ADHD reWired

Today's episode is our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you the listener about situations that you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional, we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. Our questions today are about walking the line between self-care and coddling, how to manage the anger of your ADHD diagnosis, breastfeeding and ADHD medicines, and the guilt when you chose to stop breastfeeding to get back on track. They discuss a question about self-regulating with a focus on how to handle active real emotions management instead of losing your mind and some tricks they use to alleviate the stress. The last question today is about letting people know you've been diagnosed with ADHD and how to handle the feelings of coming out. Please note that when we discuss medications, we can only address personal experience. Anytime you have been prescribed a drug. You should reach out to your provider regarding your symptoms and experiences. Not all medications are useful for all people. There are a variety of options, and you'll need individual help to determine which medicines are right for you. We cover a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we not only discuss your questions but also the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD. Your Resources: ADHD Essentials Podcast with Brendan Mahan Hacking Your ADHD with William Curb You'll Learn: [02:03] Welcome to the show Brendan and Will for our monthly Q & A. [02:30] They discuss their thoughts on a viewer's question about self-care vs. coddling. [08:12] Ways to know the difference between the two. [12:05] A view wants to know how to handle the anger of diagnosed with ADHD. [13:20] The team speaks about how they are managing and tips that might help. [18:08] The external thoughts that go through your mind when getting the actual diagnosis of ADHD. [29:41] A mom's question about breastfeeding and the meds to control ADHD. [31:35] They ask questions about her doctor and the meds that are safe to take. [34:16] The guilt when you decide to stop breastfeeding in favor of the meds. [37:01] You can bond with your baby even if you don't breastfeed. [42:22] The second child is not more relaxed than the first one. [44:48] A question about how to self regulate and how to handle strong physical reactions without losing your shit. [44:49] Eric gives us ways he handles his responses. [47:30] Can you remove yourself from the situation? [49:45] Will talks about what works for him when he needs to manage his emotions. [56:29] How did you tell people about your diagnosis? Did it feel like a coming out? [01:00:25] Brendon gives ideas on how to say to people that you have ADHD. [01:04:13] Do you have a community that will support you? Friends, neighbors, or coworkers? [01:06:26] Thank you to the listeners for submitting the questions for today's show. [01:06:33] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon. ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT. You don't want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks. One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired. ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you'd like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

ADHD reWired is excited to welcome Dusty Exner to the show. Dusty is an ADHD coach, mother, and musician from Vancouver B.C. She was formerly the front person for the punk rock band Kill Matilda. Dusty is one of the founders of girls rock camp La Paz in Baha, California. She lives in a suburb of Vancouver with her husband, daughter Melanie Sue, bird Professor, and dog Hemingway. Dusty discusses being diagnosed with ADHD, touring with her band and living in a van, and the fact that she is trying to get used to being successful with her coaching business. She tells us she is still interested in music, and they have talked about getting the band back together, but she doesn't know what that will look like at this time. She talks about being a mom, and all the struggles that you have to fight through with ADHD. Dusty chats about strategies to use when you feel that you are not present with your kids and how to practice self-compassion. Remember, it's the little moments you get each day with your children that matter, take advantage of those times. If you are struggling with ADHD, your career, and your family, this is the episode for you. Listen in as Dusty lays it all out, how she handles it, and some tips and tricks to make it easier for you. You won't want to miss this discussion so plugin, sit back, and get ready to be wowed. You'll Learn: [03:16] Welcome to the show, Dusty. [04:41] Dusty talks about when she was diagnosed with ADHD. [05:09] What did he see that made him think you had ADHD? [05:51] She talks about living in a van and touring with her band and dog. [09:17] Dusty says she is trying to get used to the idea of being successful and talks about building her coaching business. [13:16] She plays the banjo now but is still involved in music. She and her husband are talking about getting the band back together. [15:49] Dusty discusses her husband and his background in music and