

Husband Material
Drew Boa
So you want to outgrow porn. But how? How do you change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship? Welcome to Husband Material with Drew Boa, where we answer all these questions and more! Each episode makes it easier for you to achieve lasting freedom from porn—without fighting an exhausting battle. Porn is a pacifier. This podcast will help you outgrow it and become a sexually mature man of God.
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Dec 12, 2022 • 46min
How To Be A Great Lover (with Dr. Keith Gregoire)
What does it take to unlock a woman's sexual pleasure? Dr. Keith Gregoire explains how sex actually works, why we need to redefine sex, and how men can become better lovers.Keith Gregoire is a pediatrician who is passionate about building great marriages and equipping couples to parent well. He is co-author (along with his wife, Sheila Wray Gregoire) of "The Good Guys Guide to Great Sex." Together, they have been speaking to couples around the world for over fifteen years, providing healthy, evidence-based, biblical advice for your marriage and sex life.Excellent books by the Gregoires (these are paid links):The Good Guy's Guide To Great SexThe Good Girl's Guide To Great SexThe Great Sex RescueLearn more at baremarriage.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Dec 5, 2022 • 1h
Authentic Manhood (with Dr. Joe Martin)
What is a real man? Dr. Joe Martin exposes the lies we believe about our value as men, in contrast to the example of authentic manhood set by Jesus Christ.Wrong perceptions of manhood (what society says):OccupationCompensationEducationReputationIntimidation Authentic manhood is determined by:Leading spirituallyRejecting passivityLoving and serving sacrificiallyDr. Joe Martin is an award-winning speaker, author, educator, and certified builder of men. He’s the author of nine books and the host of Real Men Connect, the top-rated podcast for Christian men. Learn more at realmenconnect.comDr. Joe will be speaking at The Porn Free Man Online Conference on January 6-7, 2023. Register now at thepornfreeman.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Nov 28, 2022 • 17min
What If I'm Sexually Attracted To Myself?
The podcast delves into self-attraction, exploring different types and personal stories. It discusses the link between self-perception and attraction, childhood insecurities, and the journey towards self-acceptance and healing.

Nov 21, 2022 • 1h 40min
Male Survivors Of Sexual Abuse (with Mike Chapman and Dr. Doug Carpenter)
Male survivors of sexual abuse share their stories, exploring topics like the impact of abuse on men, challenges in disclosure, healing journeys, forgiveness, shame, trust issues, and resilience. The podcast also discusses power dynamics in abuse, importance of community support, and navigating male friendships.

