A Jaded Gay

While many people equate Pride to June, Pride events happen across the world throughout the year, amplifying the voices of the LGBTQ+ community. Given the recent political climate and ongoing challenges to LGBTQ+ rights, it's more important than ever to celebrate, participate, and advocate for equality and inclusion 365 days a year.In this episode, Patrick Gevas from Miami Beach Pride joins us to dives into the significance of Pride events and shares insights on how to celebrate and amplify queer joy year-round..Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 105. The Pride Divide (with Tyrell Brown)Listen to Episode 106. Long Live Queer Nightlife (with Amin Ghaziani)Listen to Episode 108. Celebrate Queer JoyAdditional Resources:Learn More About Miami Beach PrideFollow Miami Beach Pride on InstagramFollow Patrick Gevas on InstagramSupport the showGet Your Merch

While many people support LGBTQ+ rights and equality, true allyship goes a step further by actively standing against discriminatory legislation and amplifying queer voices. In this current political climate, it’s crucial that our allies remain engaged to protect hard-fought rights and continue pushing for progress toward a more inclusive future.In this episode, Greg Baird, a global lecturer and educator on LGBTQIA+ civil rights, joins us to explore how our allies can stand alongside us to challenge and dismantle hate and bigotry.Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 09. Corporate Greed & Rainbow CapitalismListen to Episode 16. Being an Ally (with Cheyenne Filipczyk)Listen to Episode 110. Where Have All the Rainbows Gone?Additional Resources:Beyond the Rainbow: The Dark Side of Corporate Pride and Rainbow CapitalismTrue Allyship: Moving Beyond Performative Support for the LGBTQ+ CommunityLearn More About GregFollow Greg on InstagramSubscribe to Greg on YouTubeConnect with Greg on FacebookConnect with Greg on LinkedInSupport the showGet Your Merch

Gay stereotypes often arise from oversimplified and exaggerated portrayals in the media, which overlook the complexity of individual experiences and reinforce societal biases. While some of these stereotypes may seem harmless or humorous, they can lead to real-world consequences, including discrimination and alienation.In this episode, Mike Johnson and Kyle Getz, hosts of Gayish, join us to discuss their new book, You're Probably Gayish, which breaks down the most prevalent gay stereotypes in popular discourse.Additional Resources:Learn More About GayishBuy You’re Probably GayishFollow Gayish on InstagramSubscribe to Gayish on YouTubeFollow Mike on InstagramFollow Kyle on InstagramSupport the showGet Your Merch

We’ve previously examined the history of gay representation in TV and film, tracing its evolution from early portrayals to groundbreaking moments like Ellen, which helped pave the way for greater visibility. Among these influential shows, Will & Grace stood out as a game-changer, bringing gay characters into mainstream sitcoms and normalizing LGBTQ+ identities for a wide audience—though its representation wasn’t without flaws.In this episode, we’re exploring the conception of Will & Grace, its cultural significance, and the lasting impact it had on queer representation in television.Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 07. The History of Gay Representation in TV & FilmListen to Episode 12. Queer as FolkListen to Episode 55. Gay for Pay: Should Straight Actors Play Queer Characters?Additional Resources:Streaming Through Stereotypes: The Progress and Pitfalls of LGBTQ+ Representation in MediaQueer as Folk: A Groundbreaking Journey of LGBTQ+ RepresentationWill & GracePilot (Will & Grace)Biden Says He is 'Absolutely Comfortable' with Same-Sex MarriageObama Backs Gay MarriageSupport the showGet Your Merch

The term "daddy" has been used as slang for over 300 years and was embraced by the gay community in the 1970s, particularly within the leather subculture, leading to the popular phrase "leather daddy." Today, in gay culture, "daddy" represents an older, confident, and nurturing figure, often admired for their authority, maturity, and sexual appeal, while also evoking playful and affectionate dynamics within romantic relationships.In this episode, For the Love of DILFs star Sal Zambito joins us to explore what it means to be a daddy in gay culture, the journey of embracing the daddy identity, and the valuable lessons daddies and boys can learn from one another within the gay community.Additional Resources:Follow Sal on InstagramFollow Sal on TikTokCheck out Sal on For the Love of DILFs Season 2Learn More About For the Love of DILFsConception of a Question: Who's Your Daddy?Here's an Outrageously Comprehensive Guide to the Term 'Daddy'Gay Daddy (Urban Dictionary)Daddy (Know Your Meme)S and M : Studies in dominance and submissionSupport the showGet Your Merch

In previous episodes, we discussed how gay men often found refuge in mafia-owned private bottle clubs, where they could drink and socialize without the fear of police raids or public hostility. These underground venues, while risky due to their illegal nature, offered a rare safe haven where gay men could express themselves more freely and form a sense of community away from the prying eyes of a largely unwelcoming society.In this episode, crime writer Chris Holcombe joins us to discuss how gay speakeasies emerged during the Prohibition era as secretive, underground venues where LGBTQ+ individuals could gather away from the scrutiny and persecution of mainstream society.Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 17. Mobsters & Mos: How the Mafia Owned Gay NightlifeListen to Episode 63. The Stonewall RiotsAdditional Resources:Learn More About Chris HolcombeFollow Chris on InstagramSupport Chris on PatreonOrder the Hidden Gotham SeriesSubscribe to Chris’s Monthly EmailsGay New York: Gender, Urban Culture, and the Making of the Gay Male World, 1890-1940Bulldaggers, Pansies, and Chocolate BabiesThree Plays: Sex / The Drag / The Pleasure ManThe Speakeasy Glossary – Queer Slang of the Prohibition EraSupport the showGet Your Merch