her ability to raise money. [17:46] She believes that her ADHD caused her to fail at music the first time because it was so hard to settle down to practice. [20:43] Dusty talks about missing being in a band and how ADHD affected it. [30:04] They speak about instruments and which one Eric plays. [32:11] Eric tells Dusty about the song he wrote for the conference. [34:52] Eric talks about a blog post that he read about having children and how difficult it is to make time for them. [37:21] What strategies do you use to take the time to play with your kids? [40:24] She discusses how she worked around being a new mom with starting her new business and everything else she does with ADHD. [42:51] When you find yourself not being present with your daughter, how do you practice self-compassion? [49:04] When do you feel successful with ADHD? [50:13] They talk about the book The Success Principles by Jack Canfield. [51:28] Dusty chats about her degree in Anthropology. [56:15] Is imposter syndrome real? Have you ever felt it? [59:03] Dusty talks about how she coaches people and their relationship to money. [01:01:57] Thank you so much for being on the show, Dusty! Links and Resources Dusty Exner @dustyexner Twitter | Instagram @vancouverADHDcoaching Facebook Dusty's Blog The Success Principles by Jack Canfield You Are A Badass At Making Money by Jen Sincero

ADHD reWired is excited to welcome Natalie Walker to the show. Natalie is a professional musician and just released her new EP in September, which was her first since 2015. This Colorado-based singer has seen many changes in the last four years, from parting with her longtime label to being diagnosed with ADHD. Natalie has learned to embrace her different brain and has opened up about the challenges that have come from being a young, awkward kid with ADHD, learning how to navigate a thriving creative path to adulthood. Eric and Natalie discuss music, albums, and writing songs. Natalie tells us what she's been up to since her last album dropped in 2015 and her new EP in September, why she likes Instagram but dislikes Facebook, and how to make Instagram do the marketing for this podcast. Natalie speaks about starting her label and her inability to do the bookkeeping herself. Have you ever looked at your financials and been ashamed? Natalie discusses seeing her and feeling like a failure, how her scarcity mindset tells her she will never be rich, and all the problems she feels come with having large amounts of money. They talk about getting a financial planner and a bookkeeper, don't stress yourself out over something you aren't good at instead concentrate on what your strengths are and let someone else handle the rest. Listen as Eric and Natalie talk about issues surrounding money, how financial advisors can help, and where to get referrals. Have you listened to Natalie's music? Her new song Starry Eyed Kids closes out this episode, it's the latest single off of her recently released EP Evenfall. You won't want to miss this behind the scenes look at a successful musician with ADHD and her struggles with money. You'll Learn: [02:21] Welcome to the show, Natalie. [03:27] Eric talks about writing an original song for the ADHD conference and the hardest parts of writing and singing the song. [06:38] Natalie tells us she doesn't play an instrument and sing because it is to difficult. She starts with a feeling when she writes. [07:48] She speaks about what happened between her 2015 album and the one she just released. [10:43] She chats about starting a patreon last year. [12:21] Natalie talks about her opposition to Facebook and the chaos that it contains. [15:05] Do you understand Instagram? Do you like to engage in that way? [23:34] She tells us she started her label and chats about why she did it and her anxiety around doing the books. [26:09] Should she hire an accountant or learn to do it herself? [29:57] Natalie discusses her inability to manage her finances and how it makes her feel ashamed. [34:04] Her mindset is that she will never be rich, she feels afraid of money and the financial mistakes she could potentially make. [35:05] Do you have a financial advisor? Do you have a scarcity mindset? [38:30] Natalie says that she had no models for managing money when she was growing up. She wasn't good at math in school, so she stays away from it. [42:56] Ask a friend or coworker if they have a financial advisor and if they would recommend them. [45:05] Natalie says there is so much noise around money, and she can't shut her mind off. [48:24] She wants to know when Eric got a financial advisor and how he went about it. [54:42] What makes a bookkeeper that handles the music industry different than a regular bookkeeper? [59:45] Eric is talking about making Natalie accountable for reaching out to her network to ask for help finding a bookkeeper and financial advisor. [01:03:15] Making money making music is the dream for Natalie. [01:04:07] Thank you to all of our patreons that support this podcast you have no idea how much it is appreciated. [01:07:31] Starry Eyed Kids off her new EP take us out. Links and Resources: Natalie Walker Evenfall @nataliewalkeris Twitter @nataliewalkermusic Facebook | Instagram Spotify Patreon

Today's episode is our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you the listener about situations that you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional, we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. We are discussing time blindness and why people don't allow themselves enough time to get where they are going without being late. Ways to remind ourselves what we need to take with us before we are in the car and strategies to help teenagers understand time restrictions. Eric, Brendan, and Will talk about the different types of behavior therapy and compare DBT for ADHD and CBT. The unknowns with CBD because it isn't regulated, the connection between ADHD and sleeplessness plus some strategies that might help you get some rest. Reducing screen time before bed is essential so we can shut down our brains and let them take a break from information gathering. Our monthly Q & A sessions are a great way for us to talk to listeners and hash out things they are wondering about. If you have a question, please feel free to email us at ADHDRewired.com, and we will try to give suggestions on ways to handle whatever it is. Listen in to this episode and see if the questions asked and answered are possibly things you have been wondering about. These entertaining friends can solve the pressing issues with an optimism that will leave you asking for more. Your Resources: Hacking Your ADHD with William Curb ADHD Essentials Podcast with Brendan Mahan You'll Learn: [02:24] Welcome to the show Brendan and Will for our monthly Q & A. [03:45] Our listener asks a question about time blindness. [04:20] Have you been able to make any improvements? What strategies have you put in place, so you are on time? [06:10] Do you tell yourself something will take you ten minutes, but it takes much longer? [09:13] Have a plan for what to do when you get there if you are early. [11:30] Why do we only remember things when we are getting in the car to leave? [13:02] How do we remind ourselves much earlier? What can I use to jog my mind before? [23:29] What are some strategies to use when teens with ADHD that have time blindness? [28:12] Making things much worse than they are, magnifying things. A listener wants approaches to stop doing this. [37:95] Ryan asks, how well does DBT work with ADHD compared to CBT? [42:26] They discuss CBD oil for sleep and to relax muscles. [45:41] ADHD and lack of sleep seem to go hand in hand and strategies that can help. Eric gives examples of what he had to do at his house. [54:27] A listener asks about reducing screen time and what counts as screen time. [01:01:04] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups (ArC) Fall Sessions for ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups are coming. ArC 18, run October 4 – Dec. 20. Registration is by invitation only. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more. Click the yellow button at coachingrewired.com to get added to the invite list. Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks. One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired. ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you'd like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

Eric's guest on this episode of ADHD reWired is Elaine Birchall. Elaine is a social worker and a hoarding behavior and intervention specialist. She is the director of Birchall Consulting and is dedicated to helping those with hoarding behaviors to learn to manage their possessions and vulnerabilities. She founded the Canadian National Hoarding Coalition and hosted the weekly Voice America radio show Take Back Your Life When Things are Taking Over and many other things. Elaine describes hoarding as a disorder that leads to excessive accumulations of stuff, some or all of your living spaces are not useable because of things and stress or impairment of functioning because there are piles of stuff. You might say to people I am a bit of a hoarder, but unless the symptoms repeatedly occur, consistently and extend over some time, it's probably not hoarding. The younger a person is when diagnosed with the disorder, the better the chance of recovery is. For some people decluttering a room is very difficult. Elaine gives us tips and tricks to keep it from taking so long. The key to a list is keeping it close by, you don't want to look for it, or you might get sidetracked, and the whole hampster on a wheel things starts over. Elaine tells us to set three goals every day to get your decluttering done and still have time to do what you want. She talks about her scaling system so you can decide how to categorize the items you need to get rid of. Can you rip your house apart and get it all done in one day? Elaine says to find out how much energy you have and do a task that matches it. Don't have the power to do a 15 min job, but try to handle an hour's situation. It won't work. Listen to this fantastic conversation, and if any of this sounds like you or someone you know. You never know when you may have an ah-ha moment. Take notes, phone a friend, or just sit back and plugin but you won't want to miss this episode. You'll Learn: [03:04] Elaine, welcome to the show! [03:47] They chat about hoarding confoundedness and vulnerabilities. [04:21] Elaine, how did you get into specializing in hoarding? [07:52] There are three criteria of hoarding. Elaine defines and explains them. [12:21] Hoarding and ADHD can have very similar rules. [14:35] It needs to be repeated, consistent, and extend over some time before you can call it hoarding. [15:53] When diagnosed early, it is easier to recover than if you wait, and the groove gets more profound, then you can only manage it. [22:32] What triggers the hoarding disorder? What is the Path? [27:33] Being in control of a part of your life gives you peace like a clean. [29:51] Don't put it down, put it away! [30:19] Catch yourself when you say I'll pick it up later. Tell yourself, do it now. [31:58] The trick is to take a second, hold the thing in your hand, and ask yourself if I was looking for you where you would be? [32:44] Two ways to remediate the clutter is the swiss cheese method or pick a spot and start in a corner and work your way around. [35:27] Externalize the message so that it occupies time and space. A chalkboard list or a list on your phone. [38:01] Set three goals every day (1) Have joy, fun, and play (2) remind yourself that you are a developing human being (3) Legitimate work. [41:48] Elaine explains her rule of three. [42:27] Elaine talks about her scaling system around clutter. [44:02] Can you rip your house apart and do the whole thing in one day? [44:48] Gage how much fuel you have and find a job that matches that. [49:24] Elaine runs two support groups for hoarding, but she is preparing to do an online group also. [51:32] Elaine gives us some tools to use on how to approach someone with this disorder. [52:06] Get Elaine's book, it is designed to fill the gap if you aren't getting help. [54:31] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com Links and Resources Elaine Birchall Website Elaine's Book - Conquer the Clutter: Strategies to Identify, Manage and Overcome Hoarding Elaine on Linkedin | Facebook | Twitter | YouTube

In this Mastermind Session, we have Emily in the hot seat on the subject of emotional regulation. She tells us that she is not capable of regulating anything when her switch gets flipped. When that happens, she does and says things that could get her injured or put in jail, and that while she is in the moment, she feels very positive she is in the right. Are conflict and the feelings it causes a way to self-medicate? They discuss why she levels up to crazy mad so fast and the euphoria she feels afterward. She tells us that she does not repress her emotions. If someone makes her angry, she will let them know in no uncertain terms. Emily gives examples of what she means when she says she is ready to change her perceptions up to a point. Eric talks to Emily about coming to conflict from a place of love instead of anger. Finding out why the person acted that way instead of assuming they have character has flaws. Try doing something to reset the mind instead of giving in to the anger. Did you know that the natural fluctuations of hormones both monthly and through different phases of life can increase ADHD? If this gives you pause, and you think, could it be that easy? Please talk to your doctor. If any of this resonates with you, this is the episode you can't afford to miss. Listen to this mastermind and see if they can help you come up with the answers you are seeking. If not, answers maybe ideas of where to search next. Sit back, relax, and push play. You'll Learn: 01:33] Welcome to the show Emily, Roxy, Aggie, and Will. [02:03] Emily tells us a little about why she is here. [07:14] She tells us that she is ready to change her perceptions of situations up to a point. [08:09] They discuss whether a conflict is a way for her to self-medicate. [11:51] Have you had any negative fallout from your actions? [12:52] She is being controlled by the anger that consumes her. [14:07] Emily tells us she does not repress her emotions. If she gets mad at something someone does, she lets them know. [16:35] She tells us what she means by changing her perceptions up to a point. [18:01] They talk about her being impulsive and that it is a part of ADHD. [19:41] When your switch gets flipped, where do you feel it? Temples? Chest? [21:49] Eric encourages her to reenact and do role play so she can learn to handle her feelings. [26:10] They discuss her personality and how great it would be if she could react in a loving matter instead of anger. [33:27] She is encouraged to leave when she feels like she is going to explode, go to an empty room or her car. [36:04] Eric talks about her brain being hijacked. [38:58] Are you open to discussing new medications? Please speak to your prescribing physician. [44:11] Have you ever taken an anger management class? Would you? [44:59] Anger can be a secondary emotion, and fear could be the primary emotion. [45:23] Progesterone levels can affect your ADHD medication. [48:10] Hormone levels change monthly and can affect the effectiveness of your meds. [50:29] Eric talks about the vagus nerve that can be used to reset your reactions. [52:39] Emily speaks about the commitments she wants to make from what's been discussed today. [54:33] Thank you, Emily, for sharing today and keep working on it. [56:32] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com [57:34] If you would like a pack of podcast postcards to hand out, please request them at www.ADHDreWired.com. [58:04] If you liked what you heard, please leave an honest review and to the podcast. [58:45] Not sure where to start Eric, give us some titles of books that can help. Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon. ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT. You don't want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks. One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired. ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you'd like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

Welcome back to ADHD reWired. In this episode, we welcome Tanya Brakeman. Tanya is an Interior Designer, writer, teacher, and relationship mentor. She has spent over ten years engaged in the field of transformation leadership. She has developed a curriculum in the study of the erotic discipline called 'Revel, the Audacity of Ecstacy.' Revel is a daringly vulnerable investigation into how we relate to ourselves, influence our relationships, and express our uniqueness in our community and world. Do you treat others better than you treat yourself? Are you wrestling with your self worth? Tanya believes that the acronym for self is a single evident life force, that we are individually unique in this universe. She also discusses restoring our connection to the intelligent erotic life force in such a way that dignity naturally arises, self respect returns, and how empowering it is to trust your own sense of wisdom. Tanya describes the four spheres of influence, why she uses the word erotic, and what she means by it. She asks us if we use our bodies as a source of intuition and listen to it when it is telling us something. They speak about how emotional self-regulation is a core component of ADHD and how, when we express ourselves to the world, we are experiencing ourselves. Listen in as Tanya tells us how she dealt with her abusive childhood, how she overcame it and decided not to be a victim. She chats about sexual expression and not being afraid to discuss what you want or what you need even when that includes BDSM. This is a conversation about finding one's self in, eroticism, intimacy, and relationships and how ADHD can affect it. If any of this resonates with you, grab a snack, plugin and learn how to express yourself. Your Resources: Tanya Brakeman Tanya on Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn | Twitter You'll Learn: [03:20] Welcome to the show, Tanya! [03:51] Tanya discusses why she got into the study of sex, love, and intimacy and how it changed her life. [05:49] Have you heard of the sex-positive community? [07:30] They speak about 50 Shades of Grey and how that opens up conversations that might have thought were tabu until then. [10:09] Tanya discusses how and why people misuse sex, love, and intimacy and how that affected her as a young child. [13:28] Just because your body can be aroused doesn't mean that you like what is happening. [23:22] Tanya talks about the four spheres of influence and what they mean. [26:10] She explains erotic the way she uses it, not the plasticized way the world uses it. [28:51] Do you listen to your body as your sense of intuition? Do you trust your gut? [31:30] She discusses restoring the connection to the intelligent erotic life force. [34:25] Emotional self-regulation is a core component of ADHD; it's essential to recognize it. [36:15] As we express ourselves in the world, we experience ourselves. [37:15] Tanya chats about her wedding in 30 days, and she hasn't started planning it yet. [39:42] They speak of her love story and how her finance pointed out that she had ADHD. [42:03] There is a difference between bodily urges and knowing. [45:15] The body and the mind coming together is the core point, no matter how you get there. [46:08] Tanya tells us what nurture is all about. [51:00] Do you have real self-respect? Do you have a deeply embodied sense of dignity? [54:54] Do you ever have conversations with your children about sex, love, intimacy, and power? [57:40] Tanya talks to us about the subject of sexual intelligence, sexual expression. [59:10] "Everything in the world is about sex, except sex and sex is about power." [1:00:33] How do we find you, Tanya? [1:02:00] Tanya tells us her adult children are her wedding planners. [1:04:52] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon. ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT. You don't want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks. One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired. ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you'd like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

ADHD reWired welcomes Brian Behm to the show. Brian is a freelance creative director and motion artist based in Austin, Texas. His Augmented Reality Streetwear Project, NO_SYS, works to empower and amuse people through secret messages. He is excited about how Augmented Reality plays into the future of Art. Brian was diagnosed with ADHD last year at age 41. He started researching ADHD, and what he found was eyeopening. He could now explain some of the quirks he had instead of wondering why he had them. Why, when he got in an emotional situation, he would shut down and not be able to talk, and why his brain didn't kick in on command so that he could finish tasks that needed to be done. He left a lucrative job to open his own business doing freelance work. He has done work on many things like the Grammy's and a backdrop for a Diana Ross concert. His lack of time management sometimes causes him to say yes to projects when he shouldn't, but he is still a work in progress and doing very well. Listen in to this conversation about discovery, trials, and reinventing oneself. Brian tells us about being in an Ironman Triathalon, working on Indie films and a new project called Augmented Reality Streetwear that he is excited about. He isn't letting ADHD stop him; he is learning how to stop ADHD and living his life around it. This is an episode you won't want to miss. Your Resources: Ego is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday The Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holiday The War of Art by Steven Pressfield Driven to Distraction by Edward Hallowell You'll Learn: [02:47] Welcome to the show, Brian! [03:00] Eric and Brian chat about giant cold beverages to combat the heat in Austin, TX [03:34] Brian speaks about being diagnosed with ADHD at age 41. [04:51] He talks to us about his last job with Rooster Teeth and what led to him leaving that job. [07:42] Brian didn't know that there was an emotional to ADHD until he started learning about it. [09:26] They talk about doing everything except what they need to do and the reasons for that. [10:50] Brian says when he gets into an emotional situation, he can't talk and shuts down. [15:58] Brian tells a story about a co-worker that was a brilliant animator. [21:14] His schedule is horrible, and his time management is atrocious. [21:53] What did it feel like when you took your medicine for ADHD for the first time? [24:52] He talks about an assault in his 20's and how the fear changed how he handled his life. [27:08] Brian speaks about the trauma he was going through when he left his job. The shame of not being able to deliver the project. [28:28] He had a friend send him a clip of Robin Williams telling Matt Damon in Goodwill Hunting, 'It's not your fault' it helped him so much. [30:11] Have you ever felt the need to do a type of 12 step program with your ADHD diagnosis? [39:45] He has done work for the Grammy's, and he has done drape background for Diana Ross. [41:45] Have you ever turned a project down that you didn't have time for, but you were scared that they wouldn't ask you to work with them again? [46:39] Brian discusses feeling so good for a few weeks that you almost forget you have ADHD and then bam it rears its head again. [47:56] He talks about doing a mastermind with Seth Godin. [50.34] Brian speaks about an Ironman Triathalon that he competed in and how stressed his system was. [57:23] Brian says how helpful this podcast has been for him while trying to figure out ADHD. [58:01] He talks about books that have helped him and chasing down what other people are reading. [1:00:45] Brian tells us how to find him on social media. [1:02:01] Would you wear a shirt that says I hate my boss if he couldn't see that it said that? [01:03:44] Thank you to the listeners for submitting the questions for today's show. [01:03:53] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon. ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT. You don't want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks. One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired. 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Today's episode is our monthly Q & A session with guests Jessica McCabe and Brendan Mahan. We are taking questions from you the listener about situations that you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional, we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. Our questions today are about being overly sensitive to rejection, how to know the difference between essential tasks versus important ones, and everything in between. We also talked about the different types of medicine and how your dose might need to be tweaked to find what works best for you. Please note that when we discuss medications, we can only address personal experience. Anytime you have been prescribed a drug, you should reach out to your provider regarding your symptoms and experiences. Not all medications are useful for all people. There are a variety of options, and you'll need individual help to determine which medicines are right for you. We covered a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we not only discuss your questions but also the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD. Your Resources: Parenting Manifesto by Brene Brown The One Thing by Gary Keller Burli ADHD Essentials Podcast with Brendan Mahan How to ADHD with Jessica McCabe Hacking Your ADHD with William Curb You'll Learn: [02:13] Welcome to the show Jessica and Brendan for our monthly Q & A. [03:13] Listen to find out if people with ADHD are more sensitive to rejection. [08:20] They chat about why you feel like having ADHD is the reason for everything. [12:31] Is age 12 too late to ADHD medicine? [13:19] They discuss why looking for a and not having a schedule can really mess with how you deal with your ADHD. [23:18] Learning about and acceptance of ADHD are two of the best strategies you can have. [32:11] Is being on time hard for you? Do you like having to beat the clock? [40:05] How do you identify the things that are a priority to complete? [49:24] They talk about how ADHD can sometimes make you feel like a failure as a parent. [55:01] When your child is unloading and frustrated might not be the time to discuss them embracing their ADHD. [57:08] What is the best way to limit adults with ADHD usage on devices? [01:02:30] Thank you to the listeners for submitting the questions for today's show. [01:03:43] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon. ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT. You don't want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks. One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired. ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you'd like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

Sarah grew up in urban poverty with domestic violence, alcohol, drugs, and all before she turned 14. She had a hard time in school and with making friends, but her tenacity got her through, she ended up graduating from college with an MBA in finance. For the last 11 years, she has had a career in higher education. She discusses her childhood, the abuse, and being diagnosed with ADHD, OCD, and depression. She tells us why her son hasn't seen his grandparents in 4 years, and why she hasn't told her family about the way her father treated her. Stories like Sarah's need to be told so that maybe her words can help someone heal. She is a strong, resilient woman because of and in spite of her upbringing. Listen in as she explains how she feels and why she feels like it was her fault. I am sure there are people we know who this will resonate with maybe suggest that they listen to this episode with you. Your Resources: Brene Brown Russel Barkley Books on ADHD Driven to Distraction by Edward Hallowell NAASCA AL-ANON You'll Learn: 02:49] Welcome to the show, Sarah! [03:25] Eric and Sarah discuss her childhood and growing up a victim of domestic violence by her father. [05:41] Mental Health in her family is never discussed. [06:32] How is your relationship with your dad now? Do you have one? [07:43] She tells us about an incident when she was caught holding hands with a boy walking down the street, and her father reacted violently against her. [09:55] Her dad's brother was the only one that knew what happened and he was an alcoholic. [10:40] She thinks that people would think it's strange that she has a good relationship with her dad. [11:27] Sarah speaks to us about her father threatening her son; he no longers sees his grandparents. [13:23] Have you ever felt that if you tell someone about the abuse, it will blow up everything you have tried to build? [17:20] You can't numb the hard stuff if you want to feel the good stuff. [18:39] Have you ever sat in the muck? How long did it take you to get out? [19:20] Sarah speaks about her and trying to deal with her suicidal feelings. [21:20] If you could go back and talk to your 10-year-old self, what would you say? [25:41] No one will ever know how awful and painful this was for Sarah, but it is ok to have strong feelings and to see that it wasn't her fault. [27:33] Once she was diagnosed, everything started making more sense. Why wasn't this diagnosed years sooner? [29:48] Sarah reminisces about staying up all night with her mom watching tv and cooking 3-course meals at midnight. [33:30] Shame grows with silence, secrecy, and judgment. [38:10] It took Sarah 10 years to get her undergrad degree, and she got her MBA after she had her son. [40:40] She tells us about a guy she dated in high school that was controlling that she stayed with for four years. She failed classes because he followed her to college and stalked her. [45:46] Even the most resilient people need to stop and take a minute to say, this is hard! [47:00] How has the adversity you have faced shaped your ability to show up for life's challenges now? [49:52] Sarah says sometimes you have to be ok with not always being ok. [50:40] Eric's hope for Sarah is that she will continue working with her therapist and continue to tell her story and keep healing. [51:58] Eric will put some more resources on his website. [53:03] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon. ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT. You don't want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks. One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired. ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you'd like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.