Inside Mental Health

Sometimes, you are so consumed by caring for a loved one with a serious mental illness, like schizophrenia or bipolar disorder, that taking a moment for yourself feels like a betrayal. In this episode, host Gabe Howard and Dr. C. Alec Pollard reveal the hidden crisis of caregiver burnout in the world of serious mental illness. They dismantle the myth that self-care is selfish, showing how neglecting your own needs can worsen stress and strain the very relationships you cherish. Dr. Pollard dives into the toxic beliefs that trap caregivers—those who support individuals with schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, and other severe conditions—into a cycle of resentment and exhaustion. With breakthrough strategies and compassionate advice, this episode offers a wake-up call for anyone feeling overwhelmed by the relentless demands of caregiving. Learn how nurturing yourself not only protects your well-being but also empowers you to care more effectively for your loved one. Funding for this episode was provided by Evernorth Health Services. “If you can do no good, at least do no harm. A lot of the, the things that families don't understand and caregivers is that they're actually doing things that not only they know it doesn't work okay. When they're doing these things, these naggings and lectures and all that, they know it's not working. But what they may not appreciate is it's actually making things worse over time.” ~C. Alec Pollard, PhD Our guest, C. Alec Pollard, Ph.D., is Founding Director of the Center for OCD and Anxiety-Related Disorders at Saint Louis Behavioral Medicine Institute and Professor Emeritus of Family and Community Medicine at Saint Louis University School of Medicine. He is a licensed psychologist who works with a range of obsessive-compulsive and anxiety-related disorders, with a special interest in obstacles that might inhibit the pursuit of recovery or interfere with effective participation in treatment. He is on the Scientific and Clinical Advisory Board of the International OCD Foundation and chairs the organization’s Training Subcommittee, including a national training initiative called the Behavior Therapy Training Institute.  Dr. Pollard is former chair of the Clinical Advisory Board of the Anxiety and Depression Association of America and has authored over 100 publications, including 3 books – “The Agoraphobia Workbook, Dying of Embarrassment: Help for Social Anxiety & Phobia,” and “When a Loved One Won’t Seek Mental Health Treatment: How to Promote Recovery and Reclaim Your Family’s Well-Being.” Our host, Gabe Howard, is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. Gabe is also the host of the "Inside Bipolar" podcast with Dr. Nicole Washington. Gabe makes his home in the suburbs of Columbus, Ohio. He lives with his supportive wife, Kendall, and a Miniature Schnauzer dog that he never wanted, but now can’t imagine life without. To book Gabe for your next event or learn more about him, please visit gabehoward.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this insightful discussion, Dr. Mary-Frances O’Connor, a psychology professor and author, delves into the crucial differences between prolonged grief and depression. She highlights how grief can physically impact health, with revelations about heart risks following a loved one’s death. O’Connor shares effective coping strategies for managing loss, emphasizing the importance of therapy over quick fixes. Listeners will discover the signs that differentiate normal grieving from prolonged grief, ultimately guiding them or their loved ones toward healing in times of deep sorrow.

When children grieve, the adults around them are often grieving, too—but how do we help them process loss when we’re struggling ourselves? In this powerful conversation, author Lindsay Bonilla shares the deeply personal story behind her children’s book “The Hole,” written to help young readers understand and express grief.With host Gabe Howard, together they explore the challenges of discussing death with kids, why grief shouldn’t be “filled in” and forgotten, and how storytelling can create space for healing. Whether you're a parent, caregiver, or someone who has experienced loss, this episode offers heartfelt insights into navigating grief—both for children and yourself. Listen now for a moving discussion on love, loss, and the importance of remembering.“A lot of children have experienced a lot of loss. So, letting kids lead and tell you what they need. Giving them tools, like children's books that address grief. Or if they see something. I mean, gee, there's a lot of, lot of movies. I mean, my son's obsessed with Star Wars. There's a lot of loss in that. And sometimes just taking the time to have the conversation at the level that they're comfortable with and letting them kind of lead the conversation. Rather than just acting like, well, they're fine. You know? [Laughter]” ~Lindsay BonillaOur guest, Lindsay Bonilla (LindsayBonilla.com), is a professional storyteller and author whose previous picture books include The Storyteller, the Parents’ Choice Award winner Polar Bear Island, I Love You with All of My Hearts, and The Note Who Faced the Music. She lives with her husband, two wild and creative kids, and her dog, Blitzen, in North Canton, Ohio.Our host, Gabe Howard, is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. Gabe is also the host of the "Inside Bipolar" podcast with Dr. Nicole Washington. Gabe makes his home in the suburbs of Columbus, Ohio. He lives with his supportive wife, Kendall, and a Miniature Schnauzer dog that he never wanted, but now can’t imagine life without. To book Gabe for your next event or learn more about him, please visit gabehoward.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ready to revolutionize the way you parent your newly minted adult children? In this episode, host Gabe Howard teams up with award-winning speaker Dr. Michael Ayalon to unravel the art of transforming traditional parenting into a dynamic, adult-to-adult dialogue. With insights honed over decades in leadership, higher education, and fraternity life, Michael offers practical strategies for balancing love, respect, and guidance while letting go of outdated rules. If you’re seeking fresh insights to foster your child’s independence, this episode provides a powerful blueprint for reimagining your relationship.Learn practical strategies for fostering mutual respect, active listening, and meaningful dialogue while allowing your newly adult child the freedom to learn from their own mistakes. Whether you’re grappling with the bittersweet empty nest or seeking to redefine your role in your children’s rapidly changing world, this episode offers heartwarming advice and real-world wisdom. Press play and discover the liberating power of evolved, mutually respectful parenthood.“You have to embrace autonomy. You have to recognize their need for independence and decision making, even if they make mistakes. Sometimes that is the best way for them to learn is to actually go through it. Failure is a crucial part of growth. So you want to encourage resilience. You want to encourage problem solving by allowing your child to face those challenges without immediately intervening. And also, you have to trust that the lessons that you've instilled in them over, you know, let's say 18 years will help to guide their actions in a good way.” ~Michael R. Ayalon, PhDGuest & Host Information:As an award-winning speaker, author, social media figure, hazing prevention expert, host of the Fraternity Foodie Podcast, and CEO of Greek University, Michael Ayalon is a recognized thought leader in the realms of fraternity and sorority life, business leadership, and higher education. He has headlined keynote presentations on over 200 college campuses in 40 states to help solve problems such as hazing, alcohol and drug abuse, and apathy in college student organizations. Mike is able to take lessons learned from helping to build companies from startup to over $25 Million in annual sales, as well as best practices as the Former Executive Director of Sigma Pi Fraternity with 120 chapters and over 115,000 members, to create dynamic, positive, and results-driven keynotes and workshops that transform people’s lives.Mike and his team published five books for Fraternity and Sorority leaders, including the From Letters to Leaders book series and "Using AI to Grow Your Fraternity or Sorority". He is a graduate of the School of Management at the University at Buffalo, and has a Master’s Degree from Cumberland University in Public Service Management. Mike is currently pursuing a Doctorate in Assessment, Learning, and Student Success (Higher Education Concentration) at Middle Tennessee State University and will defend on January 22, 2025. The title of his dissertation is "Early Warning Signs of Hazing in College Fraternities and Sororities".Our host, Gabe Howard, is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. Gabe is also the host of the "Inside Bipolar" podcast with Dr. Nicole Washington. Gabe makes his home in the suburbs of Columbus, Ohio. He lives with his supportive wife, Kendall, and a Miniature Schnauzer dog that he never wanted, but now can’t imagine life without. To book Gabe for your next event or learn more about him, please visit gabehoward.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mental health influencers are everywhere — but can they be trusted? Kody Green, known online as Schizophrenic Hippie, joins Gabe Howard to tackle the controversy head-on.Kody shares how he balances advocacy with accuracy, why fact-checking matters, and how respectful conversations can combat misinformation. They also explore the impact of social media restrictions on topics like schizophrenia and suicide, and why open dialogue is essential for breaking stigma. Tune in for an honest conversation about the responsibilities of mental health influencers and how to navigate online advice safely.“A lot of this [is] going on on the internet right now, and not just the anti-psychiatry movement, but people know they can get a lot of views if they say that my schizophrenia is not hallucinations, it's actually a spiritual awakening. They can get a lot of views if they tell me that what I'm experiencing is actually a gift of some sort. Anything that is slightly controversial, not necessarily based on facts, they can take and run with.” ~Kody Green, Author of Minds Over MeetingsTo learn more -- or read the transcript -- please visit the official episode page.Kody Green (He/Him) is a 30-year-old diagnosed with Schizophrenia. He is a motivational speaker and content creator with a following of over 1 million on TikTok. Kody’s journey has included challenges with drug addiction, incarceration, and serious mental health struggles.​To deepen his impact as an advocate and speaker, Kody trained as a peer support specialist, recovery coach, and suicide prevention specialist.​Today, he shares his personal experiences and insights on overcoming adversity, navigating mental health challenges, and rebuilding life after incarceration. Kody’s dedication to mental health advocacy, schizophrenia awareness, drug recovery, and second-chance opportunities is fueled by his own lived experiences.Our host, Gabe Howard, is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. Gabe is also the host of the "Inside Bipolar" podcast with Dr. Nicole Washington.Gabe makes his home in the suburbs of Columbus, Ohio. He lives with his supportive wife, Kendall, and a Miniature Schnauzer dog that he never wanted, but now can’t imagine life without. To book Gabe for your next event or learn more about him, please visit gabehoward.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. David Burns, Adjunct Clinical Professor Emeritus at Stanford, shares his expertise in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and the creation of the Feeling Great app. He criticizes the medicalization of normal emotions like shyness, arguing it mislabels common experiences as mental disorders. The discussion covers powerful CBT techniques to combat negative thoughts, the importance of tracking emotions for therapy, and how his app empowers users to manage their feelings. Dr. Burns aims to promote drug-free mental health care through innovative and accessible tools.

​​Ever wonder why some of the smartest people, like doctors, can still get it wrong? In this eye-opening episode, Gabe Howard talks with Dr. Marty Makary, author of “Blind Spots: When Medicine Gets It Wrong,” to uncover how groupthink and cognitive biases influence not just medicine but also parenting and our everyday decisions. In this episode, Dr. Makary reveals why questioning authority is essential for better health outcomes.Parents, this episode is a must-listen! Learn why you don’t need to follow the crowd when it comes to screen time, added sugar, and more. Packed with fascinating insights, this conversation challenges what you think you know about health, medicine, and parenting—and might just change how you see the world.“Maybe adults have done this to children? We have induced this problem. We have to look at our poisoned food supply. These engineered addictive food chemicals that are added, the role of pesticides, how we're changing the microbiome, throwing antibiotics loosely at people. Maybe we need to talk about school lunch programs, not just putting every kid on Ozempic? Maybe we need to talk about screen time addiction and its dopamine surge, not just putting every kid on medications?” ~Marty Makary, MDTo learn more -- or read the transcript -- please visit the official episode page.Our guest, Dr. Marty Makary, is a New York Times bestselling author and health care expert at Johns Hopkins University. He writes for The Wall Street Journal and served in leadership at the World Health Organization. Marty is the recipient of the 2020 Business Book of the Year Award for his book, “The Price We Pay,” which has been described by Steve Forbes as “A must-read for every American.”A public health researcher, Dr. Makary leads efforts to improve the health of communities and focuses on the “redesign of healthcare” to make healthcare more reliable, holistic, and coordinated, especially for vulnerable populations. He leads national efforts to increase medical transparency and lower health care costs for everyday businesses and consumers.Clinically, Dr. Makary is the chief of Islet Transplant Surgery at Johns Hopkins and is the recipient of the Nobility in Science Award from the National Pancreas Foundation. He has been a visiting professor at over 25 medical schools, has published over 250 peer-reviewed scientific articles, and has been elected to the National Academy of Medicine. A graduate of Bucknell, Thomas Jefferson, and Harvard Universities, he completed his surgical residency at Georgetown University and his specialty training at Johns Hopkins Hospital.Our host, Gabe Howard, is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. Gabe is also the host of the "Inside Bipolar" podcast with Dr. Nicole Washington.Gabe makes his home in the suburbs of Columbus, Ohio. He lives with his supportive wife, Kendall, and a Miniature Schnauzer dog that he never wanted, but now can’t imagine life without. To book Gabe for your next event or learn more about him, please visit gabehoward.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you often feel exhausted, resentful, or underappreciated in your relationships? In this episode, Gabe Howard and licensed psychotherapist Terri Cole explore the complexities of codependency, including its less-talked-about form: “high functioning codependency.” Terri shares practical tools like the “resentment inventory” to identify unhealthy relational patterns and explains how overgiving can be an unconscious attempt to control chaos.You’ll also learn how societal pressures, especially on women, play a role in this dynamic and how setting boundaries can lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections. Whether you're managing relationships with friends, family, or colleagues, this episode will help you understand the line between healthy care and codependent behaviors. If you’re tired of saying yes when you want to say no or struggling to let others help you, this is a must-listen conversation.“I coined the phrase high functioning codependency because my clients were these highly capable women, in particular, who did not identify with sort of the old school, Melody Beattie, “Codependent No More,” it's enabling an addict. That's all it is, basically. They're like dependent? I'm not dependent on squat. Everyone's dependent on me. I'm making all the money. I'm making all the decisions. I'm kind of the boss around here, so I can't be codependent, which is not true.” ~Terri ColeTo learn more -- or read the transcript -- visit the official episode page.Our guest, Terri Cole, is a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert and the author of “Boundary Boss” and “Too Much.”For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change.She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com.Our host, Gabe Howard, is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. Gabe is also the host of the "Inside Bipolar" podcast with Dr. Nicole Washington.Gabe makes his home in the suburbs of Columbus, Ohio. He lives with his supportive wife, Kendall, and a Miniature Schnauzer dog that he never wanted, but now can’t imagine life without. To book Gabe for your next event or learn more about him, please visit gabehoward.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Christine Crawford, Associate Medical Director at NAMI and author, discusses the subtle signs of mental health struggles in children and teens. She emphasizes the importance of distinguishing typical behavioral changes from serious issues. Crawford shares strategies for maintaining open communication with teens and highlights the vital role families play in supporting children's mental health. She reassures parents about the necessity of treatment, including therapy and medication when needed, empowering them with practical tools to navigate these challenges.

Dr. Jasleen Chhatwal, Chief Medical Officer at Sierra Tucson and a board-certified psychiatrist, brings her expertise in integrative and addiction medicine to the conversation. She shares her personal journey of losing her father to suicide and emphasizes how trauma-informed care can save lives. The discussion covers the importance of creating safe environments for trauma survivors and the urgent need for systemic changes in mental health treatment. Listeners learn actionable steps to support loved ones and foster compassion in addressing suicide and mental well-being.