Tiny Leaps, Big Changes 578 - What is Your Real Goal?
In this episode, we talk about why you shouldn't get caught up in the individual goals that you've set.
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Part 1: Presenting the Problem
When it comes to personal development one of the first steps many people take is to sit down and start setting goals for themselves. Maybe those goals are around weight loss, or perhaps it's about saving money, or maybe your goal is to meditate more often.
Whatever the goal ends up being, it's a very straightforward place to start. By setting goals you give yourself a sense of direction and allow yourself to move forward in a structured way.
It only becomes a problem when we get caught up in the day to day goals we are setting and forget what we ultimately want.
Part 2: Diving Deeper
Here's what I mean, more often than not there's an underlying reason for your goal.
- Why do you want to make more money?
- Why do you want to lose weight?
- Why do you want to get a promotion?
- Why do you want to start a business?
- Why do you want to find love?
- Why do you want to raise good kids?
- Why do you want to meditate?
There is always a real goal behind the goals we set. There is always a reason, a sense of why. That reason will be different for each person so it's something you really need to dive into for yourself, but if you are struggling there is one thing it typically comes back to.
Part 3: The Solution
We set goals, in part, because we want to be happier.
That's the only reason to create change. Progress for progress' sake is unfulfilling. There's no reason to grow or change or be better. Except if we believe that the change will lead to a better life. A happier life.
Why do you want more money? It might be so that you can take the financial boot off of your neck. Leading to less stress, less arguments in your relationship, more freedom, more time. Basically, more happiness.
Why do you want to lose weight? It might be that you want to feel better in your body. Fit into your wedding dress or tux, Feel pride in how you treat yourself. Gain more energy....etc. Basically, more happiness.
So whatever your reason is...figure it out. Set your goals with that in mind. Take action with that in mind. Doing so will lead to more success and more consistency. It will also lead to making decisions that guide you towards what you TRULY want rather than getting distracted.