Fan-favorite Casey Tanner, AASECT, is a Queer Sex Therapist and founder of The Expansive Group, a queer-affirming therapy group that provides consultation and clinical work to individuals and institutions alike. But, today she is BACK in the apartment to answer questions and drive Ashley crazy. We discuss the complexities of queer identity, unpacking trauma, and why Ashley can’t stop simping. Ashley just wants her book back. Kate watches porn for the first time.You can find Casey on:IG: @queersextherapy, And you can learn more about her practice, as well as find LGBTQ counseling and gender therapy, on her organization’s website: https://www.theexpansivegroup.com/Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merchAshley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdatesNewsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast@ashgavs on IG and Twitter. @ashgavscomedy on TikTok.@thekatesisk on IG and TwitterSubscribe to our Patreon for bonus content, uncut episodes, stand-up live streams, and more!: www.patreon.com/whgsUse Truebill to manage finances, cancel subscriptions, and save money by visiting https://www.truebill.com/ashleyPrefer to see what’s happening inside of the room? Watch the video version of the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/5gKExymsCA0 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Brian Bahe is a hilarious Indigenous comedian, writer, and gay man who has been written up by NPR, Vulture, and the Los Angeles Times, and has an upcoming stand-up set on Comedy Central. However, thanks to the Covid-19 Omicron variant, the gang is avoiding the apartment this week and doing some cybering! We discuss coming out in school, underground sex parties, and getting horny via Pavlovian conditioning. Ashley charts her ups, downs, tops, and bottoms. Kate’s MILF fantasies go awry.       Brian can be found on: IG & Twitter: @brian_bahe,And his upcoming solo show, “Reading From My Phone,” plays on 1/23/22 at Union Hall in Brooklyn! Tickets can be purchased at: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/brian-bahe-reading-from-my-phone-tickets-221756408387, and you can learn about upcoming shows on his IG, or brianbahe.com.Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merchAshley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdatesNewsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast@ashgavs on IG and Twitter. @ashgavscomedy on TikTok.@thekatesisk on IG and TwitterSubscribe to our Patreon for bonus content, uncut episodes, stand-up live streams, and more!: www.patreon.com/whgsPrefer to see what’s happening inside of the room? Watch the video version of the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/fNdT9u90U0I Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kevin McHale (Glee, Virtually Famous) and Austin McKenzie (Spring Awakening, When We Rise) are an absolute power couple taking the world by storm, best known for their numerous performances across television, film, theatre, and music, but today they slow down to get intimate in the apartment. We discuss the dynamics of sleep kink, the ins-and-outs of topping, and… *ahem*… the 2nd Amendment. Ashley confronts toxic masculinity. Kate gets a lesbian circumcision.Kevin McHale can be found on:IG: @kevinmchale,Twitter: @druidDUDE,And more exciting projects to be announced soon!Austin McKenzie can be found on:IG: @austineyes,Twitter: @apm_official,And you can stream his music on: Spotify, (https://open.spotify.com/artist/1POOtj6nQMh8veKXfQMZee)Apple Music, (https://music.apple.com/us/artist/austin-p-mckenzie/1205567214)Or wherever you listen!Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merchAshley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdatesNewsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast@ashgavs on IG and Twitter. @ashgavscomedy on TikTok.@thekatesisk on IG and TwitterUse Truebill to manage unwanted subscriptions, lower bills, and save money by visiting www.truebill.com/ashley Prefer to see what’s happening inside of the room? Watch the video version of the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/iVpQtj_Euqs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You've been asking for it and it's finally here. We've started a Patreon exclusive series reading YOUR gay sex stories! Each month we will release full bonus episodes with your favorite guests on our Patreon where we read your raunchiest stories. patreon.com/whgs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Gianna Marie, or “gwizzle”, is a super wonderful, super talented goofball who can be found singing her heart from the confines of her car to nearly 4 Million followers on TikTok, Instagram, and more, but today she is sneaking into the hotel room for some fun with the gang. On yet another special episode of We’re Having Gay Sex, “Road Dog Edition,” we discuss messy first hookups, sex on anti-depressants, and managing your mid-western mom. Ashley meets herself a small-town, apple-pie gal. Kate toys with a three-way.     Gianna can be found across the internet:@gwizzle_ on Tik Tok,@g.wizzle_ on Instagram, and“Gianna Marie” on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsafnlVdgtzTKdWqe1UNChAMerch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merchAshley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdatesNewsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast@ashgavs on IG and Twitter. @ashgavscomedy on TikTok.@thekatesisk on IG and TwitterDownload the Current app, and enter code “Gay” during sign-up for a chance to win $200! Visit https://current.com/gay for terms and conditions.Get 20% off of your first order of Foria’s all-natural products by visiting https://www.foriawellness.com/ashley, or use code “ashley” at checkout Prefer to see what’s happening inside of the room? Watch the video version of the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/g6tHvuNuZU4 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Chrissy Chlapecka is an absolutely fabulous social media influencer who is spearheading the empowering “BimboTok” movement, battling tired stereotypes with nearly 4.5 million followers across social media, but today the gang is in HER apartment for a wild time. In today’s special We’re Having Gay Sex, “Road Dog Edition," we discuss the positives of a “slut phase,” navigating unfulfilling relationships, and manifesting your best and baddest self. Ashley has trouble pooping. Kate breaks their big hymen.          Chrissy can be found across the internet:@chrissychlapecka on IG and TikTok,@chrissychlapp on Twitter,And you can watch her on her YouTube channel, “Chrissy Chlapecka:”https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpHxbFPuxKHJsUUVau30-ZgMerch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merchAshley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdatesNewsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast@ashgavs on IG and Twitter. @ashgavscomedy on TikTok.@thekatesisk on IG and TwitterGet up to $200 off your next Helix Mattress order, PLUS two free pillows, by visiting our special link: www.helixsleep.com/gaysexUse Truebill to manage bills, cancel subscriptions, and save money by visiting our special link: www.truebill.com/ashley.Prefer to see what’s happening inside of the room? Watch the video version of the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/noM3bus5J88  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Akeem Woods is a hysterical stand-up comedian who opens for comedy greats like Tiffany Haddish and Godfrey, as well as makes frequent appearances on Kevin Hart’s LOL Network, but today he’s in the apartment to get into the nitty-gritty. We discuss differences in gay male vs lesbian hookup culture, strategies for taking better nudes, and the logistics of keeping a phone just for your sex life. Ashley “does the dance” with a ballerina. Kate has their first one night stand.      Akeem can be found on IG: @akeemwoods, Twitter: @WoodsAkeem, and you can see his future tour dates and more at akeemwoods.com Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merchAshley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdatesNewsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast@ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok.@thekatesisk on ig and twitterGet 30% off your first order of Foria’s amazing products by visiting foriawellness.com/ashley, or using code “ashley” at checkout.Use Truebill to manage bills, cancel subscriptions, and save money by visiting our special link: www.truebill.com/ashley.Prefer to see what’s happening inside of the room? Watch the video version of the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/nVPBffngpi8 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ali Kolbert (The Ali Kolbert Show) is a side-splitting writer/comedian who has worked in some of NBC’s most prestigious programming (SNL, The Tonight Show, Late Night w/ Seth Meyers), but today she has graced WHGS with her hilarious presence. We discuss lesbian role models in media, dating during big life transitions, and the intricacies of tomboy fashion. Ashley gets introspective about her future. Kate grapples with their imaginary d*ck.Ali can be found on IG, Twitter, and TikTok: @alikolbertYou can also listen to her podcast, The Ali Kolbert Show, on Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/27KEFQNRq3kBf8uvH744bk), Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ali-kolbert-show/id1569210719), or wherever you listen.Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merchAshley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdatesNewsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast@ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok.@thekatesisk on ig and twitterUse Truebill to manage bills, cancel subscriptions, and save money by visiting our special link: www.truebill.com/ashleyPrefer to see what’s happening inside of the room? Watch the video version of the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/n9wSeUo53UA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jake Cornell (Going Out With Jake Cornell Podcast) is not only one of Kate's hilarious BFFs, he is TikTok famous, Insta famous, and truly hysterical. We get into his study abroad fling, age gap relationships, and how to get out of sleeping with someone but still using them for their mattress. Ashley goes on a date with Kate. Kate has to figure out if she was on a date or not.Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merchAshley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdatesNewsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast@ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok.@thekatesisk on ig and twitterWant to watch this episode on YouTube? https://youtu.be/vS6aRHo4Jps#comedy #lesbian #gay #tiktok #lgbt #queer #lesbiandating #bi #trans #nonbinary #enby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Casey Tanner, AASECT, (@queersextherapist) is a Queer Sex Therapist and founder of The Expansive group, a queer-affirming therapy group (www.theexpansivegroup.com). But she is also absolutely hysterical and one of Ashley's favorite people on the planet and high-key crush. We dive into common queer sex therapy questions (like mismatched sex drive, and preparing for your first queer experience) and Casey's unfortunate dildo experiences. Ashley tries to win Casey's love and affection. Kate buys a double ended dildo.Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merchAshley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdatesNewsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast@ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok.@thekatesisk on ig and twitterWatch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/_zNABB8sMVw Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices