

A Gay and A NonGay
James Barr and Dan Hudson
In a time where we're all threatened by a rhetoric of hate from the people in power; A Gay And A NonGay challenges our differences. No matter who you are, or what you're into, gay's and nongay's can & should be friends.'Highly Recommended' Guardian'One of the most fundamentally kind and funny podcasts in Britain' RadioTimes'A hilarious take on love, friendship and sex' TimeOutAn independent podcast from James Barr (@imjamesbarr) and Dan Hudson (@DanHudson). Find us on Insta, TikTok, Twitter and Facebook @gaynongayGet bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed
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Feb 5, 2025 • 19min
Can Straight Men Do Drag? with Holly Stars
Drag queen, stand-up comic and author Holly Stars is this weeks guest on A Gay And A NonGay!Ever wondered what it takes to conquer the allusive worlds of both drag and comedy? Holly joins James and Dan to share her experiences in both worlds! She also shares her thoughts about why musicals are so alluring to queer communities and how she brings all of this into her smash-hit new drag murder mystery Death Drop!Plus - do straight people still not exist? We'll come back to you on that one...Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 29, 2025 • 14min
Who Should Propose? The Great Debate
We're talking all things marriage proposals and gay weddings on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay!So... who should propose? James and Dan are breaking down the traditional roles expected in relationships and challenging the patriarchal norms. Plus, what gets James U-turning on his thoughts about weddings?Towards the end of the episode, we take a look at body shaming as we try to embrace our best lives in 2020 Thrive.Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 22, 2025 • 25min
You Hear That? It's Straight Men Being Silent...
Would you ever go gay for hay? Kicking off this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan consider whether pretending to be gay to secure a roof on your head is... ethical? It's kind of complicated.As we dive deeper into the episode, we go into the big topic of straight men's silence on prominent cases of women's abuse, particularly the trial of Gisèle Pelicot. James passionately argues for the responsibility of straight men to be vocal allies, suggesting that guilt or fear of past actions might be reasons for their silence.The episode challenges you to reflect on your role in supporting marginalised communities and encourages open dialogue about difficult subjects.Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 15, 2025 • 11min
Maybe God... Made Us This Way?
This week is just a quick check-in with our A Gay And A NonGay community as James Barr has an announcement about down under (not like that!), James and Dan reveal the results of a poll about sexual preferences and we chat about negative comments from TikTok!Think of this as a brisk affair lasting just over 8 minutes... you feel light and giddy at the end, and can't wait to come back for more.Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 8, 2025 • 25min
Keighley Cougars: The Rainbow-Roaring Rugby Club with Ryan O’Neill & Kaue Garcia
When Ryan O’Neill & Kaue Garcia bought their beloved local rugby club the Keighley Cougars in 2018, they never expected the backlash that would come.Having saved the club from bankruptcy, and making it the only openly LGBTQ-owned professional sports club outside of the US, they sought to make it an inclusive, LGBTQ-friendly space, putting diversity at the heart of the club.On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan meet Ryan & Kue to talk about the backlash they have received in response to their transformation of the Keighley Cougars, how owning the club has allowed them to heal from the homophobia experienced growing up, and the importance of making sports more welcoming for LGBTQ+ athletes and fans.Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 1, 2025 • 20min
What's Gay and What's Not?
Happy New Year! We're kicking off 2025 how we meant to go on... with an insightful debate around the perceptions of behaviours and items labelled as 'gay' by society. Oh, we're also talking New Years Resolutions (and reflecting on past resolutions) of course!But, seriously, is 2025 the year where people will finally stop calling things 'gay'? Maybe we'll even dismantle societal stereotypes on masculinity and... maybe you'll no longer be able to be "more gay than gay itself"?Time will do it's thing - but what we know for sure is that we're looking forward to spending this year with all of you gays and nongays alike!Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 25, 2024 • 25min
Elliot Page, Tia Kofi, Jamie Dornan + More! (Best of the Guests 2024)
It's time! Christmas Day has come and we're serving you some of our finest moments from 2024... all in one neat package, waiting underneath the tree.On topics ranging from coming out to queer joy, beating stereotypes and non-binary identity, we hear from Drag Race winner Tia Kofi, Golden Globe nominee Richard Gadd, Eurovian winner Nemo, Joel Creasey, Reuben Kaye and, of course, Dan's doppelganger Jamie Dornan as James and Dan wrap up 2024 as only A Gay And A NonGay could.They also tease some of 2025's upcoming guests and reflect on the years most heartfelt conversations...Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 20, 2024 • 25min
Christmas If You're Queer
It's so nearly Christmas... but what does that mean if you're queer? On this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are exploring issues around chosen families and setting boundaries which often come up around this time of year for queer people.How do you ensure your loved ones are respectful during this time of festive cheer? And how much should you care about society's reaction to your supposed non-conformity? All of these reflections are contained within...Plus at the top of the episode, James & Dan address the challenges of dealing with online trolls - particularly when Piers Morgan's fanboys are coming after you!Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 11, 2024 • 23min
Ageing Twinks & Gay Cruises with Joe Sutherland
Do you have an imagined feud with a celebrity? Well, this weeks guest certainly has a story to tell! James and Dan are joined by comedian Joe Sutherland for a rousing edition of A Gay And A NonGay.The trio talk about ageing in the gay community (and the concept of 'twink death') and the societal changes impacting how older LGBTQ+ individuals are perceived. How deep does the generational divide go?Plus, Joe shares his experience on a gay cruise and tries to bring the idea to life for Dan!Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 4, 2024 • 21min
Getting Into The Holiday Spirit!
It's officially the holiday season and we're delving into some of our holiday traditions (and stresses) and how they differ between gays and, well, nongays. From musical theatre (which is surely an LGBTQ+ staple?!) to family expectations, how do the holidays differ based on your sexuality?Plus, following on the internet trend, Dan contemplates organizing a Jamie Dornan lookalike competition, while James reflects on the pressures of having to frequently discuss their sexual orientation...The holidays - you can't live with em, but you can't live without them!Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices