The Science of Self

• Be true to yourself. Have faith in your own judgment and stick to your firmly held convictions, even if you have to do so alone. This will imbue you with enormous courage and resilience in the face of challenges, because you will believe in yourself.• Be humble. Use your intellect and your reason to the best of your ability, but always be willing to learn more. Don’t boast about your conclusions but allow them to guide your convictions quietly from within. If you’re lost, stay curious and return to the faculties that you’re blessed with – keep asking questions and be brave enough to discover the answers.• Realize that, sadly, you will not always be rewarded for your diligence and persistence. Instead, seek to find meaning and purpose in your work, whatever it is, so that it inspires you even if nobody else recognizes its value. Then, you will have tapped a well of strength that very few will be able to match!Get the audiobook on Audible at https://adbl.co/3NBG3vWShow notes and/or episode transcripts are available at https://bit.ly/self-growth-homePeter Hollins is a bestselling author, human psychology researcher, and a dedicated student of the human condition. Visit https://bit.ly/peterhollins to pick up your FREE human nature cheat sheet: 7 surprising psychology studies that will change the way you think.#Grit #GalileoAndTheBraveryToStandAlone #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #Old-SchoolGrit

• Our luck comes in part from our behaviors and choices, and those in turn come from our mindset and the way we think. • If luck = preparation + opportunity, and we cannot control what opportunities come our way, then it means the only way to improve our luck is to focus on being prepared to strike when a lucky chance does come our way.• An obvious way to bring more luck to your life is to work hard, even if the results are far off or not guaranteed. • Hard work isn’t all that matters, though. The surface area theory of luck explains that our Luck is a result of both doing and telling, i.e., hard work combined with how we talk about our passion. with others. You can construct your own doing/telling graph to determine where you need to put your efforts to increase your luck. • We can also increase luck by using the methods of visualization and positive affirmations. Both have been shown scientifically to improve performance and lead to better outcomes. To work well, visualizations have to be rich and vivid, and affirmations have to be said regularly. Naturally, both work best when paired with concrete action taken towards your goals!• Superstitious behaviors are a human tendency that evolved in the face of uncertainty, as a way to feel in control. There is no magic, but belief in the power of a superstition can be powerful in itself. The best superstitions, however, are those that encourage an internal locus of control and which don’t distort our perception of what is and isn’t under our control. Get the audiobook on Audible Show notes and/or episode transcripts are available at https://bit.ly/self-growth-home#BeingLucky #InternalLocus #Luck #PositiveAffirmations #Superstitious #Luck=Preparation+Opportunity #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #TheScienceofBeingLucky

• Viktor Frankl experienced extreme hardship and suffering and, from this, developed his own theory about how many searches for and creates his own meaning. Frankl’s experiences taught him that suffering pushes human beings to find meaning and purpose in their lives. To survive, in other words, is to find meaning in one’s suffering.• Frankl believed that struggle with suffering is an opportunity to seek and create something deeper and more meaningful, identify values and principles, and even deepen one’s spiritual understanding. • Instead of searching for meaning externally, we have to look at our own unique strengths and calling in life, and hear what life demands from us, rather than making demands of it. This means that we need to take concrete action. • Frankl thought that there were 3 ways to find meaning in life: We can work or create something of value, we can truly encounter another human being, or we can make meaning out of our suffering. • One way to do this is to fine-tune your own unique purpose. Suffering can force us to look closely at what really matters to us most in life, but knowing our values also allows us to suffer better.• Another remedy for suffering, according to Frankl, is to have compassion, and to be guided by love. Frankl sees love as mankind’s highest possibility, and when we choose kindness and empathy, we can take any form of suffering and redeem it. Get the audiobook on Audible Show notes and/or episode transcripts are available at https://bit.ly/self-growth-homePeter Hollins is a bestselling author, human psychology researcher, and a dedicated student of the human condition.Visit https://bit.ly/peterhollins to pick up your FREE human nature cheat sheet: 7 surprising psychology studies that will change the way you think.#Frankl #Suffer #Suffering #ViktorFrankl #Frankl’SApproachToSuffering #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PeterHollins #TheScienceofSelf #SufferWell

• It’s never too late to start over, no matter how old you are. Colonel Sanders started over in his sixties and still managed to create a business empire that would overtake those he might have considered younger and more talented than him. The past doesn’t define who you are now, and it doesn’t define who you can be in the future.• Success takes time, and it takes consistent, diligent effort – there are no shortcuts for anyone. You don’t have to be superhuman to be resilient and disciplined. All you need to do is refuse to give up. Don’t pay attention to the flashy success stories you read about in the media – true accomplishment doesn’t happen overnight, so be patient.• If you’re facing a setback, loss, or disappointment, consider adjusting your expectations. Sometimes being mentally strong and tough is simply a matter of not expecting the important things in life to be easy the first time around!Get the audiobook on Audible at https://adbl.co/3NBG3vWShow notes and/or episode transcripts are available at https://bit.ly/self-growth-homePeter Hollins is a bestselling author, human psychology researcher, and a dedicated student of the human condition. Visit https://bit.ly/peterhollins to pick up your FREE human nature cheat sheet: 7 surprising psychology studies that will change the way you think.#ColonelSanders #Grit #Sanders #ADeliciousStoryOfRejection #KentuckyFriedChicken #Entreprenur #HarlandSanders #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #Old-SchoolGrit

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• Seneca famously said, “luck is where preparation meets opportunity.” There is plenty we can do to prepare ourselves so that we are ready to notice and seize new opportunities that emerge, and make ourselves more “lucky.” • There are three main traits associated with being a lucky person. The first is extroversion, which leads us to engage with others socially, speak out, make connections and win others over. This will naturally create more opportunities for help, random connections, or new information that can spell a lucky break.• The second trait is open-mindedness, which is a receptive, spontaneous state of mind that approaches life with curiosity rather than fear, bias or expectation. With openness to new experiences, we say yes to new opportunities and encounter more life experiences that have the chance to evolve favorably. • The third trait is low neuroticism. When we are relaxed and not acting from fear, we see solutions, think outside the box and encounter unexpected positive outcomes – and we don’t jeopardize any good luck we do encounter!• There are three thought patterns associated with being lucky. Believing in karma means you take your actions seriously and are more likely to have a proactive internal locus of control, and treat others well – naturally leading to more luck opportunities. • Belief in your own competence and ability to withstand adversity creates resilience, meaning you take beneficial action for longer, which means you increase your chances of a positive outcome. • Finally, lucky people learn what works and deliberately try to recreate those conditions that they know have led to luck for them in the past. Get the audiobook on Audible Show notes and/or episode transcripts are available at https://bit.ly/self-growth-home#AdversityCreatesResilience #BeingLucky #GoodLuck #InternalLocus #Lucky #Seneca #UnexpectedPositiveOutcomes #LuckIsWhereOpportunityMeetsPreparation #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #TheScienceofBeingLucky

• The Stoics, like the Buddhists, understood that pain is just a part of life, and taught that we need to retain quiet, dignified serenity in the face of adversity, focusing on what we can control, while accepting what we can’t. One way to practice the Stoic philosophy is to carefully consider your zone of control or, as Byron Katie suggests, identify what is your business, the other person’s business, and God’s business. • Another technique is to use negative visualization to develop gratitude for everything you already have. By imagining that things could be a lot worse, you re-calibrate your expectations and focus more with appreciation on the present. We also desensitize ourselves to discomfort and learn that we can, in fact, endure it. • One way to empower ourselves in the face of life’s pain is to take action. Action grounds us. We can always seek to elevate the situation we find ourselves in, draw on our strengths, and work with what we have. We can choose to build, create and solve problems. We can do this if we stop wasting energy on those things we have no hope of changing. • Finally, we can become cognizant of the fact that resistance and struggle come with a cost, and inevitably cause us to suffer, all while doing nothing to improve our lives. Though our brains may be primed for a certain kind of negativity, we can always choose to create meaning, do a good deed or take productive action to improve things. Get the audiobook on Audible Show notes and/or episode transcripts are available at https://bit.ly/self-growth-homePeter Hollins is a bestselling author, human psychology researcher, and a dedicated student of the human condition.Visit https://bit.ly/peterhollins to pick up your FREE human nature cheat sheet: 7 surprising psychology studies that will change the way you think.#AncientRomanPhilosophy #Asceticism #Aurelius #ByronKatie #CultivateAcceptance #ElizabethCarter #Enchiridion #Epictetus #MarcusAurelius #Mesut #MesutOzil #Ozil #PaulDubois #Seneca #SerenityPrayer #SocialInjustice #Stoic #Stoicism #Stoicism’SApproachToBeatSuffering #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PeterHollins #TheScienceofSelf #SufferWell

• Change the way you think about failure. Challenge and adversity are the best teachers you will ever have in life. Instead of getting upset when things don’t go your way, become curious about what happened and why, then try again, but this time do it better!• Forget about things like genius or innate talent. They’re nice to have, but the people who get ahead are simply those who are willing to work hard and do it consistently.• Adopt a growth mindset and constantly turn your attention, not to what is going wrong, but to the infinite world of the possible. There is a way out of your current predicament – how are you going to get from here to there?Get the audiobook on Audible at https://adbl.co/3NBG3vWShow notes and/or episode transcripts are available at https://bit.ly/self-growth-homePeter Hollins is a bestselling author, human psychology researcher, and a dedicated student of the human condition. Visit https://bit.ly/peterhollins to pick up your FREE human nature cheat sheet: 7 surprising psychology studies that will change the way you think.#Adversity #Obstacle #Carlyle #Dweck #Edison #ElectricArcLamp #Failure #FrankDyer #HumphreyDavy #JosephSwan #ThomasEdison #Trafodata #ThomasEdison #TheLightbulb #AndThePowerOfTrying1000Times #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #Old-SchoolGrit

• There are two popular ideas worth exploring when it comes to the concept of luck: the law of attraction, and the idea of a self-fulfilling prophesy. Research into the effectiveness of the law of attraction (or wishful thinking) yields no support, and indicates that fantasy can actually undermine success by making us less likely to take useful action. • A self-fulfilling prophecy is a prediction that directly or indirectly causes itself to become true due to positive feedback between belief and behavior. It proves how powerful belief can be.• If you believe you are a lucky person, you are more likely to create that reality yourself — not out of thin air, or by magic, but because you are proactively taking steps to make that outcome a reality. • Robert Wiseman and Alan Kirman have independently discovered that being lucky may come down to believing that you are lucky. • Lucky people do visualize, yet they tend to imagine not the outcome but the performance of the practical steps needed to reach that outcome. They tend to be positive and optimistic, easily forget past mistakes, trust their gut feelings, and put a positive interpretation on events by imagining how things could have been so much worse. This, in effect, means that people who believe they’re lucky, are! Get the audiobook on Audible Show notes and/or episode transcripts are available at https://bit.ly/self-growth-home#BadLuck #BeingLucky #AlanKirman #GabrieleOettingen #Gollwitzer #GoodFortune #GoodLuck #InternalLocus #Kirman #LadyLuck #LienPham #Luck #RichardWiseman #ShelleyTaylor #WhatToBelieve #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #TheScienceofBeingLucky

• Once we can properly identify suffering for what it is and become aware of it in ourselves, we can begin to manage it better. • Suffering takes all different forms for each of us, but according to the four noble truths, there is a way to ease and reduce our suffering, by letting go of attachment.• One way to do this is to practice distinguishing between pain and suffering, first and second darts, and facts or opinions. When you feel upset, slow down and tease apart the situation until you see it as clearly and objectively as possible.• Try to avoid extremes and black-and-white, all-or-nothing thinking. Watch out for clues to cognitive distortions and bias like absolute terms, catastrophizing and generalization, and instead look for a balanced path down the middle of extremes. We can achieve this merely by changing our language and how we frame things.• Counterintuitively, we reduce feelings of suffering by being willing to “sit with” and acknowledge all our feelings, without trying to escape them. We can learn to stay in the present and be aware of how we feel right now, instead of letting our minds get carried away with thoughts of the past or future. One way to keep in the present is to ground in the senses.• Finally, take care with what you consume, information-wise, since suffering is often a question of overwhelm, or being looped into people’s stories and interpretations. Pay close attention to the media you take in, its effect on you, and how these distractions may be helping you avoid your feelings in the present. Get the audiobook on Audible Show notes and/or episode transcripts are available at https://bit.ly/self-growth-homePeter Hollins is a bestselling author, human psychology researcher, and a dedicated student of the human condition.Visit https://bit.ly/peterhollins to pick up your FREE human nature cheat sheet: 7 surprising psychology studies that will change the way you think.#EmotionalRegulation #Hanh #NobleTruths #Suffer #Suffering #SufferWell #ThichNhatHanh #HowDoWeOvercome? #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PeterHollins #TheScienceofSelf #SufferWell