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Why is it so difficult to stop using porn? What brain chemicals are involved, and how do they work together? Listen to recovery coach Greg Oliver answer these questions with sharp insights from neuroscience and Scripture.Dopamine & Norepinephrine = anticipation and arousalOxytocin & Vasopressin = bonding and mate selectionSerotonin & Prolactin = soothing relaxation and sleepIf you would like a summary of all the research we shared today, email Greg Oliver at greg@awakenrecovery.com.Greg is a certified Sexual Recovery Pastoral Counselor and the Director/Co-founder (with his wife Stacey) of Awaken, a ministry that helps individuals, couples, and ministry leaders find hope and resources for sexual brokenness. Awaken offers in-person & virtual recovery meetings, 1-on-1 and couples coaching, and recovery intensives & workshops. Learn more at awakenrecovery.com.Other resources mentioned in this episode:Slave Master: How Pornography Changes Your Brain (by Donald Hilton)Supernormal Stimuli (summarizing research by Nikolaas Tinbergen)Everything You Know About Addiction Is Wrong (by Johann Hari)The doors to HMA are OPEN!Enroll now at joinhma.comThe doors close on January 18.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

One of my all-time favorite storytellers is Nate Larkin. In this episode, Nate tells his whole story. You'll hear how he failed as a Pharisee, how he came out of hiding, what he is struggling with right now, and how to do the 4-point check-in he uses with his friends on a daily basis.Nate Larkin is the founder of the Samson Society, a fellowship of Christian men who are serious about authenticity, community, humility, and recovery. Buy Nate's book here (this is a paid link): Samson and the Pirate Monks: Calling Men To Authentic BrotherhoodThe doors to HMA are OPEN!Enroll now at joinhma.comThe doors close on January 18.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Dive into the surprising theological insights about testicles and their unique reflection of God's image. This discussion redefines masculinity, emphasizing vulnerability and creativity. Personal stories and biblical references enrich the dialogue, highlighting the significance of testicles in the human experience. It's an enlightening exploration that challenges traditional views and encourages a deeper understanding of identity and healing.

Have you ever met someone who over-spiritualizes everything? In this episode, Dr. Craig Cashwell introduces the concept of spiritual bypass: how spiritual ideas or practices can become a crutch to cope with pain or trauma (just like pornography). Along the way, Craig  unpacks different examples of spiritual bypass, such as toxic positivity, compulsive goodness, and forced forgiveness. We also talk about how emotional/spiritual health is totally different and so much better!Dr. Craig Cashwell is Professor of Counselor Education and Clinical Mental Health Counseling at William & Mary, and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist Supervisor. You can email him at cscashwell@wm.edu.Books featuring Dr. Craig Cashwell (these are paid links):Shadows Of The Cross: A Christian Companion to Facing The ShadowIntegrating Spirituality and Religion Into Counseling.The doors to HMA are OPEN!Enroll now at joinhma.comThe doors close on January 18.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

This is the story of a couple who nearly divorced 4 years into marriage due to chronic sexual betrayal. They got a lot of bad advice and made a lot of mistakes, but with God as their foundation, Clinton and Charity Muñoz are now closer than ever before. They went from infidelity to intimacy—from crisis to closeness—and now they help others do the same at Restored 2 More.Learn more about Restored 2 More here:Restored2More.comRestored2More PodcastRestored2More InstagramThe doors to HMA are OPEN!Enroll now at joinhma.comThe doors close on January 18.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

The voice in your head that constantly criticizes you, saying you're weak, ugly, stupid, or not good enough is the voice of a bully. Bullying can come from anywhere: parents, peers, or even pornography. In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter explains why bullying creates the "inner critic" inside each of us, how bullying can be sexualized, what to do if you are currently being bullied, and how to heal from the effects of past bullying.Dr. Doug Carpenter is the founder of Insight Counseling Services in Michigan. This week, Doug is giving away a few copies of his book (this is a paid link): Childhood Trauma and the Non-Alpha Male inside the Husband Material Community here.Resources mentioned in this episode:Inside Out (Disney/Pixar Film)Internal Family SystemsSelf-Compassion.orgThe doors to HMA are OPEN!Enroll now at joinhma.comThe doors close on January 18.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

What is the autonomic nervous system and why should I care? Because freedom from porn depends on it. Being able to notice, name, and navigate your nervous system allows you to regulate, replacing the pacifier of porn.You can find a visual summary of this episode here.Resources mentioned (these are paid links):The Body Keeps The Score, by Dr. Bessel van der KolkPolyvagal Theory in Therapy, by Deb DanaPolyvagal Exercises for Safety & Connection, by Deb DanaThe Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory, by Dr. Stephen PorgesThe doors to HMA are OPEN!Enroll now at joinhma.comThe doors close on January 18.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Dan Hitz, Executive Director of Reconciliation Ministries, discusses healing mother wounds, their impact on sexuality, and finding safety with women. Topics include enmeshment, childhood experiences, admitting the existence of a mother wound, and the journey towards sexual wholeness.

Jeremy Williamson, Pastoral Counselor at Restoration Counseling in Northern Colorado, joins the podcast to discuss the purpose of the penis and how it reflects the image of God. They explore the shame and insecurities surrounding penises, the impact of pornography on relationships, and the journey of reclaiming masculinity. The podcast also dives into the integration of identity, body, and soul, the significance of masculinity, and the concept of a penis blessing. They conclude by discussing redemptive reversal and freedom from porn.

Why are certain times of the day, week, or year more difficult? Because emotions fluctuate. In this episode, I'll help you prepare for emotionally difficult times and seasons so you can give yourself plenty of grace and space to process your emotions rather than turning to the pacifier of porn.The doors to HMA are OPEN!Enroll now at joinhma.comThe doors close on January 18.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!