Dating Intentionally

Hello from NYC! In this episode, I cover one of the trickiest parts of dating: identifying a good match. You'll get practical tips on what to look for in a partner, why finding a good match can be so challenging, and how to assess compatibility after the first few dates. You'll learn what defines a good match, three major obstacles to finding the right person and how to have an open mind when it comes to dating and meeting new people. I also get into key signs of compatibility. At the end I answer a listener’s question about casual dating after a breakup and setting boundaries around intimacy while navigating a new dating landscape.Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyGet my free dating FAQ guide: https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-guidesRead more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.IntentionallyRate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you're in a relationship with someone who is avoidantly attached, or if you have this attachment style, this episode is for you. I got to talk to Adam Lane Smith, an attachment specialist, about the difference between manipulative and ethical avoidant attachment, signs someone is avoidant, and how to navigate a relationship with someone who is avoidant. You’ll hear about how Adam helps clients heal their avoidant attachment and so much more. At the end, Adam shares how to bring up the topic of attachment styles with a partner who is avoidantly attached. Let me know your thoughts in the comments! Follow Adam on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/ Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyGet my free dating FAQ guide: https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-guidesRead more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.IntentionallyRate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP About Adam: With an unwavering belief in the transformative power of secure attachment to help right many social ills facing the modern world, Adam has amassed a dedicated following of over 550,000 on social media. Together, they're rewriting the belief about how human connection is supposed to function. Adam teaches honesty, direct communication, clear boundaries, measurable levels of trust, and other means of building secure and healthy relationships.Drawing from his wealth of clinical experience and personal insight, Adam offers a unique perspective on the essential role of attachment in our lives. His engaging podcast episodes on the I Wish You Knew podcast and his online presentations during livestreams and recorded video media have inspired individuals, couples, and families around the world to embrace the journey of repairing their relationships and fostering secure attachments.Visit Adam’s website: https://adamlanesmith.com/ Connect with Adam on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode I'm sharing tips on making the most of a holiday season when you're single (again), how to be sparkier and create chemistry on dates and what to do when someone is trying to bench you or save you for later. Listen and hear my answer to these questions: I'm single on the holidays for the 3rd year in a row. What should I do? How can I build more chemistry on first dates? I've been dating someone who's about to deploy. How to move forward? Episodes mentioned: #43 - How to build chemistry and stop chasing sparksSubmit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP #dating #datingadvice #datingadviceforwomen #datingadviceformen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, you’ll hear from a sex therapist and her husband, Vanessa and Xander Marin! We talk about when to bring up sex in early dating, what to do if you don’t feel a “spark,” and you'll get specific tips for navigating other sex-related conversations. You’ll hear about how Vanessa and Xander help clients talk to their partners about sex and their interests and tips for taking responsibility for your own pleasure. At the end, we get into what has become a huge topic in recent years: mental load and how it can negatively affect your sex life.Follow Vanessa and Xander on IG: https://www.instagram.com/vanessaandxander/ Visit Vanessa and Xander’s website: https://vmtherapy.com/ Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyGet my free dating FAQ guide: https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-guidesRead more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.IntentionallyRate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP About Vanessa and Xander: Vanessa is a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field, and Xander is a regular dude who’s here to show you that you don’t need a graduate degree or license to have extraordinary intimacy. Together, they wrote Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, which is an NYT best seller, and they host the podcast, Pillow Talks, available on all platforms. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I’m answering your dating dilemmas. Listen and get my take on:1. “He texts too much, but I'm not sure if it has to do with his mental health.”2. “We're long distance, but can't decide who should move."3. “How do I heal from a confusing situationship?”Get 15% off Jenni Kayne with code DATING15 > https://www.jennikayne.com/Episodes mentioned: #30. Texting 101: How to navigate texting in early dating #93. Why you need momentum in early dating (and how to create it) Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyGet my free dating FAQ guide: https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-guidesRead more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.IntentionallyRate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Knowing when to end a relationship is tricky, especially if there’s no glaring dealbreaker—sometimes, it’s just not the right fit. How do you know when it’s time to move on?In this episode, I’m breaking down how to decide whether to keep dating someone or walk away, whether you’re just a few dates in or have been in a relationship for years. I’ll share tips for recognizing signs that it’s over, how to decide with compassion and practical advice for breaking things off based on where you are in your dating journey. I also share my personal experience and exact scripts to start the break up conversation. Get 15% off at Jenni Kayne with promo code DATING15 - https://www.jennikayne.com/Episodes mentioned:Ep 93: Why you need momentum in early dating (and how to create it)Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyGet my free dating FAQ guide: https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-guidesRead more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.IntentionallyRate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I’m answering your dating dilemmas. Listen and get my take on these relatable dating scenarios and questions:1. "If I'm so amazing (his words) why won't he date me?”2. “I said we should just be friends, but now I’m interested in more.”3. “How do I handle bad dating advice from family and friends?”We also have an update from last week's episode from the woman who found out about her date's divorce before he told her. Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyGet my free dating FAQ guide: https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-guidesRead more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.IntentionallyRate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How long is the honeymoon phase supposed to last? Is it okay if we run into unsolvable issues in our relationship? What's an okay unsolvable issue, and what's not? These are some of the big questions my guest, Jordan Dann, explores in this episode. We also discuss the progression of new relationships and dealing with big differences. Jordan provides tips on how to get out of your head, stop constantly checking in, and navigate big challenges you may discover in the dating process. At the end, we talk about season 7 of Love Is Blind.Follow Jordan: https://www.instagram.com/jordandann/?hl=enSlide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Jordan Dann is a passionate and dynamic psychoanalyst, author, teacher, and speaker. With a rich background in Gestalt therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and Imago Relationship Therapy, she has honed her skills in helping individuals become more relational, self-aware, and emotionally expressive. Her earlier career as a coach and director for actors further fueled her desire to guide people toward authentic self-expression and freedom in their lives.For over 20 years, Jordan dedicated herself to coaching professionals in the nonprofit sector, fostering environments where creativity, communication, and conflict resolution can thrive. She’s committed to helping individuals and teams achieve deeper fulfillment, effectiveness, and joy in their work.As the author of "Somatic Therapy for Healing Trauma" and creator of the Relationship Transformation School, Jordan brings her expertise to those seeking healing and personal growth. She serves as faculty at Gestalt Associates for Psychotherapy in Manhattan and is a nationally certified, New York State-licensed psychoanalyst with a private practice in New York City.Follow her on Instagram @jordandann for insights and inspiration. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm answering your dating dilemmas. Listen and get my take on:1. "How do I navigate being more sexually experienced than my date?"2. "Why do women keep rejecting me like this?"3. "He never told me he was divorced, but I found out about it online."Submit a dating dilemma anonymously: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyGet my free dating FAQ guide: https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-guidesRead more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.IntentionallyRate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I get into whether you are asking too much of your partner or not. You’ll learn about how to know if you are asking for too much, why we need to communicate this, and what to do when sharing what you need from your partner. I also get into why someone might be worth it if they’re struggling to meet your needs but still trying. This episode is for you if you want to communicate your needs without feeling like you’re asking too much. And at the end, I answer a dating dilemma about getting back together with someone who wasn’t ready to commit, but now they say they are. Episodes mentioned in this podcast: #9 How to define and discuss relationship needs #31 Love bombing vs genuine interest (how to tell) Submit a dating dilemma (anon): https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyGet my free dating FAQ guide: https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-guidesRead more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.IntentionallyRate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.