Sex Birth Trauma with Kimberly Ann Johnson

What Bari Shares: Her journey into perimenopause Learning to lose her shame around money Living through the ebbs and flows of income The phases she guides you through in her year-long money school What You'll Hear: Responding to the body's needs through intuitive eating and nourishing movement Respecting the natural ebbs and flows of energy Allowing yourself to expand your financial goals and comfort Moving beyond your current money ceilings Riding the wave of change in life Allowing for financial lulls in order to attend to other important needs Applying the principle of ebbs and flows to money Balancing parenting with earning, and understanding your worth Allowing parenting young children to be the transition it is Working through money koans Feelings of fight, flight, and freeze during financial stress Defining your version of financial sustainability Including future financial needs in your vision The importance of money healing and understanding your patterns Learning to be exceptionally loving during your process of money healing Respecting and cherishing your own pacing

What He Shares: Some of the golden rules of healthy relating The important ingredients to a flourishing relationship How to reduce drama in your relationship, regardless of structure His shift from 'doing' to 'being' What You'll Hear: Moving into authenticity and vulnerability to allow a genuine unfolding within a relationship Discerning when to be vulnerable and when to respect your communication boundaries Finding the living sweet spot of authenticity, vulnerability, and being transparent within each relationship Having ruthless self-awareness toward yourself and your conditioning Following the truth of your heart in your relationship structure Discovering alignment, or not, with your partner Ways to proceed with changes in your relationship dynamic Celebrating your partner in their fullness Healing your attachment styles, wounding, and imprints to have less drama in a relationship Expanding beyond the paradigm of dichotomy Showing up from a deeper conscious commitment to self, to source, and to each other Finding full comfort in who you are and what you want Living the fully embodied wholeness that you're here to live Loosening your scripts while maintaining togetherness Finding a way to embody and transmit an experience of safety for you partner Being based in love and integrity, not in impulses of conditioning Recognizing the energetic shift post MeToo, and embracing the role of initiator as a woman Meeting your partner at their emotional and communication belt levels

Brigit is a licensed massage therapist, craniosacral practitioner, a trauma resolution therapist, and believes deeply in the magic of life and the wild wisdom of the body. She especially loves to work with people on boundary repair and stabilization. What She Shares: Sensing your own boundaries for invasions and working towards repair Working with imprints from our own conception and birth to find systemic healing Embracing your family dynamic to foster personal expansion Offering safe attachment with others through secure attachment with one's self What You'll Hear: Discovering what in your system is an imprint from trauma or overwhelming experiences Your individual blueprint and its potential for growth Healing imprints so that you can flourish Physical imprints from our own births and how they continue to manifest How relational ruptures with your parent can imprint into your core Honoring lost infants to help create closure and healing for other children Re-wilding ourselves to build resilience to traumatic experiences Embracing the spirit and magic of life for a better sense of embodiment Building capacity in order to witness and sequence through relationship ruptures Using intellectual knowledge to find comfort in your body's flow Recognizing the return of the divine feminine and reclaiming your power of creating Finding a practitioner that can show up for your animal body Living life at a pace that is digestible in the moment and creating conditions for presence When an injury is multifaceted, including sexual abuse by a faith leader, it is important for the repair to also be multifaceted Staying open to see what's already healthy, working, and stable

What She Shares: Her varied birth and postpartum experiences Learning about nourishing food from her family Becoming a single mom of three and reweaving herself What You'll Hear: The importance of practicing receiving and recognizing when we're depleted Ways to slow down and reflect on your feelings so they don't accumulate and overwhelm Approaching life from a point of maintaining vitality and attending to yourself Embracing the simplicity of care Respecting the true pace of the body and nervous system to truly be resourced How different postpartum experiences affect your health Caring for yourself during your menstrual cycle can help fortify your health Finding her medicine and following it Reconfiguring the meaning of 'family' Embracing passions outside of our jobs to bring fulfillment Recognizing that we cannot attend to every need or desire Allowing space and flow in postpartum, and knowing that re-opening takes time and patience All our stories are unique, but many of the feelings are similar