While playful putdowns and throwing shade have long been a celebrated form of humor and bonding among gay men, they can sometimes perpetuate cliques, exclusion, and toxic behaviors within the community. Not only does this behavior reinforces harmful stereotypes like the "bitchy queen" or "mean gay," but it also deepens divisions in an already marginalized community, reflecting the way we are often treated by the larger world.In this episode, we're exploring why mean gay behavior manifests, the impact it has on our community, and ways we can foster kindness and support among one another.Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 34. GBF: Gay Best FriendListen to Episode 38. Learning to Accept KindnessListen to Episode 53. Stop Comparing Yourself to Other GaysAdditional Resources:The Top 10 Reasons the Gay Community Is So Competitive10 Reasons Gay Men Are Hyper CompetitiveOp-ed: Are Gay Men A Gay Man's Worst Enemy?Ask a Homo: Bitchy QueensWhen Does a Bitchy Queen Become Too Much?Gays Behaving BadlyCulture Slut: Dissecting the 'Mean Gays' TropeMatthew J. Dempsey on How Gay Men "Compare & Despair"Support the showGet Your Merch

Following the harm inflicted on the LGBTQ+ community under the Trump administration from 2017-2021, including attacks on transgender rights and the rollback of anti-discrimination protections, many fear what the new era of Trump may bring. However, it’s vital that we remain unified, support one another, and continue to advocate for equality to protect and expand the progress we’ve made.In this episode, previous guests join us to share their messages of hope and optimism for the future of the LGBTQ+ community as we brace for the challenges that will come with this administration.Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 112. Project 2025Listen to Episode 122. A Queer Review of the Trump Administration (2017 – 2021)Additional Resources:Sign the Petition to Reject Project 2025Sign the Petition Urging Congress to Pass the Equality ActSupport the showGet Your Merch

As the end of the year approaches, it’s important to take a retrospective look to appreciate the challenges overcome, goals achieved, and lessons learned. In doing so, we can use the knowledge gained to build a stronger foundation for the year ahead.In this episode, we're revisiting some of our featured guest episodes from 2024!Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 109. Queens Slayin', Haters Prayin': A Drag-tacular Showcase (with Bev, Philly’s Queen of Comedy)Listen to Episode 111. Opening Doors: Navigate the Real Estate Rainbow (with Ryan Windt)Listen to Episode 113. Advocate Your Ass Off (with Anthony Munger)Listen to Episode 115. Spectrums of Pride (with Max Korten)Listen to Episode 116 Rainbows Don’t Paint Themselves (with Jacoby Nordberg)Listen to Episode 117. Get Pop Cultured (with Carmine Davis)Listen to Episode 119. Turning the Page on Queer Book Bans (with Alexander Rigby)Listen to Episode 121. Unpack Your Gay Emotional Baggage (with Dr. Jason Durant)Listen to Episode 124. Queer Frights & New Media: Horror Beyond the Screen (with Bobby Torrez)Listen to Episode 126. Gay of the Dead: Unleashing Queer Horror (with Sean Abley)Listen to Episode 127. Gay Icons: The Queen of Pop (with Stefan Mreczko)Listen to Episode 129. The Gay Wellness Revolution (with Peter DeWitt)Listen to Episode 130. Pride in Motion: Inclusive Fitness and Body-Positive Coaching (with Roy Belzer)Support the showGet Your Merch

As the end of the year approaches, it’s important to take a retrospective look to appreciate the challenges overcome, goals achieved, and lessons learned. In doing so, we can use the knowledge gained to build a stronger foundation for the year ahead.In this episode, we're revisiting some of our featured guest episodes from 2024!Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 87. Breaking the Binary (with Travis McMaster)Listen to Episode 89. Beyond the Brawn: Redefining Queer Masculinity (with Erick DuPree)Listen to Episode 91. Fat and Fabulous: Embrace Body Positivity (with Matthew Simko)Listen to Episode 93. Unlock Financial Freedom (with David & John Auten-Schneider)Listen to Episode 95. Take a Page from #GayBookstagram (with Rod Lujano)Listen to Episode 97. Diversifying Queer Horror Cinema (with Jose Nateras)Listen to Episode 99. Coming Out Later in Life (with Kevin O’ Connor)Listen to Episode 101. Sci-Fi: The Future is Queer (with TQ Sims)Listen to Episode 103. A Pulse Check on LGBTQ+ Healthcare (with Max Austin)Listen to Episode 105. The Pride Divide (with Tyrell Brown)Listen to Episode 106. Long Live Queer Nightlife (with Amin Ghaziani)Listen to Episode 107. Kiss & Release (with Anthony DiPietro)Support the showGet Your Merch