Dating Intentionally

Have you ever been on that nightmare date where they don't ask you a single question or make an effort to get to know you? Unfortunately, it's a pretty common situation. In this episode, I explain why your date (usually it's men) doesn't ask questions and share various ways to handle that situation. I also provide ten of my favorite date questions for your next date!At the end of this episode, I answer two listener questions. The first one is from a woman who could never convince her ex-BF to go to trivia night with her friends and then saw him at that exact trivia event after they broke up. The second one is from a woman who adores her partner, but they don't have the same needs and expectations in the bedroom.Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did rom-coms ruin how we view relationships? This new series, Rom Com vs. Real Life, featuring my fiance and fellow film nerd Johnny, examines that question.In this episode, we're looking at the film He's Just Not That Into You and what it's teaching viewers about dating, relationships and how it all works. This move is packed with rules, exceptions and marriage-obsessed women.What is this movie teaching us about dating and relationships? Is it helping or hurting the way we perceive long term partnership? What's realistic, and what's not? We get into it all in this first episode.Let us know what you think! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode you'll hear from confidence and assertiveness expert Talia Bombola, who's also a professor and LMFT. We get deep into where confidence truly comes from, why we look for it in a partner and an unexpected way to start building it up on your own. We also talk about the importance of assertiveness and why it's tough for women specifically to practice, as well as ways to use assertiveness on dates (you know, when your date just won't stop talking about themselves). Finally, we discuss what it means to have an abundance mentality in all areas of life, not just dating.Connect with Talia Bombola on IG: https://www.instagram.com/taliabombola/Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP About Talia Bombola:Talia Bombola, The Confidence & Assertiveness Specialist™, is a Certified Psychodynamic, Licensed Psychotherapist, and Relationship Mentor for Women. She has won Newport Beach’s Best Therapist 3 years in a row, 2022-2024 and is in the Business Hall of Fame. Her work centers around helping anxious women feel secure by increasing self-worth, confidence, and assertiveness & rewiring beliefs about themselves, men, and relationships. She helps you heal the "not enoughness" that prevents you from living a life overflowing with satisfaction and self-worth. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Maybe you've heard the advice "date multiple people," but you have no idea how it works, if it's even possible for you, or why you should try it in the first place. This is the episode for you! I'm breaking down exactly how to approach talking to multiple people and entertaining a handful of potential matches before committing to one person. This approach doesn't work for everyone, but it worked for me. It's worth trying if you tend to get attached quickly, can easily get dates and want to speed up the vetting process a bit, or want to try a different approach.Listen to my first episode about my experience dating multiple people:https://open.spotify.com/episode/6VHcj4a97XUtKh3J8w4vPi?si=0c277cf7f4f1463bSlide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP THE AND QUESTION CARD DECKSDATINGhttps://collabs.shop/co9ejf COUPLEShttps://collabs.shop/vbha7dFRIENDShttps://collabs.shop/ybexcbSTRANGERShttps://collabs.shop/gcrlqs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you're using dating apps or thinking about creating a dating app profile, this is the episode to listen to. Erika Ettin, the founder of A Little Nudge joined me on the podcast to talk all things dating apps. We get into what makes a good profile, how to swipe more effectively, what mistakes to avoid when using dating apps and so much more. At the end we play a game I made up called "Erika Explains" where she answers a bunch of your dating questions.Follow Erika: @alittlenudge https://www.instagram.com/alittlenudge/Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyGet my free dating FAQ guide: http://eepurl.com/ihTMYjRead more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally About Erika Ettin:Erika Ettin holds a BA in economics from Cornell University and an MBA from Georgetown University. Since launching her online dating consulting business, A Little Nudge, Erika has helped hundreds of clients in the United States and abroad find happiness. She currently lives in Washington, D.C. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel like you're being harsh when you set boundaries with people you date? Are you scared of saying no? You're not alone. If you tend to be a people-pleaser, starting to set boundaries feels strange. Maybe you even feel a little guilt for having and setting boundaries. This episode breaks down what boundaries are, what they're not and why they're important. I talk about what boundaries are good to have in early dating and how to enforce them in a direct way (not a mean way).Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Whether you're sober or sober-curious, this episode is packed with sage advice from Tawny Lara, the Sober Sexpert. Tawny shares insights from her sober dating journey that will open your eyes to how much alcohol permeates dating culture and what you can do to decide if how much you drink in your dating process is working for you or not. We get into how to date (and who to date) when you're sober, how to support someone who is sober if you're not and the best dry date ideas. We also discussed alcohol's role in sex and how to evaluate whether or not you're safely consuming alcohol in the context of physical intimacy.Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP About Tawny Lara:Tawny Lara, AKA The Sober Sexpert, is the author of Dry Humping: A Guide to Dating, Relating, and Hooking Up Without the Booze, co-host of the Recovery Rocks podcast, and co-founder of the vinegar-based botanical beverage, (parentheses)https://www.instagram.com/tawnymlara/https://www.drinkparentheses.com/https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/730665/dry-humping-by-tawny-lara/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're switching it up this week with some Q&A! I answered 10 questions you submitted on Instagram. Some are dating questions I've never really touched on before; some are personal questions about things I rarely get to talk about publicly.Questions I answer in this episode: How do you genuinely keep hope of finding your person when dating seems hard? How to do long distance in the early days? We are 1.5 hours apart. Do you or your partner have any spicy preferences? How did you bring it up? Do you feel like you experienced enough as a bi woman before this relationship? Advice for mid 40’s Female, first time dating post-divorce and interested in women for the first time? Did you feel like men approached you differently dating at 30? What if you can travel a lot more than your partner but that’s an important thing for you? You’ve said Johnny was smitten right away. How much do you think that contributed to your relationship success? How do you go from needing to wanting a partner? Did you think you’d be where you’re at in life at 32? Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Break ups suck. Luckily, we have experts like Amy Chan, who wrote Break Up Bootcamp, to help us through them. In this episode, Amy and I discuss where to start with healing after a break up, the importance of anger in the process of moving on, why it hurts more when a short relationship ends and how to know when a relationship is worth trying to save vs when to let go. We also talked about being friends with an ex and how to know when you're ready to start dating again.Connect with Amy: https://www.instagram.com/missamychan/Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP About Amy:Amy Chan is the Founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, a retreat that takes a scientific and spiritual approach to heal the heart. The Observer calls her "A relationship expert whose work is like that of a scientific Carrie Bradshaw'' and her company has been featured across national media including Good Morning America, Vogue, Glamour, Nightline, The Times, CNN, Fortune and more. Her New York Times featured book, Breakup Bootcamp - The Science of Rewiring Your Heart, published by Harper Collins, was an instant best-seller. She is launching a new Dating Bootcamp this summer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Worried you're heading into situationship territory? This episode breaks down what a situationship is, what it isn't and why they're not ideal. I get into 10 different signs you're heading into a situationship and how to steer clear of them altogether. This episode is your guide for what to do and NOT do when you feel like the person you're dating is not on the same page but wants to keep dating anyway. Can you turn a situationship into a relationship? Find out in this episode. At the end, I share some personal updates and wedding updates!I also answer questions about situationships in this episode: How long is too long to be dating without commitment?  Should you keep a situationship while dating others for something serious? What if I’m comfortable with how it is not labeled? Can I roll with it until there’s a change? How do you transition from a situationship to a relationship? How to avoid situationships without being pushy How to stay strong when they come back Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionallyMy Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices