Nuance Needed

In this episode, we're tackling the internet phenomenon that's ruining actual discourse: the bean soup theory, aka "what about me-ism." * The viral bean soup recipe that broke the internet—and why people demanding a bean-free bean soup is the perfect metaphor for online discourse right now * How performative advocacy is drowning out actual advocacy  * The self-centered arrogance of assuming every piece of content must be caveated for YOUR specific experience * How left-leaning echo chambers have created a "gotcha culture" where pointing out what someone missed becomes performative activism * Why your anxiety is making you think everything is a mortal threat  * The difference between actually dangerous content and content you simply disagree with * How we've weaponized words like "accountability" and "responsibility" so much that we can't talk about agency anymore * The radical truth: not everything applies to you, and that's okay * Why distraction is a valid coping skill  If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU! We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.com To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area. Want to join the conversation? You can email us podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!

We're breaking down the viral British Vogue article and why it touched such a nerve about modern relationships, dating, and what women actually owe the world (in addition to the backlash to it)  In conversation, we tackle: * Why the article hit so differently for single women versus partnered women * The evolution from "pick me" culture to "boyfriend girl" being culturally cringe * How the dating landscape has fundamentally changed from community-based connection to app-based chaos * Why hetero-pessimism is actually a reasonable response to patriarchal structures * The privilege conversations around choosing to stay single versus struggling to find partnership * The polarizing digital ecosystem: it's embarrassing to have a boyfriend on the left, essential on the right * The difference between critiquing heteronormativity and shaming women's choices * The emotional labor of opening your stable, fulfilling life to the risk of heartbreak * What this debate reveals about how we still police women's choices under patriarchy * The freedom to choose partnership, singlehood, or anything in between without shame If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU! We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.com To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area. Want to join the conversation? You can email us podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!

Lots of people on the internet say that healthy conflict is important, but WTF does that actually mean? In this episode, we're breaking down what actually makes relationship repair possible—and why it requires way more nuance than viral self-help posts suggest. Skip to 8:45 to get to the meat of the episode. In conversation, we tackle:  • Why defensiveness kills relationships faster than almost anything else  • How to actually sit with feedback you don't agree with   • The skill of allowing multiple truths to exist simultaneously—even when they contradict  • Why being present and emotionally regulated matters more than being "right"  • How to practice healthy conflict instead of avoiding it or bulldozing through it  • The uncomfortable reality that you get better at conflict by actually doing it  • Why curiosity about the other person's experience is more powerful than proving your point If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU! We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.com To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area. Want to join the conversation? You can email us podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!

When your brain becomes your worst enemy after having a baby, nobody talks about it. In this raw conversation with author Suzanne Warye, she and Amanda chat about OCD how alcohol becomes both a crutch and a complication. Things discussed:  * The moment when Suzanne's OCD thoughts shifted from "what if something happens to my baby" to "what if I do something" * Why intrusive thoughts about harming your child are actually common in OCD (and why nobody talks about it) * How alcohol becomes the go-to numbing agent when you're convinced you're a monster * Why waiting for your partner to get sober first is a trap (especially in heterosexual relationships) * The connection between OCD "sticky thoughts" and the desperate need to escape them through drinking * How sobriety doesn't cure OCD but gives you the clarity to actually address it About Suzanne: Suzanne Warye is the author of The Sober Shift, host of The Sober Mom Life Podcast, and creator of The Sober Mom Life Cafe.  If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU! We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.com To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area. Want to join the conversation? You can email us podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!

We started recording to talk about our Disney hot takes and somehow ended with Amanda defending cruise ships like her life depends on it. This episode is pure chaos… we're talking eyeliner, baked goods, food texture, frosting ratios and cruise ships. No deep insights, just two therapists with strong opinions about things that don't matter. Don’t worry we are back with a bonus episode on Thursday that is actually related to mental health! If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU! We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.com To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area. Want to join the conversation? You can email us podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!

Are you really too busy to see your friends, or have we gotten too comfortable being lonely? Sam sits down with Chelsea Fagan (author of "Having People Over"), to dissect why hosting a dinner party feels harder than ordering $50 of DoorDash. In conversation, we tackle: * Why social media is the "methadone of community"—just enough connection to keep you hooked but never satisfied * How being "the person who never states a preference" doesn't make you easygoing, it makes you burdensome * Why your ADHD isn't a get-out-of-jail-free card for being a bad friend * Why planning a party is the good kind of stress * The power of being the facilitator (even when no one else reciprocates) * What Sam learned from being a caregiver to her severely disabled brother about getting outside yourself * Why accepting that sometimes love isn't reciprocated is the price of being a loving person Chelsea Fagan is the founder of The Financial Diet and author of "Having People Over" (out October 21st). Find her @faganchelsea on Instagram and TikTok. If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU! We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.com To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area. Want to join the conversation? You can email us podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!

Happy anniversary to us! After a year of this podcast, we’re getting real about how we're surviving the chaos of content creation, life changes, and our own brains. In this episode we dive into our best coping skills and our worse self sabotage behaviors, how we break out of them and our best tips for how you can start engaging in real and effective self care today! If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU! We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.com To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area. Want to join the conversation? You can email us podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!

What does it mean to love someone and resent them at the same time? In this episode, Sam shares what it's been like to grow up alongside her brother Alex, who has a severe disability, and how thirty-two years of caregiving has shaped every part of who she is. In conversation, we tackle: * Growing up as the oldest daughter when your brother needs 24/7 care * The anxiety of being a kid who felt she couldn't stay after school because she needed to be home * The isolation of hearing "you're a saint" when you're trying to share how hard things really are * How caregiving pulled Sam into therapy as a career - and the resentment that came with realizing it * What it means to grieve a relationship with a sibling who's still alive * The moment Sam realized she could hate her brother sometimes - and that was okay * The unexpected moments of joy and connection that exist alongside the exhaustion This is a conversation about the full spectrum of caregiving - the love, the burden, the funny moments, the grief, and everything in between. Sam's vulnerability in sharing her story offers a window into an experience that touches so many families but rarely gets discussed with this level of honesty. If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU! We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.com To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area. Want to join the conversation? You can email us podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!

What if the mental health crisis starts with how we learned to read? Dr. Jennifer Weber reveals the shocking connections between educational practices and our collective inability to process information or sit with discomfort. In conversation, Amanda and Jennifer discuss: * Why teaching kids to guess instead of read has massively contributed to how we show up online * The death of internal dialogue—and what it means for self-reflection * Why most adults only know 5 emotion words (hint: it's about reading comprehension) * The simple "pause" that breaks algorithmic conditioning * How classroom reinforcement schedules mirror social media engagement * Why patience is a critical thinking skill, not just a virtue * The connection between reading fiction and emotional intelligence * What parents can actually do at home (spoiler: it starts with curiosity) * Why banning AI won't work—and what we should teach instead This episode bridges the gap between education policy and personal mental health in ways that will change how you think about both thinking and feeling. Perfect for parents, educators, and anyone trying to understand why everything feels so overwhelming right now Dr. Jennifer Weber is a Board Certified Behavior Analyst (BCBA-D) and educator who co-founded KIT Educational Consulting. Her work focuses on how reinforcement systems shape not only classroom behavior, but also how we think, process information, and navigate our digital world. Her substack is incredible! We are really working on trying to the grow the podcast so we can get advertisers, if you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU! We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.com To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area. Want to join the conversation? Or offer us a correction? You can email us podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!

We've all seen the posts: "That's trauma." But the truth is less straightforward. Today we're unpacking the complex reality of trauma—what it actually is, how it differs from PTSD, and why understanding the nuance matters for your healing. In conversation, we tackle: * Why trauma and PTSD aren't the same thing (only 6% of people who experience trauma develop PTSD) * The crucial differences between big T and little T trauma—and why both matter * How vicarious trauma from social media is real but different from direct trauma * Why your support system might be the biggest factor in whether something becomes traumatic * The difference between processing, intellectualizing, and ruminating (and why you need to know) * How parasocial relationships are blurring the lines between secondary and vicarious trauma * Why sitting with pain is different from dwelling in it * Sam's powerful story from 5+ years in a Level 1 trauma ER and what secondary trauma really looks like * How to build new neural pathways when trauma has you stuck on the same highway * The hope: why the solution is the same regardless of your entry point Content Note: This episode contains discussion of medical trauma, death, and emergency situations. We share real experiences to illustrate important concepts about secondary trauma and healing. Please take care of yourself while listening. We are running a fall special get 45% off our annual paid substack subscription through the end of October. Use this link-- https://nuanceneeded.substack.com/subscribe?coupon=ceee7102&utm_content=173199122 To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area. Want to join the conversation? Or offer us a correction? You can email us podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!