ADHD reWired

Do you have trouble maintaining relationships? Listen as Eric and his guest, Dr. Jared DeFife Ph.D., discuss one of the messier complexes, twist yourself in knots aspects of ADHD, which are emotions in relationships, narcissism, and more on this episode of ADHD reWired. Jared is a clinical psychologist in Atlanta, Georgia. He has a private practice that specializes in men's mental health and therapy for adults with ADHD. Dr. Jared is a former clinical fellow of Harvard Medical School and has been a media expert for Psychology Today, Psychotherapy Networker, The Huffington Post, BBC News, and many more. Dr. Jared speaks about his learning disabilities and the social relationship issues he had in school. He talks about how his emotional life transformed once he was medicated. Dr. Jared also shares how hard it can be to live with a person with ADHD and narcissism. Dr. Jared discusses the common complaints he hears from partners in his practice, and the difference between ADHD self coping or management and narcissism. He speaks about what you can do to regulate emotions, and Eric talks about ways to run interference with them. Dr. Jared shares how cognitive elements can affect how you feel. When your spouse talks to you, do you hear what they are saying? Dr. Jared talks about what a partner can say to be helpful, and maybe you can say, 'I heard you, and I am working to do better.' Dr. Jared shares some very enlightening information around dealing with relationships and ADHD. If any of this resonates with you and your partner, this episode could be a tool to keep you together. You'll learn: [02:08] Welcome to the show, Jared! [03:18] Jared shares his ADHD story. [05:04] When did you first realize you had ADHD? [06:45] They discuss the apparent signs of ADHD that were missed through school. [07:31] Eric and Jared speak about their learning disabilities. [09:00] Jared speaks about his social relationships in school. [11:44] Jared shares the journey into the psychology field. [13:14] When Jared got medicated, his emotional life changed drastically. [16:13] If you are worried that you are a narcissist, you are not a narcissist. [21:06] Jared discusses how hard it is to live with a person with ADHD. [23:40] Do you think we can develop conscientiousness through active practices? [25:40] Jared shares the two most common complaints he hears in his practice. [28:25] Jared speaks about the reasons partners talk about narcissism. [31:34] What is ADHD coping and self-management, and what is pure narcissism? [34:43] Do emotions sometimes take over, and you do not understand what to do with them? [39:09] Jared discusses what we can do about regulating our emotions. [41:02] Have you ever been in a self-imposed time out in your relationship? [43:43] Eric shares what someone in his coaching group shared about putting a timer on their discussion. [46:04] Eric talks about running mental interference with emotions. [47:20] Jared speaks about how cognitive elements can affect how you feel. [49:04] Jared talks about what a partner can say that can be helpful. [52:46] Can you say, I hear you, and I am working to do better! [54:13] Jared, thank you so much for being on the show! [56:14] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at www.ADHDreWired.com Find Jared: Jared DeFife YouTube | Tiktok Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon. ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT. You don't want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks. One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired. ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you'd like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

Eric's guest Jeremy is a forty-six-year-old freshman at Marshall University. His path back to school and most of his life has been anything but typical. He got into a lot of trouble but was lucky enough to have people in his life that helped him from one extreme to another along the way. Listen, as Jeremy tells his story on this episode of ADHD reWired. Jeremy shares the behavioral issues he had as a child but was still the kid that everyone liked in high school. He discusses getting married right out of high school to his pregnant girlfriend and quitting college to do the right thing. The relationship didn't last, and after trying to go back to school, he quit, and the challenges kept coming. Listen, as Jeremy shares the poor choices he made along the way with relationships. He speaks about choosing homelessness, about losing his dad, and going to jail. Jeremy met a woman that wanted to help and got the process started in jail, and once he was released. He speaks about getting diagnosed with ADHD and medicated finally a few months ago, and he finally feels like he is on his intended journey. Jeremy is on the path of improvement and is getting an engineering degree. His journey back to school was a long one, but now he has the tools to help him succeed. Do you resonate with Jeremy's story? If you do, this is an episode that you need to hear and share. You'll learn: [02:37] Welcome to the show, Jeremy! [03:36] Jeremy shares what life was like when he was a kid. [05:08] He speaks about his mom and the medication she was on while pregnant with him. [05:56] What were you like in high school? [08:26] Jeremy shares his life after high school and what happened in his life. [11:18] He speaks about not going to school because he wanted to do the right thing for his child. [15:33] Do you feel you tried to do the right thing, but when you tried to do that, everything got blown up? [16:31] Jeremy discusses the incidents in his life once he dropped out of college. [19:11] In 1996, he started drinking and getting into trouble while grieving for his mother. [21:08] Jeremy speaks about his extended family's strength and knowing he was loved and felt safe. [30:14] Jeremy discusses his hitchhiking days and the poor choices he made during that time. [33:46] He shares about his spirituality and what led to where he is now. [37:21] Jeremy speaks about a town that wanted him to get out. [41:22] What led you to get diagnosed? [44:05] Jeremy discusses his issues with the legal system, and people were telling him he was too smart to be where he was. [47:00] He shares about being homeless as a choice and finding a person who took an interest in him. [49:51] Jeremy speaks about having warrants but knowing his dad was dying and in hospice care. [51:34] He did two years in jail, but he found help to get him on the right track. [54:00] Jeremy shares about finally getting on medication for his ADHD, even though he had never been officially diagnosed. [58:22] Jeremy talks about what gave him the initiative to go back to school at 48 years old. [01:00:42] He speaks about asking for help and getting what he needed. [01:02:08] Jeremy says that you have to face the man in the mirror at some point in time. [01:04:14] Jeremy expresses how logical and practical he feels ADHD reWired is and how much he likes the show. [01:05:11] Eric says that Jeremy shows that it's never too late to get on the path to improvement. [01:06:46] Thank you for being on the show! [01:07:38] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon. ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT. You don't want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks. One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired. ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you'd like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

Do you celebrate all of life's moments, good or bad, with food? Eric and his guest, Luz Jaramillo, discuss why this can lead to eating disorders, how you can break this habit, and achieve a healthy lifestyle and wellbeing plus much more on this episode of ADHD reWired. Luz is the owner of Brain Body Coach, has a Master's in Social Work, is a certified life coach, Masters in Neuro-Linguistic programming, a certified brain health coach, and many more. Luz is also a best-selling author, motivational speaker, and has ADHD, dyslexia, and learning difficulties. She has suffered from an eating disorder most of her life, but after studies and research, she could heal and lose over 50lbs, improving her focus and health. Listen, as Luz and Eric discuss how to switch your emotional thoughts, change thought patterns, and the importance of eating healthy food. Eric shares that the ADHD brain does not process carbs well, so most times, it is better to limit them and substitute protein for more energy. Consistency is the Key! Luz speaks about food, not being your friend; it is fuel and needs to be treated that way. Eat to live; don't live to eat! Luz and Eric share some ways that you can get healthy snacks prepared and portioned out so you can grab a bag and go quickly and conveniently. Know that if you slip, it's ok to get back up and try to be better tomorrow. Luz has been there, done that, she knows about eating disorders and ADHD. If any of this resonates with you, this is an episode that you can't miss. Listen to what she has to say. It may be the difference between life and death. You'll learn: [01:56] Welcome to the show, Luz! [03:24] Luz shares when she learned she had ADHD. [03:58] How did your eating disorder lead you to learn you had ADHD? [05:12] Luz speaks about what form her eating disorder took. [07:28] When did you decide you needed help with this disorder? [10:10] Luz used neuro linguistic programming to switch her emotional thoughts from food to thoughts of pleasure. [12: 23] When you change your thought patterns, your internal critic screams louder and calls you a fraud. This is normal, and it takes time. [14:35] Luz was ready to have weight loss surgery before her sister got her to change her mind. [16:29] Looking back, how do you feel about how desperate you were? [21:11] Eric speaks about some regular issues around food and how he deals with the cravings. [23:06] Set up your environment to be conducive to what you need. [23:57] Luz shares how important it is to have nutritious food for at least three meals a day. [26:01] Eric shares that the ADHD brain does not do a good job of breaking down carbs. [28:08] Consistency is the key! [31:04] Luz suggests to people that food is not your friend, food is fuel. [32:03] How do you suggest that people stop when they know they are in the middle of a binge? [34:04] Replace the food with something else. [35:20] Eric shares that many people he knows are doing a sugar detox. [37:00] How sensitive to sugar are you? Have you been tested? [38:03] Luz says you should tell yourself it's just for today, focus on one day at a time. [41:10] Meditation and mindfulness are the keys to success. [46:42] Luz shares some tips on how to have healthy food ready to eat for snacks. [49:55] Have you found any services or different resources to help people systemize eating nutritious foods? [52:01] You have to have the correct mindset, it might be harder if you have ADHD, but it is still doable. [52:46] Know that you will slip, and that's ok get yourself right back up. [55:00] Willpower starts strong in the morning, and it's a slippery slope later in the day if you don't recharge your system with the right food. [57:17] Thank you so much for being on the show! [58:17] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com Find Luz: Brain Body Coach @brainbodycoachInstagram | Twitter | Facebook Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon. ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT. You don't want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks. One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired. ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you'd like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

Has taking medication for your ADHD changed your life? Eric and his guest, Marissa Marangoni, discuss what led her to look for a diagnosis for ADHD, her difficulties in college and grad school, and the challenges of working for herself on this episode of ADHD reWired. Marissa is a mom, a writer, and a former teacher. She runs Marangoni Write and Design, where she works as an instructional designer and technical writer. Marissa writes creatively and podcasts when she's not working or spending time with her son. She loves lists, popcorn, and baking, animals, sweating, and deep human connection. Listen as Marissa shares her struggles through high school, college, and grad school without knowing she had ADHD. Her challenges with sensory processing, she shares that she cannot sleep with any noises that aren't even and steady. Marissa also has a powerful sense of smell, and her sense of touch keeps her from liking the feel of fleece on her skin. Marissa discusses some things that have been very helpful in dealing with her ADHD, like medication and Eric's coaching groups. She shares that the medication she is on has a lot, and if they had diagnosed her earlier, she wouldn't have had to work so hard in school. Marissa talks about the podcast she started with a friend with ADHD called 'The Holey Happy Podcast.' Eric and Marissa have a great conversation about some of their struggles with ADHD. Listen to see if you can pick up any tips or tricks that will help you as you travel the same journey they have. You'll learn: [02:27] Welcome to the show, Marissa! [02:45] Marissa shares what brought her to get her diagnosis with ADHD. [04:06] When you watched videos on ADHD, were there things that you recognized in yourself? [09:55] Marissa speaks about not being able to absorb what she was reading, which is crazy since she is a writer. [10:25] Marissa shares how she got through literature classes. [11:00] Do you love cliff notes? Did they help you understand what you were reading? [14:02] She discusses how she memorized everything to get through high school, but it didn't work so well in college. [16:41] Once she got her second master's degree, she became a literature teacher. [24:48] Marissa discusses the challenges she has around sensory processing. [25:15] She speaks about her issues with sleeping and why she needs a white noise machine. [28:33] Marissa says that distinct smells will wake her up. [30:30] She describes the feel of fleece on her skin, but she loves a weighted blanket. [33:19] Do you have any senses that aren't as intense? [34:20] Eric and Marissa discuss their difficulties with their vision and wonder if their other senses are so keen to make up for their vision issues. [37:20] Marissa chats about having eye surgeries when she was a kid. [41:05] Marissa discusses her podcast called 'Holey Happy.' [43:08] What are some things that have been the most helpful in managing your ADHD? [45:11] Eric and Marissa talk about the medication she is on. [46:56] Do generic drugs affect you differently than brand names? [49:07] Marissa shares how joining one of Eric's coaching groups has helped. [50:11] Marissa speaks about some things she took away from the coaching groups. [53:08] The group helped Marissa with anxiousness. [55:40] Thank you so much for coming on the show! [57:26] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com Find Marissa: Marangoni Write and Design The Holey Happy Podcast Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon. ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT. You don't want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks. One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired. ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you'd like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

Have a question for the brain trust? Listen as Eric Tivers with his guests Brendan Mahan, Will Curb and MJ answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of ADHD reWired. We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. We start the episode out with Erica asking what self-care means and when it is numbing instead of self-care. Eric shares that anything that restores health and wellbeing is self-care. Another listener asks about when something takes you off a task, what mental strategies he can use to resume the not so fun duties. Susan wants to know how to quell the agitation of waiting. Eric says to focus on the things you can control and influence, and boredom is the birthplace of creativity. Tyler discusses a late in life ADHD diagnosis, and Cheryl wants to know some alternatives to medication for focus, attention, and alertness. Melissa would like to know how to make herself get out of her chair in the evening to take her pills and brush her teeth. Ella wants to know how to stop losing things like her keys and glasses all the time. Steve makes the best chocolate, per Eric, and was in the middle of a significant expansion of his company Freespir when the coronavirus hit. He is having trouble dealing with the chaos of not knowing when he can resume, and it's hard on his mental health. The guys suggested that he make chocolate gift bags and take them to first responders and other people in his community to keep him busy and brighten their days. Brendan shares that we are in the middle of a pandemic. It is ok to feel frustrated, lost, and tired. Everyone is feeling the same way and waiting to get back to our daily lives is increasing frustration. Practice your self-care, exercise, get plenty of rest, and try to stop stressing. We all need to remember that this too shall pass and try to learn something from it. Your Resources: ADHD Essentials Podcast with Brendan Mahan Hacking Your ADHD with William Curb You'll Learn: [02:00] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb, Brendan Mahan, and MJ. [03:43] Erica asks, what does self-care mean? [04:38] Eric says that things that restore health and wellbeing are self-care. [05:33] Brendan shares his thoughts on self-care and what SHRED means. [07:28] Are massages a luxury or self-care? [09:17] Will speaks about self-care and the difference between numbing and self-care. [12:03] Trang has a question about when something takes us off task what mental strategies can we use to disengage to resume not such fun duties. [13:15] Eric says the first thing is to realize that you are off track and pause. [14:25] Will shares some helpful tips to use to get back on track. [15:55] Brendan speaks about what he does to stay on task. [18:58] Susan asks how do you quell the agitation of waiting. [19:47] Will says the anticipation of being bored is worse than waiting. [20:59] Brendan speaks about how he plans for waiting. [23:11] Focus on the things you can control and influence. [24:16] Boredom is the birthplace of creativity. [25:23] Tyler wants to know how people who received a diagnosis late in life pivot and move forward. [32:08] Tyler speaks about the pain points he is having. [34:45] What are the things that are getting in your way right now? [36:38] Brendan shares what he did to figure out if he wanted to do ADHD Essentials. [39:01] Eric discusses therapy and coaching for Tyler. [40:44] Brendan shares a new, better sleep assessment tool. [43:21] Cheryl asks what other treatments besides medication are suitable for focus, attention, alertness, and energy. [43:58] Why are you looking for alternatives? [44:28] Eric says he is 100% pro trying medication. [46:38] Exercise is one of the top things that you can do with ADHD. [47:43] Brendan's SHRED model encompasses everything that you need. [48:43] Melissa wants advice on self-activating in the evening instead of lounging. [50:47] Eric says to have realistic expectations of what you can accomplish in the evenings. [52:13] What can you prep, so it's easy for you to get things done? [54:14] As an alternative, Brendan suggests having something far away from you go off, so you have to get up to stop it from happening. [1:00:35] Steve shares that he is having trouble getting a new routine in this chaos and feeling tired all the time. [1:02:50] Steve speaks about trying to manage during the pandemic and waiting for funds from the government. [1:04:17] Are you able to produce your product? [1:05:06] Eric is trying to come up with ideas on how Steve can move forward with everything in New Jersey being shut down from COVID-19. [1:07:11] Brendan shares the trauma of this pandemic is bringing people down and making them tired and restless. [1:09:30] Do you have something that you can do to help people? [1:10:21] Steve is feeling recharged, thinking of how he can help first responders with his chocolate. [1:12:42] Ella wants suggestions on how to stop misplacing objects like glasses. [1:12:58] Brendan says he loses items because he doesn't realize he has put them down. Be mindful of where you put things. [1:13:48] Eric says that Tile is the best invention for when you misplace something. [1:17:15] Thank you, everyone, for listening! [1:18:05] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon. ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT. You don't want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks. One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired. ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? 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"Feedback is the oxygen of growth." Listen, as Eric and his guest Peter Montoya discuss what he means by this and why feedback should always be done confidentially. Peter talks about leadership development, conquering challenges, and the real-life experiences that drive his insights and ideas. Peter Montoya is the best-selling author of "The Brand Called You" and his latest books, "Meetings Without Walls" & "Leadership Power". He's also a sought-after and highly motivational keynote speaker and leadership development strategist, specializing in developing high-performance teams. To find Peter, visit www.PeterMontoya.com or call (949) 334-7070. Peter discusses what led to his ADHD diagnosis, how he tames his beast of a mind, and the barriers people have with self-reflection. Peter shares his secret sauce for helping people have better meetings and the three key steps to take to make them successful. Leadership development is the number one job of leaders today. Do you have trouble staying on task? Listen as Peter shares how he keeps focused on what he needs to do. He speaks about how leaders need to steer meetings and pull them back when they go off task, how to ask people for feedback, and accepting feedback without feeling defensive. Defensiveness is neurobiologically natural and healthy, we are wired to protect the image we want people to have of us. Peter is a triple threat, a gifted speaker, best-selling author, and successful entrepreneur. He has done so much in his life, and you won't want to miss him telling us some key things he has picked up along the way. You'll learn: [02:06] Welcome to the show, Peter! [02:26] Peter shares what he means by feedback is the oxygen of growth. [03:53] Peter says you should make sure your feedback is kind, honest, and specific. [05:12] Eric shares that sometimes feedback is delivered in two ways. [07:22] Peter speaks about how he was shamed in eighth grade. [09:58] When did you find out you had ADHD? [11:08] Peter discusses what it's like being an attendee at workshops. [14:30] Does it make you mad to not be understood? [15:52] Peter shares what he had to do to tame his beast of a mind. [17:04] Peter speaks about the barriers people have with self-reflection. [23:38] Peter shared his secret sauce for helping people have better meetings. [25:26] What are the critical steps to having a successful meeting? [27:23] Leadership development is the number one job of leaders today. [29:16] Peter speaks about how he stays on task and follows through with what needs to be done. [33:18] Peter shares suggestions on grabbing the key takeaway of a meeting in a more efficient way. [34:37] What do you do to bring a meeting back on task? [35:24] Peter speaks about how long and what he does to prepare for a meeting. [36:53] How long do you think a meeting should last? Should meetings be fun? [42:09] Peter shares how to ask people for feedback. [43:57] Peter speaks about what you should do if you get defensive while getting feedback. [46:17] Eric says that defensiveness is neurobiologically natural and healthy, we are wired to protect the image we want people to have of us. [48:48] What is the most influential piece of feedback you have ever received? [51:11] Peter speaks about how he keeps himself mindful when he tends to do something that isn't helpful in meetings. [53:54] Peter shares how people can learn more about him and his company. [54:36] Peter, thank you so much for sharing this time with us. [55:36] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com Find Peter: Website Phone - (949) 334-7070 Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon. ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT. You don't want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks. One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired. ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you'd like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

Boredom is the mother of creativity. Listen, as your host Eric and his guest Dr.Kirsten Milliken discuss the ways you can keep yourself and your kids busy during social distancing, having fun at the grocery store, and more on this episode of ADHD reWired. Dr. Milliken is a licensed clinical psychologist, an ADHD Coach, and the author of PLAYDHD: Permission to Play...A Prescription for Adults With ADHD. She works and plays in Portland, Maine, with her two kids and partner Perry. She has ADHD and often says three quarters kidding and half-serious if it's not fun, I'm probably not doing it. As a psychologist and Coach, Kirsten has focused on educating her clients on the value of play in all of its forums. Listen as Eric and Kirsten discuss the new project she is doing called the World Without ADHD, why this project interested her, and the book she is writing with the same name. Kirsten speaks about feeling guilty about working and making money during this crisis when others are struggling and that she and her partner are rehabbing a classic RV to stay busy during the pandemic. Eric and Kirsten share their favorite board game and arcade games, and Kristen speaks about wearing an inflatable pink unicorn costume when she goes to the grocery store as PPE and the response she gets. If you want to participate in the World Without ADHD project, please submit artwork, written word, or stories to www.worldwithoutadhd.com, and if they like it, we will showcase it in the book and online. Kirsten says to use your boredom to get creative and submit your entries before the July 1, 2020 deadline. You'll learn: [01:37] Welcome back to the show, Kirsten [04:10] Kirsten shares a new project she launched called World Without ADHD. [05:49] Would you like to imagine a world without ADHD? [08:23] Do you think ADHD holds you back? [11:33] Eric speaks about the virtual open mics on Zoom that he has been doing. [13:42] Kirsten shares the reason they started this project. [16:24] Kirsten chats about needing people to submit a piece of art or written words to compete to publish their work in the book they are writing. [26:15] Kirsten shares that if you want to participate in the project, go to the website www.worldwithoutADHD.com [29:21] What kind of writing do you do besides writing books? [30:14] Kirsten speaks about rehabbing a classic RV. [31:59] Kirsten shares how she has fun at the grocery store in her pink rainbow unicorn costume. [34:51] She talks about her baby head garden that comes out in the spring. [40:50] Kirsten chats about being in the pink uniform costume and the response she gets at the grocery store. [42:31] The due date for submission for World Without ADHD book is July 1, 2020, but get it in as soon as possible. [44:06] Kirsten, do you have a story you can share that you wrote? [47:05] Kirsten says that she believes play is one of the real natural anecdotes to ADHD challenges. [49:03] Eric discusses the board game Catch Phrase. [ 49:55] Kirsten speaks about her favorite arcade game when she was young. [51:00] Use your boredom to be creative! [51:25] Thank you so much for being on the show! [52:21] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon. ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT. You don't want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks. One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired. ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you'd like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

Are you almost always uncertain of the expectations and on shifting sand? This is just one topic we cover in our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. Andrea starts off the questions, wanting to know what the guys do to get started when there are things to get done. Kelvin has some questions about hair loss while taking Ritalin, and a listener wants to know if they should make a doctor's appointment for their child if they think they have symptoms of ADHD. Listen, as Eric speaks about Sluggish Cognitive Tempo, Sara wants to know how to take a break when she is hyper-focused, and a listener wants to know how to take a course while struggling with structure. There is also a question about the perfect app for ADHD life management, and MJ wants to know how the guys are handling food and nutrition for their children since they don't have to pack lunches. A listener asks about how to build consistency, how to address the stress of not having enough work to do, and Cheryl has a question about people talking so fast that she is having issues understanding them. Remember, during this time, your children are not expected to progress in school, they are expected to maintain what they have already learned so make learning fun. As usual, the answers are varied and entertaining, but with what is going in our world, being entertained is what we need. So listen to this episode of ADHD, it will put a smile on your face. Your Resources: ADHD Essentials Podcast with Brendan Mahan Hacking Your ADHD with William Curb You'll Learn: [01:42] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brendan Mahan. [03:22] Brendan shares his positive perspective on Covid-19 and ADHD. [05:48] What is it you can do to thrive during this pandemic? [07:31] Will shares that he has less time now with the pandemic. [10:04] Andrea wants to know if any of the guys have a mantra or saying that kicks them into action. [11:03] Will shares what he says to find his first steps. [12:08] Brendan gives us what makes him start in the morning. [14:26] We can do hard things, but we don't have to do them in the hardest way possible. [16:50] Kelvin wants to know if Ritalin has hair loss side effects and can a cardiologist tell if my heart is fit for Ritalin? [17:48] They will do an EKG, and the cardiologist can discuss it with you from there. [18:54] Should I make a Dr appointment for my child because I think he has ADHD? [20:36] What are your thoughts on Sluggish Cognitive Tempo? [21:55] Eric addresses this disorder and shares what they looked at during a study. [24:14] Sara asks, how do you stop and take a break when hyper-focus takes hold? [29:36] Will speaks about taking planned breaks, drinking lots of water so that it forces you to take breaks. [30:15] Brendan says there is no rule that says you have to take a break. [33:35] Eric says with all strategies experiment with what works for you. [36:34] I want to use this time to take a course but I am struggling with structure, any thoughts? [36:54] Brendan says to ask and see if anyone wants to take it with you, which will add structure. [38:09] Do you have a favorite recommended fully integrated ADHD life management app? [38:23] There is no perfect app, look for function over form. [39:29] How do you determine what is the most important thing you need to do that day instead of bouncing around from task to task? [39:39] Eric says he rolls a die sometimes, something is better than nothing. [40:34] Think about what one thing you can do that will have the domino effect to make all the other tasks more manageable. [42:04] MJ's question is, how is everyone navigating nutrition at home, with not needing to pack lunches. [42:51] Eric talks about ordering food online and how frustrating that you can't always have what you want. [43:42] Will talks about what his children asked him to give them for breakfast. [45:00] Brendan goes to the store and is making more of an effort to make healthy lunches. [54:24] How do I