [00:24:15] Jamie and Eric engage in a coaching session and tackle ADHD and ADHD-related challenges. [00:31:08] Eric asks Jamie, “What has been the most beneficial coping strategy that could have a greater impact if you were to do more?” & a deeper dive into scheduling intentions and shifting the mindset around it.  [01:04:31] Closing thoughts and Jamie’s favorite quote.   Resources & Honorable Mentions: Website: JST Coaching & Training   Book: Delivered from Distraction   Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens ⭐️ Registration for the Spring Season of Coaching & Accountability Groups is happening now!  Go to coachingrewired.com to get your name added to our spring interest list and start your preregistration process!

This week, Eric is joined by Shane Thrapp, a certified ADHD, life, relationship and career coach! Through his business, Creating Order from Chaos, Shane has helped hundreds of people find their paths through the chaos of life with ADHD and find their order and purpose.  With both an ADHD and autism diagnosis, he is the operations director for The Non-Profit Men’s ADHD Support Group, a board member for the Inattentive ADHD Coalition, and a public speaker who works to be a voice and advocate for adult ADHD awareness.   Find Shane on Instagram @creatingorderfromchaoscoaching Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode: [00:02:49] Shane shares his life starting in northeast Texas living growing up on a farm.  [00:05:30] Shane’s journey of getting an ADHD and autism diagnosis [00:11:48] What was Shane’s process to figure out what the challenges were, and how did he identify his areas of chaos?  [00:18:39] From project management to turning life into a project [00:19:45] “I just knew I was different. That’s the one steady factor that’s always been a part of my life.” -Shane  [00:21:18] Eric asks Shane about masking and showing up.  [00:23:04] “My father was Chaos.”  [00:25:59] Shane tells his story navigating through school.  [00:27:43] “Other worlds were more important than my world,” and a discussion about coping and numbing.  [00:31:00] Shane opens up about his relationship. [00:37:14] How did learning about ADHD change the way Shane looks at his past? Shane also shares about his passion for learning about ADHD.  [00:40:22] “I did the wrong thing… As long as I wasn’t being my father… I was fine.” [00:48:08] What sparked Shane’s interest in working with and leading an ADHD support group? And a closing inspirational story.   Resources & Honorable Mentions: Inattentive ADHD Coalition at iadhd.org   Men’s ADHD Support Group (Facebook): Website:   Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens

In this episode, Javier Amor joins Eric from New York City!  Javier is a real-estate broker and is also an Alumni Community member of ADHD reWired’s Coaching and Accountability Groups.  Today, Javier shares his journey through chronic pain, managing Ehlers-Danlos syndrome (EDS), and self-advocacy.  You’ll also hear how a curious mindset and the power of questions changed Javier’s life, and also how asking better questions led to saving his father’s life.  Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode: [00:01:55] Javier shares why he wanted to learn the skill of asking better questions  [00:05:29] “It starts with questioning myself.” [00:05:51] “How can I communicate to the doctors to make them think without being confrontational?”  [00:10:56] The power of the pause, and “Is this going to be constructive, or is it going to ‘defeat’?”  [00:11:28] Using cues and the “point of performance” to act on new knowledge  [00:17:52] Javier talks about managing chronic pain [00:19:08] Javier shares how he prepared himself to see his doctor with what he learned through ArC and the books he’s read [00:22:09] Instead of asking x, ask y instead.  [00:22:50] Javier speaks about Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome  [00:25:26] An example of asking curiously vs. telling  [00:27:34] “This is my mission.”  [00:31:28] The importance of asking & advocacy  [00:33:26] “I do get stuck, but I don’t stay stuck.” [00:34:36] “To change self-concept as an adult… takes time.” [00:36:43] Eric & Javier share some final thoughts & words of wisdom Resources & Honorable Mentions: Book:   Book: Instagram: Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens