What's the Big Idea with Andrew Horn

Today's guest is Joe Hudson, one of the most sought after Executive Coaches in Silicon Valley and Founder of The Art of Accomplishment. He shares his insights into the art of making better decisions by developing emotional fluidity and living by principles. Drawing on years of experience coaching high-level leaders (including work with Sam Altman and OpenAI), Joe explores how our relationship with emotions directly impacts our decision-making clarity. Joe reveals his approach to decision-making, emphasizing the importance of connection, wonder, and understanding the true nature of our emotional landscape. He outlines how great decisions don't come from avoiding difficult emotions or outcomes—they emerge when we welcome all possibilities and align with our deepest principles. Through captivating stories and practical frameworks like the VIEW methodology, Joe shares his core principles for effective decision-making. Whether discussing parenting insights that transformed his relationship with emotions or exploring his vision for societal transformation, Joe offers a refreshing perspective on achievement that prioritizes enjoyment and alignment over "dirty fuel" like stress and fear. The conversation culminates in a powerful decision-making exercise: visualizing both best and worst outcomes while fully feeling all associated emotions—a practice that often reveals the clearest path forward.

Episode Title: No More Mr. Nice Guy - How to stop people pleasing and get the love, life and connection you want.    Guest: Dr. Robert Glover, renowned psychotherapist, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy, and founder of Integration Nation, a men’s community fostering authentic masculinity and growth. His Big Idea: Authentic growth begins by breaking free from the "Nice Guy Syndrome," a deeply ingrained pattern of people-pleasing and self-sabotage rooted in toxic shame and unmet childhood needs.  Transformation happens when men take responsibility for their needs, embrace boundaries, and cultivate relationships that foster mutual respect and genuine connection. Dr. Glover encourages men to pursue an integrated life by owning all aspects of themselves, both their light and shadow, and creating a community that empowers healthy masculinity. Dr. Robert Glover, a leading voice in men’s personal development, shares his transformative insights on overcoming the Nice Guy Syndrome. Drawing on decades of therapeutic experience and his personal journey, Dr. Glover unpacks the origins of this syndrome and its impact on men’s relationships, careers, and overall well-being. He provides practical guidance on embracing conflict, setting boundaries, and cultivating meaningful connections that are free of manipulation and resentment. Through engaging anecdotes, insightful theories, and actionable advice, Dr. Glover challenges men to reclaim their power by confronting their toxic shame, embracing their full selves, and stepping into the world as integrated, authentic individuals. Key Insights: The Roots of Nice Guy Syndrome The Origins of Toxic Shame: Many men internalize feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness during childhood, creating a belief that they must earn love by pleasing others and avoiding conflict. Covert Contracts: These unconscious "if-then" agreements—like “If I’m a good guy, I’ll be loved”—are manipulative, unsustainable, and often lead to frustration, resentment, and passive aggression. Breaking Free from Limiting Patterns Releasing Shame: Men must work to uncover and release the toxic shame that fuels their need to seek external validation. Dr. Glover highlights the importance of safe spaces, like therapy and men’s groups, to facilitate this process. Setting Boundaries: Boundaries aren’t about controlling others—they’re about defining how we want to be treated. Masterful boundaries create space for authentic connection by inviting everyone involved into higher consciousness. Building the Integrated Man Integrating All Aspects of Self: Growth happens when men accept and integrate all parts of themselves, including their vulnerabilities, fears, and even their “inner jerk.” This integration fosters authenticity and confidence. Cultivating Brotherhood: Men thrive when they have strong, supportive relationships with other men. Dr. Glover emphasizes the importance of mentorship, collaboration, and shared growth in fostering healthy masculinity.   Notable Quotes: “Toxic shame operates like a hidden operating system—it runs the show, but you don’t even know it’s there.” “Boundaries are not about pushing people away; they’re about creating space for real intimacy.” “I swim in a sea of love. Love rains down on me.” “If you want to master something, teach it.”   Resources Mentioned: Books: No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida   Connect with Dr. Robert Glover: Website: drglover.com Community: integrationnation.net   Thank You for Listening!  

Bryan Franklin, a leading executive coach known for his impactful methods, shares his secrets to being a great coach. He emphasizes the importance of love, presence, and creating safe spaces for clients to explore their truths. Franklin discusses how truly effective coaching involves understanding diverse perspectives and fostering authentic connections. He also touches on the journey of coaching, highlighting the value of flexibility and emotional awareness. Through personal stories, he showcases how failures can lead to significant transformations.

Jonny Miller, a nervous system specialist and transformational coach, shares his insights on mastering the nervous system for peak performance. He discusses how regulating stress responses can significantly improve emotional balance and resilience. Miller highlights the importance of breathwork and practices like meditation in handling emotional overwhelm. He also explores the concept of emotional debt, emphasizing the need to process feelings to navigate life’s challenges. With a blend of personal narrative and scientific insights, he offers practical strategies for building inner strength.

Raz Ingrasci, Chairman of the Hoffman Institute, brings over 40 years of human development expertise to discuss the transformative Hoffman Process. He dives into how childhood conditioning gives rise to 'Negative Love Syndrome,' influencing adult behaviors. Raz emphasizes compassion towards oneself as a vital tool for emotional healing and personal growth. He shares practical strategies for breaking negative patterns and achieving authenticity, underscoring the link between self-awareness and emotional freedom.

Today's guest is Annie Lala. Annie is one of the top relationship experts and coaches on the planet. I am very fortunate to have called her my relationship coach through my 11 year marriage, my recent divorce, and now with my new partner Melissa. I would not be in the happy co-parenting relationship I currently an with Miki (my ex) without her love and support. She is truly world class at helping people to work through really difficult challenges and conflict in their relationships. She's a master at the technical and the practical.... the rituals, communication techniques that help people to stay in love and cultivate inspiring partnerships. She's also just plain brilliant. She's able to talk about the esoteric and the mental models of love and relationship, with a fluidity and mastery that is interesting and deeply inspiring. She is one of my favorite people on the planet. She's a genius when it comes to creating and sustaining a love filled relationship. So ,whether you are already in the relationship of your dreams, or you want to build one in the future, Annie can help.

Jayson Gaddis, author of 'Getting to Zero', provides practical wisdom on conflict resolution in relationships. Key takeaways include taking ownership of actions, emphasizing feeling understood in conflict resolution, and finding inner harmony. They also discuss the concept of LUFU, or listening until the other person feels understood. The podcast explores advances in understanding relationships, navigating conflict, and the value of authentic connections.

Valter Longo is an Italian-American biologist and gerontologist who is a professor of gerontology and biological science at the University of Southern California. He is the director of the USC Longevity Institute and the Program on Longevity and Cancer at IFOM (FIRC Institute of Molecular Oncology) in Milan, Italy. Longo is known for his research on the biological mechanisms of aging, and for his work on fasting-mimicking diets, which he claims can promote health and longevity. He has written several books on the subject, including "The Longevity Diet" and "The Fasting Diet". Longo advocates for periodic fasting as a way to promote overall health and prevent disease. He believes that intermittent fasting, which involves limiting food intake to certain times of day or certain days of the week, can help reduce inflammation, improve metabolic health, and promote cellular repair and regeneration.   In today's episode, we focus on intermittent fasting. 

Jim McCann is the business leader, author, and philanthropist who founded 1-800-Flowers.com and grew the business from its roots as a single flower shop in Manhattan into the world's largest florist. With a passion for helping people deliver smiles, Jim transformed the flower and gift marketplace to help customers express themselves and connect with the important people in their lives.    Devoted to helping others, Jim founded the nonprofit organization Smile Farms to provide meaningful jobs to young adults and people with developmental disabilities. Jim also started the Connectivity Council, which brings together therapists, researchers, and thought leaders to share ideas and trends around human connection and community.

How have your friendships changed since COVID began?    How did your community shrink or expand?    Do you have more depth with less people?    If you want some help exploring these types of questions and the power of friendship in the age of loneliness, this is a great one.    - We explore the stats that break down the loneliness epidemic we are currently facing in America. - Tangible strategies for building friendships and community - Intro to facilitation and meaningful gathering - Two friends talking about the power of human connection