build consistency? [54:48] Erics speaks about consistency is a byproduct, not a goal! [55:45] If you write things down, you won't have a blank page every day. [56:28] Have a schedule posted to remain consistent. [57:57] Please address the stress of not having enough work to do. [58:26] Check in's work, and it's okay not to work 8 hours a day. [59:03] Do what you can do if your boss is not being transparent about what they want you to do. [1:00:31] Cheryl's issue is when people speak too fast and get upset with me when I ask them to repeat it. [1:01:05] Eric addresses this and shares how difficult it can be. [1:02:32] MJ, what are your thoughts on this? [1:03:39] Do you have any advice for parents who are trying to come to terms with teaching children from home during this uncertainty? [1:04:14] Your kids are not expected to progress during this time, maintain what they have already learned. Have fun! [1:06:34] Brendan and Will do you have a goal about how you want to feel this time next month? [1:08:25] Brendan's goal is to lead and to help as many people as he can while prioritizing his family over everyone else. [1:09:18] Eric wants to be doing just a little much better than he is right now. [1:09:42] Thank you, Brendan, Will, and MJ for being on this show! [1:10:03] Always do your best and know that your best will be different every day. [1:10:54] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon. ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT. You don't want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks. One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired. ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you'd like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

Have you ever done anything consistently for six years? Listen, as your host, Eric, and all 20+ guests share stories about their connection to ADHD reWired and how the show has helped them on their ADHD journey. Join us as we celebrate six years of podcasting on this special episode of ADHD reWired, Jessica shares what she has learned from Eric and how the show and being part of the ADHD community has helped her understand how her brain works. Adeola speaks about how he gained insight into his ADHD through the show and what he has accomplished in his life since he started listening to the podcast. Natalie talks about signing up for coaching with Eric after she heard her first episode, and Dr. Millican discusses what she is doing now. Listen, as Sharon speaks about how she found Eric and the podcast, another Jessica tells her story, and Eric shares what ADHD reWired is all about. Jessica Stilwell speaks about the scholarship she helped create for coaching groups, and Andrea talks about being diagnosed when she was nine but not understanding it until she started listening to the podcast. Jessica McCabe plays a song on her Ukulele and sings the beautiful words that mean so much to her. Gail discusses her diagnosis at age 58, and how she didn't have any information on it until she started listening to the show. MJ speaks about how she ended up in the community, and Daniel says he has no idea how he found Eric, but he is glad he did. These are just some of the stories from listeners who have been impacted by the ADHD reWired podcast, and they are all very grateful to Eric for shedding light on ADHD. You'll learn: [03:00] Hello, everyone! [03:51] Jessica McCabe shares where she heard of the show and how much she has learned from Eric. [06:19] Jessica thanks Eric for him helping her understand her brain. [08:11] How has being a part of an ADHD community helped you on your journey? [10:52] Adeola says he gained more insight into his ADHD and what he has accomplished since listening to the show. [12:35] Did many people reach out to you after you were on the show? [14:31] Natalie speaks about when she first started listening to the podcast and how she signed up for coaching right after she listened to the first episode. [17:01] She shares when she heard Eric say thank you to her on episode 300. [18:55] Adre chats about listening to the podcast for many years and how she met a bunch of people in Eric'sEric's mastermind. [21:34] The mastermind group let her know that she was good enough. [23:38] Hello Dr. Millican, how are you? [24:30] Eric shares who Dr. Millican is and what she is excited about doing now. [25:22] She is writing a book and is gathering words and artwork from people with ADHD. The website is www.worldwithoutadhd.com [28:31] Sharon shares her story and how she found Eric and the podcast. [30:14] Sharon is now advising a group of coaches to notice the difference between ADHD and willpower. [39:00] Jessica says congratulations for six years and shares her story and diagnosis. [40:37] She speaks about starting at episode 1 and working her way through to the most current one. [42:46] Jessica joined a coaching group to be able to show up in her life. [44:31] Getting together, having a growth mindset, and working on stuff together is what ADHD reWired is all about. [46:04] Jessica Stilwell helped create a scholarship for the coaching group and has been listening to the podcast since the beginning and joined the accountability group. [49:22] How is your inbox? Is it still a struggle? [51:04] Andrea shares that she is very new to the group and was diagnosed with ADHD when she was nine. [53:09] She feels like in the last couple of weeks listening to the podcast she has learned more about herself than ever before. [54:52] Pat speaks about being in the most recent batch of the accountability group. [56:56] Thank you, Eric, for all the work you have done. [59:11] Jessica McCabe plays a song for us on her Ukelele that has a lot of meaning for her. [1:07:26] Gail discusses being diagnosed at age 58, but she still felt like there was no information for her, it wasn't until she met an adult ADHD coach. [1:10:31] She speaks about the fantastic support she has found in the community during this pandemic. [1:13:10] MJ shares how she ended up in the community and how she stumbled upon the podcast. [1:15:32] She loves being a part of such a like-minded group and she is a top-level Patreon. [1:16:17] Daniel says he has no idea how he found the podcast. [1:17:30] He signed up for the coaching groups and noted that it helped so much and knowing that he wasn't alone. [1:19:56] Emily wants to express her gratitude and share her story. [1:20:39] She always considered herself chronically disorganized because she couldn't handle her email. [1:21:49] ADHD reWired is the first podcast she ever listened to and then signed up for an accountability group. [1:24:14] Mimota shares her story and what it felt like to connect with people. [1:27:00] Barbara shares what it has been like for her to get to know this community. [1:28:36] Thank you all for being here. [1:29:22] ADHD is the best community to connect to online. [1:30:00] We will do this again around year ten. [1:31:41] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com

Have you ever asked yourself, 'what's wrong with me?' Listen, as your host Eric and his guest Stacey Machelle discuss the challenges she faced in her career and personal life. Stacey talks about her diagnosis with ADD many years ago, and how her prayers and Ted Bundy led her to help. Stacey is a journalist by training and profession turned actor and stand up comedian. She works as a warm-up comic on A Little Late With Lilly Singh, the late-night talk show on NBC, and she has about a dozen other side hustles. Stacey wanted to come on the show to talk about educating black women who are undiagnosed and untreated. Listen as Stacey shares her story and how she was diagnosed with ADD over twenty years ago and prescribed Ritalin. Still, since she saw no difference, and decided she didn't have it and forgot about it. Years later, when she was watching a Ted Bundy documentary, she heard what people said about him and thought hmmm. Stacey discusses what happened when she disclosed her ADHD to her family and how it has gone a long way to healing the relationship she has with her mother. With her diagnosis, her mother and brother are looking at the possibility of also having ADHD, being very supportive, and learning all they can learn about ADHD. Listen as Stacy shares, wanting to get the message of ADHD out to the African American community because they will usually suffer in silence, put their head down and not tell anyone. Her message is you don't have to be silent any longer, talk about your mental health, and get help. She is using her platform as a comedian to raise awareness and put a face to ADHD. You'll learn: [03:02] Stacey, glad you are here! [03:12] Stacey shares her background and when she found that she was having challenges that others were not. [05:59] Stacey speaks about a therapist asking her if she thought she may have ADD. [08:55] Stacey shares that when she was working at the news stations she was fired and almost fired from many jobs. [10:48] What did you tell yourself when you had so many challenges in your careers? [12:58] Stacey talks about her therapist not knowing anything about ADHD. [16:43] Stacey shares a story of how she prayed for tools and the way her prayer was answered. [19:27] Stacey discusses Ted Bundy and how she googled her symptoms because she thought she might be a psychopath. [26:30] What was the response when you shared your ADHD with your family? [27:51] Stacey shares what happened when she disclosed her condition to a friend of many years. [30:47] Eric shares one of his favorite quotes from Brené Brown. [32:33] Stacey shares that her grandparents raised her. [33:49] Stacey discusses what happened when she told her mother. [37:23] Has your family been supportive of you and your diagnosis? [41:30] Stacey speaks about getting information to African American women and showing them the face of ADHD. [43:42] Stacey feels like nobody in the African American community will discuss mental health issues. [46:02] Stacey shares that her grandparents' generation didn't talk about their problems, but she is sure her grandfather had ADHD. [47:58] Stacey discusses going through a divorce and how her mother reacted when she set up a go fund me page. [51:30] She chats about being unmedicated for the last few days because she ran out of her medication. [53:04] Would you consider reaching out to your church to see if you could talk to the congregation about ADHD? [53:18] Stacey speaks about starting a YouTube channel and using sketch comedy to address symptoms. [54:55] What advice do you want to leave the listeners? [57:42] When you are doing something that is purpose-driven and for others and changing people's lives, you get taken care of. [59:10] Stacey, thank you so much for coming on and sharing your story! [1:00:26] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com