What's the Big Idea with Andrew Horn

How do we turn love and intimacy into a living practice, one that transforms how we lead, connect, and show up in our romantic relationships?   On this episode of What’s the Big Idea, Andrew sits down with John Wineland, celebrated teacher, author, and guide to all things relationship, intimacy, and embodied masculine leadership. John is known for his transformative workshops and years of study with David Deida, as well as for helping thousands of people move past cliché ideas about intimacy toward something much deeper, kinder, and truly life-changing.   If you are curious about sacred intimacy, tantra, or what it means to lead from the heart, John brings these sometimes mystified topics down to earth. He clarifies that sacred intimacy isn’t a fixed state , but the practice of allowing the divine - love, consciousness, presence, to flow through your relationships. Drawing on stories from his own journey and decades working with men, women, and couples, John shares a toolkit for both cultivating connection and facing its challenges.   Here’s what you’ll take away from this conversation:   The Four Pillars of Sacred Intimacy: John introduces the central framework that has guided his work: intimacy (our shared humanity), devotion to the field of love, sexual polarity (understanding and honoring difference), and the commitment to deep personal work. Each is a cornerstone, and together they become the supports for a relationship not just to survive, but to thrive. Making Love Safe and Alive with Ritual and Repair: Learn how simple weekly rituals like “temple nights” or structured praise sessions can shift a partnership from transactional to transformational. The episode outlines approaches for regular check-ins and explains why honest repair work is foundational to trust and emotional safety. Nervous System Mastery for Modern Life: For men in particular, John goes deep on the value of cultivating embodied presence, emotional regulation, and clear intention. These are the building blocks not only of romantic connection, but also of authentic leadership and executive presence. You’ll hear concrete practices around structure, breath, and nervous system co-regulation. Practical Intimacy Habits Anyone Can Try: From co-breathing with your partner, to establishing rituals of praise and play, to crisp strategies for moving through the storms of conflict, John offers tools that you can start using today.   Why does this matter now? In an era of chronic busyness, digital distraction, and surface-level connection, our ability to create depth and safety in our most important relationships is a fundamental skill.   Listen in for a conversation that’s both wise and immediately useful, blending frameworks, real stories, and the kind of honest reminders we all need.

Today’s guest is Carl Buchheit, transformational coach and Co-Founder of the lauded NLP Marin (A staple training ground for silicon-valley's best CEO's and executive coaches.) Carl brings a fresh, heart-centered take on leadership, communication, and Neuro-Linguisting programming.  If you have been curious to learn more about NLP and why it is so popular amongst super coaches like Tony Robbins and high performing entrepreneurs, this episode will provide some helpful context.  So, what is Transformational NLP? At its core, NLP is about noticing and shifting the unconscious patterns in how we think, speak, and act. Transformational NLP takes it further, helping you rewrite old stories, dissolve limiting beliefs, and build more conscious, connected relationships. It’s about using language and awareness not just to perform better, but to live more authentically. Carl walks us through a handful of simple, powerful practices: State awareness: how to shift your emotional energy in real time Reframing: changing the meaning you give to challenging experiences Language patterns: recognizing the words that shape your beliefs Anchoring: using memory and movement to access powerful inner states Meta-model questions: interrupting negative thought loops with clarity and curiosity Throughout the episode, Carl brings real-life examples, mindset shifts, and emotionally intelligent tools that apply to everything from leadership and conflict to love and self-worth. Whether you're navigating a difficult relationship, trying to lead with more empathy, or simply curious about how to rewire old mental patterns—this one’s for you. It’s both a conversation and an invitation: to listen more deeply, speak more consciously, and create outcomes where everyone wins.

What if the biggest breakthroughs in your leadership had nothing to do with what you do and everything to do with the way you see?   In this episode of What’s the Big Idea?, I sit down with Diana Chapman, co-founder of the Conscious Leadership Group and co-author of The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership. If you’ve ever heard someone talk about “above and below the line” leadership, you’re already hearing her influence.   We break down the 15 Commitments framework, one of the most transformational tools I’ve encountered in my work as an executive coach. These commitments aren’t rules. They’re ways of seeing and being that fundamentally change how you lead, relate, and live.   We talk about: The #1 thing that keeps leaders stuck (and how to shift it) Why personal responsibility is the ultimate power move How to use curiosity to dissolve conflict The real cost of drama in teams and how to lead beyond it   If you’re searching for an introduction to the 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership or want to deepen your understanding of the model, this episode is a masterclass from the source.   Whether you’re a founder, executive, or someone committed to living more consciously, this one’s for you.   Listen in and learn why commitment to consciousness might be the most powerful leadership move you can make.

Ep 55. Today’s guest is John Mackey, co-founder of Whole Foods Market and a pioneer of conscious capitalism. In this powerful conversation, John shares the personal stories and hard-earned wisdom behind his newest framework, Win Win Win, and what it truly means to lead with love. From the start, John opens the door to a deeper kind of dialogue. He shares the psychedelic awakening at age 22 that cracked open his worldview and put him on a lifelong journey to integrate business, spirituality, and service. That experience sparked a series of realizations that shaped not only how he built Whole Foods, but how he now lives his life. At the heart of our conversation is the big idea he recently brought to the TED stage: Win Win Win. It’s a simple but transformative concept. In every interaction, how can we create something that’s good for ourselves, good for the other person, and good for the larger whole? John believes this is the path to lasting impact, and he offers the tools to make it real. Together, we walk through the three core shifts that make Win Win Win possible. First, a shift of mind: letting go of judgment and stepping into curiosity. Then a shift of heart: opening to empathy, listening more deeply, and showing up with compassion. And finally, a shift into creativity: expanding what we believe is possible and asking again and again, what’s the most beautiful outcome we can create here? John doesn’t just speak in ideas. He lives this work. Throughout the conversation, he brings real-life stories, surprising metaphors, and clear practices that anyone can apply. From how to navigate conflict with openness to how to lead from the heart in business negotiations, his insights are both practical and profound. We also talk about the deeper drivers behind human behavior. Why do so many leaders chase money, fame, and power when what they really want is love? What happens when we stop trying to win at all costs and start creating environments where everyone gets to flourish? John makes the case for a new kind of leadership that begins with listening and ends in connection. This episode is a masterclass in emotional intelligence and applied philosophy. Whether you’re a founder, a team leader, or someone just trying to build a more meaningful life, John’s message will meet you where you are. His presence is calm and clear. His vision is big and human. And his challenge to all of us is simple: practice love, every day, with everyone. No exceptions.

Joe Hudson, an elite Executive Coach in Silicon Valley and founder of The Art of Accomplishment, shares his wisdom on decision-making rooted in emotional fluidity. He discusses how embracing emotions can enhance clarity and lead to better choices. Joe highlights the VALUE methodology for effective decisions, emphasizing connection and wonder. Personal anecdotes on parenting reveal insights into emotions, while thoughts on nurturing relationships redefine leadership styles. The conversation culminates in a decision-making exercise that encourages envisioning all possible outcomes.

Episode Title: No More Mr. Nice Guy - How to stop people pleasing and get the love, life and connection you want.    Guest: Dr. Robert Glover, renowned psychotherapist, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy, and founder of Integration Nation, a men’s community fostering authentic masculinity and growth. His Big Idea: Authentic growth begins by breaking free from the "Nice Guy Syndrome," a deeply ingrained pattern of people-pleasing and self-sabotage rooted in toxic shame and unmet childhood needs.  Transformation happens when men take responsibility for their needs, embrace boundaries, and cultivate relationships that foster mutual respect and genuine connection. Dr. Glover encourages men to pursue an integrated life by owning all aspects of themselves, both their light and shadow, and creating a community that empowers healthy masculinity. Dr. Robert Glover, a leading voice in men’s personal development, shares his transformative insights on overcoming the Nice Guy Syndrome. Drawing on decades of therapeutic experience and his personal journey, Dr. Glover unpacks the origins of this syndrome and its impact on men’s relationships, careers, and overall well-being. He provides practical guidance on embracing conflict, setting boundaries, and cultivating meaningful connections that are free of manipulation and resentment. Through engaging anecdotes, insightful theories, and actionable advice, Dr. Glover challenges men to reclaim their power by confronting their toxic shame, embracing their full selves, and stepping into the world as integrated, authentic individuals. Key Insights: The Roots of Nice Guy Syndrome The Origins of Toxic Shame: Many men internalize feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness during childhood, creating a belief that they must earn love by pleasing others and avoiding conflict. Covert Contracts: These unconscious "if-then" agreements—like “If I’m a good guy, I’ll be loved”—are manipulative, unsustainable, and often lead to frustration, resentment, and passive aggression. Breaking Free from Limiting Patterns Releasing Shame: Men must work to uncover and release the toxic shame that fuels their need to seek external validation. Dr. Glover highlights the importance of safe spaces, like therapy and men’s groups, to facilitate this process. Setting Boundaries: Boundaries aren’t about controlling others—they’re about defining how we want to be treated. Masterful boundaries create space for authentic connection by inviting everyone involved into higher consciousness. Building the Integrated Man Integrating All Aspects of Self: Growth happens when men accept and integrate all parts of themselves, including their vulnerabilities, fears, and even their “inner jerk.” This integration fosters authenticity and confidence. Cultivating Brotherhood: Men thrive when they have strong, supportive relationships with other men. Dr. Glover emphasizes the importance of mentorship, collaboration, and shared growth in fostering healthy masculinity.   Notable Quotes: “Toxic shame operates like a hidden operating system—it runs the show, but you don’t even know it’s there.” “Boundaries are not about pushing people away; they’re about creating space for real intimacy.” “I swim in a sea of love. Love rains down on me.” “If you want to master something, teach it.”   Resources Mentioned: Books: No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida   Connect with Dr. Robert Glover: Website: drglover.com Community: integrationnation.net   Thank You for Listening!  

Bryan Franklin, a leading executive coach known for his impactful methods, shares his secrets to being a great coach. He emphasizes the importance of love, presence, and creating safe spaces for clients to explore their truths. Franklin discusses how truly effective coaching involves understanding diverse perspectives and fostering authentic connections. He also touches on the journey of coaching, highlighting the value of flexibility and emotional awareness. Through personal stories, he showcases how failures can lead to significant transformations.

Jonny Miller, a nervous system specialist and transformational coach, shares his insights on mastering the nervous system for peak performance. He discusses how regulating stress responses can significantly improve emotional balance and resilience. Miller highlights the importance of breathwork and practices like meditation in handling emotional overwhelm. He also explores the concept of emotional debt, emphasizing the need to process feelings to navigate life’s challenges. With a blend of personal narrative and scientific insights, he offers practical strategies for building inner strength.

Raz Ingrasci, Chairman of the Hoffman Institute, brings over 40 years of human development expertise to discuss the transformative Hoffman Process. He dives into how childhood conditioning gives rise to 'Negative Love Syndrome,' influencing adult behaviors. Raz emphasizes compassion towards oneself as a vital tool for emotional healing and personal growth. He shares practical strategies for breaking negative patterns and achieving authenticity, underscoring the link between self-awareness and emotional freedom.

Today's guest is Annie Lala. Annie is one of the top relationship experts and coaches on the planet. I am very fortunate to have called her my relationship coach through my 11 year marriage, my recent divorce, and now with my new partner Melissa. I would not be in the happy co-parenting relationship I currently an with Miki (my ex) without her love and support. She is truly world class at helping people to work through really difficult challenges and conflict in their relationships. She's a master at the technical and the practical.... the rituals, communication techniques that help people to stay in love and cultivate inspiring partnerships. She's also just plain brilliant. She's able to talk about the esoteric and the mental models of love and relationship, with a fluidity and mastery that is interesting and deeply inspiring. She is one of my favorite people on the planet. She's a genius when it comes to creating and sustaining a love filled relationship. So ,whether you are already in the relationship of your dreams, or you want to build one in the future, Annie can help.