Brilliant actor and comedian Jess Henderson (as seen on Shrill) joins us this week to talk toxic positivity, long distance dates, and reality tv self care. Ashley has a run in with a cruise guest. Kate finds a butt plugCW: We discuss Sexual Harassment on this episode, if this is triggering for you, then it might be best to skip from minute ~20:00 to ~40:00 If you need resources on this topic you can find some here: https://www.rainn.org/ThatsHarassmentJess Henderson can be found @embrace_mess on IGMerch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merchAshley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdatesNewsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast@ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok.@thekatesisk on ig and twitterWatch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/9tR6ymxCf2I Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

YouTube Super Star Jessie Paege joins the pod to cover some sexy cosplay and the pure joy of enjoying someone else's kink. Ashley has sex with a squirting baby gay. Kate delivers some huge news!Jessie can be found @jessiepaege on IG and YouTube.Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merchAshley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdatesNewsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast@ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok.@thekatesisk on ig and twitterWatch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/4KvIc-rUFYY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jamie Raines & Shaaba Lotun came on the pod to flex how cute they are together. We discuss what it was like to get PhDs while making viral YouTube videos, Jamie's sex lab research on genitals, and why usually Shaaba is proudly displaying her sex toys. Ashley discusses her not-date with Jen. Kate does a walk of shame to and from church.Jamie can be found @jammidodger on YouTube and @jammi.dodger on ig. Shaaba can be found @sherbertlemon007 on IG and https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjZ97eKgNwC4j-z_6LDjfIg on youtube.Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merchAshley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdatesNewsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast@ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok.@thekatesisk on ig and twitterWatch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/yYuHHJO2s4s Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sophie Santos (buy her new book The One You Want to Marry) is such an incredible story teller and I'm so excited to share story of her first gay sex experience (which sounds like it could not have gone worse). We also get into OCD and whether or not Kate and Ashley have it. Kate has either a gay sex moment or a straight sex moment. Ashley is in a weird thing with a woman who just closed her relationship.Sophie can be found @sophieesantos on ig. If you'd like to buy her book or audiobook information can be found at www.sophiesantos.comMerch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merchAshley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdatesNewsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast@ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok.@thekatesisk on ig and twitterWatch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/QGzU77BFdoU Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Cameron Esposito (Queery Podcast, Conan, STARS) joins the pod this week for a roundtable discussion on queer teenaged longing and the lengths young gays go to for puppy love. Ashley meets up with a girl at camp in the middle of the night. Kate sneaks into a movie with her camp "friend".Cameron can be found @cameronesposito on ig and twitter. They are going to Chicago and Salt Lake City on tour this upcoming week and next. cameronesposito.com for tickets.Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merchAshley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdatesNewsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast@ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok.@thekatesisk on ig and twitterWatch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/ashgavs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

James Tison (The New York Times) cracks open the vulnerability wide open on this episode by discussing his partner's transition, couples therapy, scheduling sex and more. Ashley doesn't understand straight sex. Kate cries.James can be found everywhere @jamestisonMerch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merchAshley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdatesNewsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast@ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok.@thekatesisk on ig and twitterWatch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/ashgavs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It is no secret that Ashley has a huge crush on Izzy McCalla (The Prom on Broadway and Aladdin on Broadway) and it's because she never disappoints. We cover Izzy's moments getting heckled on Broadway and her very pleasant threesome. Ashley sees boobies for the first time. Kate gets their boobies seen for the first time.Izzy can be found on IG @izzymccallaMerch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merchAshley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdatesNewsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast@ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok.@thekatesisk on ig and twitterWatch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/ashgavs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Lucky us! We got to sit down with one of our top requested guests ever! You might know Gaby Dunn from their viral youtube series, hit podcasts (Bad With Money and Just Between Us), or their work on Netflix's Big Mouth. We get into American Girl Dolls, dating cis men as an AFAB ENBY person, and how cis men are actually the secret to ending climate change. Ashley has another Horse Girl story. Kate has a vegetable oil related disaster.Gaby can be found on IG @gabyroad and on YouTube @nofungabydunn. Their podcasts are Just Between Us and Bad With Money. Gaby's book "Bad With Money" is available everywhere books are sold.We are nearly 100% funded by our Patreon: Patreon.com/WHGS . Donate as little as one dollar!YouTube: youtube.com/user/ashgavsMerch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merchNewsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast@ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok.@thekatesisk on ig and twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Alysia Brown (Tampon Rock Podcast) cancels Ashley on the podcast today, but also dives into the nitty gritty of her own sl*t phase. We get into not knowing your type, loving a "will they / won't they / push and pull", and whether or not having an all black cat makes you an ally. Ashley tries out some BDSM stuff. Someone had sex in Kate's house.Alysia can be found @alysia.brown on ig, alysiabr0wn on twitter, and Iamalybrown on Spotify. Her podcast Tampon Rock can be found anywhere you listen to podcasts!We are nearly 100% funded by our Patreon: Patreon.com/WHGS . Donate as little as one dollar!Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merchNewsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast@ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok.@thekatesisk on ig and twitterWatch this podcast on YouTube @ https://www.youtube.com/user/ashgavs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Fumi Abe (as seen on Colbert and a writer on The Late Late Show, and host of the Asian Not Asian Podcast) is respectfully horny and here to tell us what that means. We get into his attraction to soccer plays and strong women and how they always turn out to be gay, copying lesbian fashion as a straight man, and communication during sex. Ashley has mommy issues. Kate has period sex before knowing she was on her period.Fumi can be found @thefumiabe on all platforms, you can watch his late night set here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ozIkSbFUoSIWe are nearly 100% funded by our Patreon: Patreon.com/WHGS . Donate as little as one dollar!Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merchNewsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast@ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok.@thekatesisk on ig and twitter#comedy #lesbian #standup #tiktok #lgbt #queer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices