Tiny Leaps, Big Changes

In this episode, we talk about why you shouldn't get caught up in the individual goals that you've set. Join Tiny Leaps Plus: http://tinyleapsplus.com Part 1: Presenting the Problem When it comes to personal development one of the first steps many people take is to sit down and start setting goals for themselves. Maybe those goals are around weight loss, or perhaps it's about saving money, or maybe your goal is to meditate more often. Whatever the goal ends up being, it's a very straightforward place to start. By setting goals you give yourself a sense of direction and allow yourself to move forward in a structured way. It only becomes a problem when we get caught up in the day to day goals we are setting and forget what we ultimately want. Part 2: Diving Deeper Here's what I mean, more often than not there's an underlying reason for your goal. Why do you want to make more money? Why do you want to lose weight? Why do you want to get a promotion? Why do you want to start a business? Why do you want to find love? Why do you want to raise good kids? Why do you want to meditate? There is always a real goal behind the goals we set. There is always a reason, a sense of why. That reason will be different for each person so it's something you really need to dive into for yourself, but if you are struggling there is one thing it typically comes back to. Part 3: The Solution We set goals, in part, because we want to be happier. That's the only reason to create change. Progress for progress' sake is unfulfilling. There's no reason to grow or change or be better. Except if we believe that the change will lead to a better life. A happier life. Why do you want more money? It might be so that you can take the financial boot off of your neck. Leading to less stress, less arguments in your relationship, more freedom, more time. Basically, more happiness. Why do you want to lose weight? It might be that you want to feel better in your body. Fit into your wedding dress or tux, Feel pride in how you treat yourself. Gain more energy....etc. Basically, more happiness. So whatever your reason is...figure it out. Set your goals with that in mind. Take action with that in mind. Doing so will lead to more success and more consistency. It will also lead to making decisions that guide you towards what you TRULY want rather than getting distracted. Instagram http://instagram.com/tinyleaps

In this episode, we take a look at why your past doesn't affect your future.   Join Tiny Leaps Plus:  http://tinyleapsplus.com  Part 1: Presenting the Problem  We let our history of outcomes affect our behavior going forward.  We worry that because we've never been good at money it means we never will be We stress that bad relationships means we will never find a good one We spend time believing that because we struggle to eat well it means we can't change that Two things that play a role here is Carol Dweck's model of mindset:  Fixed mindset meaning you believe you are what you are and you need to work with that  Growth mindset meaning you believe you are capable of becoming more of what you are   The truth is that your past can be one of two things:  A historical record of who you are and will always be  A collection of data points outlining lessons learned and outcomes to avoid  Part 2: Diving Deeper  According to an article on Brain Pickings.com about fixed and growth mindsets:  "Out of these two mindsets, which we manifest from a very early age, springs a great deal of our behavior, our relationship with success and failure in both professional and personal contexts, and ultimately our capacity for happiness."  The important part in this quote is that our mindset develops from a very early age. It's based on the results we've gained, and the things that were reinforced over time.   Part 3: The Solution  The solution is straightforward but difficult. It's to shift the way you think about your past. View your past as a collection data points, neither good nor bad, that you can refer back to. But do not make decisions about potential futures based on those data points.   You can do everything right and still not get what you want. You can do every wrong and still find massive success. The requirement for each is the same, to take action and make progress, then use those data points to inform decisions.   Instagram:  http://instagram.com/tinyleaps  Resources Used:  https://www.brainpickings.org/2014/01/29/carol-dweck-mindset/

In this episode, we take a look at why allowing yourself to be human is required for personal growth. Join Tiny Leaps Plus: www.tinyleapsplus.com There are two main dynamics in the personal development world right now. Hustle Culture Manifest Culture In this episode, we'll break these two dynamics down, discuss there pros and cons, and talk about the path forward for your own life. 

In this episode, we take a look at the two requirements to changing your life. Buy the Consistentcy Code: http://consistencycourse.com We often look at personal development and creating change as a process of taking action over a long period of time. In fact I've been guilty of simplifying it in this way too. The unfortunate truth is that this view of personal development does not address the very real problem of getting started in the first place. It doesn't look at the very real mental and emotional obstacles that need to be overcome before any action can be consistently taken. Today I want to dive a bit deeper into these prerequisites so that we can start to build a better understanding of the entire process behind change, taking action, and making progress in your life. Send me a message: http://instagram.com/tinyleaps

In this episode, we take a look at why being positive is a choice. Buy the Consistency Code: http://consistencycourse.com Instagram http://instagram.com/tinyleaps Resources Used: https://yourpositiveoasis.com/10-irresistible-traits-people-positive-vibes/ https://www.lifehack.org/293018/15-signs-negative-people

In this episode, I dive into the world of adult friendships and we look at what is required to create new friendships once you are out of school and in the real world. Today's Sponsor is Raycon: Get 15% off at www.buyraycon.com/tinyleaps Send me a message: http://instagram.com/tinyleaps Resources: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3874845/ https://www.cigna.com/static/www-cigna-com/docs/about-us/newsroom/studies-and-reports/combatting-loneliness/cigna-2020-loneliness-infographic.pdf Additional Resources: https://www.talkspace.com/blog/how-to-make-friends-adult/ https://www.bakadesuyo.com/2017/02/how-to-make-friends-as-an-adult/ https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-make-friends-as-an-adult-4769076

In this episode, we look at what 'making it' actually means. Buy The Consistency Code: http://consistencycourse.com Follow on Instagram: http://instagram.com/tinyleaps

In this episode, we look at the must-read books of July 2020. Recommended by listeners.  Buy the Consistentcy Code: http://consistencycourse.com  Daring Greatly by Brene Brown "Brown explains how vulnerability is both the core of difficult emotions like fear, grief, and disappointment, and the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, empathy, innovation, and creativity. She writes: “When we shut ourselves off from vulnerability, we distance ourselves from the experiences that bring purpose and meaning to our lives.” Get Your Copy: https://amzn.to/39ufgPe How to Be Miserable by Dr. Randy J Paterson "This tongue-in-cheek guide will help you identify the behaviors that make you unhappy and discover how you—and only you—are holding yourself back from a life of contentment. You’ll learn to spot the tried-and-true traps that increase feelings of dissatisfaction, foster a lack of motivation, and detract from our quality of life—as well as ways to avoid them." Get Your Copy: https://amzn.to/2CDsZqY Playing Ball on Running Water by Dr. David K Reynolds "Essentially based on Japanese Zen psychotherapy Morita Therapy and Constructive Living Therapy. Teaches that quietly sitting with and accepting emotions is calming, then our daily actions can present a positive influence in life. In other words, actions are more important than feelings." Get Your Copy: https://amzn.to/32QlE1P Own The Day, Own Your Life by Aubrey Marcus "Own the Day, Own Your Life is an empowering handbook that guides readers to optimize every moment of the day, from waking in the morning, through work and play, until bedtime each night. With small, actionable changes implemented throughout the course of one day, we can feel better, perform more efficiently, and live happier. And these daily habits turn into weekly routines, ultimately becoming part of lifelong healthy choices." Get Your Copy: https://amzn.to/2ByykiE Instagram: http://instagram.com/tinyleaps

In this episode I share a teaser of my recent interview on the Vitamin Joy podcast.  Listen to the full interview: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/vitamin-joy-with-shelby-stanger/id1517822159#episodeGuid=fa8388db-6342-4131-bc87-a00e8a65cd3f

In this episode, I share 3 things you can do about those tasks you always procrastinate on.  Try Blinkist: http://blinkist.com/tinyleaps Part 1: Presenting the Problem A lot of the things on our "task list" don't get done. We consistently push them off Each day we push it to the next day, and the next day, and the next day Eventually the task sits there, the reminder gets ignored, and we avoid that task completely We aren't exactly procrastinating, we still do other things, but we just can't get ourselves to do this one important thing. Something we can all do to take better action each day is to pay close attention to the areas that we often fail and do something about it. Let's take a look at it. Part 2: Diving Deeper That something can be in the form of: Outsourcing (Can you pay someone else to do it? Would this be worth while?) Improving Systems (Can you make it easier to do?) Question Its Value (Is it really that important?) Part 3: The Solution Outsourcing: If something is important and needs to get done but you often fail to do it or drop the ball then look into the reality of paying someone else to do it. We often push back against the idea of "spending money" but the truth is that sometimes you can spend money "profitably". The clearest example is this, if you know that sending out cold emails will get more sales, but you never do it, paying someone else to do it will result in an overall increase in revenue. Here's a less clear example, if you often find yourself neglecting various household tasks or organizing your life but you recognize it's value to reduce overwhelm or anxiety, paying someone else to do it will cost you dollars but save you on your mental health. Improving Systems: If something is important and needs to get done, you find yourself never doing it, and you can't justify the expense of paying someone else to do it (or it's something that only YOU can do) then your next step is to look at the systems. Your systems around a task are all of the things you do to accomplish that task. For example, going out for a run might require you to pick out running clothes, put on your shoes, grab your keys, find your headphones, get in the car, drive to the trail, and then go for a run. That's your "system". One thing that can make action easier is to improve the system itself. So perhaps, in the example above, you start leaving your shoes by the door. Perhaps you choose your running clothes the night before. Perhaps you leave your car keys and headphones by your shoes. Doing this would reduce the amount of searching and thought that needs to go into getting out for the run. Question Its Value: The final thing you can do is look at whether or not that task should even be done. Sure it feels important but if you always fail to do it and things are still fine then is it actually important? This obviously isn't going to be applicable to most things but sometimes we trick ourselves into doing things because it "feels important" without ever questioning if it truly is. By eliminating these tasks you can free up the mental space and focus your efforts on what's truly important. Just a few ideas. This will be rolling out as an episode on my podcast Tiny Leaps, Big Changes this week. Hope it helps! Part 4: Daily Challenge What have you been putting off? Can it be outsourced? What do your systems look like? Is it really important? Instagram Message me: http://instagram.com/tinyleaps