Nov 14, 2022 • 49min
Find The Boy Within The Man (with Chris Bruno)
Is there really a boy inside every man? What does "healing the boy" practically look like? Chris Bruno delightfully demonstrates how to find your younger self and bring him home. This interview is amazing! You'll come away with greater awareness, curiosity, kindness, and healing.Chris Bruno is the Co-Founder and CEO of Restoration Project, and Founder of ReStory Counseling, devoting his life to helping people come alive. He is a licensed professional counselor who has decades of experience helping men recover their hearts.Buy Chris' new book (this is a paid link):Sage: A Man's Guide Into His Second PassageOther books by Chris Bruno:Man Maker Project: A Father's Guide to Initiating His Son into ManhoodBrotherhood Primer: A Journey Into Genuine Masculine Friendships Free Downloads For Intentional Fatherhood And BrotherhoodHealing Father Wounds (HM interview, March 2021)Take the free assessment:Midlife Tremors of a Man's JourneySupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Nov 7, 2022 • 12min
How To Break Up With Porn
Outgrowing porn is not easy. The process is often messy and prolonged. That's why some men have found value in writing a formal break-up letter to pornography. This episode will give you a simple structure to write your own break-up letter. You can also use this structure to break up with an abusive partner or any other unwanted sexual behavior, fantasy, or attachment.Download the free PDF worksheet: How To Break Up With PornSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Oct 31, 2022 • 35min
Emotional Safety (with Alex Avila)
"Our most vital relational need is to be emotionally safe...we cannot truly connect with anyone if we don't feel safe in their presence." —Alex Avila But what is emotional safety, exactly? How can you tell if a person or relationship is safe or unsafe? Christian therapist Alex Avila explains what it looks like to protect our hearts while giving and receiving "safer love." SAFER LOVE: S = Slow and soft A = Appreciation F = Feelings E = Empathy R = Responsibility L = Listening O = Openness V = Validation E = Empowerment Alex A. Avila is a licensed professional counselor and certified sex addiction therapist who meets with men, women and couples to help them overcome trauma, connect emotionally in their relationships, and rewrite their sexual scripts. Alex also facilitates couple’s workshops and couple therapy intensives, men’s sexual recovery groups, and online relationship classes.Learn more about Alex at alexaavila.com Join our Live Q&A with Alex on November 8, 2022 inside the Husband Material Community Buy one of Alex's books (these are paid links): Emotional Safety: Honoring Yourself While Creating Trust and Presence to Experience Meaningful Relationships40 Forms of Intimacy: Integrating Daily Connection Into Your Couple RelationshipSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Oct 24, 2022 • 48min
How Can Fathers And Sons Outgrow Porn Together? (with John Fort and Lucas Fort)
"Your failure in sexuality is what qualifies you to talk to your son about sex in the first place." In this fascinating episode, a father and son tell their story of learning to talk about emotions and sex together. John and Lucas Fort explain what does(n't) work, what's (not) appropriate, and why imperfection is necessary for connection.Buy John and Lucas's book (this is a paid link):Father-Son Accountability: Integrity Through RelationshipJohn Fort serves as Director of Training for Be Broken Ministries, where he helps men, women, and families move from sexual brokenness to wholeness in Christ. John is a co-founder of the Sexual Integrity Leadership Summit. John has authored or co-authored ten books, including Father-Son Accountability: Integrity Through Relationship.Lucas Fort grew up talking to his parents (especially his father) about personal topics like feelings and sexuality. He uses what he’s learned to help parents and their children better understand each other while navigating the topics of sex and pornography.John and Lucas live close to Portland, Oregon.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Oct 17, 2022 • 21min
Is Covenant Eyes "Shameware"?
Anti-porn accountability software has come under scrutiny after an article in WIRED Magazine described Covenant Eyes as "shameware" and "just another way the church controls you.” In this episode, you'll hear what's going on, what I think about accountability software, and how to decide if it's right for you.Article in WIRED Magazine: The Ungodly Surveillance of Anti-Porn ‘Shameware’ AppsMy top recommendation for accountability software: Covenant EyesFor those of you who use accountability software:“If your CovenantEyes or Accountable2You apps are acting funny as of late, there is a very likely reason! Covenant Eyes and Accountable2You were removed from the Google Play Store, and there's a chance your services may have been disrupted. If that's the case, check your email for instructions they have sent to get your software active again and working (there is a workaround which may include reinstalling or activating from their websites). So far this has affected Android users. It's still unclear what repercussions this may have for iPhone/iOS users. So please be watchful. Stand strong, courageous men, and don't allow any software glitches to affect you on your journey to outgrow porn!” —Kolton Thomas, founder of Reclaimed RecoverySupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Oct 10, 2022 • 33min
From Pain To Purpose (with Rick Carlson)
Rick Carlson spent years running from pain, hiding from others, and hating God... until everything changed. In this episode, Rick shares his story of prenatal trauma, physical differences, self-hatred, substance abuse, porn use, and his healing journey over the past 12 years. "Your greatest pain can become your greatest purpose." —Rick CarlsonRick Carlson is the founder of Comeback Coaching. As a Certified Husband Material Coach, Life Coach, and Pastor, Rick is passionate about walking with men who feel left behind or believe they are less valued. Rick specializes in coaching men who are overcoming various addictions. Rick's faith-based approach offers compassion for men to discover the deeper reasons for their struggles and outgrow unwanted sexual behaviors. His goals are to help men know that they matter and provide an opportunity for healing. Rick loves to see men make a comeback! "Rick has helped me reframe and understand my porn use and compulsive sexual behavior not as the main problem, but as a pacifier, helping me get to the root issue that is underneath. He is real, relatable, and wise, and is willing to challenge you in the best possible way." —DanielSchedule a free coaching session with Rick Carlson hereContact Rick at rickcarlson2020@gmail.comLearn more at comebackcoaching.orgSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!