What He Shares: How he came into the path of intentional, sexual healing What a session in NeuroAffective Touch looks like Discovering your own preferences and those of your partner through Full Body Active Consent Working with his own mother to repair rupture in her nervous system How pleasure factors into his work What You'll Hear: How the lack of sovereignty in our body as an adolescent shows up in our adult embodiment The opportunity to repair ruptures with male authority figure through working with male practitioners Integrating unsequenced emotions somatically Bodies often become guarded when an outside agenda is opposed on them, and ways to put the body back in charge Listening to the body to inform a loving, effective way forward The importance of pausing and finding the information there Resolving trauma so that we can reclaim the body's sovereignty Respecting the body's intelligence Addressing listlessness by integrating our emotional landscape Freeing unsequenced emotion through bodywork Changing patterns in real-time through emotional repair The power of what can shift in your life when things shift somatically in your body Downloading a new software in your body Changing our embodiment, creativity, and confidence through sexual energy De-armoring the body to release stored emotion and to access greater life force Following the body's lead to safely use catharsis alongside titration work. Finding a practitioner that can aid you in translating the body's needs

Dan Doty is the founder of Evryman, a father, and a husband. He's constantly delving into new depths with himself, his wife, and the men in his life. Dan has found incredible liberation through his work helping men connect with each other. What he shares: The core mission of Evryman His ongoing process of opening and exploration, and the feelings that arise Changes he sees every day in men who develop awareness of others and the self The power of the simplicity of what he offers His journey learning to support a partner with a history of sexual trauma What you'll hear: How to effectively invite your partner on your journey of personal growth Addressing the fear that embracing something deeper or more connective will 'feminize' men The deep importance of recognizing both the external and internal perspective of being human How learning to be aware can lead to increased satisfaction and fulfillment, and bring connection into life The importance of slowing down The powerful experience of being a part of a men's group and feeling safe Relational communication skills take practice, and it's ok to be clumsy when you start The need for reparative work to have healthy, forward thinking interactions Learning to trust others and yourself through connection Supporting a partner with a history of sexual trauma Working towards cultural healing by stepping out of the paradigm of duality The ebbs and flows of sexuality The healing that happened for Dan's partner after Kimberly's Jaguar course Steps to build your own support system Acknowledging the deep work it takes to have a healthy relationship The journey into fatherhood requires support and care The need for physical contact and support, especially when raising children

What Holly Shares: Untangling hormonal birth control from feminism Why she was on the pill as a teen even before she was sexually active The positive effects the pill had for her The mental health affects the pill had on her Her journey discovering who she was without hormonal birth control What You'll Hear: The cultural marriage between feminism and the pill The pushback she received against her writing criticizing synthetic hormones How feminism has changed in the last 10 years Various forms of feminism and what they mean for women How the pill has become our cultural right of passage How hormonal birth control helped manage her painful periods Letting go of fear and embracing your teen's sexuality Teen pregnancy vs. side effects of hormonal birth control The paranoia, depression, and obsessive compulsive behavior she developed while on the pill Rediscovering her emotional landscape post synthetic hormones The dearth of critical examination of the pill's side effects Side effects of the pill including reduced senses, lactation, and suicidal thoughts Why so many women are suffering from anhedonia and are unable to experience inherent pleasure in life Questioning how synthetic hormones affect our birthing, our parenting, and attachment Reclaiming the power of your own emotions, sense of self, and libido How synthetic hormones affect your attraction to other people Getting support for your own journey leaving hormonal birth control Learning about fertility awareness within the context of feminism Imagining a future of feminist fertility awareness plus somatic consent practice Embracing men and boys in the feminist fertility movement How coming off of the pill can be part of a social movement

What She Shares: Why she believe the psoas should be considered an organ of perception How the psoas is connected to our emotional states and our nervous system How to find resiliency and tone the nervous system through movement and play What You'll Hear: Why the psoas, more than any other structure, is expressive and doesn't fit in a biomechanical box How the psoas relates to our sense of safety and full thriving How a full body orgasm relates to the psoas Why feeling safe is essential to reaching orgasmic potential Why cathartic work is not as useful as integration and nourishment Why it's important to create space for the psoas rather than trying to stretch it The psoas should not be classified as a muscle, but rather an organ of perception How the psoas is like the body's emotional GPS system What "Core Integrity" means to Liz and its importance Why turning towards yourself supports your agency What are our O-rings and why being acquainted with ALL your sphincters is important for holistic health How aging and drying are different A baby follows the mother's psoas during birth; how chemical intervention during birth can disorient the baby Valuing birth and women can positively affect health in later life How our cultures affects our Core Integrity The biological way of being human and trusting our animal selves Having a disrupted gut may affect gut feelings and intuition Rhythm in your life will help to balance the nervous system

What She Shares: The history of eating placenta Why single CDC case-studies on eating placenta aren't as trustworthy as are own experiences How her own postpartum period was affected by returning to work after two weeks, being alone with her baby after Day 9, and living with undiagnosed Hashimoto's How integrated postpartum care would be a dream for new moms How her agency, Baby Caravan, matches women to birth doulas, postpartum doulas, and back-to-work coaching services What You'll Hear: Placenta encapsulation: Chinese medicine history and modern-day uses The connection between homeopathy, cannibalism and eating placenta The recent CDC case-study and its implications on eating placenta Jennifer's experience with postpartum and how her plan shifted when her son was born late: she returned to work after two weeks, and how that affected her How do freelancers arrange postpartum so that we have what we need? The hard reality check of being on her own from Day 9 of postpartum Her diagnosis of Hashimoto's, and how she remained undiagnosed for 18 months Postpartum blood work from a functional medicine doctor is so important! What Jennifer is seeing in the birth world right now, and what we can do better in terms of supporting each other and women of color Woodhull Hospital in NYC as an example of integrated birth care with a 13% C-Section rate (the current rate in NYC is 30-50%) The complete absence of postpartum care, and the average woman going back to work in 12-21 days: this predisposes us for infection and disease Jennifer's postpartum agency, Baby Caravan, and how they help women who are preparing in advance---and in crisis Jennifer's postpartum plan for her current pregnancy: an aggressive savings plan, taking one month off before her due date/three months off after, having her in-laws come to rent an apartment down the street for a month so they can do laundry/cook for her (which she requested!), nutritional support like the API diet, bloodwork, and living in a "plush nest"---and the curveballs she and her husband have already faced in planning What to look for in a birth doula and/or a postpartum doula Jennifer's agency, Baby Caravan, which provides holistic support for families in and around NYC, from pregnancy through returning to work postpartum http://www.babycaravan.com/

EP48: Kimberly Seals Allers on How Medicine, Big Business and Feminism Undermine Breastfeeding What She Shares: How her book, The Big Letdown, explores the connections between medicine, big business and feminism and their effects on breastfeeding women today. How the environment we are currently in sets us up for failure. The importance of using our power as consumers to start dialogues with our care providers about breastfeeding and lactation. Taking morality and guilt out of the current debate on breastfeeding and birth. The ways feminism has let mothers down. The importance of re-centering mothers in the fight for reproductive justice and freedom. What You'll Hear: How the field of pediatric medicine arose in conjunction with the development of infant formula. How this original alliance has shaped the pediatric field and its relationship to breastfeeding. Breastfeeding and lactating management are not taught in medical school. The lack of holistic care for women after birth: "Women are broken down into the sum of their parts." How we only deal with the body when it's diseased, while there's very little support for its normal biological functions. These natural functions are embodied and unable to be monetized. What's the economic incentive to support them? Our increasingly isolated lives contribute to this loss and to the stress that negatively impacts a woman's milk supply. There are some cultures where this disruption never happens. We have to examine the systems we're living in and how they set us up for failure. The importance of creating a dialogue with pediatricians and holding them accountable for having training that comes from an unbiased source. What is "Choice Feminism"? Parsing out the moral language in the current debate over what is natural in birth and breastfeeding. "The guilt is not about you. It's the system that let you down." How this "blame and shame" conversation divides and distracts people from the larger issues. Cultural acceptance, public support, and encouragement from pediatricians can help women overcome obstacles to breastfeeding. The high cost of our feminist inheritance of "doing it all" and being "equal" to men. We have to see the work of mothering as just as or even more important than our productive work. Play the long game: investing in your health at this time can benefit you for the rest of your life. We can't evaluate our individual actions without also considering the systems in place around us. The importance of including motherhood in the conversation around reproductive rights. Kimberly Seals Aller's upcoming webinar offerings. Free: Upcoming webinar on Ethics and Supporting African-American Communities with Breastfeeding http://www.kimberlysealsallers.com/getting-it-right-ethics-engaging-african-american-communities-for-breastfeeding-support-live-webinar-on-october-23rd/