A Jaded Gay

LGBTQ+ dating often feels like navigating a smaller dating pool, and many gay men turn to dating apps for connection, dates, and hookups. But constant comparison on these platforms can lead gay men to believe there aren’t enough compatible partners, which impacts how we approach gay dating and our own self-worth.In this episode, we’re exploring scarcity mindset in gay men, why it shows up so strongly in dating, and how we can break free from it to cultivate healthier, more grounded LGBTQ+ relationships.Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 15. Understanding Attachment StylesListen to Episode 53. Stop Comparing Yourself to Other GaysListen to Episode 96. Should You Swipe Left on Gay Dating Apps?Listen to Episode 100. Best Little Boys in the World: It's Time to Grow UpListen to Episode 146. The Velvet RageAdditional Resources:Navigating Love with Attachment Styles: Building Healthier Relationships for Gay MenBreaking the Cycle of Comparison and Competition Among Gay MenExploring Gay Dating Apps: Their Impact on LGBTQ+ Culture, Mental Health, and RelationshipsThe Best Little Boy in the World Archetype: How Perfectionism and Societal Rejection Shape Gay Men’s IdentitiesWhat Is Scarcity Mentality?Not Enough! The Scarcity Mindset in DatingHere's How A Scarcity Mindset Forms—And How To Overcome ItQueer Men and Smartphone Dating Applications: Navigating Partner Markets and Managing StigmaIs Scarcity Mindset Sabotaging Your Dating Life? How to Reclaim Hope and ChoiceSupport the showGet Your Merch

While drag is a pop culture staple, its roots trace back to the historic Ballroom scene of the 1800s, where Black and Latinx communities built chosen families and celebrated identity through competitive balls. That legacy lives on today through drag performers who embrace fandom and storytelling with humor, heart, and cultural influence.In this episode, Heavens 2 Betsy Stratton, Miss Gay Pennsylvania America 2025, joins us to discuss the intersection of drag, Black queer identity, and the enduring influence of pop culture—including The Golden Girls—on self-expression and community building.Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 109. Queens Slayin', Haters Prayin': A Drag-tacular Showcase (with Bev, Philly’s Queen of Comedy)Additional Resources:Yas Queen: The Art, Evolution, and Cultural Impact of DragLearn More About Heavens 2 Betsy StrattonFollow Heavens 2 Betsy on InstagramFollow Heavens 2 Betsy on FacebookFollow Heavens 2 Betsy on BlueskySupport the showGet Your Merch

In previous episodes, we explored how to stay focused on attracting the right kinds of guys into our lives and the power of manifestation. As we move into the new year, we have the opportunity to realign our intentions and open ourselves to the experiences, relationships, and growth we truly desire.In this episode, Ryan Lu joins us to unpack how manifestation can empower queer people step into their authentic selves and shape the lives they want.Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 18. Setting the Benchmark for Mr. RightAdditional Resources:Dating with Purpose: How to Define Your Relationship Standards and Attract the Right PartnerLearn More About RyanCheck Out Delulu with Ryan LuFollow Ryan on TikTokFollow Ryan on InstagramSupport the showGet Your Merch

In previous episodes, we’ve explored how different expressions of masculinity, from archetypes like Castro Clones and metrosexuality to gym culture, intersect across the gay world. Within subcultures such as bros, leather, and bears, masculinity is often elevated, creating a complex dynamic where gay men are both drawn to and shaped by these ideals.In this episode, we’re unpacking bro culture and exploring why gay men may be attracted to masculinity, whether that attraction stems from biology, societal influence, or internalized homophobia, and how we can stay authentic to ourselves in the process.Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 11. Overcoming Internalized HomophobiaListen to Episode 81. Are Mustaches Gay?Listen to Episode 82. Gay Gym CultureListen to Episode 89. Beyond the Brawn: Redefining Queer Masculinity (with Erick DuPree)Listen to Episode 92. Metrosexual MadnessListen to Episode 104. The Castro Clone WarsAdditional Resources:Bro (Etymology)The End of BroBro (Definition)How the Bro Became WhiteBro CultureJeah! We Mapped Out The 4 Basic Aspects Of Being A 'Bro'Meet the Gaybrosr/gaybrosConsistency in Preferences for Masculinity in Faces, Bodies, Voices, and Personality Characteristics Among Homosexual Men in ChinaSelf-Rated Attractiveness and Sociosexual Behavior Predict Gay Men’s Preferences for Masculine Cues in Male Voices in ChinaGay and Straight Men Prefer Masculine-Presenting Gay Men for a High-Status Role: Evidence From an Ecologically Valid ExperimentEmbrace the Leadership Challenge: The Role of Gay Men’s Internalized Sexual Stigma on the Evaluation of Others’ Leadership and One’s OwnThe Relationship Between Masculinity and Internalized Homophobia Amongst Australian Gay Men30 Ways to Deal with Internalized Homophobia for LGBTQ PeopleSupport the showGet Your Merch

Previously, we reviewed the Trump administration’s record on LGBTQ+ rights from 2017 to 2021. As the horrors persist under the new Trump administration, it’s vital to recognize how its actions continue to undermine civil rights, healthcare access, and protections for the LGBTQ+ community.In this episode, we’ll examine the ongoing attacks on LGBTQ+ rights carried out by the Trump administration in 2025.Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 112. Project 2025Listen to Episode 122. A Queer Review of the Trump Administration (2017 – 2021)Listen to Bonus 27. Queer as Philly Folk (with Sara Solomon)Additional Resources:Project 2025: A Dire Threat to LGBTQ+ Rights and DemocracyThe Impact of the Trump Administration on the LGBTQ+ Community: A Journey Through Setbacks and AdvocacyTrump Accountability Tracker on LGBTQ PeopleDid Trump's Executive Order Just Make Everyone in the U.S. Female?FBI to Categorize Trans People As "Nihilistic Violent Extremist" Threat Group, Report SaysPam Bondi Wants the Government to Create Cash Bounties for Turning in Trans Equality ActivistsKennedy Seeks to Cut US Children’s Access to Gender-Affirming CareSupport the showGet Your Merch

For gay men, pop culture and reality TV often provide campy, glamorous spaces that echo queer experiences of self-expression and resilience. The Real Housewives franchise, in particular, captivates with its mix of drama, individuality, and over-the-top spectacle.In this previously released Patreon bonus episode, Eric Praniewicz dives into the world of The Real Housewives to explore why the franchise resonates so strongly with gay men. Join Patreon for more exclusive monthly bonus episodes like this one.Support the showGet Your Merch

As we close out 2025, it’s hard to ignore this year’s political turmoil, with uncertainty about our future looming over us. With the holidays upon us, it’s natural to feel bittersweet as we look back and dream of brighter days ahead.In this episode, we’re revisiting this year's most powerful conversations on politics, identity, and resilience, reminding us that hope, unity, and love can overcome fear.Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 136. Closets & Cocktails: The Secret History of Gay Speakeasies (with Chris Holcombe)Listen to Episode 137. Who’s Your Daddy? (with Sal Zambito)Listen to Episode 139. You're Probably Gayish (with Mike Johnson & Kyle Getz)Listen to Episode 140. Calling All Allies: It’s Time to Step Up (with Greg Baird)Listen to Episode 141. Queer All Year: 365 Days of Celebrating Pride (with Patrick Gevas)Listen to Episode 143. Heal from Religious Trauma (with Ann Russo)Listen to Episode 144. Bullies Beware: Confronting LGBTQ+ Bullying (with Mike Keller)Listen to Episode 145. Resisting Erasure: Preserving LGBTQ+ History (with Michael Venturiello)Listen to Episode 150. Lights, Camera, Action: The Importance of Trans Voices in Media (with AJ Mattioli)Listen to Episode 153. Pride, Pleasure, and the Path to Healing (with Court Vox)Listen to Episode 154. Pride and Protest: Defending LGBTQ+ Rights in a Shifting America (with Mari Nemec)Listen to Episode 155. Queers in History: Pride, Resistance, and Fighting Erasure (with Keith Stern)Listen to Episode 156. Punchlines and Pride: Activism Through Queer Comedy (with Michael John Ciszewski)Listen to Episode 160. Why Queer Bookstores Matter: Preserving LGBTQ+ Culture and Community (with Greg Newton & Donnie Jochum)Listen to Episode 163. Queer Belonging in the Digital Age (with Nick Paul)Listen to Episode 165. Reclaiming Queer History: The Impact of LGBTQ+ Historical Fiction (with Jeza Belle)Support the showGet Your Merch

In previous episodes, we’ve discussed how stereotypical gay culture has idolized youth, beauty, and sex. This fixation has led some gay men to equate midlife with “aging out” of the community, often resulting in internalized shame and a complicated relationship with aging.In this episode, Hunter Flournoy, a licensed therapist, coach, breathworker, healer, and spiritual guide, joins us to talk about how gay men can confront ageism and create more fulfilling, authentic lives in midlife and beyond.Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 60. Is 30 Gay Death?Listen to Episode 151. Twink Death: RIP Skinny JeansAdditional Resources:Debunking 'Gay Death': How Gay Men Can Age with PrideLearn More About Hunter FlournoySupport the showGet Your Merch

LGBTQ+ history has long been overlooked, ignored, or actively erased, leaving us with only fragments of a past that deserves to be preserved and celebrated. That absence makes historical fiction a meaningful platform for reclaiming space and allowing queer characters to exist in time periods that have traditionally denied their presence or humanity.In this episode, Jeza Belle, a New York City-based drag queen and author of The Freedom to Love, joins us to discuss the power of storytelling through historical fiction and the importance of preserving LGBTQIA+ narratives in overlooked time periods.Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 145. Resisting Erasure: Preserving LGBTQ+ History (with Michael Venturiello)Listen to Episode 155. Queers in History: Pride, Resistance, and Fighting Erasure (with Keith Stern)Additional Resources:Learn More About Jeza BelleBuy The Freedom to LoveFollow Jeza Belle on InstagramFollow Jeza Belle on FacebookFollow Jeza Belle on TwitterSupport the showGet Your Merch

Previously, we discussed how some queer men find solace and empowerment in spiritual practices like astrology, which offers a means of self-discovery and affirmation. Rooted in introspection and symbolism, queer astrology can help individuals reclaim their narratives and connect more deeply with their authentic selves.In this episode, Danny Santos, an astrologer, tarot expert, and psychic medium, joins us to explore how spiritual tools like astrology can support queer individuals in navigating identity, healing, and connection during times of transformation.Related Episodes:Listen to 79. Queer Mysticism: Gay Men & SpiritualityAdditional Resources:Learn More About Danny SantosFollow Danny on InstagramFollow Danny on TikTokListen to Astro Daddy PodcastSupport the showGet Your Merch