The Tai Lopez Show

Find out how to boost your confidence, win friends, and influence people. I interview Jordan Harbinger, creator of the Art of Charm Podcast, to find the biggest takeaways to get to the top. Life is competition and you have to go up the chain to be more confident and get what you want from life.To find out more about Jordan's online academy and inner circle go here http://www.TheArtOfCharmPodcast.comLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey I just released the 67 steps, check it out here: https://www.tailopez.com/product.php?id=FS-0998&source=podcast&sid=danieltosh My brain has been in a whirlwind. Many books, many great thinkers whispering in my thoughts...So instead of focusing on one specific book today I think I'll share 4 or 5 great concepts on living the "Good Life" I have run across recently. They are in no specific order but they will show you the value of diversifying your learning base:1. "(While Leonardo DA Vinci was painting the Last Supper) The prior complained of Leonardo's apparent sloth, and wondered why he would sometimes sit before the walls for hours without painting a stroke. Leonardo has no trouble explaining to the Duke that an artists most important work lies in conception rather than in execution, and 'men of genius do most when they work least'." -- Will Durant "The Renaissance"I talk about this a lot in my 67 steps program (the new version will be out later this week). Most humans pride themselves on their 'flurries' of activity. But in the end it's not the person who loads their day with pointless activity that wins. Clearly, if Da Vinci, needed one hour of thought to execute, you and I should think more deeply before we proceed.2. "Let thy house be a meeting-place for the wise; cover thyself with the dust of their feet, and drink in their words with thirst.” Pirke AvotI'm going to make this the door mat to my house. Watch the movie "Midnight In Paris" from Woody Allen (Check out my movie review pageI just started on), and its message about the value of literally turning some physical location into a meeting place for the sharpest people you know to come hang out.Try a movie night at your place, or a poker night, anything that will make your house a meeting place for the best local people you can talk into coming over.3. “Ask God for a great assistant. No joke. A great one can make your life a whole lot easier —or, in my case, almost manageable. Norma Foerderer has been with me for twenty-three years.” --Donald Trump:"How to Get Rich.”You can't really get more practical advice than this. I have 3 assistants and every time I meet someone who doesn't have at least one, I literally think they are either insane or possess some super power I can not fathom. Apparently billionaires feel the same way.4. "Love is indeed much less exacting than it thinks itself. Nine-tenths of its cause are in the lover, for one-tenth that may be in the object.”George Santayana: “The Life of Reason"This is not a viewpoint on love many people want to hear but even scientists would agree it's probably the truth. If you ever feel heartbroken or lonely, remember that even the most sincere love that you feel from another human is probably still more about them then you.Santayana is saying that 90% of the reason people love you is because of what they get from it, it's not really about you (the 10%). That doesn't have to be a depressing message. It can help you see clearly through the inevitable loneliness all humans must experience at some time in their life.It's ironic but once you realize in a certain sense we are alwaysalone you will gain a new sense of boldness that will actually make more humans interested in getting to know you. Independence leads to stronger social ties.5. “One way for genes to solve the problem of making predictions in rather unpredictable environments is to build in a capacity for learning... Survival machines that can simulate the future are one jump ahead of survival machines who can only learn on the basis of overt trial and error. The trouble with overt trial is that it takes time and energy. The trouble with overt error is that it is often fatal. Simulation is both safer and faster. The evolution of the capacity to simulate seems to have culminated in subjective consciousness." -- Richard Dawkins: "The Selfish Gene"This book is a whole other email by itself. But this is a life changing quote if you get his point. He is saying genetically we are programmed to NOT be completely pre-programmed. Our genes know that in an ever changing world we could not possibly be born with all of the instincts needed to cope with diverse environments. So our genes gave us a powerful coping mechanism.You are programmed to LEARN on the fly! Anytime you hear someone say, "You should love me for who I am", you can call BS on them. You and I are NOT static beings. We were hardwired to continually morph and simulate the future and adjust to it. What's the practical takeaway? Simple, you better read more myfriend, hehe...Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Humans are aggressive. As you move through life, your ability to navigate the minefield of conflict must be one of your greatest skills. Life is a competition, and those who adapt to its challenges are those who survive.As Will Durant says in "The Lessons Of History", "The first biological lesson of history is that life is competition. Competition is not only the life of trade, it is the trade of life—peaceful when food abounds, violent when the mouths outrun the food. Animals eat one another without qualm; civilized men consume one another by due process of law." I am sure you have felt aggression from others when the 'mouths' have outrun the supply. You have felt betrayal from a close friend or family member. But you made it through. If there is one thing us humans know how to do, it's to cope. Adapt. Survive. If you are reading this you have survived something. Freud says in "Civilization and Its Discontents", "The life imposed on us is too hard for us to bear: it brings too much pain, too many disappointments, too many insoluble problems. If we are to endure it, we cannot do without palliative measures." By palliative measures, Freud means solutions. He lays out these three: 1. Powerful distractions, which cause us to make light of our misery...  2. Substitutive satisfactions, which diminish it... 3. Intoxicants, which anesthetize us to it... Look around you at the world. This is what people do to cope with the aggression and competitiveness of life.  They watch sports. They focus on the moment. They smoke and drink. I do not mean any of these three methods are inherently wrong. Some of it is just our genes and instinct.  Like Durant says, "We are acquisitive, greedy, and pugnacious because our blood remembers millenniums through which our forebears had to chase and fight and kill in order to survive, and had to eat to their gastric capacity for fear they should not soon capture another feast." I think there is a fourth way to cope that Freud left out. A more optimistic way.  You can embrace the whole of life. The grind, the aggression, the competition, and turn it upside down on it's head. Like the Nobel Peace prize winner, Elie Wiesel says, "We sanctify life, not death. 'Ubakharta bakhaim,' says Scripture: 'You shall choose life' and the living.” Tonight, I was reading for the book-of-the-day, "The Brothers Karamazov" and Dostoyevsky reminds us, "As a general rule, people, even the wicked, are much more naive and simple-hearted than we supposed. And we ourselves are, too." Even the most aggressive toward you probably don't mean as bad as they seem. Find the good in the aggression of humans towards you. Use it as motivation to start something you have been procrastinating about. I like to read and write when I feel wronged. Find what works for you. Move forward with courage. Don't let what others have done to you build too much fear in your brain. I just finished, "By The Spear" about Alexander The Great who said it best:  "Through every generation of the human race there has been a constant war, a war with fear. Those who have the courage to conquer it are made free and those who are conquered by it are made to suffer until they have the courage to defeat it, or death takes them.” Let's have the courage to defeat our fears. Stay Strong,TaiLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Many people are asking about the Private Mentorship and Inner Circle Programs. If you want to see if you are a good fit for you please click here and give me a little info.I'll get back to you on whether it's a good fit...It's life changing for the people inside. They are finding the good life: Health, Wealth, Love, & Happiness...You should too.>> Click here to apply >>Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Many people are asking about the Private Mentorship and Inner Circle Programs. If you want to see if you are a good fit for you please click here and give me a little info.I'll get back to you on whether it's a good fit...It's life changing for the people inside. They are finding the good life: Health, Wealth, Love, & Happiness...You should too.>> Click here to apply >> Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Many people are asking about the Private Mentorship and Inner Circle Programs. If you want to see if you are a good fit for you please click here and give me a little info.I'll get back to you on whether it's a good fit...It's life changing for the people inside. They are finding the good life: Health, Wealth, Love, & Happiness...You should too.>> Click here to apply >> For most of us the problem is that we don't really know how old we are.We think we know.But we don't...Because we measure age all wrong...We count in reverse when we should really be counting forward.We say, "I am 32..." or "I am 75..."We mean how many years it's been since we were born. Measure Differently... But what if we measured our age in the opposite direction - from today's date forward to the end of our life?What if we stopped using the old-fashioned "birthday age?"Now that is a profound question.Because after all who is older, an 18 year old kid who only has 5 years left or an 80 year old who will live another 20 years?To me the 80 year old is way younger.They have more time left.Try measuring your age going forward. Not counting back the years from your birth.Those past years are outside of your control. So in a sense they are irrelevant. A phantom, a dream...If you change how old you see yourself, things will change for the better almost overnight.It will be like Robert Frost's poem:"Two roads diverged in a wood, and I— I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference."You won't be average anymore.Your life will take a turn down a better path.As I work with people in my Private Mentorship Program and my Inner Circle Program I see two things:1. Young people wasting the prime of their lives because they mistakenly think they have lots of time. 2. Older people feeling stuck in careers, marriages, and lifestyles they hate out of fear that there isn't enough time to change.I'm sure you can relate and see yourself in both perspectives.Now you might be wondering, "Tai, this way of measuring your age is impossible. No one knows when they will die."And you would be correct.Except. A New Way To Cope... There is a way to deal with uncertainty. Insurance companies have already figured it out.You have too, you just might not realize it yet.For example, when do you buy car insurance - before you get your license or after? Answer: The second you buy your car (that's why it's a law here in California).When do you put on your seat belt - before you start driving or after? Answer: The second you get into your car. So you already know the best way to deal with uncertainty.You have to act IMMEDIATELY!Since your auto insurance won't pay out if you buy the policy AFTER the crash, you have to assume a crash could happen at any moment and buy the policy immediately, the day you start driving.Since you can't put your seat belt on after you get in an accident, you have to assume a crash could happen at any moment and act immediately the minute you sit in the seat.So you have tons of common sense when comes to driving cars...But when it comes to the big things in life, much more important than driving a car, we throw out all our common sense out the door.We go back to the old "birthday age" understanding of time.In today's Book-Of-The-Day, "Theory Of Everything", the famous physicist, Stephen Hawking says the arrow of time moves forward because there are three forms of time:1. Thermodynamic2. Cosmological3. PsychologicalHawking says even if the universe contracts at the end of time we will still not reverse aging. Benjamin Button...There is no Benjamin Button.So you and I are left with this:We are on a race to find the Good Life: Health, Wealth, Love, & Happiness.You are old in relation to the years you have left.None of us know that time frame.So in a sense we are all the same age.All in this game called human life together.Steve Jobs said, "I didn't want to be the richest man in the graveyard."Since this seems a self evident truth you must inject an urgency into your life.Stop feeling entitled to unlimited time. Don't procrastinate.But on the flip side, the odds are that you will probably live for a bit longer so you don't have to be hasty.You can invest and plan for the future.You don't have to try and get everything today.You just can't act like you have an eternity to finish.The balance is the secret.Buddha called it the "Middle Way" in the Dhammacakkappavattana Sutta, his first teaching.In Nicomachean Ethics, Aristotle called it the "mean", the average between two extremes:“... Virtue is a mean [average]... between two vices... the one involving excess, the other deficiency... It is no easy task to be good. For in everything it is no easy task to find the middle... So, too, any one can get angry -that is easy- or give or spend money; but to do this to the right person, to the right extent, at the right time, with the right motive, and in the right way, that is not for every one, nor is it easy; ...goodness is both rare and laudable and noble.”So take that ancient concept of balance from Buddha and Aristotle and blend it with the modern words of the most winning college basketball coach ever, John Wooden: "Be quick, but not in a hurry."Or like Joel Salatin used to tell me, "Make haste slowly."This is the mindset that will get you the good life.Be quick about the things you have control over and be slow and patient over those things outside of your control.Like the Serenity prayer from Reinhold Niebuhr:"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,The courage to change the things I can,And wisdom to know the difference."Or like the Mother Goose poem says:"For every ailment under the sunThere is a remedy, or there is none;If there be one, try to find it;If there be none, never mind it."This is the same concept of time, reality, and free will taught by Stephen Covey in the best selling, "7 Habits of Highly Effective People."His habit #1 involves focusing on changing the things within your power. Come To The Light...So maybe you need to speed up and snap out of your funk.Come out of the cave and see the light.Experience more accurate levels of reality.Remove ignorance daily and the foggy lenses of life will clear upinto a new, more enlightened understanding of life, aging, and time.Or maybe you need to realize you aren't too old. You can still make up for time lost by carefully and methodically planning. Not just hastily reacting out of fear.Find your weak point.It's either being too hasty or too slow.Focus on your real age. Not your birthday age.Your real age is unknown. The great explorer, Thor Heyderdahl, said it so well in the first chapter of Kon-Tiki:“SOME PEOPLE BELIEVE IN FATE, OTHERS DON’T. I DO, and I don’t. It may seem at times as if invisible fingers move us about like puppets on strings. But for sure, we are not born to be dragged along. We can grab the strings ourselves and adjust our course at every crossroad, or take off at any little trail into the unknown.”Don't be dragged along in.Grab your life by the strings.Because once you do (and I'm counting on you too do this), it will be a good life for you...Also be sure to CLICK HERE if you want to learn more about my "Inner Circle" and Private mentor programs.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Allan Nation, one of my first mentors says, "One thing I have learned is that most people only take advice that agrees with what they have already decided to do."And that in a nutshell is the root of half of all our life's regrets.So let's continue yesterday's conversation about how to avoid making big mistakes.In today's book-of-the-day,"Influence", Cialdini talks about the certainty bias. Cialdini says, "There is no question about it. The drive to be (and look) consistent constitutes a highly potent weapon of social influence, often causing us to act in ways that are clearly contrary to our own best interests.”>>Click here to read yesterday's article to catch upHe is talking about our tendency to not change our mind.Mental "inertia..." Confusing Me With Facts...Like the saying goes, "Don't bother me with the facts, I've already made up my mind."Yesterday you read about how to make war with a multitude of counselors and assemble your cabinet of advisors.That is the start. The next issue is this 'bug' in our brain that Cialdini's research discovered. We make mistakes because we want security.We want certainty.We don't want to experiment and flexible and patient and wait until the right path appears over time.Like a little kid throwing tantrums we want answers now.The good news is that can all stop today. Big regrets can be a thing of the past.Your new life can be full of health, wealth, love and happiness. Mad Scientist...Here are the other 2 tricks to cutting your mistakes and finding the good life:#2. Bring out your inner mad scientistHumans are creatures of extremes.I don't know where this comes from. My guess is maybe from religion. People are either too afraid to make mistakes.Or so certain of themselves that they never try anything new.Or they have no backbone and bounce around in life hoping that their life will magically improve.Both of those extremes are the way to lose big time.The better path, I call "bringing out your inner mad scientist."Here is what I mean.A good scientist like Thomas Edison did a ton of little experiments that failed.Edison says, "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work."Remember this is coming from a man who held 1093 patents!Edison invented the light bulb, the movie camera, sound recording equipment, basically all the things that allow us to be able to watch TV, movies, and listen to music.(You can hear Edison talking and creating the first recording ever made by humans at this link.)Edison used to say, "I make more mistakes than anyone else I know, and sooner or later, I patent most of them."He was laughing all the way to the bank. His little experimental mistakes made him one of the most famous and respected people in the world.And one of the wealthiest. He started GE - General Electric Co. GE is the only company listed in the Dow Jones Industrial Index today that was also included in the original index in 1896. GE went on to be the biggest company in the late 1990's. At Edison's death in 1931 he left a $12 million estate, big enough to have put him on The FORBES 400 list, had it then existed.He was basically a billionaire from this mindset of being a mad scientist and making a ton of little mistakes.Now you might be thinking, "Tai, I thought you said the secret is not making mistakes."Well yes and no - the devil is in the details.Edison wasn't one extreme or another. He was not afraid to have little experimental failures.But he also wasn't so stubborn that he kept trying one experiment longer than it needed to go.He tested quickly, go the results, then moved on to the next iteration.This should be the new pattern for your life.Copy Thomas Edison's pattern. Fail Fast...Like they say in Silicon Valley, "Fail Fast."As I said yesterday, you want to avoid BIG mistakes by filling up your brain with the thoughts of the wisest people in the world. Using their experience to be your board of advisors.But then you will have to go out and take action.Since you can't copy your mentors exactly you will inevitably make many little mistakes.Little mistakes are fine. In fact they are helpful.They key is that you have to "Read the obvious signs" and move on quickly once it's apparent that what you are doing is not working.In my inner circle private training program on financial freedom and building a million dollar business I teach the 7 step process. Inner Circle Program========================By the way, if you are interested in being in my private inner circle program, I am opening up a few spots as some people are graduating.If you want to find the good life and take your financial life from scarcity to financial independence, prosperity, and wealth, send an email to tai@tailopez.com and I will send you over some details.===========================So let me lay out the 7 step process:1. Ask a Question - what are you trying to fix in your life?2. Do Background Research - what have other smart people done to fix it (your cabinet)...3. Construct a Hypothesis - what experiment are you going to try?4. Test Your Hypothesis by Doing an Experiment - put the test into action.5. Analyze Your Data and Draw a Conclusion - Read the obvious signs...6. Communicate Your Results To Other Smart People - bounce your conclusion off a 'multitude of counselors."7. Adjust Based On What You Learned & Start Over - tweak your hypothesis and start back on step 3.Everyone is good at #3.All my poor friends have a million opinions on everything.They are happy to babble away about the answers to politics, religion, and the hard questions of life.What is rare is a mindset that doesn't jump to conclusions.Because for most people, #7 - making the adjustments and starting over - is the hardest.Most people just test once and then never make adjustments again.If you have been guilty of that, I know I have, then cut that mindset out of your life today.It will make all the difference.Like I said in my TED talk. Everyone wants to be a millionaire, but not everybody wants to do the things it takes to become one. It starts in the mind.  The Gambler...You have to know how to set up your life to be a series of little experiments and mistakes to avoid the big nightmare mistakes.Like Kenny Rogers sings in the Gambler: "Son, I've made a life Out of readin' people's facesKnowin' what the cards wereBy the way they held their eyesSo if you don't mind me sayin'I can see you're out of acesFor a taste of your whiskey I'll give you some adviceHe said, 'If you're gonna play the game, boyYou gotta learn to play it rightYou've got to know when to hold 'emKnow when to fold 'emKnow when to walk awayAnd know when to run'."A wise song.It's a little like dating.One of my buddies never goes out on dates but then always complains about feeling lonely.My other buddy is the opposite. He jumps into a relationship with the first girl he meets.But instead of either of those 2 extremes, my smartest friend goes on a handful of first dates kind of like a mad scientist.He goes through the 7 steps.He asks himself what kind of girl he wants to date. When he first is introduced to a girl he does a little research before agreeing to go out.Then he gives it a shot. And he observes the date.He maybe goes out one or two times to confirm his initial conclusion.He asks a few wise people about what he observed. And if it's not a match he makes the adjustment and starts over dating someone else until he finds the right match.This is the pattern of success not just in love and dating, but also the best way for dieting, exercising, building a million dollar business, or finding happiness.Test fast, fail fast, move on fast. Until you are sure you are on the right path never get stuck on one thing so long that it goes from a minor experimental failure to a massive life mistake.Think about every big mistake you have ever made.Maybe a failed marriage, friendship, or a failed business.I bet you either jumped into it too fast without testing it. Or you just got stuck in something by ignoring the initial obvious red flags. You just were hoping and praying that some magical power would reach down and fix everything. Today that all stops. All you have to do is become a mad scientist who embraces a little temporary uncertainty until the clear answers appear.Be patient. This method works. Try, Try Again...Try being a Vegan. Try being a liberal. Try being a conservative.Try being a Buddhist.Try being an Atheist.Try the Paleo diet.Try a different way to advertise your business.Or maybe it's time to try a new career. Try investing in real estate.Experiment your way to the top.Don't get attached the conclusion.Cope with a little uncertainty until the answer is clear.As Gary Keller says, "Embrace the chaos."It works. You will see.Now about the last tip:#3. The answers are not within.This is one of my most controversial topics.In conclusion, remember that if you can use these 3 tips and eliminate the major mistakes from your life you will literally save decades of time and end up with an extra million dollars or more in your pocket.Don't get paralyzed by the fear of failure.But don't get stuck too long and turn a little failed experiment into a massive mistake.Make your life one big experiment.Go do it and fill me in on how it works!Also, I just recorded a new show episode that deals with all the in-depth aspects of how to make war with a multitude of counselors and stop making painful mistakes. Also be sure to send an email to tai@tailopez.com if you want to learn more about my "Inner Circle" private program.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.