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Dirty Lola joins us to chat all about how to navigate sex and relationships after a big life shift such as divorce, breakups/heartbreak, major health issues, and/or the passing of a loved one. Lola also helps us answer a sex question: Should I lose my virginity to an escort. Want to fast forward to the interview? Go to minute 32:00.About our guest: Dirty Lola is a sex edutainer, speaker, and self-proclaimed dildo slinger. Known for her live sex ed Q&A show Sex Ed A Go-Go and as co-host of New York Magazine’s The Cut’s “Sex Probz” web series, Lola has spent almost a decade working to end stigma and shame surrounding sex and sexuality. Having started her journey sharing personal discoveries with polyamory and kink online, Lola now uses her knowledge, warm candor and public platforms to teach the masses in-person and to rapt Internet audiences. She is also one of the ambassadors for hashtagopen.com. To learn more check out her website at sexedagogo.comOther Links:Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.comGet $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shamelessGet 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code Shameless at Manscaped.comGet 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.comGet your health on plus 15% off with come SHAMELESS at yoursuper.comBe the first to try our fav wine maker's fall releases by signing up for her newsletter at marginswine.com

In this episode we get real with the wonderful ladies of the Private Parts Unknown Podcast. We talk about their groundbreaking series "Men Have Abortions, Too", as well as sex work, sex education, Sugar Baby/Daddy websites, and other sex politics.  We also answer a few sex questions: How can I pre-plan for my first anal adventure with my partner? My husband only wants sex on his terms. What should I do? About our guests: Private Parts Unknown (the podcast formerly known as Reality Bytes) is a comedy-sex-travel podcast uncovering stories of love & sexuality around the world. Best friends Courtney & Sofiya bring you along as they traipse from country to country exploring sex, relationships, dating & different types of food poisoning. Their podcast is available on all of the podcast apps, as well as on http://privatepartsunknown.com       .    

What is Tantra, how does it enhance sex and relationships, and how can people apply it to their lives? Note: The interview starts at around minute 15 (for those of you who want to skip the intro). Intro also includes a sex question: My partner believes she is disconnected from her body and she can't get herself off from masturbation. What can she do? About our guests: Matt Sturm is a guide for transformational experiences and the co-founder of Embodied Erotic. His passion is to craft experiences and hold spaces that allow for the big love inside of each of us to emerge. Matt is trained in the Hakomi method of psychotherapy – a body-based therapy centered around mindfulness. He is also a Hatha yoga teacher, Certified Tantra Educator, and he practices in the Vajrayana lineage of Tibetan Buddhism. Caity Flanagan is is a somatic sex & intimacy coach, an embodiment educator, and Tantric practitioner dedicated to supporting other on the journey of radical embodiment, sensual awakening, and coming home to the Heart. She is passionate about creating a world free of sexual trauma and is dedicated to birthing a new paradigm of integrative and holistic sexuality. She is the co-founder of Embodied Erotic and is the founder of Serpent & Rose, communities dedicated to sharing the teachings of sacred sexuality as pathways to trauma healing and awakening. To learn more about their offerings including their Couple’s Course starting October 7th visit http://embodiederotic.comOther Links:Learn more about why we LOVE Hot Source Yoga at hotsourceyogastudio.comGet 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.comGet $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shamelessGet 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.comBe the first to get Margins Wine's new releases by signing up for their newsletter at marginswine.comGet 25% off of your monthly vitamins specifically tailored to you with come SHAMELESSSEX at takecareof.com

Within the world of sexual health tech, Dominnique is personally dedicated about changing the narrative surrounding parenting and sex. From helping parents rediscover themselves and their desires, to advocating for more direct empowering conversations with kids than “the birds and the bees,” Dominnique is on a mission to improve sex talk at all ages. More about Dominnique: Dominnique Karetsos is MysteryVibe's resident sex expert. Before joining MysteryVibe, Dominnique led groundbreaking teams in the sexuality space such as Lelo - Intimina, Get Luwi, Elara.Care, and is founder of  Healthy Pleasure Collective. Coupled with her ongoing work as a BBC radio host and once upon a time host of her own podcast Hotmilk - The Guilty Parent Podcast back in 2015, Dominnique has used her voice over the past decade to disrupt one of the world's most taboo industries.      

What is "sexual madness" and how is this affecting people's sex lives? Why is mindfulness the cure and how does this help people live with more passion, pleasure and deeper connection?We also answer a sex question: My husband has a sex doll. How can I incorporate the doll into our sex life?About Dr. Jenn: Jennifer Gunsaullus, PhD, was raised as a “good girl” in a small town in southeastern PA. Now, she lives in San Diego and is a sociologist, intimacy coach, and national speaker on couples intimacy, women’s empowerment, sexual consent and gender roles, healthy communication, and mindful sex. She has presented two TEDx Talks and is an intimacy expert on the San Diego morning news. Dr. Jenn has over 1.5 million hits on her In the Den with Dr. Jenn YouTube video series, and is an expert in the first documentary on masturbation, called Sticky: A (Self) Love Story. She is also the co-host of the podcast show through iHeartRadio, Sex Talk with Clint & the Doc. Dr. Jenn’s first book, From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women will be published in August 2019. Dr. Jenn has her black belt in Soo Bahk Do and recently came in third in a 2-on-2 women’s beach volleyball tournament in Mexico! She continues to redefine what it means to be a strong and sexual woman in today’s society (hint, it’s not being a “good girl” anymore) and empowers all individuals to find true intimacy and connection through mindfulness and compassion.To learn more visit drjennsden.com/Other Links:Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.comGet $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shamelessGet 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code Shameless at Manscaped.comGet 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.comAdd more romance to your life with Audible Escape - free to try for your first month at Audible.com/SHAMELESSBe the first to try our fav wine maker's fall releases by signing up for her newsletter at marginswine.com

Trusted Hot Sex Advisor Susan Bratton joins us once again to talk all about libido, desire, turn on, arousal, lust, how to feel more switch on with sexual energy and how to channel your sexual energy for more pleasure and passion. Oh and lots on sex toys!We also answer a sex question: How do cock rings affect orgasm/ejaculation? About Susan: Susan Bratton is a champion and advocate for all who desire passionate relationships. Considered the “Dear Abby of Sex,” Susan’s fresh approach and original ideas have helped millions of people of all ages and across the gender spectrum transform sex into passion. Married to her husband Tim since 1993, Susan is an author, award-winning speaker, and serial entrepreneur who teaches passionate lovemaking techniques to her fans around the world. Susan has been featured in The New York Times and on CNBC and the TODAY show as well as appearing on ABC, CBS, The CW, Fox, and on NBC as the “Marriage Magician.”Susan is Chair Emeritus of the ad:tech conference; she was both CMO and a member of the Board of Directors for an Anthony Robbins tech start-up as well as serving on numerous boards throughout her career. In 2009, Susan was honored as a “Silicon Valley Woman of Influence” by The Business Journal and as a “Top 10 Internet Pioneer” by AdAge Magazine. In 2010, was bestowed the Lifetime Industry Achievement award by dmg World Media.Susan’s straight-talking, fearless approach is rooted in her personal experience of watching her sex life wither while she and her husband pursued dynamic careers. When their relationship hit a crisis point, the couple made a fierce commitment to do whatever it took to keep their family together and revive the passion in their marriage. Today, she and her husband have the kind of dream relationship most people long-since stopped believing is even possible—until they discover Susan’s teachings. Susan is CEO and co-founder (with her husband) of Personal Life Media. Through her company, Susan has authored 20 books including Relationship Magic, The Passion Patch and 30 Romance Tricks That Work Like Magic, as well as her International #1 Amazon best-seller, Sexual Soulmates: The 6 Essentials for Connected Sex.  She has also created and published numerous online courses including her wildly popular Revive Her Drive and Steamy Sex Ed® DVD Collection, as well as programs such as: Seduction Trilogy, Expand Her Orgasm Tonight, The Multi-Orgasmic Lover for Men, Female Liquid Orgasm, and Keep Her Coming.Millions of couples and singles have been touched by her TV appearances and Better Lover YouTube channel. Through her Insider’s Club newsletter at Personal Life Media.com, Susan gives away, free of charge, countless MP3 audios, videos, articles, and ebooks. Susan believes that shame-free, frequent sexual pleasure is every man and woman’s birthright: “After 25 years of marriage, I know from experience that deep, passionate intimacy with my partner is priceless: a priority that tops my list of must-haves alongside good health and the love of family and friends. I have made it my mission to aid anyone who wants the kind of lovemaking that improves with age.” She and her husband split their time between their home on Mt. Tamalpais in Mill Valley, California and their cozy beach shack in Encinitas, with occasional trips to far-off lands to visit their globe-trotting daughter. To learn more visit her Better Lover YouTube channel or susanbratton.comOther Links:Learn more about why we LOVE Hot Source Yoga at hotsourceyogastudio.comGet 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.comGet $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shamelessGet 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.comBe the first to get Margins Wine's new releases by signing up for their newsletter at marginswine.com

Amy Jo Goddard, author of Woman on Fire: Nine Elements to Wake up Your Erotic Energy, Personal Power and Sexual Intelligence shares her nine elements for sexual empowerment. Hailing from Military Dad and Recovering-Catholic-Mom, Amy Jo Goddard is author of Woman on Fire: Nine Elements to Wake up Your Erotic Energy, Personal Power and Sexual Intelligence and co-author of the best-selling classic Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men. Amy Jo earned her Master’s degree in Human Sexuality Education at New York University and studied film at New School University. She has been teaching and speaking about feminism and sexuality for over two decades. She delivered her TEDx talk “Owning Your Sexual Power” in Napa Valley, was named one of GO! Magazine’s “100 Women We Love” and one of Kinkly’s “100 Sex Blogging Superhereos.”  Her forthcoming film At Your Cervix, examines patient consent and bodily autonomy in gynecology and medical education, aiming to end unethical practices that harm both patients and medical students. Her Fire Woman Retreat is an annual sexual empowerment event with powerhouse teachers for women and non-binary folks and she teaches several on-going sexual empowerment programs for adults. To learn more visit firewomanretreat.com/shamelesssexOther Links:Signup for Dana's free webinar How to Get Your Desire Back, After Kids at www.danabmyers.com/shamelessGet 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.comGet $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shamelessGet 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code Shameless at Manscaped.comGet 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.comBe the first to get Margins Wine's new releases by signing up for their newsletter at marginswine.com

Nurse Practitioner Remy Paille joins us for a very important episode on STI's (sexually transmitted infections, formerly known as sexual transmitted diseases). She also helps us answer a few sex questions including:How do I talk to partners about my STD status? And what do I do if prospective partners have a STD?I have a hard time trusting partners when they tell me their STI status. Should I ask every one of them to get tested?I gained a lot of weight on the IUD. What can I do about this? And are there any nonhormonal birth controls that work well aside from the IUD?My orgasms changed with I switched birth controls. Is this common?And what can I do about this?Also addendum from Remy in regards to one of her answers to a sex question: "Testosterone revs our sexy engine up. It can be boosted by getting enough sleep, supplementing with vitamin D if our levels are below 50 ng/dL, supplementing with Zinc (oysters, my favorite;-), B complex vitamins as well the Indian herb, ashwaganda. Too much testosterone can give us facial hair, a deep voice, and other masculine characteristics as well as lead to something called polycystic ovarian disease or PCOS so we want the right balance. Estrogen helps us feel juicy, voluptuous and divinely feminine. An excess of estrogen can occur when we get toxic amounts of estrogen products into our bodies from the environment (plastics—> BPA, phthalates, parabens) When our liver is not functioning effectively , it’s not able to process excess estrogen so it often recirculates causing headaches, tender breasts and crabby moods as well a increasing our risk of breast cancer. One way to rid your body of excess estrogen is to poop it out- every day at least one big healthy one, however you get there. Fiber and magnesium can help.  Progesterone helps us feel calm, safe and relaxed , which definitely helps when you want to get it on. Synthetic progesterone found in contraceptives is a different chemical that can trigger anxiety and depressed mood in some women (not all) the opposite kind of mood you want when you want to really let go into orgasmic bliss.  What’s a girl to do? While we don’t have a ton of options in terms of our contraception, we do have options about what other things we put into and onto our bodies. These can make a difference". Other Links:Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.comGet $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shamelessGet 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com

Tawny is a bisexual NYC-based writer, public speaker, and event producer. She's passionate about breaking stigmas associated with both sobriety and sexuality. Her words have been published in Playboy, Huffington Post, and her blog SobrieTeaParty.com. When she’s not working on all of the things, she’s doing yoga or eating tacos - sometimes simultaneously. Check out her podcast Recovery Rocks or her website tawnylara.com to learn more.

Tune in to hear Amy shamelessly flirting with Aaron Alexander of the Align Podcast - all while talking about how men can embrace their vulnerability, orgasms, anal massage and stimulation, prostates, and more!Aaron Alexander CR, LMT, CPT is an accomplished manual therapist and movement coach with over 13 years of professional experience. He is the founder of the Align Method™, an integrated approach to functional movement and self-care that has helped thousands of people out of pain and into health. He hosts the top-rated Align Podcast featuring the biggest names in movement and wellness. Aaron’s clients include Hollywood celebrities, Olympic/professional athletes and everyone in between. He teaches workshops and speaks at events all over the world. Check out Aaron's offerings at https://alignpodcast.comOther Links:Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.comGet $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shamelessGet 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code Shameless at Manscaped.comGet 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Add more romance to your life with Audible Escape - free to try for your first month at Audible.com/SHAMELESS