Eric's guest on this episode of ADHD reWired is Kyle. Kyle is a nineteen, born and raised near Vancouver British Columbia and was diagnosed with ADHD, an attentive type in June of 2019. Since his diagnosis, he has learned a lot about himself, how ADHD affects him and many great and not so great things that life has to offer. He is on the show for some coaching and assistance from Eric about the choices he needs to make and how ADHD can affect his future. Kyle discusses his childhood, pivotal moments growing up, and how school was always easy for him. He speaks about being diagnosed with ADHD as a senior, then realizing he could see himself in the way his dad did things and how he talked to him about getting tested for ADHD. He also tells us about partying in 10th grade, how it affected his classes, and how marijuana helped and hindered his ADHD. He also talks about his friend dying right in front of him and how it was his wake up call that something needed to change. What is your action plan to make college happen? This is a question Eric asks because Kyle wants to go to college, but right now, he is not financially able. They discuss asking his parents for money, getting student loans, and the pros and cons of both. Kyle doesn't like to ask for help, but to make this dream come true, he is going to have to do something. Eric talks to him about making the plan and following through, whatever that might look like. Listen to this fantastic conversation, and see if any of this sounds like you or someone you know. Once you have an action plan and the process, it doesn't seem so overwhelming. If you are not happy with your job prospects straight out of high school, ask for help, and take the next step in your education like Eric is encouraging Kyle to do. Take notes, phone a friend, or just sit back and plugin but you won't want to miss this episode. You'll Learn: [01:39] Kyle, welcome to the show! [02:40] He is looking for some coaching and advice about what he wants to do with his life. [04:31] Kyle talks about his childhood and some of the pivotal things that have occurred in his life. [07:05] How was a school for you growing up? [08:26] Kyle speaks about what he did when school got too hard and how he handled it. [09:43] He tells us that in grade 10 he started partying and when he stopped doing homework. [11:16] Did your parents provide structure for you growing up? [12:42] Kyle discusses telling his parents and siblings they need to get tested for ADHD. [15:39] In 10th grade did your grades decline? [16:43] He chats about how marijuana affected his ADHD both the good and the bad. [18:37] Kyle talks about a traumatic event that happened to him this last year. [19:48] Did the realization of your mortality wake you up? [25:56] Kyle says that he wants to go back to school, but the cost of living is so high that he can't work part-time and survive financially. [27:06] Have you started saving money while you are working? [27:35] Are your parents not able to help you with college? Have you thought about student loans? [28:50] Kyle speaks about not wanting to ask his parents for money to help him. [30:01] How are you with asking for help in general? [31:15] Did your parents go to college? Would you be the first one in your family to get a degree? [32:21] He chats about his extended family. [34:30] He talks to Eric about the homework Eric assigned him to do before the podcast. [36:38] What are your earning prospects at your current job? What is the highest earning potential? [39:34] Kyle tells what his go-to response is too tricky situations? [42:34] He wants to work with people and help them through situations he has been through. They discuss his whycue. [47:00] Eric talks to Kyle about college and how to save money, time, and career choices. [48:45] Kyle tells us he is always trying to find ways to save money. [51:34] What actions do you need to do to make visiting colleges possible? [52:17] They discuss his action plan to make college possible in his future. [57:05] You have been talking about one school, what are the other options? [58:22] What about online courses? Have you ever taken one? [59:35] What are all the helping professions in the area you live in? [1:01:00] Kyle says he has a cousin that has a degree in social work, so Eric says to message her. [1:02:27] Now that you messaged her, how does it feel? Do you feel empowered? [1:04:34] They review the action steps and go through each one to see the objective. [1:07:01] Eric encourages Kyle to take the next step and move forward. [1:09:23] Can you make school your full-time job? [1:10:44] When will you take the following action step and call to set up an appointment with the college? [01:11:34] Eric asks Kyle to contact him later today and let him know what he found out. [01:12:49] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! 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Welcome to the second mastermind session of ADHD reWired. Will Curb is in the hot seat this episode discussing his podcast with Roxy, Tina, Aggie, and of course, Eric. A mastermind session is where we have one person bring a topic that they want some help with, and everyone in the group will give their insight to help them with that particular topic. The group today will discuss Will's question of where he should be, how he can figure out his trajectory for 2020. He is thinking that just having the podcast isn't enough. He feels like he could do more to monetize the podcast, but he doesn't want it to appear like he is in this only for the money. Do people appreciate a service more if they spend money on it? This is Will's conundrum. What can I do to grow the podcast in 2020? Eric and the mastermind group talk about how great the podcast is and share their ideas on how Will can do this and let him know that the podcast is doing great. They discuss the reviews on the podcast and relay how much people are relying on what he says about ADHD to help them with their diagnosis. They also chat about doing a content calendar for all the topics that Will wants to use for his podcasts in the new year. This mastermind episode is all about helping Will to see ways to grow his listeners and grow the content of his podcast. Listen in as the group gives him valuable advice, fantastic ideas, and offers to help him in any way they can. If you have never listened to Will's podcast the link is below, if you are a fan, please let him know what you would like to hear about in the coming year. Links: You'll Learn: [02:19] Welcome to the second mastermind episode. [03:35] Will describes what he is wanting help with. [06:15] Eric chats about head junk around money. [07:41] How would you figure out if people would pay for your service? [08:32] They open the floor to the mastermind for their response. [09:28] How do you self assess what you have done so far? [12:20] Eric says he should get a group to listen to his podcast and let him know how good it is. [13:34] Are you getting reviews on your podcast? [16:51] Eric pulled up Will's podcast to read the to help Will. [19:10] Will are you enjoying creating the podcast? [20:23] Will speaks about the numbers related to his podcast and how many downloads he gets per week. [22:42] Aggie gives her input to Will about what he is doing. [25:01] Will wants to know how he can grow the podcast in 2020. [25:08] Eric gives his ideas on how to improve Will's podcast. [27:02] They discuss the tools that some people need to manage their ADHD. [29:23] Do you have a way for people to call in or questions they may have? [31:34] They speak about Will's dry sense of humor and how great that is. [33:13] What would it look like to have a tutorial about the tools and would you want to collaborate? [34:37] a content calendar, it will help you coordinate your topics for the year. [36:44] Will talks about a calendar tool and how to effectively put things into it. [38:38] Do you think people are looking for how to use the tool? Maybe do an episode on the tool you use then have other people talk about the one they use. [41:34] What tools are you going to use to create the content for this? [44:15] One of Will's goals this past year was to finish all of the courses he signed up for. [47:37] Are there questions you are afraid to ask around technology? [51:30] Managing your systems is a topic Will wants to explore. [53:00] Eric thinks the should get into neuroscience like talking about dopamine and ADHD. [54:15] If you keep your focus very narrow, you will have the most credibility. [58:07] They discuss the next action steps for Will to take. [1:01:18] Eric gives him audio hacks. [1:02:13] Planning a project is the first step. [1:02:47] Tina thinks that Patreon is the best voting system Will can use. [1:03:41] What things do you the listeners want to hear? What do you yell at the speakers? [1:05:38] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . 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This episode of ADHD reWired is one of two mastermind sessions that will be released this month. Tena is in the hot seat this episode talking about emotional dysregulation with Roxy, Will, Aggie, and of course, Eric. A mastermind session is where we take a topic or issue that someone is having a problem with and do a deep dive into it to help the person find clarity.   Tena discusses how emotional dysregulation has affected her life. The group speaks about what triggers to look for and how being dehydrated can affect your behavior. Tena and Eric both talk about when they were diagnosed with ADHD, how it changed their lives, what they are doing today to manage it, and how self-compassion is critical when you have ADHD.   They all give their thoughts to Tena around what she can do to help herself at work, what software programs can be beneficial, and her need for a team to see what she misses. Tena goes on to discuss where her issues show up other than when she is at work and what they think would help her cope with it better.   Listen in as they have an informative discussion about triggers that create emotional dysregulation, issues surrounding self-care, self-management, drinking more water, and adding exercise. The mastermind panel gives Tena ideas and tools to manage the problems she is having, that you can't control ADHD with logic, and she needs to ask for help sometimes to manage it.   If you have issues with emotional dysregulation or want to know what it means, this is the episode for you. This mastermind team brings a lot of knowledge, ideas, and insight into this issue, and it's all to help you. If any of this resonates with you, don't miss this episode. You'll Learn: [03:52] Welcome to this mastermind episode. [04:18] Tena discusses what her emotional dysregulation issue is. [06:18] She tells us that she isn't processing tasks out far enough, and when she isn't prepared, she gets furious. [08:00] Eric tries to get to the bottom of why her emotional dysregulation takes over at times. [08:43] Will asks her if she drinks enough water. [11:29] What does ADHD acceptance look like for you? [12:34] You have been managing your ADHD for how long? What does that look like? [14:38] Eric talks about his ADHD diagnosis and how he's trying to manage it. [16:26] Tena speaks about being able to have self-compassion around parenting. [17:06] Aggie gives her perspective on the issues Tena is having. [18:45] Roxie chats with her insights also and examples of what Tena can do. [20:09] When you were in real estate did you have a team that helped you? Maybe you need a team now in this business you have. [21:37] What is the background around when your emotional dysregulation?  [23:18] Will talks about being upset when he isn't prepared for something that is happening and gets mad. [26:37] Tena says she needs an inventory system because she doesn't have one, and maybe that would help her down the road. [29:01] They all give Tena some idea of software tools she can use to help her in her company. [32:50] Tena where else does this show up beside at work? [33:21] They discuss her organizational skills and expectations of others. [34:52] She says she doesn't know where to start most of the time. [36:52] How often do you have a specific repeated mistake? [38:35] Is there a particular time of day that you usually lose your cool? [40:36] Tena speaks about her retirement project that has turned into a successful business. [42:21] Where are you compared to most eBay sellers? Do you get ranked? [44:38] Tena says she does not currently exercise because it is such a struggle. [45:28] Excercise is part of emotional self-management. [48:18] Eric thinks that Tena should have a YouTube channel to offset the costs of hiring people to help her. [50:31] Fascination attracts people. [54:25] Will speaks about a dirty pan and cookie sheet that ruined his day. You can't control the ADHD beast with logic. [56:51] Tena, what do you see yourself doing to try to manage this? [57:33] When you feel the emotions rising, do something physical, it can help. [59:06] If you can financially support this podcast, it would be much appreciated. [1:00:15] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .

In this conversation, Eric Tivers, a prominent voice in the ADHD community, shares insights on personal growth and the evolution of his podcast journey. He reflects on his son's ADHD and autism diagnosis as a catalyst for his advocacy work. The discussion delves into the balance between striving for excellence and the pitfalls of perfectionism, particularly in podcast editing. Eric highlights the power of community support and recounts transformative moments that celebrate vulnerability and authenticity, all while engaging listeners with a curious accountability model.

Today's episode is our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you the listener about situations that you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional, we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers.  Our questions today are about walking the line between self-care and coddling, how to manage the anger of your ADHD diagnosis, breastfeeding and ADHD medicines, and the guilt when you chose to stop breastfeeding to get back on track. They discuss a question about self-regulating with a focus on how to handle active real emotions management instead of losing your mind and some tricks they use to alleviate the stress. The last question today is about letting people know you've been diagnosed with ADHD and how to handle the feelings of coming out. Please note that when we discuss medications, we can only address personal experience. Anytime you have been prescribed a drug. You should reach out to your provider regarding your symptoms and experiences. Not all medications are useful for all people. There are a variety of options, and you'll need individual help to determine which medicines are right for you. We cover a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we not only discuss your questions but also the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD. Your Resources: You'll Learn: [02:03] Welcome to the show Brendan and Will for our monthly Q & A. [02:30] They discuss their thoughts on a viewer's question about self-care vs. coddling. [08:12] Ways to know the difference between the two. [12:05] A view wants to know how to handle the anger of diagnosed with ADHD. [13:20] The team speaks about how they are managing and tips that might help. [18:08] The external thoughts that go through your mind when getting the actual diagnosis of ADHD. [29:41] A mom's question about breastfeeding and the meds to control ADHD. [31:35] They ask questions about her doctor and the meds that are safe to take. [34:16] The guilt when you decide to stop breastfeeding in favor of the meds. [37:01] You can bond with your baby even if you don't breastfeed. [42:22] The second child is not more relaxed than the first one. [44:48] A question about how to self regulate and how to handle strong physical reactions without losing your shit. [44:49] Eric gives us ways he handles his responses. [47:30] Can you remove yourself from the situation? [49:45] Will talks about what works for him when he needs to manage his emotions. [56:29] How did you tell people about your diagnosis? Did it feel like a coming out? [01:00:25] Brendon gives ideas on how to say to people that you have ADHD. [01:04:13] Do you have a community that will support you? Friends, neighbors, or coworkers? [01:06:26] Thank you to the listeners for submitting the questions for today's show. [01:06:33] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .

ADHD reWired is excited to welcome Dusty Exner to the show. Dusty is an ADHD coach, mother, and musician from Vancouver B.C. She was formerly the front person for the punk rock band Kill Matilda. Dusty is one of the founders of girls rock camp La Paz in Baha, California. She lives in a suburb of Vancouver with her husband, daughter Melanie Sue, bird Professor, and dog Hemingway. Dusty discusses being diagnosed with ADHD, touring with her band and living in a van, and the fact that she is trying to get used to being successful with her coaching business. She tells us she is still interested in music, and they have talked about getting the band back together, but she doesn't know what that will look like at this time. She talks about being a mom, and all the struggles that you have to fight through with ADHD. Dusty chats about strategies to use when you feel that you are not present with your kids and how to practice self-compassion. Remember, it's the little moments you get each day with your children that matter, take advantage of those times.  If you are struggling with ADHD, your career, and your family, this is the episode for you. Listen in as Dusty lays it all out, how she handles it, and some tips and tricks to make it easier for you. You won't want to miss this discussion so plugin, sit back, and get ready to be wowed. You'll Learn: [03:16] Welcome to the show, Dusty. [04:41] Dusty talks about when she was diagnosed with ADHD. [05:09] What did he see that made him think you had ADHD? [05:51] She talks about living in a van and touring with her band and dog. [09:17] Dusty says she is trying to get used to the idea of being successful and talks about building her coaching business. [13:16] She plays the banjo now but is still involved in music. She and her husband are talking about getting the band back together. [15:49] Dusty discusses her husband and his background in music and her ability to raise money. [17:46] She believes that her ADHD caused her to fail at music the first time because it was so hard to settle down to practice. [20:43] Dusty talks about missing being in a band and how ADHD affected it. [30:04] They speak about instruments and which one Eric plays. [32:11] Eric tells Dusty about the song he wrote for the conference. [34:52] Eric talks about a blog post that he read about having children and how difficult it is to make time for them. [37:21] What strategies do you use to take the time to play with your kids? [40:24] She discusses how she worked around being a new mom with starting her new business and everything else she does with ADHD. [42:51] When you find yourself not being present with your daughter, how do you practice self-compassion? [49:04] When do you feel successful with ADHD?  [50:13] They talk about the book The Success Principles by Jack Canfield. [51:28] Dusty chats about her degree in Anthropology. [56:15] Is imposter syndrome real? Have you ever felt it? [59:03] Dusty talks about how she coaches people and their relationship to money. [01:01:57] Thank you so much for being on the show, Dusty! Links and Resources @dustyexner | @vancouverADHDcoaching

ADHD reWired is excited to welcome Natalie Walker to the show. Natalie is a professional musician and just released her new EP in September, which was her first since 2015. This Colorado-based singer has seen many changes in the last four years, from parting with her longtime label to being diagnosed with ADHD. Natalie has learned to embrace her different brain and has opened up about the challenges that have come from being a young, awkward kid with ADHD, learning how to navigate a thriving creative path to adulthood. Eric and Natalie discuss music, albums, and writing songs. Natalie tells us what she's been up to since her last album dropped in 2015 and her new EP in September, why she likes Instagram but dislikes Facebook, and how to make Instagram do the marketing for this podcast. Natalie speaks about starting her label and her inability to do the bookkeeping herself. Have you ever looked at your financials and been ashamed? Natalie discusses seeing her and feeling like a failure, how her scarcity mindset tells her she will never be rich, and all the problems she feels come with having large amounts of money. They talk about getting a financial planner and a bookkeeper, don't stress yourself out over something you aren't good at instead concentrate on what your strengths are and let someone else handle the rest. Listen as Eric and Natalie talk about issues surrounding money, how financial advisors can help, and where to get referrals. Have you listened to Natalie's music? Her new song Starry Eyed Kids closes out this episode, it's the latest single off of her recently released EP Evenfall. You won't want to miss this behind the scenes look at a successful musician with ADHD and her struggles with money. You'll Learn: [02:21] Welcome to the show, Natalie. [03:27] Eric talks about writing an original song for the ADHD conference and the hardest parts of writing and singing the song. [06:38] Natalie tells us she doesn't play an instrument and sing because it is to difficult. She starts with a feeling when she writes. [07:48] She speaks about what happened between her 2015 album and the one she just released. [10:43] She chats about starting a patreon last year. [12:21] Natalie talks about her opposition to Facebook and the chaos that it contains. [15:05] Do you understand Instagram? Do you like to engage in that way? [23:34] She tells us she started her label and chats about why she did it and her anxiety around doing the books. [26:09] Should she hire an accountant or learn to do it herself? [29:57] Natalie discusses her inability to manage her finances and how it makes her feel ashamed. [34:04] Her mindset is that she will never be rich, she feels afraid of money and the financial mistakes she could potentially make. [35:05] Do you have a financial advisor? Do you have a scarcity mindset? [38:30] Natalie says that she had no models for managing money when she was growing up. She wasn't good at math in school, so she stays away from it. [42:56] Ask a friend or coworker if they have a financial advisor and if they would recommend them. [45:05] Natalie says there is so much noise around money, and she can't shut her mind off. [48:24] She wants to know when Eric got a financial advisor and how he went about it. [54:42] What makes a bookkeeper that handles the music industry different than a regular bookkeeper? [59:45] Eric is talking about making Natalie accountable for reaching out to her network to ask for help finding a bookkeeper and financial advisor. [01:03:15] Making money making music is the dream for Natalie. [01:04:07] Thank you to all of our patreons that support this podcast you have no idea how much it is appreciated. [01:07:31] Starry Eyed Kids off her new EP take us out. Links and Resources: @nataliewalkeris @nataliewalkermusic |

Today's episode is our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you the listener about situations that you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional, we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers.  We are discussing time blindness and why people don't allow themselves enough time to get where they are going without being late. Ways to remind ourselves what we need to take with us before we are in the car and strategies to help teenagers understand time restrictions.  Eric, Brendan, and Will talk about the different types of behavior therapy and compare DBT for ADHD and CBT. The unknowns with CBD because it isn't regulated, the connection between ADHD and sleeplessness plus some strategies that might help you get some rest. Reducing screen time before bed is essential so we can shut down our brains and let them take a break from information gathering. Our monthly Q & A sessions are a great way for us to talk to listeners and hash out things they are wondering about. If you have a question, please feel free to email us at ADHDRewired.com, and we will try to give suggestions on ways to handle whatever it is. Listen in to this episode and see if the questions asked and answered are possibly things you have been wondering about. These entertaining friends can solve the pressing issues with an optimism that will leave you asking for more. Your Resources: You'll Learn: [02:24] Welcome to the show Brendan and Will for our monthly Q & A. [03:45] Our listener asks a question about time blindness. [04:20] Have you been able to make any improvements? What strategies have you put in place, so you are on time? [06:10] Do you tell yourself something will take you ten minutes, but it takes much longer? [09:13] Have a plan for what to do when you get there if you are early. [11:30] Why do we only remember things when we are getting in the car to leave? [13:02] How do we remind ourselves much earlier? What can I use to jog my mind before? [23:29] What are some strategies to use when teens with ADHD that have time blindness? [28:12] Making things much worse than they are, magnifying things. A listener wants approaches to stop doing this. [37:95] Ryan asks, how well does DBT work with ADHD compared to CBT? [42:26] They discuss CBD oil for sleep and to relax muscles. [45:41] ADHD and lack of sleep seem to go hand in hand and strategies that can help. Eric gives examples of what he had to do at his house. [54:27] A listener asks about reducing screen time and what counts as screen time. [01:01:04] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups (ArC) Fall Sessions for ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups are coming. ArC 18, run October 4 – Dec. 20. Registration is by invitation only. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more. Click the yellow button at coachingrewired.com to get added to the invite list. Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks. One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired. ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

Eric's guest on this episode of ADHD reWired is Elaine Birchall. Elaine is a social worker and a hoarding behavior and intervention specialist. She is the director of Birchall Consulting and is dedicated to helping those with hoarding behaviors to learn to manage their possessions and vulnerabilities. She founded the Canadian National Hoarding Coalition and hosted the weekly Voice America radio show Take Back Your Life When Things are Taking Over and many other things. Elaine describes hoarding as a disorder that leads to excessive accumulations of stuff, some or all of your living spaces are not useable because of things and stress or impairment of functioning because there are piles of stuff. You might say to people I am a bit of a hoarder, but unless the symptoms repeatedly occur, consistently and extend over some time, it's probably not hoarding. The younger a person is when diagnosed with the disorder, the better the chance of recovery is. For some people decluttering a room is very difficult. Elaine gives us tips and tricks to keep it from taking so long. The key to a list is keeping it close by, you don't want to look for it, or you might get sidetracked, and the whole hampster on a wheel things starts over. Elaine tells us to set three goals every day to get your decluttering done and still have time to do what you want. She talks about her scaling system so you can decide how to categorize the items you need to get rid of. Can you rip your house apart and get it all done in one day? Elaine says to find out how much energy you have and do a task that matches it. Don't have the power to do a 15 min job, but try to handle an hour's situation. It won't work.  Listen to this fantastic conversation, and if any of this sounds like you or someone you know. You never know when you may have an ah-ha moment. Take notes, phone a friend, or just sit back and plugin but you won't want to miss this episode. You'll Learn: [03:04] Elaine, welcome to the show! [03:47] They chat about hoarding confoundedness and vulnerabilities. [04:21] Elaine, how did you get into specializing in hoarding? [07:52] There are three criteria of hoarding. Elaine defines and explains them. [12:21] Hoarding and ADHD can have very similar rules. [14:35] It needs to be repeated, consistent, and extend over some time before you can call it hoarding. [15:53] When diagnosed early, it is easier to recover than if you wait, and the groove gets more profound, then you can only manage it. [22:32] What triggers the hoarding disorder? What is the Path? [27:33] Being in control of a part of your life gives you peace like a clean. [29:51] Don't put it down, put it away! [30:19] Catch yourself when you say I'll pick it up later. Tell yourself, do it now. [31:58] The trick is to take a second, hold the thing in your hand, and ask yourself if I was looking for you where you would be? [32:44] Two ways to remediate the clutter is the swiss cheese method or pick a spot and start in a corner and work your way around. [35:27] Externalize the message so that it occupies time and space. A chalkboard list or a list on your phone. [38:01] Set three goals every day (1) Have joy, fun, and play (2) remind yourself that you are a developing human being (3) Legitimate work. [41:48] Elaine explains her rule of three. [42:27] Elaine talks about her scaling system around clutter. [44:02] Can you rip your house apart and do the whole thing in one day? [44:48] Gage how much fuel you have and find a job that matches that. [49:24] Elaine runs two support groups for hoarding, but she is preparing to do an online group also. [51:32] Elaine gives us some tools to use on how to approach someone with this disorder. [52:06] Get Elaine’s book, it is designed to fill the gap if you aren’t getting help. [54:31] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Links and Resources Elaine on | | |

In this Mastermind Session, we have Emily in the hot seat on the subject of emotional regulation. She tells us that she is not capable of regulating anything when her switch gets flipped. When that happens, she does and says things that could get her injured or put in jail, and that while she is in the moment, she feels very positive she is in the right.  Are conflict and the feelings it causes a way to self-medicate? They discuss why she levels up to crazy mad so fast and the euphoria she feels afterward. She tells us that she does not repress her emotions. If someone makes her angry, she will let them know in no uncertain terms. Emily gives examples of what she means when she says she is ready to change her perceptions up to a point. Eric talks to Emily about coming to conflict from a place of love instead of anger. Finding out why the person acted that way instead of assuming they have character has flaws. Try doing something to reset the mind instead of giving in to the anger. Did you know that the natural fluctuations of hormones both monthly and through different phases of life can increase ADHD? If this gives you pause, and you think, could it be that easy? Please talk to your doctor. If any of this resonates with you, this is the episode you can’t afford to miss. Listen to this mastermind and see if they can help you come up with the answers you are seeking. If not, answers maybe ideas of where to search next. Sit back, relax, and push play. You'll Learn: 01:33] Welcome to the show Emily, Roxy, Aggie, and Will. [02:03] Emily tells us a little about why she is here. [07:14] She tells us that she is ready to change her perceptions of situations up to a point. [08:09] They discuss whether a conflict is a way for her to self-medicate. [11:51] Have you had any negative fallout from your actions? [12:52] She is being controlled by the anger that consumes her. [14:07] Emily tells us she does not repress her emotions. If she gets mad at something someone does, she lets them know. [16:35] She tells us what she means by changing her perceptions up to a point. [18:01] They talk about her being impulsive and that it is a part of ADHD. [19:41] When your switch gets flipped, where do you feel it? Temples? Chest? [21:49] Eric encourages her to reenact and do role play so she can learn to handle her feelings. [26:10] They discuss her personality and how great it would be if she could react in a loving matter instead of anger. [33:27] She is encouraged to leave when she feels like she is going to explode, go to an empty room or her car. [36:04] Eric talks about her brain being hijacked. [38:58] Are you open to discussing new medications? Please speak to your prescribing physician. [44:11] Have you ever taken an anger management class? Would you? [44:59] Anger can be a secondary emotion, and fear could be the primary emotion. [45:23] Progesterone levels can affect your ADHD medication. [48:10] Hormone levels change monthly and can affect the effectiveness of your meds. [50:29] Eric talks about the vagus nerve that can be used to reset your reactions. [52:39] Emily speaks about the commitments she wants to make from what's been discussed today. [54:33] Thank you, Emily, for sharing today and keep working on it. [56:32] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at [57:34] If you would like a pack of podcast postcards to hand out, please request them at . [58:04] If you liked what you heard, please leave an honest review and to the podcast. [58:45] Not sure where to start Eric, give us some titles of books that can help. Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .