Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

This episode of the Language of Love is a special one! I’m thrilled to share with you the beautiful talk Biet Simkin gave at our Good Grief Day event. Biet is a spiritual teacher and musician whose life story is a profound testament to the resilience of the human spirit. She shares her journey of healing and takes us through her powerful breathwork practice (make sure you aren’t driving or operating heavy machinery when you do it!). Biet opens her heart to us, sharing her personal narrative of navigating through the darkest valleys of loss and emerging into the light of purpose and spiritual awakening. She speaks candidly about her descent into depression and self-destructive behavior, a tumultuous period exacerbated by the vibrant yet chaotic New York City art scene. The story takes a heartbreaking turn when she recounts the unimaginable loss of her infant daughter to sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS). That tragedy was only compounded by the subsequent deaths of her father and the loss of her home. It's at her breaking point that Biet surrenders to a higher power, marking the beginning of her transformation. She leads us in a grief meditation and discusses her unique breathwork technique. I have personally experienced the benefits of breathwork and can't wait for you to try it.You will learn: Biet’s personal story of loss; her struggles with depression, substance abuse, and grief, and how it transformed her Biet's insights on grief and leading the audience through a grief meditation exercise Recommendations for practicing breathwork at home Personal stories of loss and healing shared by the audience I invite you to join us on this journey. Whether you're seeking solace, understanding, or a new perspective on your own path of healing, this episode is for you.Don't forget to visit my website for my grief course. Check out Biet Simkin's book, "Don't Just Sit There!: 44 Insights to Get Your Meditation Practice Off the Cushion and Into the Real World." It's amazing! For updates on Biet Simkin's latest projects and to connect with her, visit her website or reach out on LinkedIn.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know that most women fake their orgasms? It's a shocking reality that brings to light the underlying issues surrounding female pleasure. However, amidst the discussions on faking orgasms, there's a lesser-known side to the story. What happens when a woman actually cannot reach an orgasm?This Language of Love Bite is all about a topic that is both captivating and incredibly important for women – achieving orgasm. I acknowledge that it can sometimes be a difficult subject to discuss, but let's have an honest conversation about it. Understanding our bodies is essential, and this includes becoming comfortable with self-stimulation. Ultimately, it's about being self-aware, right?Here is a glimpse of what I unpack:  What happens when a woman can't reach orgasm  The common causes for an orgasm, or difficulty or inability to reach orgasm  The most common myths about women reaching orgasm  Importance of self-exploration and understanding one's body Why many women fake orgasm The guilt and shame around sexuality  The impact of attention deficit disorder on orgasm The lack of enough foreplay among couples  The physiological aspects that influence a woman's ability to orgasm. Debunk the myth that mutual orgasm is the ultimate goal The significance of intimacy and connection in sexual satisfaction Please remember to visit my website where you can find my free course on Quantum Sex. This course is designed to help you enhance your sexual response and experience full-body orgasms. It will also teach you how to use sex magic to manifest your dreams and establish a deeper sexual connection with your partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can love truly transcend language barriers? Is it possible for two souls to connect in the absence of a shared vocabulary? These questions have puzzled philosophers, poets, and love-struck individuals for centuries.In this Language of Love Conversation, I am thrilled to be joined by Sangita Patel, Canadian TV personality from Love and Translation, to discuss the complexities of finding love across language barriers. Love and Translation is a social experiment reality show where American men and women, who don't speak English, try to form connections without a common language. The women have translators, but the men must use nonverbal cues, engaging in activities like eye gazing and smelling competitions to see if love can grow without words.We dive into: Nonverbal communication and cultural differences in relationships The impact of hormonal contraceptives on attraction Importance of maintaining emotional and physical connection in relationships Importance of communication and affection in relationships, and especially in parenting The power of nonverbal communication and the potential for love to transcend linguistic and cultural boundaries Remember to watch the Love and Translation show to discover more about Sangita's work. Follow her on LinkedIn, Instagram, and Facebook to learn more about her projects. And don't forget to visit my website for a free 30-day challenge that will elevate your intimacy to the next level! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we're continuing our conversation with Ken and Marla, who have been kind enough to share their intimacy journey with us. If you've been following their story, you know that we've been exploring some of the challenges they've been facing in their relationship, particularly around intimacy and sexual health.For those who might have missed our previous episodes, I highly recommend going back and checking them out to get the full context of Ken and Marla's journey. It's been an enlightening experience, not just for them but for all of us listening in.Now, picking up from where we left off last time, Marla was opening up about her struggles with a lack of sexual response, which she suspects might be linked to hormonal imbalances. And Ken has been dealing with low energy and sleep problems, which can certainly take a toll on intimacy.I want to stress the significance of hormones in sexual health. They play such a crucial role, and it's important that we don't overlook them. It's not uncommon for sleep issues and low energy to be connected to hormonal imbalances, and identifying any issues there is vital for overall well-being and, by extension, Ken’s relationship with Marla.So, let's dive in and see how things have been going since our last conversation. In this episode, we’re diving into: Marla's concerns about her lack of sexual response and arousal Ken’s struggles with low energy levels and poor sleep quality The role of estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone in sexual response and overall well-being Marla's previous experience with hormone replacement therapy and concerns about family history of breast cancer. Recommendations for personalized hormone therapy and regular monitoring The potential risks and side effects of hormone therapy Remember to check out my free course on Quantum Sex. It's going to teach you how to take your sexual response to the next level. Just go to my website’s homepage. Until next time! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to another Language of Love Bite! This week we explore a topic that resonates deeply with many of us: the making and maintaining of soul friendships.You know, those deep, meaningful connections that just light up your life? I'm going to share with you the emotional healing necessary  to make room for these kinds of friendships. We'll also chat about why knowing your worth and setting boundaries isn't just good for you, but it's essential for nurturing healthy, soulful friendships.I've got some stories from my own life to share, too, because let's face it, we've all been there when a friendship ends. It's tough, but I'll give you some tips on how to handle it with grace and how to spot the real deal soul friends in your life.Try out any of my guided meditations to ground your system and regulate your energy, and then check out my book Quantum Love for a deeper dive into this topic. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Language of Love Conversation, I'm chatting with Riz Mirza. He may look like a heavy metal rocker (he is by the way), but he’s also a trance-medium psychic channel. We dive into the supernatural (and even spooky) stuff is a part of our natural world that we don't always see. Riz says that thanks to the limitations of our 5 senses, most of us have filters on that only let us catch a glimpse of all the info out there.Riz opens up about his own story, how he went from pushing away his psychic abilities to totally embracing (and yes rocking) them. He's all about embracing that sensitivity and the strength it brings. And me? I'm sharing some of my heartache and messages I’ve been receiving since loosing my son.Plus, get this – In addition to a mediumship reading with some wild messages from my departed son, Sammy, Riz channeled a spirit named Red Eagle and I interviewed him!! I’ve never interviewed a spirit guide before. It was wild. He's passing on messages about the state of the world, how to move through these crazy times, and giving a sense of validation that was so comforting. Listen in, it's going to be an incredible show! In this episode, Riz (and Red Eagle) and I dive into: Understanding the limitations of human perception and processing of information The concept of suspending disbelief and being open to new ideas Why hope actually may work against you.  How to find joyful navigation through chaos Dealing with grief and finding meaning in loss Mediumship and channeling as tools for healing and connection with loved ones The power of sensitivity and self-expression Overcoming judgments and living authentically The transformative potential of navigating loss with grace Be sure to connect with Riz on Instagram and his website to delve deeper into his work. You'll find a wealth of content and insights waiting for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Language of Love Session, we continue our conversation with Ken and Marla, a couple who has been going through some sexual struggles, and we really got into the nitty-gritty of how stress and trauma can mess with your love life.Ken's been feeling super stressed and it's been hitting their intimacy hard. He's distracted, tired, and just not in the mood, which has been causing some tension between them. Marla, on her end, is experiencing PTSD symptoms in response to Ken’s anger, even though it’s not directed at her. This is not at all uncommon for those with a trauma background. But the dynamic is making her pull away and shut down emotionally. It's like they're stuck in this loop where they just keep triggering each other.So, I suggest they try somatic experiencing therapy. It's a game-changer for understanding and dealing with trauma responses. And one big thing I emphasized was the need to separate their actions from their reactions. It's not easy, but it's so important for healing and moving forward together.I'm confident that this session will not only provide you with a deeper understanding of the complexities of trauma in intimate relationships but also arm you with practical guidance to face similar challenges head-on. Remember to check out my recommended books The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma and Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma and let's keep growing together.Keep pushing forward, and don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Here's to healing and growing stronger together! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to another Language of Love Bite! Today, I want to share something deeply personal and universally relatable – the often-overlooked pain of friendship breakups. I totally get how losing a friend can feel just like you've lost a member of your family, and with everything going on with the pandemic, those feelings are even more intense.I'm opening up about my own experiences with losing friends and I'm right here with you, guiding you through those complex emotions. We're going to talk about how to pick yourself up and build that resilience to move forward. It's all about looking inward, reflecting on the friendships we've had, and being brave enough to make new connections.But here's a heads up – trying to get closure from that former friend might not be the best move. It can actually set you back on your healing journey. So, let's navigate this together and find our way to a place of peace and new beginnings. I talk about: Friendship breakups and grief that can bring  Impact of pandemic on friendship breakups Complex emotions during the grieving process Navigating loss with grace and resilience Guidance on navigating the aftermath of friendship breakups Importance of self-reflection and identifying valued qualities in friendships Accessing new, more aligned connections to emerge Practical advice and support for individuals navigating friendship breakups Have you experienced the pain of loss and found it difficult to cope and heal? If so, I invite you to visit my website and explore the resources available, including a grief course that may help you navigate through your journey of healing. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You ever wonder if someone is telling the truth? It turns out each of us can be a human lie detector! There's no magic involved, only science. It's all about understanding the language of micro facial expressions. By paying attention to small changes in a person's face, we can uncover the truth and strengthen our relationships with others. Whether it's picking up on tiny expressions to see if someone’s into you, understanding the hidden meaning behind a friend's smile, or determining if someone is telling you the truth, knowing the language of facial expressions can make all the difference.In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Annie Särnblad, a global speaker and certified expert in the Facial Action Coding System (FACS), to learn all about the art of reading micro expressions. Annie's journey into the realm of facial expressions is as personal as it is professional. Stemming from a childhood marked by abuse, she developed a heightened sensitivity to non-verbal cues as a survival mechanism. This hyper-awareness evolved into a passion for understanding the subtle signals conveyed through our facial expressions, particularly microexpressions—those fleeting, involuntary movements that can betray our true feelings.We break down: Annie's personal and professional background in understanding facial expressions, especially microexpressions The universality of facial expressions across different cultures and languages How to read micro expression to identify genuine emotions and building trust Physiological connections to facial expressions, such as the link between disgust and sense of smell Challenging misconceptions about empathy in individuals with autism The importance of cultural awareness and considering cultural variations in non-verbal communication The significance of non-verbal cues in creating authentic connections in various types of relationships Check out Annie’s book “Diary of a Human Lie Detector: Facial Expressions in Love, Lust, and Lies.” You can also visit her website and follow her on LinkedIn and Instagram to learn more about her work.Make sure to visit my website to check out my books on love, sex and relationships and explore my available courses. Tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Language of Love session, I sit down with Regine, a listener facing the dual challenges of a partner with PTSD and her journey through grief and caregiving. She's navigating the delicate balance between her social desires and her partner's need for solitude due to PTSD. It's a dance many couples know all too well – the push and pull of togetherness and independence. This has put a strain on their relationship, as Regine longs for shared social experiences and support, especially after the loss of her son and the emotional toll of caring for her mother with Alzheimer's. We also touch on something incredibly profound – the connection between our bodies and our emotional well-being. Regine shares her journey of caregiving and personal loss, and together, we discuss the transformative power of tuning into our bodies to find healing and peace.We deep dive into: Life's fragility and the desire to cherish every moment The roles of victim and villain in relationship dynamics The importance of understanding love languages in a relationship The importance of having a supportive community outside the relationship The impact of grief and loss on relationships Finding the middle ground and compromising in relationships Why you should be listening to your body and use your heart as a compass Don't forget to check out my website for helpful meditations on the Quantum Love page that can assist you with your relationships. Take a look at the list of available meditations and see which ones resonate with you. Also, if you are a mother who has lost a child in any way, join my retreat for grieving mamas at 1440 Multiversity in Santa Cruz, California. Experience healing, community, and workshops with experts like David Kessler and Paul Selig. Visit 1440.org for more information and join us in the beautiful redwoods for four amazing days. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices