Nuance Needed 85: Not Everything is About You: The Bean Soup Theory
Nov 18, 2025
51:24
In this episode, we're tackling the internet phenomenon that's ruining actual discourse: the bean soup theory, aka "what about me-ism."
* The viral bean soup recipe that broke the internet—and why people demanding a bean-free bean soup is the perfect metaphor for online discourse right now
* How performative advocacy is drowning out actual advocacy
* The self-centered arrogance of assuming every piece of content must be caveated for YOUR specific experience
* How left-leaning echo chambers have created a "gotcha culture" where pointing out what someone missed becomes performative activism
* Why your anxiety is making you think everything is a mortal threat
* The difference between actually dangerous content and content you simply disagree with
* How we've weaponized words like "accountability" and "responsibility" so much that we can't talk about agency anymore
* The radical truth: not everything applies to you, and that's okay
* Why distraction is a valid coping skill
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To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.
Want to join the conversation? You can email us podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!
* The viral bean soup recipe that broke the internet—and why people demanding a bean-free bean soup is the perfect metaphor for online discourse right now
* How performative advocacy is drowning out actual advocacy
* The self-centered arrogance of assuming every piece of content must be caveated for YOUR specific experience
* How left-leaning echo chambers have created a "gotcha culture" where pointing out what someone missed becomes performative activism
* Why your anxiety is making you think everything is a mortal threat
* The difference between actually dangerous content and content you simply disagree with
* How we've weaponized words like "accountability" and "responsibility" so much that we can't talk about agency anymore
* The radical truth: not everything applies to you, and that's okay
* Why distraction is a valid coping skill
If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU! We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.com
To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.
Want to join the conversation? You can email us podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!