What keeps relationships together? And what tears them apart? I've always been obsessed with looking at patterns of those in happy couples. Today, we share some research into a single behaviour that can make all the difference... Let us know your thoughts. Send us an email at podcast@matthewhussey.com!  >>> Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey >>> Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Transform your core confidence...download the free training at GetCoreConfidence.com

Have you ever been hurt badly by someone in love? Those wounds can stay with us a long time. They can stop us from taking chances again in love. They can make us afraid of getting close to someone again… Afraid of being vulnerable again… Afraid of letting someone in… Because if the result of letting our guard down and choosing to love someone is that we give up all of our power, then why bother, right? Sure, we may be giving up the special experience of being in love, but at least we don’t have to experience those dreadful lows. If you can relate to this, today’s episode is for you. You’ll hear me doing a live demonstration with someone who is going through exactly this issue. And what I tell her may be exactly the words you need to hear right now. This isn’t isn’t a pep talk. It’s a rational, practical strategy for how to navigate your love life after someone has hurt you, or broken your heart or your trust (or all 3). ►► Be Brave and Invest in Love Again. To Learn How, Download Your FREE Guide… → http://www.3SecretsToLove.com 

Has this ever happened to you? You’re on a first date... and... He’s charming, handsome, and you feel like you have chemistry… But at the end of the night… he doesn’t ask for a second date (nevermind a third or fourth). If this has happened to you (or keeps happening), you’re likely missing one of the two essential things that makes him reach across the table and say: “I’d really like to see you again.” In this podcast, I tell you EXACTLY what to say so that he’ll ask you out again (and again, and again)... You might be surprised at how simple this is AND how often you’re skipping this step when you’re interacting with a guy you like, especially in the early stages of dating... It’s genuinely crazy to me how obvious the phrase in this podcast is, how simple it would be for people to say, how many more second dates it would get them… and yet, they still aren’t doing it.  >>> Follow Matt @thematthewhussey >>> Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey Download the flirting sample of How To Talk To Men at GetTheFreeChapter.com  

I’ve been thinking about one of the biggest dangers of personal growth these last couple of weeks. The danger is this: we learn a crucially important, life-changing lesson, and then forget all about it and move on with our lives. Any one of us could fall into that trap this year. Like me, you’ve probably had some realizations about your life during this difficult time. Epiphanies about changes you want to make, or simple truths that you want to take forward even once things return to “normal.” But the integration of these lessons and truths into our lives going forward is no guarantee. In fact, for most people, it’s much more likely that nothing will change. Think of that, we were just forced into a giant reset, the likes of which we may never have again in our lifetimes. And yet, most people will go back to living the same lives they were before once the daily stresses, invites, and activities return. We simply cannot let this happen. So what can we do? Well, the first step is consciously taking stock of what those lessons are, and codifying them so we don’t forget them. In this week’s episode I reveal 6 of the unexpected lessons I’ve learned in the last 3 months... Come see if any of mine are the same as yours. And, in the process, write down what yours are. I can’t say this enough: do not move on from this moment in time without bottling the lessons and taking them with you, or all of this pain and struggle will have been for nothing. ►► Claim Growth and Happiness that LASTS. Learn More about The At-Home Retreat… → http://www.MHRetreatAtHome.com Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey

“How do you avoid negative self-talk after a breakup? My ex was extremely critical and I want him out of my head.” I say “we,” because I’m not alone in this one. I’m joined by a very special friend of mine, Jeannie Mai (@thejeanniemai)– Emmy Award-winning co-host of “The Real,” and host of the podcast “Listen Hunnay.” Jeannie is wonderfully entertaining to listen to, and has a first rate mind on these things, as you’ll her from the podcast. And, what makes this “extra” special is that it's taken from a 90-minute interview I did just for my Love.Life members, so you’ll get a taste of what goes on behind the curtain of my private membership. If you are struggling with negative self-talk, this podcast is literally a precise prescription for what to do next. It’s 7 minutes of listening that will make your life better today, I promise. P.S. If you find this video as valuable as I know you will, and would like to watch the full 90-minute interview, you can access it right now with a free 14-day trial to our Love.Life Membership. Claim your trial at http://www.AskMH.com.

Why is it SO hard to leave, even when we know we are with the wrong person?  How can we get the courage to follow what our brain and heart are screaming at us and leave?  It's not easy, and there's a psychological bias that makes it even harder.  In this episode, I share 3 techniques to re-wire your brain so that you finally have the strength to follow your heart and make the right choice. --- Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey Follow Matt @thematthewhussey  Email us your story and comments at podcast@matthewhussey.com Download the FREE guide on "Dating After Heartbreak" at 3SecretsToLove.com

A mere 2 weeks ago it would have been hard to conceive of a world that was about to heat up considerably beyond the tension and emotion already experienced in 2020. Then came the murder of George Floyd. Since then, I, living in Los Angeles, have watched the United States – and beyond – reach a boiling point on race issues. It’s a dark time, and yet it also feels like a time where real change could be possible. I find myself asking of what service I can possibly be. Another weekend rolls around, my weekly video spot awaits my thoughts, and I have no clever words chambered. It doesn’t feel like the week for a love life video. And yet it does feel like a week where I want to be with you, my community, more than ever. I ask politely that you not confuse that with my having any answers. All I have is me, letting the Black members of my community know what I have always felt – that I consider you my sisters and brothers, and that I, Matthew Hussey, stand with you, always. The fact that Black lives “mattering” is even an idea that needs support in the year 2020 is an astonishing prospect. But to all the Black members of this community, let the bloody obvious be stated here and now: My team and I love you, and you matter to us. To brighter days. For anyone interested I have included a list below of organizations I have chosen to support with donations this week. **In addition, when we first posted the new YouTube video this morning, I had it demonetized out of respect so as not to profit from this video. However many of you pointed out in the comments that it would be better to have ads turned on and have the revenue go to the cause. I love the idea, so I have, and 100% of the proceeds from this week's YouTube video will also be donated to the causes below. 1 - My Brother’s Keeper Alliance https://www.obama.org/mbka/ 2 - Center for Policing Equity https://policingequity.org 3 - Equal Justice Initiative https://eji.org 4 - NAACP https://www.naacp.org 5 - The Girls Opportunity Alliance Fund https://www.obama.org/girlsopportunityalliance/

Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey ►► Want Support to Navigate This Strange Time? Ask Me Your Burning Love Life Question Now… → http://www.AskMH.com  This episode is an honest look at what the near future of dating could look like for you if you’re single right now. Even as parts of the world open up again, a vaccine appears to be at least 8-12 months away. That means that for about another year, there will be some significant implications for our dating lives. Is it safe to go out on dates in the coming months? When should you meet up with someone you’ve been talking to? How do you deal with awkward moments like the first hello where you would normally hug each other? Is there an elegant way to communicate what level of contact you are comfortable with? These are all questions I answer in this episode. At the beginning of COVID-19, I made a video outlining the immediate impact of this virus on our love lives. Consider this a round 2, but this time with a focus on the future of dating. A kind of “State of Our Unions” address for 2020, if you will. I’d love to know your thoughts in the comments, and please share with anyone who is anxious or concerned with the future of their dating life. There is reason for hope, my friend. As ever, I’m thinking of you as we go through this together. ►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com  

Follow Matthew at @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen at @stephenhhussey --- 90% of people are making a mistake in the way they connect with other people without even realizing it. See, ever since I was 13 and first picked up my Dad’s copy of the Dale Carnegie’s How To Win Friends And Influence People, I was fascinated with figuring what it is that allows certain people able to influence, attract, and be charismatic in the presence of others. Over years of being on TV and radio, running a company with over 30 full-time staff, and speaking to audiences of thousands of people, I’ve learned some really important distinctions that make people certain people immediately compelling. I’ve also learned some major things people get wrong that must be avoided at all costs if you ever want to win people over… (more on that in the video) So here it is, my #1 secret to getting people hooked in the first 60 seconds… ►► FREE download: “9 Texts to Get Any Man” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com

I’ve lost count of what week of social distancing we’re in. But I do know that if you’ve been living with someone since quarantine started then you’ve had your ups and downs. We need space in our relationship for desire to thrive. But how do you create space with someone who is always there? If absence makes the heart grow fonder, how do you stay exciting to your partner if you're never absent? In today's episode, we talk about some simple, practical ways to approach this situation and avoid making the mistakes that are hurting good relationships... This isn’t just about getting space, it’s about bringing back the moments of magic, and romance, and love. Even if you’re not living with someone right now, you can use these ideas to make sure your long-distance situation stays vibrant and alive. Your situation may be different, but the psychology is the same. Thinking of you, friend. Matt ►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey